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Diane - posted on 01/18/2009

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I think men just get in the way when there helping u, I get things done alot quicker, if I ask him do do anythink I get a millon questions too ha ha



 

Heather - posted on 01/17/2009

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can someone please reply to my "breasts leaking when not pregnant"i am really needing some help

Jolene - posted on 01/17/2009

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I don't haha. I find that majority of the time their help is useless anyways. I know if I do it myself it's going to get done right...the first time!

Natalie - posted on 01/17/2009

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Just remember this quote ladies:



'M' is for 'Mum' NOT 'Maid!!!LOL!!



I tell my partner this all the time and it works to get a little help.

Try it!!

Amanda - posted on 01/17/2009

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Of course I wish my husband would help out more!! Who doesn't? My husband is good at helping..... if I ask him. So sometimes its just easier to do it myself. But with two little ones 20 months & 9 months I need the help!!! He's a great guy I just wish he could live a week or so doing what I do..... all the cleaning, laundry, diaper changes, cooking, etc.

Tasharri - posted on 01/17/2009

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It would be excellent, but I accepted the fact that he won't be any help. The way I see it, it's his lose, he's missing out on a WONDERFUL experience. I work 2 jobs and go to school, thank GOD for family and support!

Lisa - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Diane:



Then you hear Im the only one working , Im tired.Oh like Im not up at 5 every morning and get to bed by 12.And I better be ready for "lovin" whenever.





ogm!!! and if as soon as the baby goes down for a nap, and you have your arms and mind to yourself for a change, you are NOT in the mood,  you are the vbad one!  My body is not my  own anymore!!

Diane - posted on 01/13/2009

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Then you hear Im the only one working , Im tired.Oh like Im not up at 5 every morning and get to bed by 12.And I better be ready for "lovin" whenever.

Ashley - posted on 01/13/2009

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My fiancee and I both decided to have this baby. Well for the 9 months that I was pregnant I was the DD whenever we went out and I basically went from being his buddy that he got to smoke and drink with to the crazy emotional lady that is getting fat.



When I started having contractions he was all for it until we got to the hospital and we were back and forth for 3 days before I was actually going into labour. He would complain about how long we would have to wait.



Once the baby was here he helped out alot, when i was in the hospital and for the first few days. Then he went back to work. When he was working I understood that he would be tired and not want to do anything when he got home so I just laid the baby with him while I cleaned up the house and cooked.



Now he is laid off for a month and a half. I still dont get help. He is hooked on his smallville series and his hockey game. Whenever we come home he will sit right down while I start emptying the diaper bag, and straightening up some stuff. Yea he does cook and sometimes he will clean the kitchen but how the hell do i tell him that its not enough? The last time I tried he said "Its like everything I do for you isnt enough." and all though this is true,, its kinda harsh and makes me look out to be that b***h again!



He also finds time to go to his moms house and help her sand her cupboards, go to his grandpas to build a horse shelter, go to his brother in laws house to fix a tire..



I think my biggest problem today is that, yesterday he was gone literally from 10 am to 10pm while I was at home with the baby. Today I told him i was going over to a friends place because she was going to give us some old baby stuff of hers. Well I dont think he understood that he would have the responsibility of watching Andre because when i was on the phone with my friend he said "I have to go and do ,..... today!"



He also wants to move to alberta. If I dont get some help from him in the near future, please tell me why i would move away from my family... the ones that will watch him when I want some time to myself?

Buffy - posted on 01/13/2009

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Man am so glad i am not alone here. My bf sits in his room in the back of the house and sit on his comp from the time he get out of bed intell he goes back to bed on the weekends. On the days he has to work he is back there from the time he get out intell he goes to bed.I get no help at all.I have 2 boys thay are 6 and 4 thay are about 18 months apart so thay are like twins. Fight over everything and drive me nuts. i need a moms weekend here

Lisa - posted on 01/13/2009

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Quoting Diane:



At least I know Im not alone in this one.I dont think anyone understands unless they do it 24/7 like we do.I hear you have the easy life.WHAT!!!Dont get me wrong Im greatful I can stay home but a little help would be nice





yeah, and it's like people think you don't love your kid if you neede a little time off!

Diane - posted on 01/13/2009

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At least I know Im not alone in this one.I dont think anyone understands unless they do it 24/7 like we do.I hear you have the easy life.WHAT!!!Dont get me wrong Im greatful I can stay home but a little help would be nice

Melissa - posted on 01/12/2009

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I swear some times I feel like I'm living with a teenager. I think most of our problems come from the fact that when the husbands lived at home mom did everything for them (well in my case) He went straight from living with mom to us moving in together, he was way worse back then.

Kimberly - posted on 01/12/2009

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HAHA...I just said to myself that someone should create a site titled Useless Husbands, where wives could bitch about them...HAHA,,I love it. at least I'm not alone!

Andrea - posted on 01/12/2009

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Yes they could help more, But we would not like they way he did it anyways!!lol

Mary - posted on 01/12/2009

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I used to until I went back to work this summer (after 3 years at home) and the husband became a stay at home dad. Now he's getting a dose of what those 3 years were like. lol Originally we agreed he would stay home until our youngest starts kindergarten (2 years) but, after being home for 7 months, he wants to go back to work *at least* part-time.

Gabrielle - posted on 01/12/2009

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Maybe you all should throw my hubby in your husbands' faces and let them know there is a macho manly man who spends lots of time with his little girl. From day one, my hubby has done so much for us. He works from 5 AM to 2:15 PM so he can pick her up from day care to spend time with her or take her to swimming. When I get home from work at 5:30, he's making dinner. After that, I do dishes and mostly watch her until bedtime, since he's tired. But he changed diapers, now helps with potty training, takes to her play dates, etc.



And he's still macho - rock climbs, mows lawn, works on the house, etc. He's teaching our daughter (29 months) about those things, too, so she can be well-rounded and have things in common with him. Your hubby's will only sit on their butts if you let them! I'm so glad he and I talked about all this before we even got married - he really wanted kids but I didn't want to get stuck with 90% of the work. It's the 21st century, but we still talk about "working moms" - what about "working dads"? Men need to cook, clean and raise kids, too! And get respect for doing those things, while respecting us for doing them, too! Let's hear it for equality!

NICOLE - posted on 01/12/2009

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yeah, i wish they would mom's have to do sooo much all the time....and the dads get to have the best of everything....go to work come home play with the kids if they want, wait till dinner is done, eat and go to bed.....

Lisa - posted on 01/12/2009

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What is mommy time?! My Hubby works 2 jobs, one out of the home, and when he is not working I don't want to ask for any help.  Sometimes I get to take a bath for maybe10-20 mins, but my son is in a bouncy seat in the bathroom!

Stephanie - posted on 01/12/2009

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I wish! I work nights and stay home with the kids during the day (for finacial and personal reasons I don't want my kids in daycare) but my husband works a lot less hours than I do and doesn't travel as far to get to work, but it totally feels like I'm always doing most things around the house!

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You all should read the book Babayproofin Your Marriage.  It was really helpful to me and my husband.

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You all should read the book Babayproofin Your Marriage.  It was really helpful to me and my husband.

Seema - posted on 01/12/2009

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OMG, I thought I was the only one who was thinking this. They must help out, its only fair. But nooo they always have to be sooo macho. They shouldnt ask for children if they are not going to be involved.

Kristy - posted on 01/12/2009

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i ahve my family here mut i only really get on with my mum and I have to take liam there he is so hypo and he drains me

Tahlia - posted on 01/12/2009

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lol..... well i live in victoria nd our family live in new south wales so we dont really have family to visit.

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2009

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lol, yeah I had to push for it for a long time. He wasn't comfortable taking either of my little girls out until they were at least 6 months old. Now that they are that little bit older he finds them easier to take care of. Good luck.

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2009

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I get my husband to take my girls out visiting grandparents on the weekend. It gives me some time to myself and it makes it easier for him to handle them both because he can get some help.

Kristy - posted on 01/12/2009

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the only time i get mummy time is when i go for my walk every night and even then i have to come home and clean up all the toys and clean the kitchen everywhere else i go liam comes with me



 

Tahlia - posted on 01/12/2009

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yes i do the important stuff myself it gets dun quicker that way, but i just want sum alone time, i just want him to take cayden out for a few hours just so i can have sum peace and quiet

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2009

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My husband has gone back to work within two weeks of having both of our children and being a stay at home mum I have always done everything myself (to the point of feeling worn out). But I have found that when he does try to help out I am so use to doing everything myself that I am very controlling and bossy when it comes to how I want things done (especially when it comes to my girls). I get my hubby to do the little jobs I hate doing and do all of the "important" jobs myself so they're done to MY standards I find otherwise Im just looking over his shoulder.

Melissa - posted on 01/12/2009

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Ditto to that! I basically have to turn blue in the face some times and it can cause an argument too. I get the " well I work all day and I'm tired". HELLO yes I love my son, but this is a 24/7 deal here when is it our day off??? I stay up super late just so I can have my "mommy time"..... Mommy needs a time out!! LOL!

Tahlia - posted on 01/12/2009

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maybe if we took the babys nd left then they might realise what they have lol

Kristy - posted on 01/12/2009

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Quoting Tahlia:

who wants men to help out more lol



me me me me men should realise it takes 2 to make a baby and 2 to raise it why are we left with the responsibility of cooking cleaning and raising a child



 

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