why is it that children take their Father's name while its the Mom who gives birth? Not trying to be all femenist.....just reeeeeaaaaallllly cuious.

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Lori - posted on 11/27/2008

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Actually I know a familly who the mom and dad, when their son was born he got the fathers last name and when they had their daughter she got the moms last name... but then again the wife kept her maiden name. So I guess what I'm saying is that the children dont have to take the fathers name.

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Jan - posted on 09/22/2013

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Definitely gave my daughter my surname. Traditionally both wives and children assumed the surname of the father because they were considered his property-yuk! With that being said the father/husband was responsible for any and all financial support of his family, paying little attention to a mothers/wife physical contributions to the home and family, which if properly calculated would far exceed practically anything any man could earn.Anyone questioning this situation would be called a feminist, male hater, selfish and the like. The reality is as more women see the reality of it all, men and society are threatened because the male is not needed as much, and women are refusing to marry them...marry for what? Since women practically do everything, why marry? Companionship-please. As for the topic of "illegitimate" children, another male oriented stab, there are none- maybe illegitimate parents,those who do not assume responsibility for their children. Yes!!

Adelyn - posted on 11/28/2008

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Martha, if you are reading this, the application automatically named my kids with my surname which is different from their surname. I didn't take my husband's name. A little presumptuous don't you think? ;)

Maria José - posted on 11/28/2008

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Good question. I'm in Spain and here the kids get both names. my children have their fathers name first then mine. I on the other hand, when i lived in the states only had my dad's name. When i moved here, i added my moms.

Sandra - posted on 11/27/2008

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I gave my daughter both of out names. Who cares about what is traditionally done.

Cheryl - posted on 11/27/2008

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in Australia if u are not married when u have a baby, the hospital automatically gives ur baby the mothers surname .. u then decide for urself when filling out the birth certificate

Kristyn - posted on 11/27/2008

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I had my first child 15 years ago, her last name is my last name, I was either going to hyphenate it OR it would be mine. My second child I had 3 years ago her last name is hyphenated.

Amie - posted on 11/27/2008

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I don't know where any of the rest of you are from but my children have my last name. It was during the birth registration that the nurse told me the baby only gets dad's name now (at least here) if he signs the papers as well or if you are already married and have the dad's name. They just automatically put through the mom's last name. =) I'm in Canada and I don't even know if all parts of the country are like this but my province is.

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Yeah, I just thought about it. Gwen is right. Because before I filled out his name info he was bell unknown or bell unborn or bell boy instead of K.R.Davis, Jr.

Gwen - posted on 11/27/2008

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The child takes on the last name of the mother, no matter who the father is. It all depends on what you put on the birth registration form.

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Well when I was taking Spanish in high school we learn that the children get their mother's last name. And Elizabeth is right,, you can put whatever name you want on there. Personally, I think that what it is one) tradition, two) the man has a certain standard to hold (according to our society) and when his name is passed on the child can now have a sense of pride (so to speak). Like for instance in the upcoming movie Seven Pounds with Will Smith, Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman's adopted son Connor Cruise obviously took Tom Cruise last name, why? Because when you hear Cruise, your mind registers Tom Cruise, actor, famous, etc. Connor Kidman? No one would pay attention. UNLESS it's the opposite as with Kimora Lee Simmons, she kept both maiden and married named even after the divorce because it flows together however her children are simply Aoki Lee and Ming Lee.

Sarah - posted on 11/27/2008

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The following is taken from an article by George G. Morgan ...





What's in a Name?

Names are important. They help define an individual's identity, both within the family unit and within the community. Sometimes a person's name has its origin in the family. Sometimes the name has religious significance. The name may also have an ethnic origin or connotation. And in still other cases, a child's name sometimes commemorates someone outside the family, even a public figure. Let's explore each of these instances.



Family Names

Perhaps the most prevalent name conventions are with regard to family. In some families, in some cultures, and/or in some locales, tradition dictates that children be named for members of past generations. Surnames in some Scandinavian countries are thus indicative of a child's parentage. The Swedish name Carl Johannson, for example, would indicate that Carl is the "son of Johann," while the name Ingrid Hendricksdotter would indicate that Ingrid is the daughter (dotter) of Hendricks. Differences in surname spellings in Scandinavia can indicate country of origin. The -son ending is typically Swedish, while -sen is usually Norwegian or Danish. Hence, the difference between the surnames Jenson and Jensen.



Peg Sweatt, one of the people who came on our genealogy cruise last month, reminded me of another naming pattern. In some groups, the following pattern has traditionally been used in naming the succession of children born to a family.



The first son is named for the father's father.

The second son is named for the mother's father.

The third son is named for the father.

The fourth son is named for the father's eldest brother.

The first daughter is named for the mother's mother.

The second daughter is named for the father's mother.

The third daughter is named for the mother.

The fourth daughter is named for the mother's eldest sister.



Of course, there are variations. Middle names may have been taken from a variety of sources, including Biblical characters, family surnames and maiden names, other less close relatives, and public figures. In any event, the naming patterns above may provide some clues about birth sequence in families where birth dates are unknown or in question.



~You can read the whol;e article @ http://www.last-names.net/Articles/Origi...

Dawn - posted on 11/27/2008

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i dont know but me and my boys dad were not married and are now not toghter and he has got his dads sername and i wish he didnt now as people just asume we have the same sername when he was registered his dad didnt turn up to the first appointment and at the time couse we were not married i couldnt give him his dads sername without him being there silly me made anouther appointment should have just gone in and given him mine

Jamie - posted on 11/27/2008

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My son has my dad's first name, my maiden name as a middle name and my husbands last name. I thought we all won there. I kinda feel the same way, I grew the and birthed the baby, I should get something!! hahaa

Sarah - posted on 11/27/2008

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I don't think it matters...depending on the relationship u have with the father and if he wants to be in their life. I have a friend who gave her name to her child because the bloke was not father material. I think it goes way back in history of the whole name thing.

Angela - posted on 11/27/2008

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I'm not an expert by any means, but I think it has something to do with when men started acquiring land. Men needed to know who there children were because they needed someone to work their land. Before those times most societies were matriarchal and men really didn't have any idea if children were theirs or not. It's too bad that hasn't gone away. My daughter has her last name, I'm remarried and have hyphenated my name, and my new husband has his own last name; we have three different last names in our family and it gets confusing!

Linda - posted on 11/27/2008

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yeah....it doesnt seem to fit anymore.....being a single mom now and not having the same last name of my children just doesnt feel right....and is CLEARLY unfair.

Christine - posted on 11/27/2008

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Biblically speaking...Man is head of the household (As, God gave him dominion) and woman is to have dominion aside him, as the rib, made from man. (NOT under him, ASIDE him. ok) I am not sure when the name transfering began...I know in some Indian cultures the woman takes the husbands middle name to replace her fathers when she gets married. But with so many single mother and blended run families today...??? That biblical principal seems to not fit too well in our world...just some thoughts.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/27/2008

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Tradition. I know here in Texas (and I think all of the US) you can give them any name you want. Most people just don't think about it.

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