Why is my child feeling so insecure

Daisy - posted on 04/16/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Baily was brought up to be very headstrong.I never wanted her to feel like she couldn't express herself. Lately, however, she has been protesting going to the babysitter unless it's her auntie. It's gotten so bad that a reasonable child popped me in the eye in a fit of frustration when I tried to leave her. I've always been a working mom and this is something she should be used to. I just don't know whats happening right now. Any thoughts!?

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Amie - posted on 04/16/2009

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I checked your CoM's profile to see your child's age. She's 6 so a couple things come to mind.

There could be something going on at daycare. a) with the care provider and new rules? or a new care provider in the building she doesn't get a long with b) with one or more of the kids there.

She could also like spending more time with auntie because maybe auntie spoils her?

It's hard to say with kids always but she is old enough that she can tell you. Getting a straight answer out of a 6 year old is hard though so you might have to be persistent and reassure her that no matter what her answer is you just want to know so you can do what's best for her and that she's not in any trouble.

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Maryalice - posted on 03/19/2013

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Iam very worried and concerned my daughter won't to go to school next year shes 4 years old when she will start for her first time she very insecure if she doesn't see me she freaks out and panics she loves my family and loves to play with kids but if she doesn't see me she goes ballistic. She won't Evan try Sunday school for an hour without me I'm a stay home at mom were soo close I love her soo much! Any suggestion I be gladly appreciated :) I'm praying everything will work out...

Denite - posted on 04/18/2009

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Babes, rather sit with her and make a game of questions. If she likes watching a story on TV, pop a question here and there. She will give you a natural answer which she wont even recall later. Try to find out whether she has a problem with the sitter. Maybe something happened. Kids sometimes react in ways we dont understand, but we must also accept that they dont yet know how to show certain emotions. We ourselves tend to be so busy that we sometimes dont listen to what they have to say.For all you know this sitter did something to her and she is too afraid of telling you feeling she might get into trouble.

Hope you will get your answers soon enough :)

Daisy - posted on 04/17/2009

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Today was a total change! She was "grounded" for her actions for the last 3 days of her spring break. She willingly stayed in her room and entertained herself all day. When the sitter came over for me to go to work, she didn't even change in attitude. I don't think I quit get the turn around but I guess we did something right!? (Hopeful)?!

Daisy - posted on 04/17/2009

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The reassurance is there. She knows why I go to work and what it means for her(a house, food, toys,ETC!) but she said today she would rather be in trouble than stay with a sitter. I just don't get it!

Anita - posted on 04/17/2009

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My little guy has the same thing going on lately! I am going crazy as I too have always been a full time student and he had daycares and schools his whole life. He is in Kindergarten, I went to Vegas for 4 days and I got back, since then he has been really clingy. I am not sure what could be the cause, but he counselor thinks that if you just reassure them, it makes it easier. Jax is 5 and I am not always sure if he understands that I am not going anywhere.

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