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Robin - posted on 04/19/2010
I wore his wedding band on my thumb for a tleast 6 months before taking it off. My wedding band & engagement ring had to be cut off. I felt ready just before the one year anniversary. Cried like a baby as they were cutting them off. The jeweler suggested having the prongs repaired & both welded together while they were being resized. I wish I hadn't had them welded because it will be harder to split them between our 3 children, but what's done is done. I had them sized to fit my right hand, so I could wear them on whichever hand felt comfortable at the time. I switched back & forth for a while, them took them off, maybe 6 months later.
Morna - posted on 02/10/2010
The first time I tried was when a jeweler friend wanted to make a memorial pendant for me with the diamond from my engagement ring - about 1 1/2 months after his death. I cried and so did she. Her advice was for her to take only the diamond (cut it off right then), gave me back the band, and said that I should keep it in my purse in case I needed to put it back on. Well, I wore my wedding band and anniversary ring instead. I tried to take my rings off on the day of our anniversary (6 months post), it only last one day. I was able to take them off when I moved to Texas -- middle of September. Feeling that this was going to be a new start for me, made it easier. It's funny how fast you lose the tan line that had been there for almost 23 years!
Suzanne - posted on 02/09/2010
I didn't vote because it was really neither for me. I can't remember the first time I took off my rings but I do remember I took them off and put them back on at least a dozen times in the first 2 or 3 years. I finally stopped wearing them all together in about 04/05.