my feance passed away on the 13th of this mth

Cindie - posted on 03/31/2012

I only wish I could tell you that it was easy to find a solution...it's not. The very best thing YOU can do is to have some fun with your kids. Also...remember the happy times you shared together....yes there are going to be tears of sadness from you, tears of happiness also will follow when you are able to truly remember the happy times that you once shared. I am a believer in all things happen for a reason - truly I am. I haven't a clue as to the "what now" is supposed to be..but I just keep on keeping on. This is truly the hardest thing I've ever had to do...and I'm sure for you and anyone else that goes through this. It will be the 2 year mark for me on the 7th of this month...I don't seem to cry 'every' day now...just every other day - and hopefully it will continue to get less and less. YOU will get THROUGH this - but you'll never forget. Prayers going up for you and yours. :) Hugs

Cindie - posted on 07/03/2011

"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
love leaves a memory no one can steal. "
~From a headstone in Ireland
this seems to help me at times..perhaps it will you. You will get through this...(it's been a year for me and my son...my husband passed suddenly 4-7-10) God bless you and yours,
Cindie

Tasia - posted on 12/08/2009

I know exactly how you feel. My husband passed away on March 13, 2009 and I was 5 months pregnant at the time. Now our son is going to be 4 months on the 21st.

I cant say its easy because its not. I cry all the time and I miss him so much. Its ok to cry

But the best advice I can give you is to stay strong for your children.

I know easier said than done right, but seriously loosing someone close especially the father of your children is one of the worst things and its gonna take alot of time to heal.

Whether it is a year from now, a couple years or even never.

Just look into your children eyes and thank god that you are blessed with them.

Terry - posted on 12/08/2009

I can't help you.

Other than to tell you to take one day at a time.

Focus on your children and the little joys you find around you.

I lost my husband around this time of year.

It was hard. Christmas was hard. It is getting better, but it's been 3 years.

Hold on and take it slow. Cry and remember the good times.