Why do parents keep sending their kids to school/daycare when they KNOW they're SICK!?

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I'd really like to know why this is. I am so tired of my children being sick for 2 weeks, being healthy for a week, then being sick for 2 weeks, then healthy again. This is starting to get ridiculous. I even started a group for it because it has been frustrating me so much.



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Jamie - posted on 03/03/2010

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I worked in a daycare, and that was the MOST aggrivating thing. people think they can hide when there baby is sick by giving them motrin. And think that since they "have to go to work and make a living it is okay to bring their sick child to school." A lot of it though, I blame the owner of the daycare. The place I worked, the owner never enforced the regulation. (which is a child can NOT come to school with a temp, vomiting, puking, and the child must also be fever-free for 24 hours WITHOUT medication before coming back to school.) A great majority of owners do not enforce it because it is "money in their pocket" A good provider will enforce this, the daycare I am sending my daughter to does enforce it, and my daughter has not yet been sick!

Vickie - posted on 03/03/2010

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I myself run a home daycare. My question for you is one a different level, what do you expect me to do when one of my children are sick? Not all illnesses can be avoided. I do not accept children with fever or vomitting or diarrea, but if it is a clear runny nose I am not going to turn the parent away. Thankfully my parents are considerate enough not to have brought there children here sick, and if for some reason one comes up sick I do a through cleaning of everything in my house with bleach and lysol. I have not had any illness that has affect all the kids at the daycare. As for when my children get sick they get quarratined in my room-there is a TV for them and a bathroom, I bring them there food and check on them throughout the day making sure that hands are washed and santized all day long as well.

You are right though not all places inforce there own rules and most schools will not take the time to disinfect everything in the room just because 1 child has gotten sick. Understandably the child's health should be a priority but as others have said some parents just can not afford to take the time from work, some do not have insurance to take their children to the doc and they have no other option for their kids daytime care. Then there are always going to be the few parents that don't care, it is more convient for them to take the kids to school then to have them home.

Have you asked what procedure the school preforms when a child gets sick there? It could also be that they are not cleaning throughly after a child gets sick, causing the illness to spread. Just a thought, I understand how frustrating it can be from both sides!

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Michelle - posted on 03/03/2010

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I agree if you know your kids are sick keep them home. However not everything shows right away like chicken pox. also all kids react different to a cold or flu that is going around school/daycare. The best things we can do as parents is to let our kids get enough sleep, eat healthy and wash their hands before they eat.

Iridescent - posted on 03/03/2010

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It's good that they haven't all gone to that extreme yet, then! Here, half the schools expect a note even for 1 day. The other half do not care unless you're gone more than 3, and even then if you have a reasonable excuse they don't push.

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Because school's only give an excused absence w/ a doctor's note and you don't need to see the doctor for a case of the sniffles or a minor cough? Because the handbook only says to keep them out if they have a fever or vomiting? Those are the 2 main reasons that I know of (other than the parents working one) that kids are always at the girls school.

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Joanna - posted on 03/03/2010

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Some of these answers really make me feel bad. I understand that kids can't miss a lot of school, and mom's can't miss a lot of work. I wish there were other alternatives... is it fair for everyone else if you HAVE to send your child to school sick? Because then THEIR children get sick, and then they have to go through the same thing. What a vicious cycle!

Jamie - posted on 03/03/2010

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I was just thinking this the other day but my situation is different. I babysit and the little girls father keeps bringing her here sick. My daughters rarely get sick and never have gotten more than the sniffles and I hate that he brings her here no warning she is sick. It drives me crazy.

Dawn - posted on 03/03/2010

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Where I work, our company has a point system and if you are late, or call in because your car broke down or you have a child sick, you either get a 1/4 point 1/2 point for coming in late or a whole point if you call in sick. If you get 8 points then they fire you.
In between those eight points you get a verbal written warning, then a warning and then fired. Most people in this day and age need their jobs for whatever reason.
So I hope this answers your question.

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What kind of illnesses are you talking about? A cold typically lasts 7-10 days. My kids school only allows 7-10 days of unexcused absences (no doctor's note) before the authorities have to get involved. Keep your kid home for 2 colds (since you have weekends) w/out going to the doctor and your 'freebies' are up.

Joanna - posted on 03/03/2010

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That's my biggest pet peeve. I don't even like taking my daughter to playgroup or public play areas anymore because she always catches something. she's only 2 1/2. I can't imagine what it'll be like when she starts school!

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Agreed Michelle. Some illnesses you DON'T know they have until it's too late. My main concern are those that send their children knowing full well they are ill and should be at home in bed or at the doctor's. Thanks for your post :)

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Most schools accept a one day absence with a phone call while you keep the child home to monitor them or get them to a doctor. It's when the absence is more that one day and consecutive days they require a doctor's note. I know at the daycare and the 2 different schools my 7 year old has been to, they only require a doctor's note if she is away 2 or more days in a row.

Iridescent - posted on 03/03/2010

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Not all schools (in fact most) accept a phone call and your word stating you have a sick child anymore. Even one absence and they want a doctors note or they call a truancy officer! It's not like it should be.

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I totally get the not being able to take time off thing... I'm a working mom with a single income. I get it. But my kids health comes first and I won't send them when they're sick so they can infect other kids. All I ever do is call the school and they are ok with that. Maybe I'm being too considerate of others?

Gwen - posted on 03/03/2010

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Maybe because their employer doesn't offer sick time? Some parents are lazy, but I suspect there are more who simply cannot afford to miss work.

Iridescent - posted on 03/03/2010

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Because they hope a morning dose of Tylenol will hide the symptoms for the day. A lot can't afford to miss work. Lots of reasons, but none make it ok for either the child or the school. It's going to be a HUGE issue next year when my daughter starts school (she's immunocompromised).

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