would it be rude to throw my own baby shower? my family is scattered across the country and two of my closest friends moved away for work. this is my first child and the father is not involved. how do i celebrate my good fortune?

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I basically threw my own shower. One of my friends "insisted on giving me one" but really, what that meant was that she bought the invitations, dropped them off at my house and said, "Here, fill these out and mail them to whoever you want there." So I did. Then, about a week before the party she came over with party favors and we sat on my living room floor to assemble everything. The day of the shower, she DID pick up the cake and decorated the hall (with my help and my husband's...we had a co-ed shower). Anyhow, people can call it tacky, but only you know your friends and family enough to know if THEY will think it's tacky. It's not about the gifts, it's about celebrating a new baby. However, since you probably don't have much for baby things, you could always say something in the invite about where you're registered but make it clear that gifts are not necessary, just the pleasure of their company (or something to that effect). That way no one who doesn't want to buy a gift feels like they have to.

Congrats on your baby! I also struggled for years and finally had mine when I was 36 and had just given up hope :) Let me be the first to say, "Welcome to the club" ♥ SLEEP NOW WHILE YOU CAN! LOL

Jennifer - posted on 04/19/2012

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Not at all. I kind of wish I could have planned my own, I mean, it was nice, everyone was happy and all, but I think ill plan my next one. Do it. Its not rude if everyone was so far away that they cant or wont help you. Just go for it. :)

Alison - posted on 04/19/2012

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That's great that you're so excited about having your baby. I think an official baby shower might be tacky to throw yourself, but here's another idea: Invite what friends or coworkers you do have around you over for a potluck. I'm sure some baby talk would happen and you could show them your nursery or a few outfits you bought that you're excited about. You might not get any presents but I bet you'd get lots of well-wishing and such. Or, if you have to celebrate yourself, you could buy supplies at a craft store and make pages for a baby book in advance while eating your favorite dessert and watching a favorite movie. :O)

Liz - posted on 04/19/2012

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I too had a miracle baby after 15 years of being told that I could not conceive, but I never had a baby shower either. 3 of my friends talked about throwing one, but nobody ever did. It didn't kill me. :)



ETA: I wouldn't throw your own, even if it means that you go without. There'll be plenty of opportunities for friends and family that love you to give you gifts, without you assembling them in one place for that purpose. It would come across as greedy and tacky.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/19/2012

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Well, people out of state can still plan one for you. You are in a sucky position. I am sorry. Usually showers are held around 8 months.

Mk - posted on 04/19/2012

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Iam 5 1/2 monthes along. Have some cousins near me that are aware of the situation but have mentioned nothing about it. No surprises in the works at all. If my family was in one place it would work out. My sister thinks I should have a virtual one. I thought it was inappropriate too, but I really want to celebrate since I was told I would never have children! Everyone asks about one but noone offered to host except my friends that had to move to a different state. Honestly I am a bit hurt .

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/19/2012

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How far along are you? You may want to make sure no one is planning on throwing a surprise one for you. Generally speaking, it is kinda tacky to have the mother to be throw her own party. Just my opinion, but I have not been in your situation.

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