Why would someone go out of their way to make rude comments

Hope - posted on 05/29/2009 ( 161 moms have responded )

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Today I had my daughter in her umbrella stroller well strapped in and I was only carefully going down only a few steps. cause there is no ramp, but I was very careful..and some guy says Don't drop the baby..I just looked at him in a dirty look and ignored him and made a sarcastic chuckle like whatever..I tried not to let it bother me...but I just can't stand when someone makes rude comments.
Maybe he didn't know she was strapped in but still I found it rather ignorant. Whats the rudest comment anyone has ever said to you?

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Kim - posted on 06/04/2009

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Perhaps he was trying to be "funny" and it came across as rude. As the mom of two sons who are grown now, try not to take what people say to heart. I really don't think this was an attempt to question your ability as a mother. Don't let other people make you so angry that it ruins your day because they have no idea what they've done and you go huffing around upset all day. And, there is no need to respond in a rude manner, it makes you no better than the people who are rude. Smile, say "thank you" or "I think I've got it," move on and have a better day.

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I would have retorted "Well then don't just stand there, a real man would have helped me brought the stroller down. But I guess your a weak immature boy to do such a thing."

Sarah - posted on 06/04/2009

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Quoting Jeanne:

Maybe the guys thought he was being helpful - we all know that certain people suffer from foot in mouth disease and they never learn so I wouldn't take it to personally. As for venting - it's better to do that than to keep it bottle up inside. I was at the park yesterday with my two children and I called out to my daughter who was running up ahead of me to get to the swings and asking her to slow down. (My daughter's name is Native American - you'll get why this is important as you read on). Once I got my kids settled on the swings and started pushing them - a father with three young kids and a baby in a stroller looked at his wife and told her in a very loud voice: "It's time to go, they've let them off the reservation again!". (The swings are about 15 yards from the bench they were sitting on). His wife looked mortified and they got up and left. He was saying stuff like: "Dirty Indians and asking why some men leave their squaws out alone as they were walking behind up to leave the park. His wife was going "Shhhh" to him but he kept on rambling so I answered back: "The proof that cro-magnon man existed ladies and gentlemen." Not my finest moment - granted - but don't trash talk about my and me kids heritage in front of us.



 



 



im just really tired or way slow today or something lol, i had to re-read this a few times because i thought you were saying your daughters name was native american, as in her first name was native and her middle name was american... i thought you were yelling hey netive american slow down! sry anyway that is terrible for him to act that way, and especially in front of children, i just thought i would share my mis reading have a great day.





 

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Quoting SAMANTHA:

MY DAUGHTER DIED TWO YEARS AGO AT THREE MONTHS OF AGE FROM SUDDEN INFANT DEATH SYNDROME. I AM VERY INVOLVED WITH THE IOWA SIDS FOUNDATION. I SELL RAFFLE TICKETS EVERY YEAR AND HELP PLAN THE ANNUAL WALK. LAST YEAR WHEN MY MOM AND I WERE SELLING RAFFLE TICKETS AND A LADY ASKED ME WHY WE WERE SELLING THEM, I TOLD HER ABOUT MY DAUGHTER AND SHE SAID I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL MY DOG DIED LAST YEAR. I THOUGHT YOU ROTTEN A** HOW IS THAT THE SAME?



I really am not meaning to be disrespectful Samantha but I don't see what is rude about that comment. To some people their pets can mean more to them than children, especially if they don't have any children. Although it's definitely an exact feeling that you would feel losing your daughter - it is a parrallel to some people. I don't think she was being rude, I think she was merely trying to say she knows what it feels to lose someone you love.

Joann - posted on 06/01/2009

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I think people who make rude comments are very lonely people and they don't think before they speak. For some reason it makes them feel good to say something rude or they think they have that right to tell you their opinion but I just ignore people like that unless it is a veryyy nasty comment I guess depends on the situation.

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Kim - posted on 04/30/2012

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My daughter has a birth mark in her neck that looks like a set of lips. I remember she was about three and some women looked at my daughter and said to her friend(I'll call Mel )"if that was my kid I'd be asking to have it removed" I smiled at Mel ( Not real name) and she said if I know Kim like I think I do she wouldn't put her daughter threw that kind of pain plus her doctor said she wanted to wait until her daughter is older. I had just finished talking to Mel about the fact my dad thought the mark should go too and had asked the doctor about it. My daughter called it a kiss from family members that have past away. The womens comment didn't bug me since it wasn't the first time I heard it. It did bug mel

Tracie - posted on 04/30/2012

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My father in law is not the most tactful person on the planet. All through my pregnancy he made negative comments about my weight. "Whoa - you're HUGE!" "WOW - you're SO FAT!' (for real) My husband talked to him about it, but it made no difference. So finally one day after one of his delightful comments, I replied, "Wow, Dad, you look SO OLD today! Like, really, really old!!" The look of shock and confusion on his face was priceless! He never made a comment about my weight again.

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Haha! I roll my son down the porch stairs all the time in his stroller, a full sized stroller at that. I live on a very busy street with a 25 mph speed limit so I can see people gawking, appalled, all the time as they drive by slowly. I just laugh. Obviously I wouldn't do it if I couldn't control the stroller. I've heard many thoughtless or rude remarks, but almost always respond with something lighthearted enough to not be rude back, yet clever enough to make them realize they were out of line. There have been a couple exceptions when I was in a very strained mood already, but generally I can just laugh off their ignorance and let them know in some way "Thanks, I got it!" But for the sake of sharing our stories-- 



My sister and I were shopping with my two kids, her three kids, and she being pregnant with #4 at the time. We ran into my MIL's partner who commented on my sister's pregnant state then turned to me and said "Are you watching this, so you know what NOT to do?!" I didn't even know what to say because I was so caught off guard, but later realized how rude it was. It was an insult on my sister as well as implying that I shouldn't have anymore children! Which is for no one but my husband and me to decide. And BTW, I DO want one more at some point, and do NOT give a rat's ass if we have her or my MIL's approval! Haha!!



Also, just this afternoon I was walking through Kohl's pushing one son in the stroller and my other son was walking. At every aisle display we came to he'd walk on the opposite side to "hide" from me then run out as I came back into his view. An older woman working there walked by and said sweetly to him, "Oh you're playing peek-a-boo!" then added very scornfully "And your mommy's not even watching you, is she?!" This being one of those long tiring days, I said loudly "I know exactly where my child is, thank you very much." (Then mumbled a bit of profanity that I was 90% sure she couldn't hear.) I wasn't sure if she heard since she'd kept walking in the opposite direction, but much to my amusement at the time, my son stood in the aisle and called out to her in his little two year old voice, "I know XACLY where my child is!" She turned and scowled at him, and I'm sure someone may think I shouldn't have allowed that, or set that example, but it certainly lightened my mood!!! Rude or ignorant comments, fine whatever. But to trash talk or scorn me TO my own little child is simply unacceptable IMO. I have VERY little tolerance for that behavior.

Lory - posted on 04/26/2012

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we have a large family, 6 kids, the first 4 are pretty close in age, 22,20,18, and 16 but then there is a big age gap between them and the last 2 who are 7 and 1. i am offended when people ask my husband or i all with the same woman/or man? yeah!!! and we've been married for 24yrs!! or another one were the last 2 "accidents" nope!! didn't want an empty nest yet!! the older kids get angry when we are all out somewhere and people automatically assume the little ones belong to one of them, nope i'm in college or high-school thanks, this is my sibling! lesson, do not make assumptions! if you must make a comment just tell me how cute they all are!!

Beth - posted on 06/12/2009

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wow - there were some funny stories on here, thanks for the laughs!



I had my oldest daughter when I was 24 and I also looked really young for my age and got some of the same comments...now she is 23 and I am 47 and I still get comments when people find out that my oldest is 23...they say things like "did you have her when you were 12" - and I say "no, I was 24 when she was born, I just look really young for my age" - and you know what? the people that make those comments are just jealous and it makes me laugh....when I am 60, I'll still look good, and they'll just look old :)



so don't worry about looking young and having a baby....living well is the best revenge :)

Michelle - posted on 06/12/2009

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Personal comments and questions from strangers are pretty rude alright.

Before the twins arrived I was asked- was I breastfeeding, did I know was I having a section, what names I had chosen. Then the worst ones; how are you going to cope with twins and all the assumptions that go along- forget sleep, look out for depression, financial woes etc.etc.

Then pretty much the same when they arrived! Along with the 'double trouble' comments to which I now just say 'not really' without a hint of a smile. Oh, people are strange...

Nancy - posted on 06/12/2009

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I was at Macy's with my 6 mo old who was quite plump and I loved him that way. A lady looked in and said "My...he's a real porker isn't he?" Perhaps she wasn't being mean spirited, but seriously. Calling a stranger's baby a "porker"? I wanted to tell her she could stand to loose a few herself, but I have more class than her and didn't.

Nancy - posted on 06/12/2009

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I was at Macy's with my 6 mo old who was quite plump and I loved him that way. A lady looked in and said "My...he's a real porker isn't he?" Perhaps she wasn't being mean spirited, but seriously. Calling a stranger's baby a "porker"? I wanted to tell her she could stand to loose a few herself, but I have more class than her and didn't.

Tonie - posted on 06/11/2009

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when my daughter was approx 6/7 months old i was breastfeeding her in a quiet cafe near where we lived .. ( i did so very discretely i might add)... the owner came over and at the top of his voice for all to hear ....'WE DONT ALLOW PEOPLE TO BRING THEIR OWN FOOD IN HERE ... WE SELL MILK YOU KNOW'.... i have never felt so small in my life .... tho i had the last laugh when the rest of his customers followed me out of the door in disgust lol

Tracy - posted on 06/10/2009

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Peoplse say things that sound wrong also. The man may have meant that he would help you get your baby down the steps, all you had to do was ask. Yes, I know you said you probably overreacted.

Also, older people were raised that everyone watched out for others kids. I kow when I was a kid, small child, etc. anytime someone said something to me I better listen. That is just how things were back then and that is why older people tend to say things to people, and no they aren't being rude or think you're stupid and don't know what you're doing, they are just trying to be helpful.

If you let what others say determine how your day is going to be, then expect it to be stressfull since people sometimes have a hard time saying exactly what they mean.

I've done it and I'm sure all of you have done it, once the words are out, it's hard to explain what you really meant.

Mel - posted on 06/07/2009

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Quoting Rachel:



Quoting Melissa:

...at the hospital some italian lady gave me a blanket she'd just bought for her new grand son, when i was discharging my daughter because she said oh you cant take her out theres its too cold have you got a blanket...





 






My parents gave birth to me in Italy, in the summer, but were always told that I wasn't bundled up enough.  I think it is an Italian thing :)  They would tell my parents on the subway, but never told them not to take an infant on the subway.





 



 



oh ok we dont even have the subway over here but ive seen from tv it can be dangerous. i geuss i should be greatful though we scored an expensive absolutely beautiful baby blanket made of silk on one side and warm feathers on the other. we definately kept this one in a special place for the next baby :)

Lauren - posted on 06/06/2009

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i was 19 when I had my first baby and my boyfriend is about 20 years older then I am and one day we took leslie to the doctor and was standing there in the elevator waiting to get off and this one lady said oh u look just like your sister I said she is my daughter , she asked how old are you I said 14.. her mouth dropped with disbelief all I could do is laugh.. im 21 and look like im 17 -18 years old and ppl are always making comments about me having 2 kids.. its annoying

Suzanne - posted on 06/06/2009

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in relation to being over sensitive and immature as someone else has put, think it is lil unfair to say this.



I do not feel I am either but i am not perfect and allowed days where I can feel slightly less understanding to comments made. Plus with being pregnant i'm blaming my current things on hormones lol :-) x

Helen - posted on 06/06/2009

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I also had a close family friend make me feel like a bad mum after only 3 days. She was commenting on how i am lazy if i don't look after the baby, keep the house and garden perfect because she managed it! I later found out she had a cleaner and a gardener where as i don't and i work full time.

Helen - posted on 06/06/2009

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I have always been over weight but healthy and when i was about 8 months a woman behind me on the bus said that "overweight people should not be allowed to have kids as it is like child abuse because all they do is sit in front of the TV and eat"

I have also been told that i was stupid to marry my husband as i would get a lot more benefits with a kid on my own. (never been on benefits in my life)

Helen - posted on 06/06/2009

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when i was pregnant i gor so fed up with random strangers touching my belly that i used to tell them " I'm not pregnant, i'm just fat" this made them really embarassed and shut them up pretty quickly

Helen - posted on 06/06/2009

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my little boy was born with a strawberry mark just inside his hairline and the first thing my aunt said when she saw him was "have you dropped him on his head already?" It was all i could do to keep my cool. I also had an ignorant old lady tell me at about 5 days old " he is so sweet, what a shame he isn't perfect with that on his head" Glad to say my little man has a full head of hair and at 11 months the strawbery mark has started to fade already.

Christine - posted on 06/06/2009

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People say things they shouldn't all the time about our oldest son. He is about 3 inches taller than all kids his age (my husband is 6 foot 5in tall). Many people think that he is 6 years and he is only 4. They have said things like "maybe you should contact a speech therapist because my son is talking much better than him and he is 5 too."(Nick was just 3). People used to make comments about his behavior when he is throwing an temper tantrum, say he shouldn't be using a sippy cup when he was only 2 years old and now say that he should know how to read already. I would never never make comments like these...I don't get it.

Corné - posted on 06/06/2009

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Quoting Hope:

Why would someone go out of their way to make rude comments

Today I had my daughter in her umbrella stroller well strapped in and I was only carefully going down only a few steps. cause there is no ramp, but I was very careful..and some guy says Don't drop the baby..I just looked at him in a dirty look and ignored him and made a sarcastic chuckle like whatever..I tried not to let it bother me...but I just can't stand when someone makes rude comments.
Maybe he didn't know she was strapped in but still I found it rather ignorant. Whats the rudest comment anyone has ever said to you?


You were right to ignore him - difficult and frustrating as it may be - and if there was any serious concern for your little one, this person would have offered a hand, instead of remarking. Some sad people in this world need to deal with other issues in their pathetic lives and sadly, he vented his own frustrations at you in a sarcastic way. You are above this kind of thing.

Amber - posted on 06/05/2009

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Quoting Natalie:



Quoting SAMANTHA:

MY DAUGHTER DIED TWO YEARS AGO AT THREE MONTHS OF AGE FROM SUDDEN INFANT DEATH SYNDROME. I AM VERY INVOLVED WITH THE IOWA SIDS FOUNDATION. I SELL RAFFLE TICKETS EVERY YEAR AND HELP PLAN THE ANNUAL WALK. LAST YEAR WHEN MY MOM AND I WERE SELLING RAFFLE TICKETS AND A LADY ASKED ME WHY WE WERE SELLING THEM, I TOLD HER ABOUT MY DAUGHTER AND SHE SAID I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL MY DOG DIED LAST YEAR. I THOUGHT YOU ROTTEN A** HOW IS THAT THE SAME?





samantha that s dreadful, i would have given her what for and told her to fuck off






Some people are SO mean without even realizing it...I think. This didn't happen to me, but to my sister in law, who I am vey close with! anyway, she had a set of twin boys. Unfortunately at 24 days old she lost Devynn. When her son Daymian was 6 months old, this woman who works at the local gas station (we live in a very small town, everyone knows everyone.) who had a set of 3 year old twins was going on and on about how cute my nephew was...then she "jokingly" asked my sister in law if she wanted to trade...you know like joking arond haha, she kinda laughed it off you know "no I think I'll keep him"lol...then she said..."well why not then you can have two again" WHAT? When she told me that, I litterally wanted to walk down there and strangle her! But, in reality what can you do? Some people are just that ignorant! Don't let STUPID people get you down!



 

Dena - posted on 06/05/2009

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Isn't it amazing how people think they can comment on your body when your pregnant, and then how you're parenting? It's amazing. From complete strangers! No one is ever happy, it's always he's too thin, fat, cranky, etc. Yet if anyone said any of these things about a full grown person....it'd be sooooo rude! Very weird.

Sandra - posted on 06/05/2009

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I has a lady in a department store tell me not to hit my child, when I told her to mind her own business & she has no idea why I had to control my son who was running in and out of the clothes of the racks. She says I need to speak for the children. I told her off once again by saying if my son has a problem he's tell someone, I don't need nor appreciate a stranger tell me how to discipline my child so keep walking before I make you walk. She really grinded my gears lett me tell you.

Virginia - posted on 06/05/2009

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We have a large family, so whenever we announce another pregnancy we always get the "haven't you figured out how that happens yet?" or "was it an accident?" But the rudest of all was a stranger in the grocery store when I was pregnant with baby number 4 who said, "They make birth control for a reason." I wanted to snap, but had my kids with me so I walked away. The other issue we faced was baby #5 can down with an infection after birth and became a failure to thrive baby. My ped. was a great support, but with failure to thrive you have to see social workers while you are in the hospital and they would walk in and begin accusing me of starving my baby, not taking care of her properly, not being a responsible parent. I wanted to scream - didn't you read the reports? This is not our fault! We are here because we are responsible parents who are trying to help our daughter get better! And if I am such a bad mother then why are my other four healthy and thriving?

Nadine - posted on 06/05/2009

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I was hurt today by a stupid remark. I should have stomped on the lady's feet!!! I am 34, no wrinkles, a few gray hairs but I had gone to my hair dresser yesterday for a color so I know none were showing!!! Wearing appropriate clothing for my age (a skirt and tank top) and this lady comes up to me at the grocery store and talking to my 9month old daughter says "Oh so you're out for grocerys with grammy" !!!!!! I know I don't look older than I am and although still a few pounds overweght I run 4+ miles 6-7 days a week... (lost 15lbs lately and sooo proud of myself) so I am in shape. I can't believe it!!! And it realy hurt me... although I know I shouldn't. My husband sais she was an idiot cause I don't look anything close to a grammy... He tried but I still feel down about it...

Hope - posted on 06/05/2009

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I will admit I've been very sensitive since I was a kid and had a very hard time ignoring comments, But I am trying the best I can to just ignore and move on I just wish I had my fiance's attitude, but he said it will take time.

Hope - posted on 06/05/2009

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hehhee actually yesterday when my fiance and I went out to dinner with our daughter..we told her no and to sit down in her high chair unfortuntly there were no straps in the high chair, usually shes good at staying still, anyhow she was grabbing stuff and we sternly told her no..and well she had a screaming fit..yes people gave us looks..but my fiance blurted out in a laugh and said just plug your ears people..she's almost 16months and the terrible two's are starting early and then on we just ignored people around us. He doesn't let anything bug him.

Rebecca - posted on 06/05/2009

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I had someone ask me when my baby was due only I wasn't pregnant! I've never had a weight problem but then I had a hysterectomy and also have a new nerve condition that causes severe pain. One of the medications that works the best makes you gain weight. So, now for the first time in my life I weigh more than I like. I went from an 8/10 to a 14. I still don't think I looked pregnant but my weight is just in my stomach.

Rebecca - posted on 06/05/2009

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I had someone ask me when my baby was due only I wasn't pregnant! I've never had a weight problem but then I had a hysterectomy and also have a new nerve condition that causes severe pain. One of the medications that works the best makes you gain weight. So, now for the first time in my life I weigh more than I like. I went from an 8/10 to a 14. I still don't think I looked pregnant but my weight is just in my stomach.

Rebecca - posted on 06/05/2009

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I had someone ask me when my baby was due only I wasn't pregnant! I've never had a weight problem but then I had a hysterectomy and also have a new nerve condition that causes severe pain. One of the medications that works the best makes you gain weight. So, now for the first time in my life I weigh more than I like. I went from an 8/10 to a 14. I still don't think I looked pregnant but my weight is just in my stomach.

Jael - posted on 06/05/2009

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I think more than rude comments are rude looks that people give. When I was 7 months pregnant (I'm 9 moths now), my 2 year old daughter had a tantrum when our flight to see grandma took off. She didn't want to wear the seatbelt, just wanted me to hold her because she was scared. The stewardess on the airplane was so rude to me and stood there and made me force my daugther into the seatbelt when only 6 months before I had been allowed to hold her on my lap when we took off!! Several people looked at me like: "Can't you control your child?" It was awful. Luckily, some nice people made a point of saying that they thought I did a wonderful job controlling her considering my current pregnancy and they hoped that she survived the trip OK. That made me smile. Stewardess-- 0/10 pts....Passengers/Strangers--7/10 pts

Jenifer - posted on 06/05/2009

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Last night at my son's ball game a couple of the mothers made ugly comments to the ump and coach of the other team when a boy ran out of the baseline to avoid being tagged. My son is 5, and is not playing in the major's. It has really upset me that they take the game so seriously and would ruin it for the rest of us who were enjoying the game. Has anyone else seen this happen before?

Guggie - posted on 06/05/2009

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I got a lot of rude comments during pregnancy, but only a couple since (she is 7 months old now).



She was born night before election day and I didn't want to miss out! So my mom drove me to the poll location and we did the handicap "drive up" option. The guy came out, peeked into the car and said, "OH you didn't have a baby, you're still pregnant!"



UMMM EXCUSE ME? My baby wasn't even 24hrs OLD so STUFF IT if I still look pregnant! I didn't say anything to him b/c I was too angry.



I also got a ton of ignorant comments about homebirth and waterbirth. People would get a horrified look on their face and say, "But how will the baby breathe underwater?" I mean, seriously? I guess they are hooked up to an oxygen tank for 9 months in the womb? And one lady told me if I had a homebirth my baby would die and I would "have her blood on my hands." Gee, this despite the data showing homebirths are safer for uneventful pregnancies.



And one time a guy asked if I was having twins. I said no. He said, "Oh, congrats on the triplets!" I said, no, only one. He said, "Whoa you are huge! You better demand another u/s b/c I bet they missed one!" GRRRRR I had an 11lb baby so I feel vindicated!

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I was at the grocery store one day with my hubby and daughter when out of no where some guy walks by and says to his girl friend "what a ugly baby". That just pissed me off, stuff like tha is just not necessary. I don't know why people can't keep stuff to themselves!

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I was at the grocery store one day with my hubby and daughter when out of no where some guy walks by and says to his girl friend "what a ugly baby". That just pissed me off, stuff like tha is just not necessary. I don't know why people can't keep stuff to themselves!

Amie - posted on 06/05/2009

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By far the rudest thing I've seen in a while was a right after my son was born. Now this didn't actually happen to me but I felt I had to intervene...

There was a fire alarm at our apartment building and afterwards there were tons of people waiting for the elevators to get back upstairs. My husband and I were next for one elevator and an elderly woman with a walker was next for the other one. (the building supers were there to help everyone). when the elderly woman's elevator opened, this woman pushed to the front and started yelling that she should go up with her kids first. when the 8 month pregnant super said "no, this lady is here first" the woman started screaming "I'm pregnant, why the f* should this woman go first!" and I'm thinking...wow. unreal. especially since this woman wasn't showing at all. I wanted to yell at her that the super who is very pregnant is standing here trying to help us all....

but instead I just looked at her and said "just take this elevator when it comes." and she looked at my newborn and said "no no I want HER elevator. why should SHE get to go first....you have a baby and I'm pregnant...WE should be first"



I'm sorry but I think elderly people come before me. just because I have a baby doesn't mean I should get priority. it's nice when people open doors and stuff but I don't walk around expecting special treatment. This lady was already walking around like the world owed her everything. it was sad. I was really embarassed for her. I made her take my elevator...people were pretty pissed at her and I just wanted her out of the lobby and not screaming at people.

I wanted to apologize to the elderly lady for the woman but it was all over before I knew it.

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Quoting Rachel:

I was 9 months pregnant with my second and had my 21 month old son in a harness with a "leash" walking in a strip mall. When some white trash woman looked at me and said "Have fun walking you dog!" I shot her a look and kept walking! I was mortified that people who don't know me or my son would pass judgement like that! I wouldn't have had it on him if I could keep up with him!


I have heard of that happening, and it's happened to a close friend of mine, however, everytime I've done it with my son, people have told me it's the greatest thing ever.  The one I have looks like a little monkey and you hold its tail.  Many people have told me it's cute.

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Quoting Melissa:

...at the hospital some italian lady gave me a blanket she'd just bought for her new grand son, when i was discharging my daughter because she said oh you cant take her out theres its too cold have you got a blanket...


 



My parents gave birth to me in Italy, in the summer, but were always told that I wasn't bundled up enough.  I think it is an Italian thing :)  They would tell my parents on the subway, but never told them not to take an infant on the subway.

Courtney - posted on 06/04/2009

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When I was 8 months pregnant, I didn't look pregnant, but all who knew knew that I was a bit sensitive to it because I have always been a little heavy. Anyway, I am a waitress and I was talking to the bartender and we had a disagreement and her customer at the bar top said that she should punch me in the face...she then replied, "I can't she's pregnant!" That jerk then replied, "NO WAY!!! She can't be...she totally looks too fat to be pregnant!!" If I was worried about losing my job, I would have showed that guy a sock to the face!!!

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Quoting Jeanne:

Maybe the guys thought he was being helpful - we all know that certain people suffer from foot in mouth disease and they never learn so I wouldn't take it to personally. As for venting - it's better to do that than to keep it bottle up inside. I was at the park yesterday with my two children and I called out to my daughter who was running up ahead of me to get to the swings and asking her to slow down. (My daughter's name is Native American - you'll get why this is important as you read on). Once I got my kids settled on the swings and started pushing them - a father with three young kids and a baby in a stroller looked at his wife and told her in a very loud voice: "It's time to go, they've let them off the reservation again!". (The swings are about 15 yards from the bench they were sitting on). His wife looked mortified and they got up and left. He was saying stuff like: "Dirty Indians and asking why some men leave their squaws out alone as they were walking behind up to leave the park. His wife was going "Shhhh" to him but he kept on rambling so I answered back: "The proof that cro-magnon man existed ladies and gentlemen." Not my finest moment - granted - but don't trash talk about my and me kids heritage in front of us.



 



 



im just really tired or way slow today or something lol, i had to re-read this a few times because i thought you were saying your daughters name was native american, as in her first name was native and her middle name was american... i thought you were yelling hey netive american slow down! sry anyway that is terrible for him to act that way, and especially in front of children, i just thought i would share my mis reading have a great day.





 

Melissa - posted on 06/04/2009

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Quoting Sarah:






Quoting Jeanne:

Maybe the guys thought he was being helpful - we all know that certain people suffer from foot in mouth disease and they never learn so I wouldn't take it to personally. As for venting - it's better to do that than to keep it bottle up inside. I was at the park yesterday with my two children and I called out to my daughter who was running up ahead of me to get to the swings and asking her to slow down. (My daughter's name is Native American - you'll get why this is important as you read on). Once I got my kids settled on the swings and started pushing them - a father with three young kids and a baby in a stroller looked at his wife and told her in a very loud voice: "It's time to go, they've let them off the reservation again!". (The swings are about 15 yards from the bench they were sitting on). His wife looked mortified and they got up and left. He was saying stuff like: "Dirty Indians and asking why some men leave their squaws out alone as they were walking behind up to leave the park. His wife was going "Shhhh" to him but he kept on rambling so I answered back: "The proof that cro-magnon man existed ladies and gentlemen." Not my finest moment - granted - but don't trash talk about my and me kids heritage in front of us.






 






 






im just really tired or way slow today or something lol, i had to re-read this a few times because i thought you were saying your daughters name was native american, as in her first name was native and her middle name was american... i thought you were yelling hey netive american slow down! sry anyway that is terrible for him to act that way, and especially in front of children, i just thought i would share my mis reading have a great day.









 






Don't worry Sarah, I had to re-read it too because i thought the same thing.......Sorry Jeanne

Kim - posted on 06/04/2009

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Perhaps he was trying to be "funny" and it came across as rude. As the mom of two sons who are grown now, try not to take what people say to heart. I really don't think this was an attempt to question your ability as a mother. Don't let other people make you so angry that it ruins your day because they have no idea what they've done and you go huffing around upset all day. And, there is no need to respond in a rude manner, it makes you no better than the people who are rude. Smile, say "thank you" or "I think I've got it," move on and have a better day.

Angela - posted on 06/04/2009

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to Jodi S, i wish i was as quick witted as that, i'm british so don't have to deal with people like that so much! i think you are well with in your right to say it how it is, these people you have had to deal with are disgusting excuses for people. good on you for telling them how it actually is!

Melissa - posted on 06/04/2009

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The worst rudest comment I've ever gotten was from a former boss on the day i was getting hired and filling out the paper work. I was a single mom at the time(I'm now married with 2 kids) and he was looking them over. He knew i had a daughter because i had worked for the General Manager of the hotel before i went on mat leave and followed him to the new place at his request. He saw my marital status and was like "you're single?" I responded with a "yea" thinking "clearly dumbass, thats what it says doesnt it?" His next statement floored me, I still cant believe he said it to me now, and its almost 4 years later. He was like "Well i guess anyone can have a kid these days" I was SO shocked that i couldnt even respond. If i hadnt known the GM I probably wouldn't have even gone back to work there. I ended up working there for 2 1/2 years, and hardly seeing him because he refused to work nights, even though he was the restaurant manager.

Danielle - posted on 06/04/2009

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my daughters grandmom was raving how much my baby looks so much like her son than turned 2 me and says she his that hump in her back like u.........kp in mine i dnt have a hump

Alana - posted on 06/04/2009

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the most annoying thing was when i was pregnant i would get people staring at my bump and giving me mucky looks coz i was only 17, but i looked REALLY young aswell. people would call ny boyfriend at the time a cradle snatcher, he was 18! i know its not the worst of comments but it used to really upset me! x

Liz - posted on 06/04/2009

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I have 5 month old twin girls and, and I'm 21 so I've had several doozy's!!!



I had to have an emergency c section, and because the girls were so premature they kept me in the hospital for a full week to make it easier on us. My husband slept over every night, and didnt go to work just becuase that whole time was touch and go with the girls.



Well on the second night they brought me my forms to fill out (my hubby was asleep next to me), and the nurse very quietly asked if I knew who the father was.....because they needed to know for the birth certificates... i laughed and pointed at matt and said this lucky bastard! She looked shocked and said "are you sure", to which I replied well we've been married for almost a year and a half so there arent any other contendars!!!



When I was pregnant I couldnt wear my ring, because I was so swollen. I was sitting the food court at a mall drinking a fruit smoothie waiting for matt to come back from the bathroom, when some old ladies walked by. I heard one of them cluck their tounge and comment on all the bastard children going to born this year. I didnt say anything, mostly because I was too tired to fight..



And my favorite... this happened less then a week ago....

I was at the girls pediatrician, and I had a very bad cold, and my youngest madeline was coming down with one as well.... when the ped saw madeline, i told her I have a cold and maddy seems to be getting one as well... cough, sniffly nose, mucus out the wazoo..blah blah... anyways without every looking at maddy OR listening to me she said that maddy has a milk allergy... lol so i laughed and I said how do you figure that?? She hasnt dropped any weight, shes not puking up her food.... shes very happy.

She then told me that I didnt go to medical school, i instead (and i quote) got knocked up so what would I know....

I picked up my girls, and walked out... and am currently in the proccess of waiting to hear back from my complaint... and if your wondering maddy's cold went away in 3 days and she sitting right next to me drinking her bottle very contently!!

Andrea - posted on 06/04/2009

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There was one time that really hurt... my daugher was born 2 1/2 months early so she was really tiny when she came home only 5 lbs. I had to take her to get some medicine on day and was waiting for it when I guy came up and started to talk to me and made a comment about how small she was, I then told him that she was a preemie. He came back and told me he was sorry I had a preemie because all preemie were retarded and that it is going to be hard to have a child that I am going to have to take care of for the rest of my life. I didn't get mad at him but did tell him that most preemies aren't retarded and that it just takes a little longer for them to do stuff because they are on track with what they would have been if born if the were FT's.

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