Corbey - posted on 05/05/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Last week I sent out 23 invites for my son's party at an indoor playplace. As we were handing them discretely out one of the Mums ( whose daughter we'd invited ) came up to say our party was her daughter's birthday, which I hadn't realised. I apologised, she said not to worry, they were thinking of holding her party the day before anyway and would let me know.
Then yesterday, two of my son's friends, who'd said Yes to our party, apologised and said they were no longer able to come. This was before my son went into school. When I came back in the afternoon to pick him up he came out very upset and said four more of his friends had told him they were no longer coming. A Mum nearby overheard and came over to say that her daughter was unable to come to our party and that as she understood it the other kids were probably declining because another party had been scheduled for the same time and same day as ours. As you can guess it's the party for the kid whose Mum approached me.
So now we're down from 13 kids to 5 with 2 unsures. It's impossible for me to re-schedule and I don't know who else has been invited to the other child's party. The strange thing is that the other Mum has chatted to me every day this week without once mentioning that they had to schedule their child's party for the same time as ours.
My dilemma is what to do in this situation: the other Mum has always been easy to talk to and I find it strange she hasn't told me her daughter won't be coming to our party, nor that she's invited almost our entire invitee list. The other is that I now don't know who else might change their mind. The kids are backing out because they're choosing between our indoor playplace party and the other kid's Build-a-Bear party, where they get a free bear. My son is really upset about this and now my husband and I have to pay for a minimum of 10 kids when only 5 are coming.
Any advice ? Is it unfair of me to feel angry in this situation ?