why isnt my 16month old still not sleeping through the night??

Helen - posted on 01/17/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 1year 4months and has never slept through the night, she still gets up 3/4 times every night for a bottle of milk and will not go back to sleep without one, please help.

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Sheri - posted on 01/17/2009

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I second "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" and disagree with the cry-it-out method (just to add a little comfort to those who haven't been willing to do that yet but feel pressure from friends). True, it may be a lot more effort in the end but there is hardly anything convenient about children anyway. My son took quite a while to sleep through the night but he grew out of it himself. I nursed him in my own bed, I think until he was around 20 months. At around 24 mos, he was transitioned into a toddler bed in his own room - that took just about a week. Looking back, it was totally worth it and I will do exactly the same with this next one... the only thing I regret was the nightmarish two weeks that we tried the cry-it-out-method!

Cristy - posted on 01/17/2009

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I read the book "the no cry sleep solution" that SAVED MY LIFE.  No kidding.  I've passed it on to many, many friends that I work with, neighbors, etc.  The author is a mom that is amazing and can get any kid through the night.  I got mine on Amazon.  Good luck.  With patience, a positive attitude, AND THE BOOK!!!  it can be done!!!!   :)  Good luck!

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Gloria - posted on 03/27/2013

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I'm there with you. My son is 15 months old and has never slept through the night:( I walk around like a zombie all day. I am still nursing him and he typically goes to sleep at 730ish then is up at 11 and 230 to nurse then 5 starts the day. I have a 3 1/2 yr old boy who from 4 months on slept from 6pm-6am. I didn't know how good I had it. Now he's a light sleeper so I won't even try to let my 15 mo old cry it out. I'll have 2 kids up in the middle of the night. All I can say is push through. I pray and wishful think all the time that any day he will go through the night. Hang in there:) I am going to get some toys that attach to side of crib to keep him occupied so I can lay in bed longer in the am. I am exhausted:(

Danielle - posted on 01/18/2009

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I know exactly how you feel.

My daughter is 11 months and has never slept through one night since the day she was born. she wakes 3 or 4 plus times a night. She wont re settle her self she has milk.

Shes quite small so dont eat alot hense why she needs extra milk at night.

Also as for the leave them to cry themselfs to sleep. It dont always work.

We found that if we did it with out daughter she actually ended up being sick because of it. We also found that she hates being in the cot. dont know why.

all i can say to you is. Grin and bear it and eventually your child will get there. In there own time when they are finally ready.

xx

Rebecca - posted on 01/17/2009

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My daughter is 3 1/2 and still gets up 1 or 2 times a night. Walks into my room, wakes me, asks for juice and Dora. I tell her she needs to go back to bed. She does...reluctantly and teary-eyed. But she does. It stinks...I totally feel for you. Unfortunately, some kids aren't good sleepers. My son is 5 and finally sleeps through. Sometimes though he'll get up just to come give my husband and I a hug and kiss in the middle of the night.

Angie - posted on 01/17/2009

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My 2 year old dd just started sleeping through the night in the last month. I never let her cry or fuss I just let her do it on her own time, now she's a pretty good nighttime sleepers. Sure letting a baby CIO will probably acheive sleep earlier but imo it's not teaching them to sleep it's teaching them that you won't be there when they cry. Every baby gets it on their own time.

Christine - posted on 01/17/2009

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I have a 3 year old who didn't start sleeping through the night until just before his second birthday; i thought he would never sleep through the night. He would do the same thing as your daughter; wake up a few times a night for a bottle and soother. Once i had weened him off the bottle, he would wake up for his soother; I found that it was a comfort thing for him. He eventually started sleeping through the night until i decided to ween him off of his soother. It took 2-3 weeks before he was back on schedual and sleeping through the night. When i had made the decision to rid him of the bottle, i made the transistion slowly. I would take the daytime bottles away and he would only get one during his afternoon nap and at bedtime; then i took it away when he went to bed at night; the whole transistion took about 1-2 weeks; i did the same with the soother too.



The bottle is most likely a comfort for her, which may be why she is waking up during the night when she doesn't have it. Once the bottle is gone she will most likely start sleeping through the night as she will realize that even though she is waking up, she will not get the bottle; once she realizes that she should start sleeping though the night as there will be no point in waking up for it.

Audria - posted on 01/17/2009

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Wow!!! just the other night I made the decision to let my son cry himself back to sleep, I was adamant that I wasnt taking him downstairs for water and then rock him to sleep ... that has been going on for a while now, where he wakes in the middle of the night, and then signals for me to take him downstairs, he's gonna be 2 in February, and I can count the nights when he actually sleep straight through.

Stephanie - posted on 01/17/2009

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hello i had the same problem with my 9 month old and was told to mix horlicks or ovaltine with his milk it seems to have worked so far and he only wakes in the night when he is teething or feeling under ill i just thought u might like to try it to see if it works for u too x

Beverley - posted on 01/17/2009

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true true they arnt babies long and they want comfort why have a child if your not prepared to comfort it! i feel the samw as you x x x x

Susan - posted on 01/17/2009

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My son slept through the night from 8 wks until he was 8 months old. Then he figured out if he got up at night I'd give him a bottle and rock him.... big mistake!!! As the Dr told us... He had US trained!!! Stop getting the bottle for her and let her cry herself to sleep. It's hard but it works. It only took us 3 nights to get back to him falling asleep by himself again and when he gets up at night I go in after a few mintues give him his binky and he eventually falls asleep again. There were a few night when teething or when he had a cold I did pick him up and rock him to sleep... but only when I knew it wants going to by himself. Good luck. It's hard but well worth it!

Jessica - posted on 01/17/2009

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How early does she go to bed?  Is she eating a full dinner in the evening?  I noticed that if my child has a good dinner and then a 4-6oz bottle of milk immediately b/f bed she sleeps through the night.  I also know many people who have followed May's suggestion about time increments.  As hard as it is she is also old enough to cry it out.  She is developmentally aware that her needs will be met upon request, so listening to the tears is tough, but as little as she is I think she will get the message.



Do you have the Ocean Wonders Aquarium in her crib.  This has been our lifesaver!  We used to just go in and turn it on again when she woke up and she would watch it and then go back to sleep.  I know we were lucky, but you never know what might do the trick!



I wish you the best of luck:)

Amanda - posted on 01/17/2009

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I agree with Dru O'Neill. I enabled my daughter to get up in the night by picking her up and rocking her back to sleep, and when she woke up and i wasn't holding her she would scream. I eventually had to let her cry herself to sleep, which is EXTREMELY hard, I had to lock myself in the bathroom and wait 15 min just so that i wouldn't go pick her up right away.

Try to find a soft stuffed animal that plays soothing music, that helped a bit for me too. I would put my daughter down in the crib and play the music while i gave her the bedtime bottle. She got used to hearing the music and when she would wake up in the night, i would go put the music back on again and let her cry it out. Don't say anything to her when u go in there to put the music back on. Then wait 15 min, then try it again, but wait an extra 5 min every time. This can take awhile, but it really doesn't hurt them to cry. My doctor gave me a pamphlet on this issue and it said children can cry anywhere between 30 and 90 mins everynight and it can take up to 2 weeks (or more with older children) for this technique to work. Talk to your doctor about it, because if you're not getting enough sleep it will affect how you care for your daughter.

GOOD LUCK!!!

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hello



I see your having problems with your daughter sleeping through the night . My suggestion to you is try giving your daughter a bath with baby bath lavender oil which you can get from tesco's as it will relax them. once you have given her a bath rube lavender baby lotion over her body this will help relax her too. Try gving her more ounz's of milk but makin sure the milk is warm so that will get your daughter in a sleeping mood then she should sleep trhough the whole night.



Also try using a night light with sound that they can look at so it will send her off into a deep sleep. I use a winner pooh night soother i got from argos for my lillte girsl for christmas it works a treat.



Hope this work's for you.

Darea - posted on 01/17/2009

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She probably does not need to have the milk but is now used to getting it. Its her routine now. Try not to just go in and give it to her right away. See if she will put herself back to sleep. It might take a few hard nights but with consistency of not getting the milk she should start to sleep through. It could also be a comfort thing with wanting to see you. I let my kids cry it out as babies when I know they don't need the feeding but rather just want me. IT will be hard but I think you might have to let her cry for a few nights. Hopefully in three nights it will be done. Hope this helps. Hang in there. Every kid is different.

Tiffany - posted on 01/17/2009

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You have to make children learn to put themselves to sleep and sleep through the night. If your child has a dry diaper, no illness, no hunger, no nightmares, etc., just let them cry themselves back to sleep. I know it sounds cruel, and I hate to do it, but they just need to fuss themselves to sleep sometimes. Sometimes it is a very tough call to make, but if I am fairly confident that there is no reason for Baby to be awake, I just leave them in the bed. It is normal for babies to start waking at different times of night just to see what's going on. If the whole house wakes up, they think that it's normal to keep odd hours. Any way, I hope this helps.

Luisa - posted on 01/17/2009

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Hi Helen. Wow! That can't be easy on you. Getting up at night, loosing sleep. Does she sleep alot during the day? If she does have a nap or two during the day, don't put her down for one nap. Also, try giving her her bottle before bed. Hope that will help. Good Luck!!!

Sincerely,

Luisa

Dru - posted on 01/17/2009

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Helen,  I feel for you.  This can be very frustrating and hard to stop. I have to ask - do you take her out of bed and hold her while she has her bottle until she falls asleep, then put her back in bed? If so, this may hurt, you are enabling her to keep getting up.  You have made it a part of her routine to be held in the middle of the night for that bottle.  I know this is very hard and I am not trying to be mean.  Tonight try leaving her in bed, giving her a small bottle with water, telling her gently the lay down, rub her tummy and tell her she is ok, sing to her or talk. quietly, But do not pick her up, give her a few minutes after she falls asleep then take the bottle away.  This may take a couple nights and you may loose more sleep, but the reward is worth it.



Your other option is to still leave her in her bed, but cut the the milk back each night. then maybe water it down.



And worse case you let her cry herself back to sleep.  This may kill you. But it is not hurting her and she will not remember it.  This may take a couple nights.  With this you have to be very strong.



If you keep this up your precious daughter will learn that she does not need to get up in the night for the bottle and you will get a full night sleep.



I hope my suggestions help.  You can go with them or work them to a way that makes you comfortable.  I will keep you both in my prayers.  You can do it.

May - posted on 01/17/2009

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Try giving her water instead of milk and don't attend to her right away.  Wait 1 minute on the first day before you go to her and then 2 minutes on the second day and then 3, then 4, etc.

User - posted on 01/17/2009

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I am also having this problem with my 14 month old only he is breastfed and still wants to nurse at least once at night. It is a major screaming session if I try not to feed him or just lay him down. Unfortunately, all of my friends say that the only way to stop it is so let him cry. I still haven't worked up the courage to do this...I hate to hear him cry! If anyone else has a better solution, that would be WONDERFUL!!

Beverley - posted on 01/17/2009

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hey my little girl is 7 years old and still cant sleep through!!!!!!!!!!!! i have trouble sleeping so cant really blame her i think shes caught the insomnia bug from me, not all babies/kids are the same dont worry about ti i know its stressful but it could be a lot worse x x x x

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