When's the best time to change from a cot to a big bed? My son's just turned 1, and my partner thinks he's to little for a big bed

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Michelle - posted on 01/30/2009

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i have always put my children into a bed as soon as they are able to climb up and down on their brothers and sisters beds, although admittedly all of them are close to the ground! there is nothing more scary than hearing a really loud bang and your baby screaming because they have fallen out of a cot. as for the issue of them starting to come into your bed...well i sort of think if they have a good sleep pattern established, its not going to make much difference anyway...have a look around, find a bed that you and your partner are happy with and just have it in his room so he can spend a few days learning how to get up and down safely (i know that sounds bad but if they are not allowed to make their own mistakes they will never learn how to get around their immediate environment in a user-friendly way!) and once you are happy that he can handle it, shift the cot out and see how it goes. if he is still not happy after 3 or 4 nights, he may not be ready yet but if you don't try you will never know and i agree with lori, kids do adjust easily and it may end up being more of a danger to him if he is left in a cot for too long, they get bored and trouble starts! (mattress on the floor is also a good idea to start with as well)

Teresa - posted on 01/29/2009

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i put my 1 yr old in a toddler bed. He loves it. Its not too high off the ground that i have to worry about him getting hurt, he has more room and sleeps better. That choice is up to you. You can always try it out for a night or two and see if it works for you.

Melissa - posted on 01/29/2009

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When he starts climbing out of the crib you know its time for a big boy bed! Once they can stay in bed all night and sleep through the night then your pretty good at getting a big bed. I placed my daughter in hers when she was 2.

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Lori - posted on 01/30/2009

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My son was a real bruiser and would rock his crib across the room.  We moved to the UK and our furniture was 3 months in arriving, so at the age of 11 months, I put a mattress on the floor.  (This was 18 years ago and at that time you couldn't hire a crib.)  Anyway, he would roll off, but never hurt himself and didn't even wake up after the first couple of times.  He never went back to a crib.  We got a single bed and put up two side rails to make sure he didn't fall out.  Worked fine.  Children are extremely malleable and adjust easily. 

Hayley - posted on 01/30/2009

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around the age of two...when they can climb out of the cot. you have to be careful to make sure the bed is still only made according to SIDs for safety if you are puting him in a bed so young

Paula - posted on 01/30/2009

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Hi - My son who was climbing out of his crib at 10 months was put into a toddler bed and we have never had any issues with him at all. He is now 3 1/2 and sleeping in a bed is just life for him. I really can not understand why people wait for so long. We did toddler proof his room and put a baby gate on his door frame so that he did not fall down the stairs in the middle of the night. This by the way was the only baby gate in existence in our house. You do have to accept the fact that once they are out of the crib, if they do not want to go to sleep but wonder around the room and "play" then they will do that but really when could you force a child to go to sleep. I found with my DS that he is much easier getting to bed at night then a lot of his frinds who where taken out of their cribs at a later time (2, 2 1/2, 3) as they can be quite willful at that stage. I by the way was also known for climbing out of my crib and I had my own full size double bed at 1 1/2. so, I would not believe that anyone would suggest that there is a developmental age for a bed. Look at cultures around the world and everyone does it differently. If you are worried about blankets, put them in sleepers with feet (these only worked until about 2 for us as by then he was very accomplished at zipping and removing them) or buy those sheets that you can zip onto the bottom sheet. Do what is right for you and what your child is ready for. I love crawling into my sons bed with him for a good bed time story or a cuddle. At 2, we abandoned the baby gate, and he is now completely dry through the night and I hear him singing himself off to the toilet some nights around 12 and then putting himself back to bed. so, my gut instinct is the earlier the better as when they are young, there is no issue or novelty with it.

Kassie - posted on 01/29/2009

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He's probably ready for a toddler bed. Both my kids were in toddler beds before they were a year. My oldest was climbing out of his crib at 6 months. and my youngest was climbing out at 7 1/2 months. and they did perfectly fine. Unless he isn't ready yet. He is still little so It won't hurt to keep him in a crib for a little longer. It's up to you really.

Amber - posted on 01/29/2009

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It depends on if hes a climber or not. But otherwise id give it until he was 2.

Lucille - posted on 01/29/2009

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my daughter also just turned 1year when we decided to put her into her own bed. Because we were worried that she would fall off the bed we decided to buy her a bed that has no legs and close to the floor. And the way we introduced her to her new bed was letting her sleep on her beds mattress that we kept next to our bed in our bedroom. She had to get to the whole idea in sleeping in such a huge bed. after 2 weeks she started sleeping without moving and the 3rd week when she falls asleep we would carry her on the mattress to her bedroom so that she can sleep in her room. this we had to do a few weeks because she obviously realised that when she woke up in the morning she was alone in the room. She's 3 now and sleeps alone in her bedroom and even asks us to close the door because the passage light shines in her face...lol. all i can say that this takes lots of patience and preseverance.



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DJ - posted on 01/29/2009

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We moved our lodest into a regular "twin" which we pushed against 2 walls, & then added the side "rail" from wal mart that looks like the side of a playpen. It was not dangerous, but in retrospect, she also began sneaking into our bed 5x week & we had a problem w/ that for 2 years. When her sister was barely 2, we got twin bunks & #2 transitioned just fine [safety] & never left their room b/c big sis was in there. SO, in summary [hindsight is 20/20], I would consider a lil baby gate on the bedroom door when you move out of the crib & just do a room-check before lights out so that if they pop up at night, or early AM they can still call to you, but just like in a crib, they can't wander the house...just my thoughts.

Narelle - posted on 01/29/2009

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My youngest is 3 in may and she started to climb out of her cot a while ago so i have been putting her into a big bed but use a trundle and a single mattrace on it so if she does fall out of bed she doesnt have far to fall.

Joni - posted on 01/29/2009

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I moved my son out of his crib into a full-sized bed once he turned one.  He had not yet learned to climb out of his crib.  We put of rails to ensure a safe night's sleep and didn't have any problems with him getting out of the bed when he wasn't supposed to.

Esther - posted on 01/29/2009

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I can only tell you what worked for my son, I put him on a big boy bed when he was 18 months, it is a low bed and we had a side rail up. We got him really excited and bought him a special comforter just for him (John Deere tractors). We also had a regular routine with him, such as reading a good night story in bed, singing songs, and snuggling after, and regular bed times help too, and a night light in his room and the door open with the hall way light on. If you have these things established before you put him in a big bed then I don't think the switch will be as scary. Hope that helps!

Randi - posted on 01/29/2009

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Melissa is right! If he isn't sleeping all night or if it is difficult to get him to go asleep, you will have an all new challenge on your hands! He will think it is a new game to see how many times he can get up and you can't really explain to a one year old that he must stay in bed or there will be a punishment... I waited until about 18 months with my oldest. My youngest is 11 months and we are going to wait a while for hime because he like to challenge us...lol.

Yvonne - posted on 01/29/2009

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It depends on if your son is a wild sleeper, do he sgtill toss and turn alot? if so gthe he's definintly to small for a big bed and mayb yu should wait til hes a little older

Lisa - posted on 01/29/2009

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Hi! I have two children and both were in toddler beds by age one. It amy seem early but it really depends on the child. My daughter was in a toddler bed at 11 months old and loved it. I would suggest putting a safety gate on thier bedroom door. That is what I did  so they could not roam the house in the middle of the night.

Angie - posted on 01/29/2009

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to make it easier for you leave him the crib because he will get up and come into your room and not want to go to bed.  If he is crawling out, then I would change beds but until that time leave him be.  I switched my daughter around 2 1/2 into a day bed that was low to the ground, my sons I switched around the same age. 

Cindy - posted on 01/29/2009

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Hi , My daughter is now three and I didn't put her in a big bed untill she was two and a half she slept in a toddler bed after she got out of her crib. You can buy bed rails that slide under the matress to keep them from falling out of the bed , they work very well.

Myra - posted on 01/29/2009

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We skipped the toddler bed altogether for both my girls. At 18 months, we bought my daughter a twin bed. We left the crib up just in case she didn't take to it. She was so excited to have a "big girl bed", we took down the crib after one day! I know 18 months seems kind of early, but we were pregnant with our second and we didn't want our daughter to think the new baby was taking her new baby from her. When my second child was 18 months, we did the same thing, again, no problems. My sister did the same thing, no problems. I think your son will be fine with a "big boy bed". Let us know what you decide

Melissa - posted on 01/29/2009

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You may if you do get him a big bed.... is still place a safety gate up on the bed so he does not fall out.

Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2009

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I had the same issue with my boy, I agree with you, him being only 1, but there are things out there to make coverting to a big boy bed tons of  fun and safe... They have bed with bed rails attatched or you can get his bed and attatch them on yourselfs... I have seen lots of nice big boy beds with this feature and they can be a cartoon bed to make it maor exciting for your little guy, if you have a "Sears" try the cataloge, There is "Lighting McQueen" beds, all boys love that...Good luck...

Ashley - posted on 01/29/2009

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dpends on how he sleeps at night and how big he is, if he's really big for his age and yoru worried about him climbing out or falling out, then i would change, if he's still small but you still want to change think about how likely he is to stay in a bed, does he go to bed good at night, does he sleep through the night or does he wake up, is he still teething. my daughter is 19 month we still have her in her crib, she is stilll teething and when she gets tooth she wakes up a lot and would then get out of her bed, also she went throug a seperation anxiety phase when she weas 17 months, and never woudl have stayed in bed , are there goign to be any big changes in your hosuehold becasue if there are you may also want to hold off, we are waiting until our daughter is about 2, and i realize there a re goign to be times when she wil still get out of her bed, and we may have trouble getting her to go into bed, and stay there but i think that unless your child is 2 big for teh crib then theres no rush, there onyl babies for so long

Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2009

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Your pediatrician would probably confirm for you that Most children are not developmentally ready for a big bed until after age 2.  If he seems happy and is sleeping well in his crib why ruin a good thing.  Moving to a big bed is a bigger transition than most give credit.  Unless baby #2 is on the way I would try to wait until he is closer or over 2 yrs.

Keri - posted on 01/29/2009

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Wow! That does seem really early. My youngest is 2 1/2 and still in a crib. We will be getting her a bed for her next birthday but I was in no hurry to get her out of the crib. I didn't have to worry about her climbing out of bed in the middle of the night or falling out ( she still moves a lot in her crib) and when she went through the stage of not wanting to go to sleep I think it was easier to keep her in the crib to play and put herself to sleep. I know every baby is different and some can climb out of the crib at a very young age and in that case you might be better off getting a bed. You could always try out the bed for a while and if it doesn't work just switch back. Good Luck!

Tania - posted on 01/29/2009

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he's sleeping through the night, not climbing out as yet but he moves around alot he's never in the same spot twice always moving

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