Why is being a mother to a teenage girl have to be so hard?

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User - posted on 11/05/2008

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My husband and I between the 2 of us have 8 kids but the hardest of all of them is my 13 year old girl, alot of her behaviour is teenage stuff but she’s just got into doing stuff that is becoming dangerous to her and our family life. I know that she takes after me alot because I was horrible as a kid and nowadays I can not say sorry enough times to my parents for what I used to be like (they think its a funny payback to me), but I also know that there could be something seriously wrong and I am getting help for her now before its too late. I believe that you have to put things in order of seriousness when it comes to arguments and punishments I find a strong grounding helps and some secretive snooping just to make sure that they are not up to anything harmful, but I think its hard because of the way of life nowadays there is so much against girls that they feel that they have to behave hard and bitchy just to get somewhere in life. I strongly believe though that the only way any kid especially girls learn though is going through life, because no matter how much you tell them not to do something they will always do the opposite, so if my girls wanna sleep in a pig sty I let them and when they want their mates to stay I say no because of the state of the room, you would not believe how quickly it gets cleaned, and if my daughter wants to get into trouble at school then fine but she gets grounded when she gets the detention.

I think if I let everything get to me im gonna end up in a nut house so my only advice is to let a lot of things ride by and tackle the serious stuff and good luck mums :).

Sheila - posted on 11/05/2008

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I think teenage girls are hard for moms because they are trying to become adult. I firmly believe this is true for all teenagers. Girls are harder...My neice about killed my sister. But she is 21 now, with a child of her own and her and my sister have become very close. As a parent, you just have to know that you have given them the best roots you could and pray daily that they get past the woes of becoming adults intact. Pick your battles wisely, Dont sweat the small stuff,

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Lori - posted on 02/26/2013

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OMG! I am so glad I am not the only one with the spawn of satan, sometimes. I am a single mom, my daughter is 14, but thinks she is 16 going on 21! It's just us, her dad is a poster boy for dead beat dads, but yet she thinks he is just wonderful. He can miss birthdays, Christmas for a year or two, and he is STILL TERRIFIC! While I work my ass off, for her braces, iphone, laptop, kindle, catholic school, with NO help from him, etc. She was so mad I tried to take her cell, she went to school and said she was going to kill herself! Yeap, 5150 hold on her, and the next day laughing thinking its all one big joke! Here I am crying trying to drive to hospital, and she thinking its a mini vacation. :( This isn't fair. Please please someone tell me it does get better.......her dad has moved so many times with his wife and two kids under 7, and he can not keep a job. But he is so wonderful.....ugh!

Lyn - posted on 03/26/2009

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Puberity. Changes in her body make her cranky. I treated my mom badly when I was a teenager. I feel horrible about it now. I love her and respect her more than anyone in this world. She is my rock. It will get easier just hang in there.

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Because we raise them to be independant and the first person that they feel safe excercising this independancy with is YOU. Unconditional love. If you suggest something and she agrees...then she is being dependant on you (in her mind). If she knows you feel one way she will go the other way...to be INdependant. It's hard on us cuz we have that umbilical thing going, too. So, it helps to remember that she is "trying her wings", instead of feeling that they can't tolerate us. and PRAY.

Dawn - posted on 11/05/2008

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Because they are at the age where they think they know everything and resent anything you have to say... They don't want to believe that we have been there done that and it's for their own good. Believe me it does get better.. My daughter is now 25 and even though we don't always agree about some things we are very very close...

Jenni - posted on 11/05/2008

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I was an absolute bitch to my parents at times. There are some really good programs out there that are great at helping to give these young people some guidence and opens thier eyes to the real world. Also giving them tools they'll need as they developinto young adults

Lisa - posted on 11/04/2008

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because teenagers think that they KNOW it all. and i did for oh so long.. until i was about 19yrs old did i think that i knew it all and no matter what my parents said i didnt care.... and i was mean..nasty..horrible.. and then after 19 i realized that i was a moron! and that every kid does go thru this at one time or another.. and i will get mine times a million now because i have two daughters.... and my father says payback...

but being strict is the best because my parents showed me TUFF LOVE and it worked.
throwing my out on my A** worked....

and not giving in to me and my stupidity worked!


now that my mother has recently passed.. i realize that i was such a bad teen and wish that i could erase it all and do it all over again.. and not be the badass that i was...

Rachel - posted on 11/04/2008

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OMG- i have a 16 yr old and i would just like to strangle her! she is a really great girl- kind- compassionate- extemely talented and completely UNMOTIVATED! she is failing 3 classes and rarely helps out at home- i practically have to threaten to end her life to get her to help. (not really) it's funny- when it's her idea- the house and her room are spotless- but heaven forbid i ASK her to help out! i agree with Liz- you have to pick your battles and pick them wisely. it is hard- but when you've raised a spectacular adult- you will be so pleased with yourself...

Liz - posted on 11/02/2008

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I don't know. I have a 18 y/o step-daughter...I came into her life at 12 y/o...it is tough. My best advice is, chose your battles wisely with her. It gets better. She's now a freshman in college (out-of-town) and realizing just how easy she had it and respects us more. Just love her and pray!!

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