wow! life is supose tto be easier!

Donna - posted on 07/17/2009

Do not give up, Tiffanny. It takes a strong woman to carry the load you carry for your family. Remember, school will not only help you develop as a person, it can lead to a better job, which opens the doors to more opportunities for yourself and your children. (School does not last forever, it just feels that way). If you like to read for relaxation, try books on tape on your commutes to work and school. Or make a CD of your favorite music. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Surround yourself with supportive people and lean on that support system. Treat yourself - If you have a favorite TV show that you are missing, ask the hubby to tape it and steal an hour a week to watch it. A friend of mine (3 young kids, 1 teen, school, job) played computer games and kept plugged into her online (family) on mini-breaks from studying. You might have to redefine what your "me time" is for now. But you are working to make life better for your family. There will always be those who will try to convince you that the road you are traveling is the wrong one. But what is wrong for them, may be RIGHT for you. The road you are traveling was right for me and at least two of my friends. Your children will be proud of you and will have a great role-model. Follow your heart and your mind. Toni, Hannah and Leigh gave you great advice. Good luck. Take a big breath ---- back to work/the books/ the children/the husband!

Leigh - posted on 07/17/2009

Keep at it Tiffanny, I know the being tired is not what you expect but you are doing great. Nah life is not easy, & really this is a true growth period for you personally. Maybe look at deligation & time management. Be selfish, because when you're a Mum you automatically become selfless!! Keeping on with your study's will open doors that will make your life easier. I agree with Hannah, studing whilst your children are still young is much easier & the time will pass anyway. Having a great work life balance is always going to be a struggle, but it is something you can achieve. Good luck.

Hannah - posted on 07/16/2009

You have to find ways to be you still in the confines of your schedule. For example, find an activity to do with your child that also interests you, (my son and I go to music class each week - we both love it!)
Additionally you should be enjoying school - i know the homework is stressful on top of everything else, but you nonetheless should be enjoying what you are studying. If you aren't, then maybe it is time to re-evaluate. I will say this - do school while your child is young - they will never remember the evenings of you being gone. When they are older, it is so much harder to deal with the guilt they put on you for not being there. Besides - with hubby not working you have a built in babysitter! ENJOY IT!

Toni - posted on 07/16/2009

Sweetie the honest truth to the situation is this. Once you take on the responsibility of children, there really is no ME time. Your mommy now. And since you have taken on school and work it is going to stretch you even thinner. All I can say is it does get easier as the children grow up they need you a little more less. The only saving grace is your daily drive to and from school and work. Enjoy anytime you get alone, it is rare and should be appreciated. Also, if possible at least once a month, hire a babysitter or ask a grandparent to watch the kids for a couple of hours. As a mother of a 18 and 11 yr old boys, I know that overwhelming feeling, but trust me it really does get better. I think they call it paying our dues....lol Good luck and God bless.

Mel - posted on 07/16/2009

get rid of one of them you cannot do all three its to much. im a full time mum and i feel judged when people say , so your not working and things like that, so i completely respect and admire you for doing all these things. maybe go back to working or studying a bit later down the track?

Erin - posted on 07/16/2009

Yeah, I'm a little baffled to as to why your husband isn't working and you are crazy busy??? Maybe you could both do PT work? Cut back on school a little? How much longer until you are degreed?

Lisa - posted on 07/16/2009

Can't your husband get a job??? Any job is better than no job, and he should do that unless there is something that we don't know. I'm not trying to be rude, but tell him to get a job to help out so you can become a better wife and mom. You need to have down time and it doesn't sound like you get it. GOOD LUCK.

Devon - posted on 07/16/2009

is there any way that he can find a job to bring in a little more money or is there something keeping him from working? i give you props, i don't know how you do it. i don't think i could. but i eventually plan on going back to school as well and working a full time job. keep drinking coffee, LOL :)

Tiffanny - posted on 07/16/2009

i want to but my husband doesnt work so its almost imposible to make bills without full time and i am seriously considering finishing this school year and giving it a few years tell i go back im just so tired. lol like every mom.

Devon - posted on 07/16/2009

can you do part time schooling and maybe cut some of your hours at work if it is possible. you should really think about it, because time fly's by to fast and one day you might regret not spending enough time with your children. good luck :)