whining and crying

Kelly - posted on 08/08/2010

Be firm...don't give into whining....stay CALM but determined. Say what you mean and stick to it. Beyond that, watch your husband...observe and take notes. Deal with whining promptly by making it counter productive. If she's whining for more of something, take what she does have away. You'll have to put thought into it and lots of effort. Don't give in because she'll know you're only serious some times and she'll test you every time. Be sure to have LOTS of fun when she's not whining! ;)

JuLeah - posted on 08/08/2010

It is not about well behaved - babies are not good or bad. They are moving through the world with the only communication skills they have.

It will help emotionally if you can see her in that light.

There is something she has learned that leads to this behavior - watch your interaction with her - see what the behaviors get her (how is she reinforced for the behavior?) and change how you interact with her .... give her attention or whatever else she wants when she is not whining and crying - give her A LOT of attention when she is not whining and crying .... odds are attention is what she is after :)

Julie - posted on 08/08/2010

i actually miss those little fits. i told her she made the cutest faces when she was trying to 'demand' something from me. and i was told her she should show that face to daddy, and the cashier, and the camera, etc. she wasn't amused w/ my version of her fits. when she was 3 i experienced a different type of emotions and fits and whining. it was still cute and i still told her she needs to show those faces to everyone else. few others have seens those adorable, fit throwing faces and only one picture exists. these memories and those faces are all mine to enjoy. she is now 4 and very strong willed - which is good (mostly)

Brittany - posted on 08/08/2010

My daughter is 18 months old now, and she does the exact same thing. She is daddys little girl, as soon as Im spending time with her, playing with or singing to her she gets so cranky and it kindda makes me feel bad, like why dont you like mommy.. I know she loves me but I understand what ur goin thru. Its a hard thing to deal with and you doubt yourself.....

Heather - posted on 04/21/2009

Thanks for all the advice.. she does get time outs and things, but it is because i pick her up all the time cause sometimes i feel like i would rather just give in then listen to the whining... ill work on it!

Amy - posted on 04/21/2009

she is more behaved with jacob because he is prob not around her as much. it always seems that the people their with all day they dont act as well you just have to ignore her or dont put up with it ,its never to early for time out or in the corner or spanking lol

Michely - posted on 04/21/2009

If she's just being whiny for no reason (throwing a fit) then ignore her, do time outs or put her in a corner until she stops. she'll notice that you're not paying any attention and most likely she'll move on to something else more intersting

Charlene - posted on 04/21/2009

My son whines and throws his temper tantums, but he does it regardless of if its me or my husband with him. I notice it more cause I'm with him all day an dmy husband only sees him after work and on weekends.I tell you its annoying and I hate it when he whines, drives me crazy. He is just alittle older then yours he is almost 22 months. I think its the stage they are at where they can't really communicate what they want as they can only say a few words, so they point and whine or they get frustrated trying to tell you and you don't understand. It frustrates us too, not knowing what they want and also knowing what they want but wish they can just say it to us in stead of whining.

You as the primary caregiver, who spends the most time with her (which I'm guessing) she feels like she can communicate withyou that way or she is testing you, which all babies do. Like the advice from the other moms, ignor the whining an dthe tanturms and eventually she and my son will give it up and relize that they are not getting what they want that way. I had just recently took my son off the bottle 3 weeks now and boy was that hard (should have done it sooner) he tryed the fits and screaming and crying, but I never gave in, then he tryed the sucky asking "bah bah" I still never gave in, he tryed the no drinking milk at all, still no bottle, now he will drink the milk from a sippy, thank god. You as the parent have to stand your ground don't give in and put her in the corner when needed, but also give the hugs and comfort too as they do need that sometimes and feel they are not getting enough of it, I had to replace the comfort of the bottle with hugs and kisses, he need to get it somewhere, he was lacking it from not having his favorite bottle.

I wish you luck and patience and if she drives you really crazy just leave the room and take a breather, you could also just bring her outside, sometimes they just need to get some fresh air and use up some energy. I really understand where your coming from its really hard to hear and deal with, Good luck again and sorry for the novel I wrote. I can go on and on lol

Veronica - posted on 04/21/2009

What worked for me was I would ignore my daughter and then I would act surprised and say, "I'm sorry, are you talking to me. I can't understand you. What are you saying? I don't understand you when you whine" She soon understood that I would not pay attention to her if she spoke to me in a whinny voice so she stopped. But you have to be consistent in order for it to work.

Julie - posted on 04/21/2009

I feel your pain! My 4 year old was a great baby never cried unless he was hungry or needed to be changed. Anyway he has been making up for it. I your daughter (who is very cute by the way) is only 18 months but try telling her when she can act like a big girl you will get her what she wants. I don't know if you believe in "time out" or not but you can also try the "I'm going to count to 3 and you need to stop whining/crying or you are going to sit in "time out" for 1 min or 2" what ever you feel is long enought 30 sec. will seem like a life time to her. This seems to work for me. My kids are also great for my husband and as soon as I walk in the door both my kids start the whining. Good luck hope this helps a little. Also some times I just have to walk away for 2 min and take a few deep breaths!

Rachel - posted on 04/21/2009

How come she's not whiny with you husband? If there's nothing she needs, ignore her. I know it's hard. Don't pick her up if she'd throwing a fit. Maybe you're more stressed than your husband. Kids can pick up on that too!

Nerissa - posted on 04/21/2009

Do you carry her a lot?? What I have learned is to see what they want, help that. If it is nothing, learn to ignore for a period of time until she notices that it does not get her what she wants.