when do you stop worring about your children?

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Lorri - posted on 04/21/2009

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I have 4 boys, ages 26, 24, 9, and 7. You start to worrie when you find yourself pregnant and as your family grows there own family it just gives you more to worrie about, but have faith and pray God is watching over them when you can not !

If you have boys , they will not worrie about you. Even if they should !!!!!

Lindsay - posted on 04/21/2009

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you'll never stop worrying about them as long as you live. i found this quote online that answers your question PERFECTLY it says...

"making the decision to have children is momentous. it is to decide forever to have your heart go walking outside your body."

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Tess - posted on 12/31/2012

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Never. Even it's a sin to worry, we can't avoid it. Is love and concern a curse? Worrying gives me stress everyday and I don't like it!

Rosemarie - posted on 05/01/2009

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Never is right! Even after they die and you survive that. The worry is: did she suffer, did she know how much I love her, how much I miss her, will I be with her again, how will my grandkids get through this, worry is endless.

Gemma - posted on 05/01/2009

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im getting worried because my son is nearly 5 and he keeps asking if he can play out without me and i think he is still far too young!!!!

Beth - posted on 04/30/2009

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You're kidding right?!?!? I'm 40 and my mom never stops worrying about me and I don't think I will ever stop worrying about my daughter no matter what the worry it is it just adjust to their age. Now it's her disappearing while walking to school; next it will be going out on dates; and on and on and on. That's what mother's do!

Kerry - posted on 04/30/2009

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I know for a fact that my Mum has never stopped worrying about myself or my brother and she is nearing 60. My little girl is nearly 5 and I am always worrying about her. I guess it's an in-built feature of parents! :)

Marge - posted on 04/30/2009

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you just go through different stages of worry - A child is forever so love - comforting them and worring about them is part of being a mom. My kids are in their 30's and have kids and know I worry about the grandkids

Lawanda - posted on 04/30/2009

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Maybe at YOUR funeral. I still jump when I hear an ambulance. My kids are grown with kids of their own, and I am always worring about them. Trust yourself and your kids. They will be OK, but you will NEVER stop worring.

Krystle - posted on 04/30/2009

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I don't think that ever stops even when they get old enough to move out on there own. I know my mom still that way and im 27. Your kids are always gonna go through different things in their lives. when there young is are they going to get hurt sick or get into something to when they are adult and can make their own decisions of many things and you don't know if they are going to make the right decision . I think its just a mother instinct to always worry about our children.

Krystle - posted on 04/30/2009

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I don't think that ever stops even when they get old enough to move out on there own. I know my mom still that way and im 27. Your kids are always gonna go through different things in their lives. when there young is are they going to get hurt sick or get into something to when they are adult and can make their own decisions of many things and you don't know if they are going to make the right decision . I think its just a mother instinct to always worry about our children.

Krystle - posted on 04/30/2009

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I don't think that ever stops even when they get old enough to move out on there own. I know my mom still that way and im 27. Your kids are always gonna go through different things in their lives. when there young is are they going to get hurt sick or get into something to when they are adult and can make their own decisions of many things and you don't know if they are going to make the right decision . I think its just a mother instinct to always worry about our children.

Krystle - posted on 04/30/2009

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I don't think that ever stops even when they get old enough to move out on there own. I know my mom still that way and im 27. Your kids are always gonna go through different things in their lives. when there young is are they going to get hurt sick or get into something to when they are adult and can make their own decisions of many things and you don't know if they are going to make the right decision . I think its just a mother instinct to always worry about our children.

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My son is 23.5yrs old with a 4yr of his own and I will probably worry about him till me die.

His a wonderful young man who loves all the women in our immediate family as well as his 9yr girlfriend and his daughter and I COULDN'T ask for a better Child/Son!!

As long as I am alive he will always be my No1 concern!!

Children are for LIFE

Berea - posted on 04/30/2009

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Not to be morbid but we can only stop worrying if they die before we do. That's the honest truth. I agree with everyone it never stops.

Cindy - posted on 04/30/2009

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I have to tell you the obvious as well..........the answer is Never. But, there are different stages to the worrying.

1. 0-3= we worry about feeding/comforting/infancy health issues/safety/protection/potty training/speech/teaching how to eat on their own/crawling/walking/small objects on the floor.

2. 3-5= we worry about intergrating them into daycare, weening them from our safety net, first days of school

3. 5-10= we worry about how they are adapting, school work, manners, riding their bike, the friends they begin to keep, teaching respect.

4. 10-14= we worry about what they are thinking, making sure they are getting good nutrional supplements, over active hormones, girls/boy friends, where are they going?

5. 14-19= we worry about them graduating, boyfriends, girlfriends, are they hanging around the right ppl, their driving skills, are they doing drugs, drinking, where are they if they are late.

6. 19-forever= by now we are so flipping tired that we think we have no more energy to worry, we have literally exhausted our "worry-cells", guess what? we still worry!



Basically because they came from our womb, and we watched them grow, we are and always will be attached, and have that bond many speak of. But if you have worried about all these things thus far, it means you were paying attention, which also means you probably taught them the best skills you could pass on, in order to go through life. You never stop worrying, but at some point it does get easier, you just need to give yourself enough credit. If at any point they need you, dont worry....no matter how old, kids always have a radar on their Mother. :-)

Carla - posted on 04/30/2009

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The worrying never ends. My children are grown, 35 & 32. I still worry about them, as they now worry about their children, my grandchildren. I guess I will stop when I pass.

Teddie - posted on 04/30/2009

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The only way I stopped worrying about my kids (well, mostly) was after they left home and were beyond my ability to help without being interfering. I decided that God could do more for them than I could or He can send someone to help them, so I pray instead.

Karen - posted on 04/30/2009

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Never, my kids have homes, and children of their own and i still worry about them. probably will till the day i die, but that goes hand in hand with the love I give n recieve.

Marla - posted on 04/30/2009

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never. and from what my mom tells me, it gets harder the older the kids get. Once they are high school age, you worry about peer pressure, drugs, if the kids are safe out on their own and know what to do. etc. I guess once they get old enough where you know they are stable then it gets a little easier, but then you worry about you dying and if they will be okay without you. in my opinion, it never ends. It just gets easier to take care of them. They can brush their own teeth, feed themselves, dress themselves, etc. LOL.

Liz - posted on 04/29/2009

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Never! My son is 35 and my daugther is 33. I still worry about how they are doing, if all is well with them. It's different than it was when they were little or in their teens (that's when you really worry). No matter how old they are, you children are always your children and the "mom" comes out and worries.

User - posted on 04/29/2009

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I think the answer is unanimous... NEVER!! There are different stage of worry depending the age of your child/children. I am in the teenager stage with both my babies and I wish they were toddlers again. Cheryl put it perfectly in her response.

Dana - posted on 04/29/2009

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When you die... and then I wonder if you won't still worry? They are our children and as Mom's God intended for us to worry about them. :)

Holly - posted on 04/29/2009

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no parent stops worring about there kids mine is now 14. and she has been able to stay home and do more stuff at the age of 11. i have worried a little less. all because at taht age they need there own space and need to be trusted as long as know where she is and what time she will be home and so forth.

Mandy - posted on 04/29/2009

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As my dad told me the other day you will never stop worring about your kids.and i am 35 lol

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to add a NEVER!!!seems like over kill, but the answer is never. The trick is to not let them see that you are worrying, because it might make then nervous and insecure. Worry cant help them, ever, so dont worry, just be as confident as you can be that they will grow up to be the kind of people you would like them to be. Worry is such a waste of time!

Kerry - posted on 04/29/2009

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That one is easy... NEVER!!!! I have 5, 18, 16, 14, 4, and 6 mnths. My mother always said it does not get any easier or less worry some as they get older, only harder!!!! And that is the truth... Enjoy every minute

Joyce - posted on 04/29/2009

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That's an easy one. You stop worrying the day after you die. As long as we exist, we worry about our children. Just part of the territory.

Marie - posted on 04/28/2009

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You'll never stop even when you're old and gray for you will always be a mom :)

Michelle - posted on 04/28/2009

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I dont think you ever will! My mum still worries about me and im 29!! Hahaha ;)

Amy - posted on 04/28/2009

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Never sunshine...sorry to rain on your parade...the worries only get bigger as they get older.

Andrea - posted on 04/28/2009

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Never!! My children are 19 (girl) and 15 (boy)....different ages, different worries. I look at it as never a dull moment and with teenagers, every day is a learning expierence. Always remember, your children are the BEST part of any day!!

Linda - posted on 04/28/2009

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You NEVER stop worrying. My children are grown with children themselves. I worry about not only my children now but my grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Angela - posted on 04/28/2009

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Never there gonna be your children forever even when there grown and have families of ther own your always gonna worry and its perfectly normal-

Sharon - posted on 04/28/2009

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Lois you will never stop worrying about your babies even when they are grown up and have their own children they are yours for life and enjoy every moment with them cause they grow way too fast and some times things happen so love them and hold them and live life to the fullest

Maria - posted on 04/28/2009

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the answer is never. The most precious gifts that we give to ourselves is the unconditional love we give to our children. It is the most painful joy of our lives. I've been doing it for 4 years now.

Amy-Dawn - posted on 04/28/2009

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I too would also have to say never... its a scary worls out there and time flies by so quickly, before you know it they are old enough to go on their own and although you may think everything is ok thats just when something could go wrong... life is sooo short, i just take it day by day!

Jane - posted on 04/28/2009

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As the mother of 3, along with their spouses, and granny to 4, worry and loving are the same and the answer to both is NEVER!!! We just worry about different things as the children grow older and move greater distances away...sigh...

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