Amber - posted on 11/11/2010 ( 84 moms have responded )
Okay this is gonna be a long one...So I apologize in advance. Anyway I am the mother to a beautiful little 17 month old girl. Since she was born her "sperm donor" has been in and out of jail for stupid reasons. Well back in Feb he was arrested for stabbing a man (from what I understand it was a drug deal gone bad) I didn't know anything about him doing/selling drugs until this point. Anyway he has never given me or my daughter anything the most money I think he has given for her since she was BORN and may I remind you she is 17 months old is about 20$ that was it. His family doesn't help. MY family is the only people helping me support my daughter. Well he was bailed out of jail in august and wanted to see her so I told him that he could see her for 1 hour once a week at MY house outside and I HAD to be there. I was tryin to do right by my babygirl and I thought she needed to see him so I told him that if he goes back to jail 1 MORE TIME for whatever reason it may be that I would severe all ties with him. That the only time he could ever see her again was when she was old enough to ask me about him and understand what was goin on then I was gonna sit down and tell her EVERYTHING that he has done up to that point and if she decided he was even worth meeting then I would reach out to him until then nothing. Well about 3 weeks go by and it seems to be working out fine with him coming by once a week he would call everyday to see how she was doing. Then a couple of days went by and I haven't heard anything from him until my phone was ringing one morning and I answered and it was a recording saying that I have a phone call from a inmate there. So guess who it was my "sperm donor" surprise surprise! Lol He was in jail THIS time for aggervated burglar. He had broke into someones house back when I was still pregnant with my daughter and they finally caught him a year later. I was told he could spend up to 5 years in prison for this.
Last night my phone started ringing when I answered it, it was him calling to tell me he got out because his time was served and wanted to know when he could come see Emma (my daughter). I told him that he couldn't then reminded him about what I said about him goin to jail AGAIN. So I also told him if he wanted to see her he needed to get a lawyer and take me to court because I wasn't gonna voluntarily let him see her but then he said he wasn't gonna take me to court because he probably wouldn't get any visitation not with his record. Oh and then tells me that he has a hold out in another county jail but probably won't be there for very long.
Once again sorry about the rant!
My question is do you think me keeping him from my daughter is the right thing or am I just being over protective/dramatic? I strongly feel like I made the best decision for her but what if I'm wrong is keeping her father away from her really the best thing for her? I don't want her to have a part time dad which is all he has EVER been since day one. I don't want her to remember how daddy was here one day and gone the next. So please tell me what you other moms would do! I just want whats best for my girlie!