Juggling your business AND taking care of the kids
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Tammy - posted on 06/09/2010
I have 3 kids, 14yrs, 13yrs and a 4 yr old. My big ones are at high school so thats a bonus, my little one is in daycare 3 days a week. These are the days I dedicate to purely work and cleaning.
I am hoping to get enough money together to be able to get someone in once a week, this would help me time wise and it would mean that when everyone was home from school and work i can enjoy time with them more instead of running round tidying up because ive worked all day. On the days my son is home, he has an hour in the morning for dvds, and an hour in the arvo and this is when I can do a little work or house work. The rest of the day is our time.
Andrea - posted on 06/02/2010
Michelle, I agree. Since I started doing this, I have said it's harder to work at home than leave for 8 hours. But I love raising him with our morals, and our common sense and letting him exprience what he wants and what we want. At this point, I don't know if we can afford this expense either. My husband's job is secure for the most part right now. We had a scare a few months ago,and will be getting another scare at the end of the fiscal year. Good luck to you though, I know you can do it!!
Katherine- thank you. I have not thought about talking to a professor. I had heard care.com was started by a stay at home mom who always had trouble finding a reliable sitter or nanny. So far it's been great, so many responses in just 6 hours with background checks on all!! I always said, I will know the ss of the persson who watches my kids. lol...Thank you for your help!
Michelle - posted on 06/01/2010
It's interesting to read what all you other moms are going through. I think we all need to have a cyber coffee break! My kids are 5, 2, and almost 7 months. I don't have help in the house and have to pretty much do everything. My husband does help me clean and is very good at it, but he's not home much during the day--gone by 8am, home maybe by 6, sometimes later. My daughter has school from 1150-220 everyday which doesn't give me much time to get anything done. I teach online--business and finance courses, so I really need to be disciplined. Schedules are not something I can always follow--they are roughly drafted between meal and feeding times, changing times, cooking, laundry...running errands are not something I can easily do at this point, not alone anyway. I would love to hire someone and would, but that's not an expense I can afford at the moment. When someone in your life asks you what they can do to help, tell them to watch your kids or take them outside to play so you can get some time alone to tend to your stuff. It's not easy being a SAHM with a job from home--it's actually HARDER than having a job outside the home with daycare watching your kids! Trust me, I know! But, I love being home with my kids and tending to the things that are important. Did I also mention that my 2 year old is on the special needs side as he is nonverbal and also needs speech therapy? There's just so much to being a mom who works from home. It really isn't for everyone, it is a very tough job but the rewards are outstanding.
Andrea - posted on 06/01/2010
I had thought about that. That's the only way I would do this. I just can't bring myself to drop him off somewhere and not know what's happening to him while I'm gone. What are your thoughts on Care.com? I just found it with a web search. I've heard about it before, but I'm not sure.
Andrea - posted on 06/01/2010
I have a 2 year old and am a cake decorator from home. At points I have 4 cakes a week with no help during the day. I find the biggest challenge is juggling my son, the house chores, the animals, and work all at the same time and finding time to give my son mommy and him time.
I've been doing it for about a year now, and I'm still learning. There have been points where I just break down but I've found the best way so far is give him more time during the day, then work when he goes to bed and do all nighters. It's really hard at times and sometimes I forget why I'm staying home. But then he smiles, and I remember.
Ileana - posted on 05/27/2010
I agree with the other moms that being super organized is a must!!! Having everybody pitching in is also key. I have 3 kids ages 3, 5 and 7. My husband and I are self employed and we have a monthly big deadline and then the rest of the month is a lot of hours of work from home but not 12 hour-days like on our deadline week. I've learned that in order to make this work, I need to minimize the time spent cleaning up after everybody so I have enough time and energy to spend quality time with the family. So the rules are that all the kids have to leave their rooms and playroom picked up before bedtime. They also get paid a quarter or 50 cents to do extra chores, like sorting all the dirty laundry, vacuuming crumbs in the kitchen, putting away their clean laundry, etc. I also pay someone to clean our house every other week. Doing all those things help enormously! Keeping the house clean and in order gives me the extra family time. I also work at 6 am, an hour before the kids get up and after they go to bed. The last thing I would recommend is to use a service like Dream Dinners to put together all your dinners in advance for the whole month. For an extra fee they will do it for you. A little bit here and there gives you extra hours (and most important, energy!) to play and be with your kids and husband :) Don't spend your money on going out to eat or movies or lots of other things that cost a lot, invest it in freeing up your time like a cleaning service or a meal preparation service. Do as much as you can for free to save money like parks, church summer camps, camping, get netflix and make up a movie night at home. I have so many suggestions of how we have made it work for us that I can keep going on and on!! (and I work like 5-7 hours everyday, 10-12 on deadline)
Heather - posted on 05/26/2010
I'm a mother of one 18 month old, work full time from home, take about 7 credit hours of school each semester, and do the majority of the house work/cooking etc. The hardest part for me is finding time for myself. Every non working second that isn't spent going to school is focused on loving on my toddler and hubby. By the end of the day, I don't even have the energy to shower, and my mornings start so early I can't take a shower before the toddler gets up or it'll wake him up (he's a very light sleeper) and that would throw off my whole work schedule. My husband works a physically demanding job and goes to school full time so he understandably doesn't have a whole lot of energy to help me out when he gets home. I also struggle with feeling guilty that I don't give my son enough attention because I am distracted by my work.
Roz - posted on 05/25/2010
My biggest challenge is not working my business too much. I can easily spend ALL day doing it because I really love what I do, but obviously that is not good to do lol! So I have to prioritize my time and make sure both my daughters feel like they have a lot of attention from me. I also have to balance that with housework and hubby time.
Michelle - posted on 05/25/2010
I have 3 kids (ages 5, 2, 6 months) and have worked from home for th last 5 years. The biggest challenge is finding the time to get everything done. People often think that if you work fromhome, you have time. The truth is that you have no time to do anything. Kids come first, so when you have time to get your work done, it's crucial that you don't waste it by socializing. Kids, then work, then everything else Prioritzing is key. Get what you need to get done when the are quiet/sleeping/at school because once they are running around, you need to do things that don't require your full attention like the kids do. I make my calls when they are quiet (nap time), answer emails, and tend to things that I need to concentrate on while nobody bothers me. I don't take personal calls during that time because I never know how long it will last. Cooking, laundry, cleaning can be done with kids awake. It's like having 2-3 fulltime jobs so you need to be organized and have a lot of energy!
Jodi - posted on 05/16/2010
I think the biggest challenge is that the kids have to come first, and so often, everything needs to be dropped to attend to them. I am not finding it such an issue now that I don't have a toddler at home now, but it has been a major challenge in the last few years.
I think another challenge is that because I work at home, and hubby can't necessarily see the results, he sometimes seems to think I've done nothing (despite the fact that when he gets home, the kids are usually bathed and dinner is almost cooked!!!) There is the feeling that my work doesn't count sometimes because everyone else's needs tend to be met first, and then I get done what I can get done whenever I can.
Not so bad now that kids are both at school.....
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