Advice on working full time and taking night classes...

Victoria - posted on 09/04/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have been a long time reader of circle of moms and just recently decided to join. I have been stressed about working full time and starting night school this next week. I will be working from 8-5 and going to class from 6-10pm Monday-Thursday for 40 weeks; plus a 45 minute drive to get back home. I have a 6 and 2 year old and an amazing husband that is always there to make me feel better, but I feel a little guilty that I’m going to miss most of the my son’s after school nights… I know it will pay off in the long run but I feel so sad about it. Any one going or have gone through a similar situation?

Thank you in advance:)

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Lea - posted on 09/05/2012

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I hear you, Victoria. I did the same thing when my older two boys were little, but I was a single mother at the time. It is tough either way, but it is what we choose to do in order to accomplish goals. 40 weeks in not that long "in the scheme of things" ... The nice thing is that your weekends will be free for family, house work and studying. The alternative would be to wait until the baby is a little older, but he will have different needs at that time, so I think you are making a good decision to do it now. I wish you the very best :) Now is a GREAT time to value your time from any other distractions.

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Amanda - posted on 10/14/2012

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Hi Victoria. I'm in a similar situation. I started going back to school in the evenings while working full time, and then I got pregnant with our first child. I took some time off to focus on the pregnancy, but I'm starting back in 2 weeks when my daughter will be 8 weeks old. I'm nervous about juggling it all, but I just have to keep reminding myself that I can do it and know my husband is here to help.



What you need to consider is that what you're doing is not only going to benefit yourself but also your family. And just think how proud your kids are going to be of you knowing what you accomplished when you had so many challenges to overcome. You're setting a great example.



Also, it's going to be easier to get your school done while they're at this early age than when they're older and have busier schedules than they do today. My advice is to just keep pushing through it, no matter what, so you don't take too long to finish. Trust me, when you get 6 months done, a year done, etc., it feels amazing and helps keep you motivated to finish. I just keep picturing myself walking up at graduation with my daughter strapped to my back so I can show everyone that it can be done.



I'm not sure what you're going to school for or where, but you might want to look into whether or not they have online classes. I'm completing my degree online versus on campus, and that keeps me home. It has its ups and downs and isn't for everyone, but a class here and there might be a refreshing change if you're feeling burnt out or home sick.



Keep your head up! You can do it!



Amanda

Julie - posted on 09/18/2012

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Yes, you are not alone. The compromises we make and juggling act to keep our lives, and our families happy with balance is an on going process.

I told my sister in law who is a working mother with 2 amazing kids that wavered with guilt on occasion this,

"You spent QUALITY time, over QUANTITY of time with your children, and that is what matters in the end. That the time you DO have with the children you are truly PRESENT. Kids know!



Many Mother's can be home, but NOT PRESENT, it's an easy trap to fall into. So now...I share that with you. So go and be successful! Make yourself proud, husband proud, and your kids will be proud of you.

Lea - posted on 09/11/2012

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You're welcome, Victoria. What type of classes are you taking / what is your major?

Amanda - posted on 09/11/2012

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YOU CAN DO IT! look at the big picture and also just find some "make up" time for you and your son elsewhere in the week so you don't feel as guilty.

Victoria - posted on 09/07/2012

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Thank you so much Lea. Very true about my weekends being free and I keep telling my self, its not the quantity but the QUALITY of the time:)



Thank you again!

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