1st birthday party, is it necessary?

Fidyah - posted on 03/20/2010 ( 58 moms have responded )

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my husband thought that we don't have to make the birthday party for our son, but I do, at least celebrate it with the orphans, do you agree with me or my husband? why?

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Raquel - posted on 03/23/2010

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we went out on our son's first birthday, we only had about 25-30 people, all family but it was well worth it....even though we're kinda still paying for some of it (we used a credit card).... :) try to give yourself a budget...i bought most of the items from a kool website called: www.1stwishes.com & I got the rest of the items at the dollar store, party city & etc...good luck & have fun

Samantha - posted on 04/01/2013

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Celebrating first birthdays is still a debatable topic. While many parents don’t want to spend any money on a celebration that the child won’t remember, many others feel this occasion is worth celebrating in a big way. So, I would advise you both should sit together and decide what actually you should do. I would suggest, host a small party, maybe with just your family and some extremely close friends. You may invite the orphans but make sure you are prepared to handle so many kids.

Claire - posted on 03/27/2010

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I don't think that a first birthday party is necessary. My kids are 5, 4 and 5 months and my eldest had her first real party when she turned 4. Of course we had lovely family dinners and a cake and took lots of photos but a party is for them not you so why have one when they don't really have friends and they wont have a clue what's going on!

Angela - posted on 03/23/2010

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The key thing is to create memories... You dont need a huge birthday party to do this. That is all materialistic things.... Invite family over have a cake and enjoy eachothers presence.. You don't need balloons... clowns...characters to do this.. I don't get it anymore, people think you need material things to entertain you and make memories.. Family and friends can do this all alone. In your case I would just make a small get together, so you are happy and your husband still gets a little of his wants attended to also.

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It is definitely worth celebrating! The means by which you celebrate it might make all the difference to your husband's concerns. It's not necessary to hold a lavish "Tori Spelling" style 1st birthday that your child will never remember (unless you really want to and have such funds!). What is important is to be together with your family, have simple things like a cake, a card, a present, some balloons and a lovely place to be. Have family and friends you care about come along, or just have your immediate family. It's about celebrating the crossing over from baby months to years, about the fact that you have done a terrific job raising your baby from birth to this first year, that your little one is already growing up and is now into age by years. Yes, it's more for the parent's sake but that's a really good thing because it's about confirming family love and sharing a special occasion together. Go for it!

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Madame - posted on 04/01/2013

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Definitely not necessary, only if you want to and think it will be fun. We saw it as a great way to celebrate the end of summer with friends with our first child who was born around Labor Day, but for the second child who was born around Thanksgiving we blended the first birthday and the holiday together.

Megan - posted on 03/28/2010

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I would definitely have a birthday party for him. And depending on your childs temperament Id have a small party so he doesnt get too tired. Good luck!! And have fun and like everyone else said, take lots of pictures!!!

Alexis - posted on 03/27/2010

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I agree with both. It's true that he won't remember it, but if even if he don't, you will have pictures and videos. Whether that is a small celebration with family or friends or a huge blow out with everyone... I had a huge party for my baby and it was a little hard b/c I was so busy trying to do the food, entertainment, and make sure that every one was having a good time that I feel like I missed most of it... Though I was there the whole time. But, which ever you decide make sure to get plenty of pictures and don't forget to get the one w/ him covered in cake :D

Lyndsay - posted on 03/26/2010

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I don't really think it's necessary, because he's not going to remember anyway, but it is a nice gesture. For my son's first birthday I just invited his aunties over and some close friends, and at the time none of them had kids yet so he was the only one.

Rachael - posted on 03/26/2010

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i agree first bday parties are kind of a big deal.. but my son probably wont be having on either.. atleast not untila couple months after his actual birthday. im in the military and all my friends just left and my hubby isnt here.. and they wont let me take leave to go home around that time... it sucks but whatever the reason you dont have one, im sure your kids will understand when they get older and they probably wont even care. but it is defnintley worth it if you can. 8)

Dawn - posted on 03/26/2010

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How can you not mark your childs 1st birthday its not just a big milestone in their growing up way too fast, its also a small jigsaw peiece for your heart to cherish when you are old and grey lol!! (send out the invites, and make sure there is a football match on too, soo hubby cant hear it over the wonderful sounds of babbling kids lol lol!)

Jane - posted on 03/26/2010

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Not necessary but you'll be sad if you don't do it. It doesn't have to be lavish, large or expensive. It just has to be memorable. Even if it's just your little family of three with a cake, some balloons and lots of pictures when your son dives into the cake!

Paris - posted on 03/26/2010

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I am doing it. My sons birthday is next month. Yes, he might not remember it but you will. Just invite a few close friends and family. Doesn't have to be anything big. I think families putting soooo much money into a first or second birthday is ridiculous. It is just a birthday party. A little cake and few toys. [=

Stacy - posted on 03/25/2010

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Have one! It is a celebration of your love, your son's life, and a time for family to get together and spend time with one another. Every day is precious and not to be taken lightly. It is a gift! It doesn't have to be large but it will be something that your son will want to see pictures of when he is older. It will be moments that you or your husband might want to relive at any point too. I have fond memories of my own daughters. I made a special cake that was made from applesauce so it wasn't so sweet. She ended up grabbing the candle before my husband could stop her and got a little hurt. After that he picked up the candle and some wax fell on her bare tummy. Then she wanted nothing to do with that cake! Can you blame her?! Then we had a bigger party with other family members and then she got INTO the cake...great pics, wonderful time and definitely worth having!

Amanda - posted on 03/25/2010

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i agree with the other moms, every birthday should be celebrated and I definitely will be celebrating my son's first bday in june. I am having a themed party with spongebob. I am going to have a lot of people there because I have a lot of friends who have babies the same age. Even though the children wont remember it, you can videotape and take pictures so they can look back at their life in the future!

Amy - posted on 03/25/2010

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We just celebrated my son's first birthday with a party Saturday. Our family is huge so we got the hall! It was "Lil Sluggers 1st Birthday" a baseball themed party. Some people came dressed in baseball tees and the party favors were inflatable bat and balls! The food was "ballpark fare" with things like hot dogs, slider burgers, nachos, pretzels, etc. We just did cupcakes as his cake which was the perfect size!
I agree with the post... he may not remember but I will and he will get to look at the pictures of his birthday and everyone that came who cares about him!

JOEVAN - posted on 03/25/2010

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EVERY BIRTHDAY I THINKS DESERVES A PARTY. IT'S A BLESSING TO BE HERE ANOTHER YEAR.

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The first birthday is only really important I think for the pictures, the adults, and the memories of course. And often it's the first time a baby gets to eat cake!

Lanie - posted on 03/25/2010

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I don't think it matters whether you make a big fuss or have a small intimate event i think our kiddies 1st everything should be celebrated , my daughters 12 & we are busy planning her birthday & its not while July , we always stick to a budget and we have albums of photos marking each event ENJOY the kids & make your own memories TOO

Liz - posted on 03/25/2010

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am glad i looked at these comments.myhusband does not think much of the 1st birthday party coz he thinks our son will just sleep through it. But looking at the comments I think I have some convincing to do.....at least a get togther for close knit family members will do

Anja - posted on 03/25/2010

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I think you have to celebrate first birhtday's, but small. Big Birthday party's are more for the parents themselfs, look what I can do for my kid.....Kids at that age are more happy with a few people they know well...and with some presents. My youghest is turning two this weekend and I still have a party only for family.

Mashell - posted on 03/24/2010

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i didn't have a party for my son's first birthday. We made a cake at my grandma's house and invited my cousin over. Just a simple family thing. Just me, my husband, my grandma, and my cousin with the baby. He had fun with the cake. I didn't see a reason to make a big fuss about it.

Rebecca - posted on 03/24/2010

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I agree with you. My husband and my self are planning a birthday party for my son's first birthday.

Lisa - posted on 03/24/2010

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For both children we had huge parties with extended family, decorations, cake, dinner, candy bags, games etc. I am glad we did our extended family rarely get together and it was a nice way for our children to spend time with cousins and other family. Also culturally we celebrate the milestone of the first year.

Marie - posted on 03/24/2010

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First birthday parties are important just for the memories. My son, now three, loves watching his video from his 1st birthday pointing out all his Aunties and Uncles, cousins and sibblings. He also had his own birthday cake (a sponge with a little wripped cream for him only) and we let him do as he wished with it, he loved the texture, squishing his tiny hands through it and the photos/video captured it all. Memories you'll treature for life.

Amanda - posted on 03/23/2010

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Ronis birthday is April 18th and i agree with both of you. I am having a party for her but more because my family is so excited. I know that she wont remember it but we will have a cake for her for pictures. I am only inviting my family and the invites say no toys.. Thats mostly because she is very spoiled and i dont have room. I would personally rather spend the day with me and her and make it special, But for my family i am having a small party

Tacoyia - posted on 03/23/2010

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Very much so, it's a fun surrounding for them to bond with other kids and also be the center of attention!!!!

Lanie - posted on 03/23/2010

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By celebrating you sons birthday you are making memories of your own that you can tell him when he grows up , otherwise whats the point ???? , i have wonderful stuff i tell my daughter ENJOY MAKING YOUR OWN MEMORIES xxxxxxxxxxx

Mari - posted on 03/23/2010

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Yeah, we had a party but it was ore of reason for us to have a party. They are too small to understand it yet. Remember it is not just their birthday it is also an important date in your and your husbands life! Celebrate!

Maria - posted on 03/23/2010

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My husband and I just did a small birthday for our son with close family (grand and great grand parents) something to let him know that was his day and he was special even though he wont remember it, when we go throught he pictures when he gets older we will have a story to tell him.

Gina - posted on 03/23/2010

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of course you should, each year should be celebrated and although they won't know why everyone is singing or giving them gifts, so I would not spend alot of money. Friends and family is just fine.

Alice - posted on 03/23/2010

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First Birthdays are important. Not so much right now for the child who will not remember it. But for the memories and the ever giggle induced pictures it will provide for later years. We did a small in house party for our son. Just a few family and friends. Roughly 13 or 14 people, including children. And even though it was small, it was a happening place. It was nice to gather everyone around, visiting and sharing stories, (i.e. Who's mouth he peed in...Who put the diaper on backwards...Why I thought frilly socks for a 2 week old boy was fine-- to be fair, those socks were a gift and never featured in any pictures, he'll never know....) Plus, now he sees those pictures all the time and gets such a kick out of them. And he loves the story of what went on at his first birthday party. It doesn't have to be huge and extravagant but a birthday regardless if it's 1st or 10th should be commemorated, they go by fast. Happy 1st to the little Man!

Bonnie - posted on 03/23/2010

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The hubby and I are just doing a family get together for my daughter's first birthday. Nothing huge or spectacular. If I put a lot of thought and money into a party, I want my daughter to remember it and be able to invite her friends. And just because I decided to do it that way, doesn't mean I don't care about her or that her birthday isn't special or that she isn't special...it's that I am very practically minded and don't see the point of a huge gala affair for, at least the first birthday. I celebrate her life and try to make her feel special every single day. I would rather put that money into a college fund or save up for something really big for a 3rd b-day party.

Cathy - posted on 03/23/2010

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I think a small party w/ family and close friends is sufficient. Take pictures of baby eating cake, wearing birthday hat, opening present etc. My parents did family party one year, friend party next. It wasn't quite as expensive as friend party every year!!!
Good luck in decision.

Kimberly - posted on 03/23/2010

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When kids are little, birthday parties are not for the kids, they are for the adults to remember. I had parties for all my kids and it great for the kids to see pictures of themselves when they were little like that, all covered in cake!
Who doesn't like a party...no matter what the occasion!

Mildred - posted on 03/22/2010

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I think it should be celebrated! Its the first year hey! When my son turned a year, i bought him a towel and embroided his name and age. As long as we keep it safe, one day he will be happy that we celebrated his first year.

Stephanie - posted on 03/22/2010

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You have to have a Big Celebration for your sons 1st birthday! Believe it or not it a huge milestone. I have seen people who didn't have the blessing of celebrating their childs first birthday and it's heartbreaking. Celebrate every chance you get!!!!

Teresa - posted on 03/22/2010

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I think every child should have a 1st birthday party. My children all had 1st birthday parties. It is something you can look back on and so can they.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/22/2010

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I am going to have surgery right before our son's first birthday so we won't be doing anything major but we will be having a small get together for each side of our families. I, even as an adult love to look back on pictures of my birthday parties growing up. They didn't have to be huge but a celebration but something with your closest loved ones will be a nice memory even if it is only in pictures.

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We had a birthday party with family and close friends. There was only two other children there and both were his cousins (2.5 year old and a 9 month old).

Markordor - posted on 03/22/2010

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We celebrate during his Baptism Day that too only close relatives and not on his B'day, (as I was not present and my parents side too). You can celebrate with close knit family members only.

FARHANA - posted on 03/21/2010

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It def calls for a celebration coz its am important milestone. How big or small is up to you. For us its to show our kids how important dey r in our lives. Enjoy!

Summer - posted on 03/21/2010

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My daughter just turned 1 and we just had a small get together with family. I took lots of pics. The first birthday is i believe one of the best, because everything is new to them. and im sure its more fun for the parents and family then it is for the child, but its a chance to create a life time of memories.

Dawn - posted on 03/21/2010

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Its important to capture all the memories you can....would you want your child to come to you later in life and ask "why are there no pictures of my 1st b-day?" While he will most likely not remember his 1st b-day, you should still honor it & treat it as a special day. Even if its only a few family members and not a huge bash you can still make it special by having a cake and some presents. Save the huge bash for his later years when he can appreciate and really enjoy it. Keep it small if you must, but definitely do something!

Gitte - posted on 03/21/2010

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I agree with you. It is nice to celebrate and the first birthday is a "big thing" and a milestone. The child may not understand so much of it all - but it is nice for the rest of the family with a party and celebration...

Josephine - posted on 03/21/2010

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I think it's a good idea to have a simple family gathering to celebrate your baby's first year of life. He's too young to participate now, but its a worthwhile memory to everyone.

Tracy - posted on 03/21/2010

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even if you keep it small you have to celebrate it. With my 3yr old, at her 1st bday we got her her own cake, it was a riot and made awesome video. I think you should celebrate it

Vanessa - posted on 03/20/2010

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Personally, I agree that the 1st birthday and every birthday should be celebrated. I am planning a blowout 1st birthday for my son, jumping castle, Easter egg hunt, 60+ guests... etc. I love to celebrate anything and I am aware that he will not remember this day, but I WILL forever. I will do this for every child. My husband and I are taking his actual birthday off work and taking him to the zoo, and out to lunch and then on to pick out his birthday present. I just feel these are such special times and I want to make the best of every second. Do what works for you and your family, your child will look back and be happy you did whatever it is you plan to do. :)

Stacey - posted on 03/20/2010

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with my two oldest i had small family get togethers. took lots of pics. now that they are older, they like to look at the pictures on there birthdays. i am glad we had them party's. it was worth it. my suggestion is to keep it small.

Christina - posted on 03/20/2010

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I think its a good thing to celebrate his life, I had a first birthday party and I look back on the pics and its amazing every child should have a party for every age! It dosent have to be big just something for the family is perfect for that age!

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