Morna - posted on 02/02/2010 ( 37 moms have responded )
Since my husband's unexpected death (1/29/09 - heart attack, 48 YO), the relationship between myself and my in-laws and brother in-law have become strained. We were married for 22 1/2 years. At first we kept in touch, as we had discussed immediately after his "first" memorial service. As my mother in-law was planning the "second" memorial service and I tried to convey my husband's wishes, our relationship became strained and the phone calls and e-mails became fewer and fewer from them. Then after the "second" memorial service (6 months after his death), the communication has all but stopped. They have only initiated the contact with me twice, either by phone or e-mail. The sad thing is that of their two children, my husband and I were the only ones to have a grandchild for them (my brother in-law - who is the first born - and his late wife never had children). They don't send cards, except for x-mas and birthday. I've gotten to the point where I'm tired of being the one who always initiates the contact. I still have to work full-time and they're all retired. My son is 19 and away at school, which my brother in-law is helping with, but I'm financing all the living expenses, etc. I know that they are on the computer all day long, but still I receive no e-mails. Any suggestions on how to handle this situation.