Sara - posted on 01/28/2012 ( 198 moms have responded )
How do you handle it when your children's dad is disrespectful of your parenting, either by ignoring your rules or outright insulting you? I'm struggling with this one -- my ex is one of those who has to tear others down to build himself up, and while he's been hostile...well, all along, he's recently started doing openly disrespectful things like insulting my parenting and having our 8-yo to bring expensive things I've bought her over to his house without consulting with me first.
He's resistant to mediation and counseling, but luckily our decree lets me order it. The bummer, of course, is that nobody can make the guy be cool and respectful. He's careful not to cross lines by running me down to our daughter, but he's happy to treat me like crap. I've finally told him he can't come into my home anymore because he's so hostile, but I wish I didn't have to do that; it really just hurts our daughter.
I'm stuck too on explaining some of these things to my daughter when her dad's disrespect leads me to say "no" to some things, like having him in the house or allowing him to keep items. It'd be easy to just let everything go, but I don't want to teach her to let men disrespect her. I don't want to leave her in the middle or run her dad down to her, either. Any thoughts are welcome.