When should I have my baby shower? Nov. or Jan

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009 ( 34 moms have responded )

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Trying to plan my baby shower and not sure when to have it. Im due Feb 2010

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Cindy - posted on 07/29/2009

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In alberta we haveshowers after baby is born. Just in case of miscarrage.



Oh, my just read about the Fire B.S.. Out here it's illegal sort of. They can't fire you, but they can make your life hell before you leave and after you return.



Happened with the first born, forced to quit my job for stress reasons.

Then got preggers with number two while being the only girl on a work force of 200. Entire company didn't know what to do, never had a pregancy - ever. Last month of high risk, I was told no more than 10lb, bosses couldn't deal with it. Made me work in their office - I don't do secretary crap. I ended up leaving a week later.

They just fired me for not showing up for work on the 10th of July (up here we get 52 weeks of government paid Mat leave). I had no intention of returning, so I'm not hurt by it.

I feel sorry for you. But there are jobs out there, they might suck, but there has to be something you can do.

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009

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Thanks I appreciate it.. Im keeping my head up and looking else where and trying to do what I can to keep my head above water..

Jodi - posted on 07/29/2009

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I am in Australia, and if that happened to any pregnant woman, it is illegal. That's shocking!!! We are also not allowed to fire "for the good of the company". That is called retrenchment here, and when you are retrenched, it is because your job is redundant, not because you are, and you are entitled to a payout.



I am so sorry you are going through that. Don't get me wrong, we own our own businesses, but no-one gets fired for discriminatory reasons because (1) it is illegal, but (2) it is also incredibly unfair!

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009

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Missouri (where I live) is an At Will state meaning they can fire all they want with no cause.. However, I got them by the "balls" so to speak because they fired me cause of a "no call no show" however I spoke with the OM the night before telling her I had a doc appointment (first prenatal appointment) the next day.. I go in and she failed to tell anyone that I told her about the appointment but she did say I talked to her the night before.. I have been talking with Corp. and I have called a couple attorneys.. One should be calling me back tomorrow.. So Im hoping I get somewhere with either one of them.. Cause the OM opened her mouth and inserted her foot when she stated in the termination papers that she spoke with me on Monday.. And that she got the doctors note but she put down that I never told her I had the appointment.. Which looks kindda fishy to me how she can omit that one key fact..

Sharon - posted on 07/29/2009

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oohhh that happened to me too. In arizona its legal for corporations to fire someone "for the good of company". That includes firing your book keeper because she is pregnant. I called every lawyer in the phone book and some personal friends and was told it wouldn't stand a chance in court.

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009

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Its ok its fun to read other peoples thoughts.. Its the most people contact I get any more since my job fired me right after I foudn out I was prego.. So keep chatting ladies lol..

Dyan - posted on 07/29/2009

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Jodi, that is why I said a more special gift. Handmade, personalized,or store bought. Even if you take nothing at all. The only thing that should matter is the time you are sharing with your friends and family. The gift doesn't matter, it's the love and friendship. I hope this clears it all up. Good Luck to all. Being a parent is the best gift of all!

Jodi - posted on 07/29/2009

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Dyan, I agree with you there (about it costing money to buy items to make something). But I do also think that the person for whom the baby shower is thrown shouldn't be focusing on the monetary value of the gifts, but on the meaning of them. A gift with great meaning doesn't have to cost a lot of money :).

Sharon - posted on 07/29/2009

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Negative information?





It isn't negative information to not portray oneself as a greedy materialistic user. Your friends are not obligated to support the child you created. They have their own children/lives to support.

Dyan - posted on 07/29/2009

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Jodi, that is great but you must keep everyone in mind . It takes money also to get supplies to make it yourself. Danella, good luck on whatever you chose. This is your decision and any negative info should not deter your decision. Good luck with the birth of your child. Sorry to post this stuff when it is suppose to be positive feedback.

Jodi - posted on 07/29/2009

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Dyan, I don't deny we all need to economise, but I just find it very materialistic to assume that in order to attend a baby shower you have to provide a gift with a certain value. To focus on this for your timing so people will get better value for their money, I just find strange. But then, I am the sort of person who would turn up with something I probably handmade :)

Dyan - posted on 07/29/2009

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Jodi, you have to think about the economy. it's not about the size or price of the gift that you get. in this time alot of people are not going to baby showers or any other type. keep an open mind. people like to bargin shop.

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009

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Thank you very much Bridget thats sweet of you.. I haven't heard anything about only one shower.. But ok..

Lindsay - posted on 07/29/2009

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I would say November. It will give you time to make any necessary exchanges and (depending on where you live) in November, you will probably have a better turn out because of better weather in November. I also agree w/ Jodi Adams! I wad due Feb 2009 and I had mine in November and I was still in good spirits and not too uncomforatable yet. Just a thought...

Sharon - posted on 07/29/2009

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A baby shower is about gift giving. To help young parents prepare for the birth of their child. These days people have a shower with each and every baby expecting gifts, Not that you are doing that Dannella. To me that is disgusting. If you're so wasteful you didn't save the crib from your first then that is your issue.





If the purpose isn't gifts but the celebration of life and future birth of a child, call it something else.





Frankly I'm so picky about cloth type, colors, etc that I requested no gifts, just the person on the invitation and something memorable for the baby. So later I could say "OHHH see what auntie sheila got for you!" Onsies will never hold up for something like that. Instead I got things utterly inappropriate for a baby but great as mementos later in life. I treasure these items and my son who is now 14 has a good time holding a silver cup in his hands that was a gift from an uncle.

Kristen - posted on 07/29/2009

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Well I would have it about 6 weeks before baby is due but really i am on my second baby too but due august 17th so im due very soon but anyway i am have a shower after i have her mainly b/c i really have just about everything i need beings my 1st was a girl too and she is only 14 months old i only got rid of a few things but that was clothing so its not too big of a deal i just want to have a shower for the bonding of the family like you said and the best time to have bonding of the family is when the new one is born that way she can be passed around for eveyone to see well good luck hope i could help

Sandee - posted on 07/29/2009

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In the end it's your choice as long as you're Happy and every single close Family and friends will be there for you. It doesn't matter when! Be safe!!!

Amanda - posted on 07/29/2009

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i think you should do it in janurary. you want to do it close to having the baby but not so close that you go in to labor at it.lol you want to be able to have a good time also so if you are haveing a hard pregnancy already then go earlier. i had my baby shower scheduled for right before my due date and i went into labor early.... so i already had him by the time the shower came. so it was a welcome to the world baby shower. but it worked out well. people got to have a chance to hold him and it was nice.

Bridget - posted on 07/29/2009

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If you feel better in November then have it then. If it were me I'd do it before the hussle & bussle of the holidays. The shower is in honor of you & your new baby, so do whatever makes you happy. By the way, don't listen to the old "only the first baby should have a shower" rules of ettiquete. I had a shower with both of my girls & I'll have another with my son. Invite whomever you want. It's about celebrating the baby with friends & family! Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Katarina - posted on 07/29/2009

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I was due in April and my Mom and Mother in Law threw me a Baby Shower 4 weeks before my due date. My son came the week to the day after! Shouldn't you only get one baby shower and thats with your first?

Debbie-shea - posted on 07/29/2009

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I had my daughter in February 09 and my sister held my shower at the end of november. The reason was to avoid having it too close to the holidays. Plus there wasnt much snow (I live in Ontario) so there was plenty of parking on the road. (Held at my girlfriends house).

Jodi - posted on 07/29/2009

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Are you serious Dyan? The size or value of the gifts shouldn't dictate the timing - that's incredibly materialistic. Isn't a baby shower about more than that?

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009

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Well Im just inviting all friends and family, if they choose to come they come with or without gifts.. Im not materialistic I just like the family bonding time..

Sharon - posted on 07/29/2009

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As a second child only really close friends and family should be invited as gift givers and those who did not attend the first shower.

Dyan - posted on 07/29/2009

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i think that the proper time is 6 weeks before your due date. This way maybe people will hit the after christmas sales and buy more or a more special gift.

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009

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You know my fiance was thinking the same thing.. Which I honestly wouldn't mind that either except I started a tradition so to speak with my first pregnancy where everyone at the party got to sign my belly and I took pictures as a memory for him to see all the messages they left on my belly.. It was nice bonding with my friends and family too..

Melanie - posted on 07/29/2009

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Personally, I like it when people have the shower after the baby is born. It's a nice opportunity for everyone to see him/her!

Dannella - posted on 07/29/2009

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I was asked when to have it Im not throwing it myself.. but I as the mother have input.. However I wasn't sure which to go with Novemeber or Jan in thinking about all the holidays that are around.. With my first son we had it in April.. I had him in June.. So wanted to keep it around the same time..

Sharon - posted on 07/29/2009

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Its not proper to throw a baby shower for yourself and the shower should be held a month or two before the baby is due.



Alternatively - you can have a "welcome the baby" party after the birth of your child where it is appropriate for you to host it.

Jodi - posted on 07/29/2009

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I'd go November. You will probably enjoy it more!! I hated my last month of pregnancy each time. While yes, I was excited, I was so uncomfortable it was hard to enjoy anything other than extra sleep, LOL!

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