Why does my four month old baby wake every hour in the night?

CN - posted on 09/19/2011 ( 199 moms have responded )

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What is up with my baby? He wakes me up every hour, nurses for less then five minutes, then falls back to sleep. HELP!!!!

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Amanda - posted on 09/26/2011

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I am not trying to "blast" someone's style. A style is different than a factual answer. Breastmilk is the PERFECT food for a baby for the first 6 months of life. That is a fact. It may also be true that some babies cannot tolerate breastmilk for one reason or another. But that is SO totally rare. I didn't say that was no child would ever have a problem with breastmilk. If I'm a "keyboard warrior" (ha?), then you are as well. ;o)

As to Tania - my posts are not based solely on experience. I am a student midwife, and have been working to become a La Leche League leader. I have read countless books on breastfeeding, pregnancy, labor, birth, midwifery, obstetrics, women's health, etc. I teach childbirth education classes and am a labor and postpartum doula. I have worked with many, many women, through my doula work, midwifery work, childbirth education courses as well as in La Leche League meetings. I have a ton of experience and knowledge.

It is totally untrue that breastmilk loses nutritional value at 4 months. It is 100% completely false.

Kate CP - posted on 09/26/2011

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"Breastfeeding is not always the best nutrition - it depends on the mother's diet for starters, and not all babies can breakdown the galactose in breast milk either - which actually means you are adding a toxin into their system and causing inflammation in the gut, which then compromises their immunity and brain development and leads to many allergies throughout their life..."

This is a crock.

"Breast milk losses all nutritional value at around four mths!..."

And *THIS* is a crock.

a) The chances that a young baby at 4 months can't digest milk proteins of any sort is rather rare.
b) Mom's diet has N O T H I N G to do with her milk. There are women who are literally starving whose babies are nursed just fine. The body will leech what it needs from mom to make milk. It's just as nutritious regardless of what mom eats.
c) Breast milk is the easiest thing in the world for an infant to digest unless they have one of those really rare allergies. Again: REALLY RARE.
d) The World Health Organization and The AAP AND Unicef all recommend that you nurse until AT LEAST 12 months of age if not longer. It's not because it tastes good: IT'S BECAUSE IT'S NUTRITIOUS AND HEALTHY FOR YOUR BABY.


*bangs head on desk* Oi.

Charlie - posted on 09/27/2011

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First of all your baby is normal , it is biologically normal to wake several times a night ...it seems your child is comfort nursing again totally normal , it will soon pass and a good reason to have baby in a bassinett beside your bed ( If you are not comfortable with bedsharing)

Dear Jeebus , where are some of you getting your information from 50 year old books ? experts with qualifications from inside a happy meal ?

Breastmilk loses its nutritional value at 4 months ? YEESH newborns eating rice ?

Excuse me while I pick up my jaw up off the floor at the incredibly innacurate information being passed around in this thread.

It is a basic human survival mechanism to wake several times during infancy and in fact it is a protectant against SIDS it is not biologically normal for an newborn infant to sleep for extended periods let alone the entire night it certainly isnt healthy to force a child to sleep entire nights with over stuffing their bellies.

Carol Jane - posted on 10/02/2011

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Much of the focus of this discussion has been on whether baby needs to eat or not. Yes, breast milk lasts only about two hours in the tummy, and if you're nursing, you need to learn your baby's signals and follow your baby's needs.



But I don't believe this is necessarily a matter of a full tummy. Suckling helps the baby relax, allows him feel close to Mom, and it and helps Mom keep producing. So why are we trying to cut short something that relaxes and satisfies a baby and helps him be what he should be NOW? I think too many people are in a hurry to advance baby to "older child or adult" status. It's a very slow process which I don't believe should be rushed.



I don't see what's so bad about baby using Mom as a pacifier. Moms were there for that reason before anyone even conceived of pacifiers ;-) but then it's the parent's choice. Just know that needing to nurse all night isn't abnormal and isn't necessarily anything that needs fixing.

Minnie - posted on 09/26/2011

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Rice cereal is nutritionally bereft. We as humans aren't even supposed to eat grains. Human infants don't produce adequate amounts of amylase in their saliva until 18 months. The idea that rice cereal is a good first food is archaic.



A better choice would be eggs or liver.



True galactosemia is diagnosed within the first week of life as evidenced by a failure to thrive; the baby cannot digest the carbohydrate in the milk.



Frequent vomiting is often caused by oversupply of milk.



I'm a nutritionist and have worked in paediatrics for many years.



Honestly, this doesn't mean much to me, as conventional nutritonal wisdom has its basis in piss-poor science.

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A - posted on 10/03/2011

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Just saw your ? today. Sorry for your lack of sleep :( I have a 5 month old and he used to wake up 1-2 times a night when I brought him home but, lately he has been waking up a lot. I have found a few things that affect this: 1. Sometimes he acts like he is hungry when he actually has a burp or gas. Some signs I look for are his legs/body moving a lot, nursing for 3-5 seconds then breaks the latch. I just move him around or bounce him gently on my knee then try to burp him again. 2. If he sleeps a lot during the day. 3. If he is not getting a good feeding at the end of the night to fill his tummy. You may need to change his diaper or do something else in the middle of the feeding to wake him up. I had a peditrician tell me, that the hind milk is fatty and will fill their tummy longer. 4. If he is not getting enough to eat during the day he will make it up at night. Also, as far as the teething goes, my son starting drooling at 3 mos. he is now 51/2 mos. and no teeth. At his 4 month checkup doctor says his teeth may be setting. Also be careful of using swing. My sister-in-law used a swing to get her son to sleep but, had break the habit when he got too big for the swing. It was a misserable couple of nights. I hope this helps or that you are getting some sleep now.

Manuela - posted on 10/02/2011

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Hi. What was his previous feeding and waking cycle like? Could be a lot of reasons, from habit, to thirst, to growth spurt - this is a bigger deal then we give credit for. They seek a lot of reassurance when they are going through a developmental milestone. Has anything else changed in his routine?

Karen - posted on 10/02/2011

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if he is tugging his ear, I'm sure its ear infection as that and the waking is the normal sign, I had to go to a specialist as my dr also kept saying it was teething, and it still carried on till he was 9months, then the specialist booked him in straight away and she put in grommits and said the liquid shot out! rather catch early than have to put grommits and also if left too long can affect the hearing and speach, my son's speech wasn't up to his age, luckily he has caught up!

Karen - posted on 10/02/2011

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My son did that and he had inner ear infections, because when they lie down the fluid moves down causing it to be worse and thus more painfull than during the day, my son was normal playful during day but when napping you wake up constently and cry and like you said I would feed him and go back to sleep, we even put him on formula for hungry babies as I thought he wasn't getting enough food, it didn't work. so go get him checked out at th Dr.

Carole - posted on 10/02/2011

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I just took my 5 month old in for that same thing, an the doc said that its prob just that they want that feeling of comfort. Esp if they are eating good throughout the day an are gaining weight, they suggested a pacifier. Ir havent dones

Roselyn - posted on 10/02/2011

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If you can, try to keep him awake for a longer feeding, tickle his feet, blow on his cheek, nudge him awake until he gets his fill and he should sleep longer. It could also be teething though. Amber necklaces help with teething.

Lara - posted on 10/02/2011

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Make sure, too, that you mention it when you go to your next pediatrician appointment. Children with heart defects and other conditions have difficulties feeding. That said, is is much more likely that there is a perfectly reasonable explanation for this feeding behavior.

Anne - posted on 10/02/2011

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You might think of asking your pediatrician about reflux. My son had it and it took us some time to get it figured out. The symptoms were similar.

Dianne - posted on 10/02/2011

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your baby is growing!! be sure to drink plenty, and i mean plenty of liquids. I had this phenom with all my kids. All were BF until they were at least 5 months of age! The more you drink, the more you will be able to produce. If you wish to continue to produce quality milk, be sure to pump and save, so when you have had enough, you can still rest assured that you are giving baby the best before you need to switch to formula. be patient though, every time you feed, drink something. As a 4 month old, he is definately growing. :D Again with the patience:D it's all worth it

Kristine - posted on 10/02/2011

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I have an 9 & 4 1/2 year old & they did the same thing when they were newborn! It's a stage.... it's bonding.Enjoy it.I know it's hard but eventually he'll stop.IMO, letting a 4 month old cry it our isn't a good idea.I'm all for attachment parenting.... I can tell you how close I am to my kids & I followed my heart the entire time. I called it "The Nest"!

Jolyn - posted on 10/02/2011

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He's in a routine, you either need to let him cry it out for one of his wake ups every night until his clock changes or he starts soothing himself back to sleep. he should eventually teach himself to stay asleep

Lori - posted on 10/02/2011

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Cereal is a simple carb and burned up way faster than the protiens and fats in breasttmilk and formula. Babies actually get hungry much faster after being fed cereal. Its the same for adults in that we burn up carba faster leaving us with hunger faster than when we eat protien and fats.

Meaghan Van - posted on 10/02/2011

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oh yeah... and one more thing too... Boys are ususally more hungry as babies...lol... who am i kidding as kids and teenagers too... We also had to give him some rice cereal before bed to be able to get any kind of sleep... at four months their stomachs can adjust to solid foods well. Just make it as described, or a touch more watery if your nervous, but it will help him to have a good sleep.... also try and keep him awake for longer periods during the day. trust me it does help. Its funny...because our men grow up into such tough no nonsense creatures its hard to see them as such clingy, emotionally needy babies... The difference in independance and neediness between my son and daughter is astounding... i thought it would be the other way around...but i have talked to all my girlfriends who also have sons, and they say the same thing... funny isnt it?

Danielle - posted on 10/02/2011

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He's not getting his belly full and wakes up probably because he is still hungry. Try keeping him awake the entire time he is nursing. Strip him down to his diaper and keep the lights on. Or it could be that he is using you for a pacifier. He hasn't learned how to sooth himself back to sleep. Try a pacifier. But some babies won't take one. I know what you're going through though. I nursed my daughter until she was 16 months old and she woke up about every 2 hours every night until I quit nursing her. Hope you can break him of this habit for your own sake of restful sleep.

Heather - posted on 10/02/2011

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Probably because he would love to suck on something, and then go back to sleep. A pacifier might help!

Meaghan Van - posted on 10/02/2011

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I agree with a lot of ladies on here... my son did the same thing to me...only I did the absolute worst thing, which was co-sleeping... Hes almost two and still crawls into our bed for a cuddle each and every night :( so pleeeeease what ever you do dont do that! lol...( and if you are doing it and enjoy it then no offence meant) but as for advice, I would try letting him cry it out for a couple of minutes... its hard, but I have found with my second baby, that she pops off to sleep if we just let her cry for a couple of minutes... ( she too is four months) another thing, is encourage the cluster feedings before bedtime, even if you bottle feed... I make sure my daughter has a very full tummy before bedtime, I pop a bottle into her mouth while she is still sleeping at around 11 or so before we go to bed, let her drink as much as she will and then pop her back into bed asleep. and if that doesnt work, try a pacifier... I had to get one with my son, in the end, simply because he needed the comfort... it helped amazingly well.... and if you keep it as a bedtime treat, it will help a lot ( something I wish I had done...but didnt... now my son at almost two walks around the house looking for his "nana" i dont know what prompted him to call it that...lol..) anyhow good luck... hopefully your little one will start to sleep soon

Mindy - posted on 10/02/2011

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Sounds like he is using you as a pacifier. have you tried to let him cry briefly?

Elizabeth - posted on 10/02/2011

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something about the 4 month mark haha. both of my kids slept 12 hours a night until they reached 4 months and then they stopped sleeping through. my son starting teething really badly and wanted to nurse for comfort. or in the summer needed to nurse because he was thirsty. my daughter stopped being swaddled at 4 months and was up constantly. They are growing so much at the time too they might just need the extra food because they havent started solids yet. obviously do whatever your comfortable with but i couldnt handle being up every hour especially because my husband works up north and its just me with both the babies. I started them in their cribs and would keep putting them back to sleep when they woke up until about midnight or sometimes earlier and then i would bring them into my own bed till morning. once they were sleeping with me they didnt wake up again and I actually got to sleep. this worked great because they were used to starting in their own beds so once they got a bit older they didnt need to come sleep with me and would sleep right through. good luck

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2011

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Are u feed g him Cerel yet? At my 4 month check-up my pediatrician told me to start when he starts waking up more in the night. When he did at first I thought ear infection, teething .... Then remembered docs advise. Sure enough within a few nights he was back to sleeping 6 hrs again.

Toni - posted on 10/02/2011

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I didn't read all of the posts, so don't know if anyone has mentioned this yet... I had the exact same problem with my baby girl and the problem was: she was too HOT. She didn't start sleeping well until our first cold nights when she was maybe 8 months old and she could kick the blankets off. When we finally started figuring it out we let her sleep in just a diaper and she did much better. Now she is 11 yrs and she still loves the cold. Ice skating, skiing (with her jacket open, or she gets too warm). She still overheats very easily and can't take outdoor sports in the summer (except swimming). If I could go back in time, I would take the blankets off, let her sleep in a thin onesie, and we all would have had a lot more rest. I mentioned this to my friend who recently had a baby with the same cranky, low sleep issue. She has started pulling clothes off of him when he is upset and says it is helping. That all said, my child is also allergic to peanuts, so that could have affected her when she was nursing as well, but I didn't eat a lot of peanut products and she was irritable ALL THE TIME, Unless she was nursing. So definitely give it a try. Good luck!! :)

Meghan - posted on 10/02/2011

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Honestly, i'm confident there's nothing wrong with your little one. :) well except that his mommy is pretty tired from not sleeping. I did the same thing, kept taking my son to the doctor thinking something was wrong. After the 3rd visit by 4 months the doctors office had me meet with the "nice" doctor - the one that comes in, listens to your concerns, smiles at you and says, "you're a good mommy, I promise he's not going to sleep hungry, and at this age they can go 8 hours. Let him cry it out, working his way back to sleep. You just a door down, if he cries for more than 10 min. Go in, sooth him, change his position and try again."
I swear, it was harder for me too lie there for 10 mins. than it was for him to go back to sleep. 3rd day in, he was sleeping through the night and so was I!!! You can do it! Good luck!

Kathryn - posted on 10/02/2011

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Hello - I breastfed our children - which are 14 and 15 years old - already!!! I chose to feed on demand - which was every 2 - 4 hours approx. Whilst feeding breast or bottle always check that you are both comfy, not too hot and relaxed - have you been shown how to "latch on" if breast feeding and how to reduce colic if and when it occurs.
Might be worth checking with your doctor/midwife.
Good luck

Carol Jane - posted on 10/02/2011

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Julia, I may have been the one who mentioned the formilk relative to people saying their doctors had them express some so it could be "tested" or looked at, and then telling them it was no wonder their baby wasn't sleeping or gaining weight, or whatever issue of the day was. My point was that people may tell you that you don't have rich enough milk to meet your baby's growing needs, but that would be wrong info. . But the flip side of that is that people who are told this are getting wrong information. The baby needs whatever the breast has to offer at that point, from start to finish because there in lies the entire meal of perfect balance.

Carol - posted on 10/02/2011

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I am still doing it now at my healthy age and mine is hunger not eating enough or drinking, make sure he has all his bottle and all his wind is out and then make sure he is safe and possibly leave him to cry, you will know by his sounds if he is after attention or in discomfort, my child minder told me she left him and he would fall off to sleep so I sated doing this and he learnt quickly, I was so tempted to go in but no it did work and he slept all night soon and would be awake about half an hour in his cot before he shouted out, happily playing or watching his mobile.

Lori - posted on 10/01/2011

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I don't come here to stir controversy or cause a problem. I am completely correct about allergies to breastmilk vs intollerance or inability or digest certain enzymes. I correctly identified the difference in previous posts. Read them. People jumping on a person without informing themselves of the definition of words used should educate themselves on the subject. I'm a medical professional (pediatric nurse) who strives to inform and help mothers who get information that is tainted or misleading. I posted what I did to try to help the OP not to have everyone jump on what they think I said instead of what I did state in my post which I won't keep repeating since it can be read where it is. Digestive problems and intollerances are not all allergies. Can lactose I tolledamce

Cause anaphylactic shock? No it cannot because it isn't an allergy. Enough already babies cannot be allergic to their mothers breastmilk period end, scientific fact.

Carol - posted on 10/01/2011

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ALLERGIES VS. OTHER CONDITIONS . . .



I'm not Lori, but since the issue of Galactosemic babies came up, I decided to share what knowledge I got from a Wikipedia article and how it compares with an allergy.



First of all, many, many of us have confused allergies with other conditions, and "allergy" seems to have become the buzz word for many different non-allergy things, so don't feel bad about not knowing the difference.



An allergy is a condition that develops after exposure to a certain substance . . . animal, vegetable or mineral and it involves the immune system.



Galactosemic babies, for an example are born without the enzyme, or without enough of it to process Galactose This info is based on an article in Wikipedia.



Situational examples:



#1

Whenever I eat dark green lettuce, like Romaine I get the runs. (True story for me (unfortunately) - problem since my mid ‘50s). Some people would say, “all of a sudden, I’m allergic to lettuce,” because they can’t eat it anymore without side effects. However, side effects are not always allergy reactions. This situation is NOT an allergy due to a change in bodily function. (But just FYI, I am speaking generally on this one because the runs and vomiting CAN be a sign of an allergy, but that’s a little different than what I’m saying here).



#2

Taking Tetracycline makes my daughter vomit. This is NOT an allergy. Her stomach just can’t handle the Tetracycline.



#3

My friend took Ceclor for bronchitis and the next morning she had hives all over her body. This IS an allergic reaction.



#4

My neighbor’s child ate peanuts at a school party and within minutes his tongue and throat swelled, he couldn’t breathe and his heart stopped.They had to call the paramedics and he's lucky to be alive. Thie IS an alergic reaction (anaphylaxis).



THE BOTTOM LINE is that in both cases, something goes wrong and either your body fights it by giving you headaches, stuffy nose, rashes, anaphylaxis, and sometimes nausea and vomiting). Or your body lacks an enzyme or other chemistry, for example, and because of that doesn’t metabolize a certain substance in your body that you need for life.



The difference is how you get there and how it is treated. In an emergency situation you should probably know.



I hope this makes sense, and I’ll step down off of my soap box now.

Merry - posted on 10/01/2011

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Lori morrow, what would you call a galactosemic baby then.
They can not drink moms breastmilk or else they will not grow or thrive.
Sounds pretty allergic to me.
what do you consider it if it's not allowed to be called allergic?
Allergic to the galactose? Well the milk can't be milk without the galactose so it is in essence allergic to the milk

Catherine - posted on 10/01/2011

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My children weren't allergic to my milk but if I ate oranges or pork pies, they sure had dodgy bums the next day :)

Carol - posted on 09/30/2011

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Claudia, I know some kids don't latch on or have problems. I'm so sorry your daughter had problems, if you're referring to her.

Erin - posted on 09/30/2011

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Please refrain from personal attacks and review No Thumps if you are at all confused about what is appropriate.



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Lori - posted on 09/30/2011

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Ok, don't like to get off topic with addressing personal attacks, but to the person who went on the rant about my post, it is a scientific FACT that babies cannot be allergic to their mothers breastmilk. If you had read my post correctly you would have seen that I am a pediatric medical professional and my post states that they can be allergic to protiens and enzymes in breastmilk, not the actual milk. Please read correctly and try to remain helpful to the OP. there was not one helpful thing in your post. I also stated that the baby should be seen if the problem persisted to rule that out. If your physician misinformed you, again not my fault. Sorry you misunderstood what I actually said

LaDonya - posted on 09/30/2011

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Hmmm...My son was the same way...turned out he has Asthma and Allergies...one of them being to peanuts. I did not find out about it till he was 3 :( It wont hurt to get him checked out. God Bless

Fikrija - posted on 09/30/2011

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It might be teething. My kid started doing that at the age of 4 months, too, because of teething. He is now 17 months and doesn't sleep much better, though. :( Sometimes it is just their personality.

Carol - posted on 09/30/2011

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AHHH! Very interesting and I'd like to know more about galactosemic. ;-)



Just FYI, my comment(s) about babies nursing and the amount of breast milk being produced - i was referring to people who think they can't make enough milk to satisfy or supply the right nutrition for their babies. I knew someone who would nurse her baby for a set amount of minutes, and that type of thing is what I worry about. Unless they are very sleepy, they are done when they stop, except for suckling. If they don't get to finish on their own time, they get less nourishment and the body gets the signals that it can make less milk. One other thing is (and I said it a couple of weeks ago) that the older they get, the better they are at breast feeding and they can do in 5 minutes what once took them 40. So if they are taking less time, it doesn't mean they are less interested or getting less. Before weaning my daughter at two, she nursed about twice a day, sometimes three for short periods of time, and once in awhile when she was sick or when she was needing comfort.



Re: children reacting to what mom eats, mine had trouble when I ate my mom's homemade lemon ice cream. It was a shame . . . her lemon ice cream is the kind of thing that will call to you in the middle of the night.

Merry - posted on 09/30/2011

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:-( sorry to hear that christina.

But please try to explain the rarety of this when you mention it, and using the correct term, galactosemic, as opposed to, allergic to my milk, will help mothers understand you're not just making things up.

Christina - posted on 09/30/2011

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Yes my son was allergic to my breastmilk, galactosemic. It is very rare, I also have a cousin with the same condition. She almost died as an infant because of the same problem.

DJ - posted on 09/30/2011

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Didn't have time to read 100% of this convo, so please forgive if these thoughts are redundant! One, breastfeeding babies tell moms bodies how much to make tomorrow based on what they eat today, so it's supposed to be a zero-sum deal: you make it, they eat it. When they eat less just one day, your body will probably not cut back immediately, but make no mistake, your internal monitor is keeping track. So, my very first theory on the perpetual feeder is that if they were a little hungry at the end of a day if wide-awake feedings, they make just be putting in a request for a little extra tomorrow.
Second key point, right around 4-5 months, they are developmentally growing more acute in their awareness of whatever is around them. I had 3, so I know every baby is unique (+) I had a little different approach to this issue each time. Getting them up to feed every time for more than a
week will establish a new pattern. I was never a rigid scheduler, but our youngest being up all night = more stressful mornings b/c our older kids were in school. It will depend on your lifestyle whether or not you need your baby to sleep or want to go console him. I opted for holding my lil dude to make sure he did not keep the whole house up b/c I had the luxury of being home w/ him after the girls & daddy went off in the am. I think my oldest woke up really early most days (@ 3 hours earlier than we needed/wanted to) b/c a neighbor's car woke her up & she was shocked out of an otherwise peaceful night. I think my youngest got up to hang on the breast all night b/c we were crazy busy every afternoon & he dug the quiet cuddling, but would sack out in the front room by the noise of the front door, kids/ cars in the yard. Our middle child actually has the distinction of being our "best sleeper" and even she would rouse several times in a quiet house w/o reason for a few weeks about this age, so I wanted to close w/ that final mention as they develop a keen awareness, allowing them to self- soothe for as long as it take for theem to get back to sleep will be necessary at some point. Only you know your baby's crying patterns- so when in doubt, I followed my gut. I wasn't always right, but I felt better doing something vs not. Just be sure to ask yourself & your partner if your baby needs you to or if you just want to go help
Sorry so long- trying to cram 20 yrs of experience into one paragraph! Good luck all!

Merry - posted on 09/30/2011

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DD C
How and why would you clean you breast before a feeding?
Christina, so your son is galactosemic? That's the word for a baby who s allergic to mothers milk. It's always diagnosed in days after birth and baby will not grow on mothers milk at all. It's one ofte things they test for in the heel stick PKU test. very very very rare but yes it does exist!

CHERYL - posted on 09/30/2011

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Mine would wake up every 2 hours, and also. I got a lil baby cereal and breast milk in a bottle, Make sure it was runny enough for her to drink it. so she would get filled up and not wake up so much. Breastfed babies do not get that much breast milk as bottle fed babies do.
It worked she slept longer, Have you tried just to give your lil guy a pacifier when he wakes up?
Make sure he has a dry diaper also, and burps also. Hope this can help you?

DD - posted on 09/30/2011

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I agree with most of the moms here ---- I breast fed both of my boys for about 9 months. Just because he falls asleep it doesn't mean he's done eating --- wake him up and keep him at it. My boys usually went about 10 minutes on each breast and don't forget to start with a different breast each time...I put a pin on my nursing bra and moved it each time to remind me which side to start with next feeding (Baby stripped the first breast more enthusiastically and tapered off on the second, so swapping sides each time evens it out and keeps both sides producing). I'd use some of the ideas here to try and keep him awake for the entire feeding time -- tickle, stroke, take off his clothes, change positions, etc. -- but 5 minutes is not a meal by any means. And if that doesn't help definitely seek your pediatrician's input. I actually passed out from exhaustion and rolled my oldest off in the floor when I was trying to change his diaper because I pulled over the changing table as I fell. ------ After that I got Dad involved more. It was tough because Dad would fall asleep quickly and was hard to wake up. I started doing it all by myself because it was easier than waking Dad up....but after I passed out I realized I had to have help. I would rouse my husband who'd go get the baby while I cleaned my breast and got everything ready. Dad would fall asleep while I fed baby and then I'd have to wake him back up to diaper, rock and put baby back to sleep. That helped more than I thought it would because I was so tired I'd fall asleep before Hubby got back from putting baby down. We also used pacifiers with both boys -- the first was in NICU for a week and was already thoroughly attached to it before I got him home. The second baby was a thumb sucker, so I decided real quick I'd rather try and take a pacifier away later than a thumb, so I introduced the paci myself. Hope you get something here that helps...stick with it.....breast feeding is definitely worth the inconvenience! Glad you're doing it so faithfully.

Carol - posted on 09/29/2011

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Lisa Morrow - Great point about how no baby is allergic to breast milk. I must have missed the post where someone mentioned it. That's akin to what I was saying about unknowing doctors telling women their breast milk isn't good enough to satisfy their baby, or that breast milk isn't enough.

Medic - posted on 09/29/2011

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I think you are doing just fine.... I attempted to breastfeed both of my kids now 5 years and 20 months and both had issues, one had major food sensitivities and I was young and did not know enough and he had these food issues until he was almost 3. So he was put on a sensitive formula and he sleep really well for the most part but every few months we had to shake things up so I could really appreciate when he did sleep. My youngest was VERY lactose intolerant and was put on soy and then we found out she also had GERD. After we got all that situated she slept pretty well and now at 20 months we are waking up at 10-1030 every night for some yogurt and a cup of milk. Its what kids do, they go through phases and even my older one has gone through phases as a toddler and preschooler of waking up at night starving so I make him a snack brush his teeth AGAIN, and tuck him back in with a kiss. We figured if we didn't make it a big deal, they would only do it if they really were hungry. No kid plays by the rules, if they did we would all get manuals. My kids also were closer to a year before they were ready to start solids, due to the GERD my daughter was on thickened formula but it was not with rice. I actually don't think I have ever bought baby rice. Sorry this is long, and there are some moms giving you advise that I really respect, they have never steered me wrong, even if we don't agree on everything.

Linda - posted on 09/29/2011

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Just doing his job. He's four months old. Wait a month and he'll be doing something else equally cool. Babies are smart that way. :)

Kathy - posted on 09/29/2011

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Post a reply; !he is getting just enough milk to satisfy him for an hour try making him wait for a bit longer to feed maybe with the pacifier to give him the sucking motions and when he develops the change in his little tummy to hold more milk he will begin to sleep for a longer period of time. Discuss this as with any issues with your pediatric doctor as they can usually help you figure out what is going on with the little guy to help him and you both to grow as the days pass and enable you to enjoy your new baby like it should be. Also if breast feeding watch your diet as it also effects the baby as well.

Merry - posted on 09/29/2011

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If the baby is crying then SOMETHING is wrong!

And of something is wrong then it's moms JOB to fix it.







Things that could be wrong but not obvious

-cold

-warm

-itch somewhere

-hair tickling somewhere

-tag itching

-growing pain

-ear hurts

-stomach ache

-head ache

-throat ache

-teething pain

-lonely

-bored

-overstimulated

-under stimulated

-sad

-scared

-bad dream



Ok get the picture? Babies have many many many needs beyond feeding, diapering, and sleeping.



And once again



If the baby is crying, something needs to be fixed!

Kimberly - posted on 09/29/2011

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When my daughter was teething, I would give her infant tylenol before bedtime. It helped her sleep through the night. If not teething, something to consider is this may be an early sign of your having an active alert child. There's a book with that title. Try having a soothing bedtime routine. Do not worry, this too shall pass. My daughter was that way, and I would rock her to sleep without feeding every other time. Even a drive in the car, anything to help her get back to sleep without the feeding. Soon, the feedings would be farther apart, and then sleeping through the night came. Do not ignore your baby. This is your chance to develop a bond of trust between the two of you. Good luck! Hope this helps!

Lori - posted on 09/29/2011

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Another thing I wanted to clear up is a disturbing earlier post from a Mom stating that their baby was allergic to breastmilk. Ok here is the scientific fact, babies cannot be allergic to their mothers milk. They can however be allergic to protiens etc IN the mothers milk due to something the mother has ingested. So be aware that that mother is mislead or misinformed and wrong about that. But your baby can have digestive problems from something you are eating causing distress. If you think this may be an issue, try a food diary along with a sleep log to see if there is a correlation between foods/waking. Good luck and remember "this too will pass" :)

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