Who has had a homebirth? If so, how was your experience?

Latisha - posted on 10/12/2011 ( 138 moms have responded )

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Hello,
My name is Latisha & I was just curious as to how many mamas had their babies @ home. My first son was delivered by c-section (it was a terrible hospital experience) & since I had a c-section, when I got pregnant with baby #2, I was told that I would have to have a repeat c-section, if I didn't go into labor naturally. I went for a second opinion because surgery was not what I wanted ( dont get me wrong, if something was seriously wrong, then take the baby, just dont schedule me to come in because you dont have the patience to wait on my body to do the work). So, I finally found my midwife, who believed in me, even when I began to doubt myself. I had my son @ home and I was in labor less than 10 hours, and I pushed for 10 minutes. It was everything I hoped for & more. I so thankful that I had the birth that I set out to get. If you ever have any doubt about your doctor, or you feel like your wants/needs are being pushed aside so the doctor can have his/her way with YOUR body, seek another doctor or midwife that will give support the birth plan you desire.

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Kim - posted on 10/15/2011

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Kim - posted on 10/15/2011

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Elfrieda - I didn't mean to downplay the experience of the medical staff who are present at home births. I realize that most home births include a very knowledgable medical staff, who are completely prepared to handle certain complications that arise. But sometimes (like in my case), an excellent group of doctors with limited resources wouldn't be enough. I was very fortunate to give birth in a hospital with a Level III NICU that was able to handle my baby's unique complications. If I were in a small hospital my baby would not have survived either, so I understand that if you are in an area where the hospitals are not good then a home birth would be a reasonable option. But if you have the resources near you I just don't understand how anyone could choose the comfort of their home over their unborn child's future.

Elfrieda - posted on 10/15/2011

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Kim, I would absolutely agree with you if "home birth" meant "by yourself", but there is a medical professional team right there. I had two midwives, one for me and one for the baby. They have lots of supplies and medicines and knowledge, and while if something truly terrible happened, it wouldn't be enough, it's the same as some small hospitals.

Kim - posted on 10/15/2011

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I have to weigh in on this topic because I am the mother of a child who almost didn't survive when he was born. While I realize that a home birth can be a very intimate and special occasion, I just don't understand why anyone would put their child's life in danger just to have this experience. ANYTHING can happen when your child is born, even if you have had the most normal pregnancy ever. By delivering your child at home, you are giving up a team of medical professionals who can be there to help in case things don't go as planned, as happened in my case. My son would not have survived if I had not been in a hospital to deliver him. I won't go into details on here, but if you want to hear my son's whole story, you can read it on my blog at mommys-always-write.blogspot.com/2011/04/im-declaring-national-holiday.html Fortunately my son is a very happy and healthy little boy now, but if I had attempted a homebirth this would not be the case. I'm not criticizing anyone or trying to start a fight... I just want people to see the other side of the story.

Reda - posted on 10/14/2011

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I gave birth to 11 healthy children. 7 home births, 3 birth center births, and 1 hospital birth. The home births were absolutely the best! I loved being in my own environment with my family nearby. Keep in mind that pregnancy is not an illness but a natural process. Also, just in case you wanted to know 4 of my children were 10 lbs. or more.

Kerry - posted on 10/14/2011

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I am a labor and delivery nurse and had two of my five children at home. As a nurse your story made me shudder. I am so glad it went well for you and the baby. However, there is the very real possibility of rupture of your uterine scar. If you are not down the hall from an OR when this happens both you and your baby WOULD die. Both of you from immediate loss of your entire blood supply. Home births are wonderful and I truly enjoyed mine. When things go bad in L&D they go real bad, real fast. There are a lot of things to consider. The two main ones are how long since your surgery & why you had the first C/S. If it was because you wouldn't dilate you will probably do that again. If it was due to fetal distress then a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) is very possible. Most Docs won't do VBAC's because of the risk to Mom and because their insurance won't back them up if they agree to this. Congratulations on your great home births, they are beautiful. Like most things in life deciding on a VBAC is not a black and white decision. For others out there considering a VBAC make sure you do your research before making this decision. If my own daughters were making this decision I would advise them to have the baby in the hospital. If they were candidates for a VBAC I would be comfortable with this as long as they were just a few feet from the OR.

Latisha - posted on 10/14/2011

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Wow! Thats awesome ladies!! Keep the stories coming...other mamas need to read them & be encouraged!

Yes, I do agree that we must be careful...with every birth there are risks..even if you go to a hospital. I personally, would rather be in the comfort of my own home. God forbid something serious happened, well, I would be more upset with myself for not going with my personal choices, & ended up being tied to a bed ( Which I don't want) or again, having an unnecessary c-section. Dont get me wrong, if something was wrong with me or baby, then by all means, please take the baby by surgery..just dont schedule me for no reason! Its happening too often for me to even be comfortable with the thought of having my baby in a hospital. I'm automatically considered high risk, just because I had one c-section...thats crazy!

Merry - posted on 10/14/2011

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Hemorrhaging is why midwives carry pitocin! Also in a bind you can eat your own placenta. It might gross me out but if it was that or bleed out I'd do it!

Tami - posted on 10/14/2011

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I have no problems with home birthing but be careful and know where and how close your hospital is. I had a picture perfect pregnancy, no problems whatsoever, and gained just below the average amount of weight. I had my son after only 8 hours of labor, but the placenta didn't detach all the way and I hemorrhaged. In just 10 minutes i lost half my blood. Glad it was me with the problems and not my baby, but really think if something goes wrong are you close enough to the hospital that you or your baby would be ok? I'm 20 min from our hospital and could have been dead before I got there.
Again, it's your decision and I have all the respect in the world for home birthing, just do it wisely!!

Rebecca - posted on 10/14/2011

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I had two home births, they were beautiful! Would not change it for the world. There are also lots of moms who give natural birth after c-section and as long as you have a great midwife and doula who you can trust and who will take you to hospital if anything goes wrong it is the most special way to give birth away from all the intrusiveness, sterility and unnaturalness of a hospital.

Callie - posted on 10/13/2011

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I was so glad to see this post and read all the great comments! I had my first daughter at the hospital and it didn't go at all how I wanted for no reason other than the nurses/ob decided they just wanted to do it their way. I'm currently working on convincing my husband that a homebirth is the way to go. He's stuck on insurance coverage (we have 100% preferred provider prenatal coverage). I've found a midwife who is working to get insurance to approve payment for her. And an appointment with a backup OB (which is required by our state). It always makes my day to hear women tell their homebirth stories. I'm hoping everything falls into place and I get the birth I want or at least a shot at it. I've been quite surprised that the few people I've told haven't made any negative comments but only questions about how it works. Keep sharing your stories you might just encourage someone to go for it.

Donna - posted on 10/13/2011

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I had a home birth with my son 3 months ago. It was my first baby, so I was a little bit nervous, but it was a wonderful experience! It was great to be in the comforts of our own home. We had a doula and two midwives, and a birth tub set up in our kitchen. Our son was 2 weeks early, so we weren't completely prepared - didn't have everything on the home birth list my midwife gave me. But we had the essentials, and they had everything we hadn't picked up yet. Active labour lasted four hours, and I pushed for 45 minutes. They said it was really fast and smooth for a first birth. After he was born, I got to hold him for as long as I wanted before they checked him, and the three of us had a nice snuggle. It was truly an amazing moment. I have never been opposed to going to the hospital if anything were to go wrong, but I'll definitely be having my next babies at home too!

Latisha - posted on 10/13/2011

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I plan on having my third or however many we plan on having, at home as well. I pray no complications arise, I wont even speak of it! Yay for homebirths!!! LOL!!!

Merry - posted on 10/13/2011

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Haha I almost barfed when I read 'ate my placenta' lol not my style but to each her own!
My first was a hospital birth and it was ok, but not close to perfect.
My second was at home in a tub and it was still not perfect but far far closer!
My waters broke spontaneously at 41 weeks 2 days and labor was intense 4 hours followed by 17 minutes of pushing! She was born healthy and well and I didn't tear. I was asleep in my own bed snuggled up next to her four hours after her birth and no nurses waking us to check vitals. She had no shots or anything, we weighed her an hor after birth so she could eat first and bond. I had my husband in the tub with me and my aunt and my sister and my son and mother in law there too along with my midwife!
Absolutely amazing and when we conceive our third he or she will also be planned at home unless complications arise.

Latisha - posted on 10/13/2011

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Thats amazing that you did it with your first! I only wish that I knew about it when I was having my first...the outcome would have been more special. But the most important thing is that he's here, alive and well. :))))

Elfrieda - posted on 10/13/2011

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I had my son (first) at home, and it was a wonderful experience. Not easy, but I felt so accomplished afterwards! It was easier for us to make that decision because my sister-in-law had had a homebirth just a year previous, and right away I knew that was what I wanted, too.

Morgan - posted on 10/13/2011

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I had 2 babies in the hospital and one at home, i would never have another child in the hospital home is the way to go I LOVED it.

Latisha - posted on 10/13/2011

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Oh, I get so excited about this subject that I miss accouple of things...I told only my parents because I didnt want to hear any negativity about me trying to have my baby at home. You should of seen their responses when I told everyone on fb that my baby was born @ home. I even had someone tell me that they didnt have a clue, I was like, Really? Ummm, thats because I didnt tell anybody! I wanted to prove to myself that I was capable of having a baby without meds/surgery...God forbid if something serious was wrong with me or baby, than please take us for a c-section...dont just schedule me in just because you dont have the patience to wait on my body to do its work. I get so upset that some of my friends settle for a c-section...they think its the best option when most of the time, its just an convenience for the doctor, they're not thinking about you! They like to use fear, so they can have their way, but this is the experience that you will remember the rest of your life. To them, you're nothing but a number, so its best to do what you set out to do. Even if you have high blood pressure, you can get on meds...one of the ladies that went to the same midwife as I did, had high blood pressure @ the end of her pregnancy, she too had a previous c-section, but my midwife gave her meds to bring her pressure down, and she had a successful homebirth! We shouldn't allow anything to stand in our way...Its our body!

Latisha - posted on 10/13/2011

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Oh you guys are so very welcome! I honestly didnt expect such a big response from everyone. Everyone's stories is just about the same. Even if they didnt have a horrible experience in the hospital like we did, everyone prefers homebirths over hospital. When I was carrying my second baby, I only told my parents because they were going to be at the house with me, to keep my three year old occupied. I couldn't get over how fast everything began to move once labor started and my water broke. :))) There was a time where I started to doubt if I could do it, thats was only because I was a little nervous, because I started to think about my previous experience, but I had to make myself refocus. Homebirth was the best decision I made for my baby! He was so alert right when he came out, and he even found my NIPPLE and attempted to eat! I love my midwives!!! They believed in me when I didnt believe in myself!!!!

Heather - posted on 10/13/2011

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Hi Latisha,
I also had a horrible experience with a csection in the hospital. My second and third births were at home with a Midwife. These were the most wonderful birth experiences. Like night and day compared to my first. I was able to move around my own space and be as loud as I wanted. (in the hospital the nurses rolled their eyes everytime I had another contraction) I believe this is why birth was meant to be at home. We should be in our own environment. I didn't even feel like I needed an epidural at home even though in the hospital all I could think about was the pain. Thanks so much for sharing your encouraging story!

Heather - posted on 10/13/2011

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I had all three of my boys at home. The first one was a water birth, but the second and third were nearly 10 pounds so I had them out of the tub so that I could get the hot compresses (so I would not tear). The births were great. The last one was even at times ecstatic. I was able to dance, burn incense, kiss my husband, play music, and eat my placenta with out anybody getting in my way.

Tracey - posted on 10/13/2011

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My third was born at home. I wish the first two had been! I didn't know that your tailbone moves to allow 1/2-2" more room for the baby's head, and I almost had to have a c-section with my first because his head got stuck! If docs don't know that, they're ignorant. If they do, they're putting profits against health, because by not telling you this, they're putting you at far higher risk of having to have a c-section, which IS a *major* abdominal surgery, not to mention the dangers to the baby! And how do they make this happen? By giving you meds and making you lie on your tailbone!



In both my hospital births, the nurses laughed when I said I had a birth plan. Yeah, I know, you can't really tell what all will happen, but in a relatively uneventful birth, they could have come a lot closer to following it. And didn't have to *laugh* at me!



The third one at home was so much better! It wasn't the "experience" (although not being laughed at or having my baby unnecessarily removed from me for over an hour was a good experience), but my midwife had so much more knowledge. Had things gone wrong, she would transport me to a nearby hospital in the same amount of time it takes to ready an operating room. But the chances of something going wrong, looking at hard statistics, were not as high.

Amy - posted on 10/13/2011

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Pretty great stories! I had a hospital birth for our first, an unplanned home birth for our second (labor was 1/2 hr and I didn't push, baby jumped out!), and when we went back to our OB they wanted to plan an induction a week early for our third. Needless to say, we left that practice and found a wonderful midwife/practice who understood our hopes for our third birth. We just had our third in the hospital but in an alternative birthing center which is just like a bedroom but had equipment behind the cupbords and drawers in the room to assist in an emergency and also had a birthing tub in the room. Our midwife was present but didn't really intervein. We were there for less than an hour and received our first baby girl! We were given the option to go right home after the birth and recovery time period (12 hours max). I thought it was the best of both worlds!

Hannah - posted on 10/13/2011

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Both of my babies were born at home, the first one labor was a total of 3 hours, my 2nd one was a total of 1 hour, 15 mins and the midwife didn't make it tell a few mins later....my husband did great tho :). I wouldn't go to the hospital unless something was wrong which being at home reduces your chance of things going wrong.

Alicia - posted on 10/13/2011

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I love being able to read other moms prior to me have such AMAZING and wonderful experiences. It gives us "newbies" insight and strength to move through this important decision. It really is empowering to know that this is my choice and I'm doing it for the love of my unborn child.

Tara - posted on 10/12/2011

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I would have considered a home birth but had high-risk pregnancies (pre-eclampsia) and complications with both of my girls - if I had pushed for a home birth with either of my children I probably wouldn't have them now.

My sister is trying for her first child and she will be trying for a home/water birth.

Carol - posted on 10/12/2011

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I had one cesarean, totally avoidable, which left me feeling terrible for a year, then a hospital VBAC, which was much better but still some interventions I didn't like, then two homebirths, both of which were wonderful. At home I was in charge, but I had capable midwives who gave me confidence and encouragement while respecting my wishes. They knew the little tricks that high-tech medicine ignores, to our peril. Go for it, all you home birth moms, and God bless you and your families.

Latisha - posted on 10/12/2011

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Wow Monique, your story sounds so close to mine. After my baby was born at home, I couldn't be I actually done it! I remember how tired I was at the very end, and how badly I wanted it to be over....but bc I didnt push my first out, I was unsure if it was time to push! LOL!!! I was saying "I think I need to push, but I dont know" LOL good times! I pushed Elijah out in 10 minutes, it was just too easy...I"m looking forward to having another baby, and its my prayer that we'll be able to birth the next one @ home as well. :)))

Monique - posted on 10/12/2011

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I had a c/s for my first daughter due to a face presentation but just had a homebirth late August for my second daughter! We had three midwives, doulas for me and our firstborn (a sibling doula), a photographer and a midwives' assistant there so it was a bit crowded but after 7 hours of intense labor and 1 hour of pushing she was born in the water into her daddy's hands. It was empowering and overwhelming at the same time. It was awesome to have my sister there for support as well. Our firstborn got to see her sister come out and was so ecstatic! We had a backup ob/gyn in case we had to transfer to a nearby hospital but I am sooo blessed that we had her at home and there were no complications. To be able to labor as I needed, without feeling self-conscious and without being prodded, poked, IV'd, or put on a time-restraint schedule...priceless.
I am so happy for you that you also were able to experience a HBAC. It's not just "crunchy" mamas that are realizing how amazing and natural birth can be.

Latisha - posted on 10/12/2011

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Thank you so much!! I look forward to reading all about it! Thats amazing that you have the same midwife that already delivered in your family! Awesome!!!!!

Alicia - posted on 10/12/2011

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AWWW Thanks for such a warm and inviting message. One of the midwives that is delivering our baby actually delivered my younger brother 19 years ago... so I definitely feel good and at ease with her and her knowledge. This is not a "medical" procedure and no one is sick so why treat childbirth as a disease or illness. Let women be respected and supported on such an amazing gift of life. I would love to keep you updated on this blog once the baby is born. Best Wishes too to your new one and family

Latisha - posted on 10/12/2011

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Alicia, you are very welcome. I'm so excited for you too! I'm telling you, that was one of the most touching experiences of my life! To be able to feel everything, may sound weird to some, but it was a blessing! After I had him, I can honestly say that women are mean to push out babies. Its amazing how we're designed to do something, that may seem impossible at the time, but is very worth wild! I had doubts about being able to have him vaginally while carrying him..because I had such a bad experience with my first doctor, but I'm so glad I got a second opinion. I will never forget the first words my midwife said to me & my husband on our first visit..."So, what kind of birth would you like to have?" You hardly ever hear of doctors asking the patient what they would like...so, I knew that once she asked us that, we were at the right place. Look at me, going on & on, I'm probably not making that much sense, just know that I'm excited & I hope you'll share your story with us!

Alicia - posted on 10/12/2011

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I'm planning my first homebirth in January and couldn't be more excited. This is my second baby and couldn't be happier than to share the moment with my husband. I have done a ton of research and also found a great center of midwives in my area that are committed to assisting in the best possible way for the family. Thanks for the blog =)

Latisha - posted on 10/12/2011

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Yes, if you become pregnant again, do try to have a homebirth. I was nervous as well but it was definitely worth it in the end. Honesly, going through the pain naturally, was easier than having surgery. I was alert, the baby was fine when he came out...we didnt have to deal with any weaning off the drugs; I was comfortable bc I was in my very own home, everything was GREAT! Sorry you had both bad experiences, I know exactly how you feel. But if you find someone that truly cares about your wants in your pregnancy, then you will be fine :))

Katherine - posted on 10/12/2011

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I wish I would have had a home birth! I had two really bad experiences. I wanted one with my second but was too scared. If I ever have another, I will definitely have a home birth.

I have heard nothing but good things about it. I seriously have heard no complaints.

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