Age limit for church service

Nikki - posted on 09/04/2010 ( 57 moms have responded )

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How young is too young to bring a child to a church service? Would it be too soon for me to bring my 1 1/2 month old with me to services?

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Catherine - posted on 01/28/2013

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My priest says it is fine to bring my children and sit in church with them (I prefer not to go to the cry room). He says if they are loud, he can speak above them. If you want to bring your child up in the religion, the sooner the better for bringing them with you.

Kathleen - posted on 09/10/2010

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As a pastor, I do not mind children in church. The pre-crawling stage is relatively easy to be in church and more convient for nursing moms. However, at 18 months, the wiggling has started! Here are some things to consider:
-What is the attitude of your church? A formal service may have greater difficulty than an informal service.
-What is the temperment of your child? Is she/he very laid back or constantly into everything?
-What are your childcare options? I have people who work in our preschool who LOVE babies. They wish all the parents would bring their children to the nursery so they could show God's love through their snuggling, storytelling, etc.
-What do you need to spiritually recharge? Do you need the time in worship to have quiet and to reconnect with Christ? Or do you find yourself drawn closer to God by experiencing worship with your child?

The bottom line is that there is no right or wrong answer. It is what is best for your family. You are a good mom for seeing to your child's spiritual needs as well as everything else.

Kamika - posted on 09/09/2010

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My opinion of this would be whenever you feel it is right to take your child to church, that's the right time. GOD is not exclusive to adults. The best way to introduce your child to GOD is to take them with you when you go. Your child will also learn how to behave in a setting like that so that when they get older, its not a scary place and they feel comfortable.
I didn't take my first child to church right away. He was about 2 1/2 before we really started going to church with him. I was, however, a dance major in college. Part of our grade was dancing in shows at our schools theatre. We didn't talk much about GOD but "quiet" noises were the only noises allowed from the audience. He learned to sit and behave during the time I was there. Even if he didn't always pay attention, i know that I didn't have to worry about any outbursts from him. I performed in a piece at a different theatre one night with the company from my school and didn't have a babysitter. I had no choice but to take him with me. Once we got to the theatre, I sat him next to some people I trusted while I performed. They couldn't believe how well he behaved himself.
I know that was a very long example and I do apologize. Needless to say, Its only too soon to take your child to church when you think its too soon. When you're ready, take them. Its not the first baby the congregation has seen and it won't be the last.

Gretchen - posted on 09/07/2010

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I had my son on a Tuesday, got home from the hospital on Thursday and we were in the front seats at church on the 1st Sunday morning of his life. Someone told me long before he was born to never feel like I can't bring the baby to church, the only person that is bothered by the baby crying is the parents, everyone else in our church is older and has been there, so they all smile when they hear him. He is 10 months old now and likes to jabber during the sermon at times. My pastor even comments about it but everyone is thrilled at his presence. They call him the "church's baby".

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Lane - posted on 02/03/2013

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I think if you know that your baby will be content that long,bring them along. Many churches have day care for babies to where you can enjoy church.I know some may have different feeling when it comes to germs,but many churches understand that as well and do not allow sick babies in.

Tricia - posted on 02/02/2013

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I have raised 3 daughters, all were brought to church from birth, it's like any thing with children teaching them routine from early on. It may be difficult for you a little, but the end result is a good one. And most churches are very good about it, and even if you have to bring them to nursery that ok, your child will still be learning that church is a normal part of life until they are able to sit through service. You can not go wrong.

QUIONNA - posted on 01/28/2013

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OH NO. U START THEM YOUNG. THIS WOULD B THE BEST TIME ...JUST WEN SHE /HE GETS A LIL MOODY JUST TAKE THEM OUT.. THEB NEED A LIL TIME TO GET TOGETHER. THIS IS THE BEST TIME.

Deanna - posted on 01/20/2013

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Can your 1-1/2 month old be quiet for the service? If a child can sit quietly during the service, than they can go.

Rachel - posted on 01/20/2013

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At my church there are babies in service all the time. Sometimes they get noisy, at which time a parent takes them out of the sanctuary to solve the fuss issue. Once a baby had a moment of hilarity and laaughed loud and long during prayer, dad tried to hush him, but it resulted in smiles from all around. Some babies start learning to sing along with hymns, and their "joyful noise" is welcome, even if it is more like squeals and shouts than singing.

Sally - posted on 01/19/2013

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Children should be at church services from birth. How can they possibly believe worship has any bearing in their life if they aren't allowed to experience it? That said, you should sit near the back in case they have to leave for a moment to calm down and you should bring small quiet entertainment for them until they are big enough to pay attention. Some churches are uncomfortable with children, but they cannot possibly value families so why would you want to expose yourself to them anyway.
We were "rebels" at our church for not taking our first baby to the nursery - not because anyone thought it was "wrong", but because no one had done it before. I pretended not to notice the stares and pretty soon they couldn't get enough babies to justify opening the nursery anymore because they were all upstairs with their families where they belonged. Now the biggest distraction in our church is the old people wanting to play with the babies instead of paying attention to the service. :) I've even lectored with a toddler in a sling and no one thought it out of the ordinary.

Mazy - posted on 01/18/2013

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Though I am far from religious, I was while growing up. My mom gave me the option of going to sunday school or going to the regular service. I did not like sunday school, so I went to the service & participated in the choir & was an acolyte. A lot of folks did not like this & there was even a sermon given about NOT bringing children to church! It is my personal belief that if you choose to go to church, then children of ALL ages should be welcome. If the church doesn't welcome your children, then find another church. Understandably, there are times with babies or toddlers when you will have to step out because children may get loud, but you should still attend & bring them. It will benefit them tremendously!

Evelyn - posted on 01/15/2013

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My kids went to Sunday School and then sat in the big main service from the age of very little...baby...until they were grown...of course now that church is gone. For the most part I do think its not a great idea to separate the children from the adults during the main service for in the Bible it says that Jesus said to bring the little children to him.

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We have babies at Mass all the time and nobody minds even when they're not exactly quiet (and my parish is a 600 year old stone building that echoes!). Just step out if you need to.

Debra - posted on 09/17/2010

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That is the first place that they need to start. I have four and I carried all to church at about two weeks, JESUS said. Suffer little children, and forbid them NOT, to come unto me; FOR OF SUCH IS THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN . Matthew19:14

Sheryl - posted on 09/17/2010

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It is always a welcome sight to see an entire family in church. The bible speak about family, the church about family, so take your bundle of joy and be a part of God's worship family.
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Katy - posted on 09/17/2010

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Absolutely not. I'm a single mom and just returned to the church after 18 years. Fortunately my church family loves our little ones and understands when parents might need to bring in the new babies. You can always sit to the back so it will be easier to walk out of the sanctuary if necessary. If you feel at all uneasy, you should speak with the other moms in your church. Sitting a little separate from the congregation & keeping a blanket over the carseat will help keep unwanted hands touching the baby at this early age. If it doesn't work, find out if your church offers LiveStream where you can stay at home & still watch the service. Good Luck!!

Janelle - posted on 09/16/2010

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take your baby when you are ready to go back to church. And like everyone else has said most churches welcome the noise, in mine there are all ages that sit in for at least part of the service. And my 3and a half yr old will get restless and we just slip out the back and he either goes to the nursery or childrens church with his older sister. All of the older folks there love to see the little ones and enjoy seeing them grow over time.

Lisa - posted on 09/15/2010

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OMG.. our children are never too young to bring to Service. What did Fr. Michael say just this past week. He loves the sound of screaming, crying babies; to hear the sound of babies is the Churches is our future the more the child is in Church, the more he/she will know how the react. His/her prayers, how too cross yourself. ect.. We provide child care durning Service, and our Priste says that he prefers the kids at service. Some of the comments from our yourg toddlers. " We get a snack at the alter". I'm all done". These comment are priceless, so please briing your child to Service, let him/her grow up with knowing that he/she is loved from God and her pastor that she is love from all that she worshipped

Go with God!!

Latisha - posted on 09/15/2010

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No there is no age limit on church service in my eyes. All of God's children are welcome in his house at any time.

Jessi - posted on 09/15/2010

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It is never too soon. There are children of all ages at my church services! newborns to teens

Maria - posted on 09/14/2010

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I brought my daughter when she was just 7 days old. She just slept. When she was a little older and more active I took her to the family room where we wouldn't disturb the services but we could still be apart of the service.

Catherine - posted on 09/14/2010

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As long as your child is healthy, there is no reason to stay away from church services even when they are new born. Just step out if they get too fussy for a couple of minutes so as not to disrupt the others; but keeping your routines and social and spiritual outlets is important to you and your little one.

Mary - posted on 09/14/2010

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We took our newborn daughter to church services. Mostly she just slept through the service, or we sat in the back where I could cover up, be discrete, and nurse her. Churches are usually very welcoming of growing families. And if they don't have a nursery where you can sneak away to, pastors usually have no complaints when there is a fussy child in the back row :-)

Amy - posted on 09/14/2010

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The younger you bring them the better they adapt. My parents brought both my sister and I since we were newborns. We brought my son since he was born as well. As he got more active we just make sure we are on an isle and can move to the "family" area if he gets too bad. The last time we brought him to church I actually took him for a walk and we would join the service during the singing. Just be mindful of others, if your child starts to get loud have ways to quiet him/her down or take them to a different room.

Sharon - posted on 09/14/2010

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There is no such thing as too young, since the bible says to bring up a child in the way they should go, and they will not depart from it. You take them right away, and begin to teach them how to act and behave in a church setting, and they will be fine when they get older. My children went to church from the womb on! lol:-) They grow up learning how to act, and you don't have to try and teach them later because they have not been going.

Christie - posted on 09/14/2010

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Its never to young to take a child to service..most churches have areas for new mothers to feed and change as well what better place to start a childs life but in church with parents...your planting a good seed early that one day will blossom into something beautiful

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I took my infant with me to church. I always sit in the back so I have easy access to get out if and when I need it. My girls didn't sit long at about a year and a half old so I sat in the back for a long time. Our church services are about an hour and my youngest is almost 3. She still has problems with her attention lasting that long but she is about to go to the sunday school with her sisters. A lot of churches will take babies in the sunday school/daycare area as well so feel free to ask about that option. They have fun, maybe learn something, and you get to enjoy the service more and socialize a bit. Just a thought and suggestion.
Good luck and god bless

Kenisha - posted on 09/14/2010

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There is no age limit when it comes to praising! I don't think people would say anything if your child gets too "loud" and if it gets to a point where you think its out of hand, you can always get up and walk outside or somewhere in the church. I've noticed at my church when someone's child begins to get loud they distract them with a toy or snack. My little man is only 9 weeks but when he gets too fussy I just give him his binky and he falls asleep or I get up and walk around for a minute or two.

Susan - posted on 09/13/2010

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We started taking our daughter around 3 weeks and she would sit in her infant carrier in the pew and usually sleep. If she started making noise, we'd usually give her a bottle and that would quiet her. Our service is only an hour so usually she'd just sleep through it. As she got older, she didn't sleep as much and around 4 months we started putting her in the nursery. I think that's a fabulous way for her to interact with other children (she doesn't go to day care or any other play group) and it gives my husband and me some peaceful alone time in church. Even if she was quiet in church, we were always a little uncomfortable and distracted wondering if she would make noise or wake up or whatever. She's now 2 and I don't think she'd sit still in the pew and it would be distracting to other people and she's happy playing in the nursery anyway so it works out for all of us.

Lenka - posted on 09/12/2010

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I took my little one at 10 days old (she was born just before easter). In early months she often slept all the way through...later on we had a few episodes where she would scream, wriggle, or otherwise disrupt my "worship focus", if not that of those around her. People were generally understanding when this happened. Now (at 2 1/2) she is engaged enough to sing along with a couple of simple songs, and to ask interesting questions (for example, "Why did Jesus break the bread?" or "What is that guy (the pastor) talking about?"). Most churches are rapt to have little ones coming in, and will be pretty forgiving (you would hope) if your baby disrupts.

Vonda - posted on 09/12/2010

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No, Any priest, pastor and congregation would rather to have you and child in church rather than have you stay at home. Christ said suffer the little children to come unto me and forbid them not. People may be annoyed if the baby cries or so but they will know that the church has to get babies so it will grow in membership.

Angela - posted on 09/12/2010

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We bring our 2 year-old to church with us, but because she wants to be up and running around, she goes to the nursery during the service (we attend a "family friendly" service so if she is up running around and making noise, it's completely OK and expected). Once our 2nd arrives in November, she'll be coming into the service with us until she becomes mobile. Then she can go to the nursery with her sister :)

Jennifer - posted on 09/11/2010

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It's so much easier to bring them to church as an infant than a toddler. Once they can start crawling & don't want to sit for periods of time, it's very hard to not disrupt the service. I have a 2 1/2 year old & we've only been to church a handful of times. As they get older & can color & read books & learn to stay quiet while service is in progress, I think that's when to start bringing them to service on more of a regular basis.

Sasha - posted on 09/10/2010

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I started taking my son to church at 2 months and he slpet most of the time. I think that the younger you expose a baby to church and to the congregation he or she will grow with the officiants and the rest of the congregation and learn how to behave as they get older. My son loves when the choir plays the hymns he dances.

Becky - posted on 09/10/2010

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it's never too young! (just make sure you're okay about exposing your LO to curious people wanting to touch and hold baby being so young!)

my son was 4 weeks teh first time we brought him. we've taken him just about every sunday... he is 21 weeks (5 months) now! my church has a nursery i can take him to if he gets fussy or if i want him to spend time in there during the service). he does great. if he starts getting fussy i'll just take him out of the room for a couple of minutes and then bring him back. no one minds a bit. htey just smile because they love babies!

Amanda - posted on 09/10/2010

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Not sure if you're concerned about whether the baby will distract the other church members or whether it's okay to expose your little one to all those people (and their germs), but for what it's worth, I took all three of mine to church at two weeks old... I just kept a bottle of hand sanitizer with me because people love to touch new babies. Almost without exception, people would see the bottle and sanitize before touching. And in my experience, most decent people understand that babies sometimes cry and make other little noises, and they are very tolerant. I would just slip out if your little one starts to have a complete meltdown, though.

Tina - posted on 09/09/2010

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My daughter is 9 years old, and one Sunday she and her girlfriend went out in the morning, I assumed to play at the park, only to find out later that they took themselves to church. I was so impressed with them! I'm not a regular attendee, but my daughter loves going. I let her decide on her own about going or not going, though we have decided that she is not allowed to be baptized until she is 12 years old and better able to decide for herself what she would like to do, as this is a decision that affects her entire life.

Carys - posted on 09/09/2010

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I took my son from 2months, and to be honest. I think that he found the calmness and peace very appealing. He still enjoys going, and adores the singing. When he comes home, he walks around the house with his wooden sword upside down, singing, as if he was carrying the Cross in church.
I'd say go for it

Starr - posted on 09/08/2010

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take your baby as soon as you are ready! Most people will encourage you to bring them. We have a quiet room in our church so if the baby gets too loud we can take them in and still see and hear the service but noone can hear us.

Kristi - posted on 09/08/2010

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I can't imagine not being able to take a baby to church. Many churches have nursery services. Many other churches at least have a "cry-room" where parents can take fussy babies to be able to still hear the service while not disturbing other parishioners. My daughter was at church when she was 4 days old. It's never too young. It's church.

Maria - posted on 09/08/2010

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dont worry u can just take him with u as along as its comfartable for both of u

Ries - posted on 09/07/2010

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for our fourth, I gave birth at home on a friday at 12, and was in church sun morn. the fifth was born on a tues from memory and the sixth, well i was recording a worship song during labour as the funeral was obviously going to be not possible 10 hours later. that's where I drew the line... (LOL) birth and death belong in the church as we are all doing life together, or should be. Using a sling has made life easier in church, and people have even asked when was I having the baby, while he was in there sleeping! it's only around 6 months that we usually have to leave for some reason, our church has a glassed baby room to one side with privacy feeding space. but often I just move to the back and rock which ever one is needing to settle, saying that, we always leave for the baby room if the baby or toddler is noisy, as it distracts the preacher a lot, especially if they are a guest speaker. I think its about two way courtesy. picking an easy exit is also important, with pram access/egress if you are using it so you can move out without too much disturbance. good luck, and hopefully your church is family friendly... God is!

Alison - posted on 09/07/2010

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My baby was 6 days old when I took her to church. So I'm gonna say, she's not too young in my opinion.

I think it is wise to avoid such a setting for the first month or so to protect her from all the germs. But if you are ready, go for it! Please!

Jill - posted on 09/07/2010

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The first time I took my newborn to church with me, i was so nervous when she cried. I apologized to my pastor after the services and he said "we like to hear a baby cried, in means new life in the church to worship." I never really thought of it that way!!

Alice - posted on 09/06/2010

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Nikki,
I think everyone is right here, it depends on the church. I've always looked for and found a church where my little ones are allowed. My girls are well-behaved and will sit and either draw or listen or play quietly. The baby, of course, sometimes makes noises and such, but they don't mind that. The pastor actually likes it because he'll "interpret" her babbles to help with his message lol! We just go to a very family-style church and so this isn't a problem. I even bring a big snuggle blanket and when the babies were really little, I would feed them if they were hungry (no one knew what I was doing except for some of the older ladies who took it as normal to "take care of that baby!")
Find out what your church allows. If your baby's occasional noises would bother them, they usually will tell you.

Tiffany - posted on 09/06/2010

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I don't see nothing wrong with it! I took my babygirl to church when she was only 1 month.

Claire - posted on 09/06/2010

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No you take your baby no matter what age. God wants us all in his house from the day we are concived.GOD welcomes his children at all ages so go one be brave and remember you are in Gods house so it does not matter if the baby cries or not you have every right to be there!!!!!
good luck

Mary - posted on 09/06/2010

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My personal opintion - no that is not to young. Just be respectful if you child gets fussy. I think it is great that people bring their babies to church. It is very hard to listen if the baby is being fussy. Again just my personal opintion.

Alesha - posted on 09/05/2010

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my daughter was about 4 months...your child is still young and sleeps alot im sure so he or she would be fine...and most churches have an area u can sit in that isnt in the main area so if your child does cry it wont disturb anyone or also so the loudness of the church doesnt wake baby

Jackie - posted on 09/05/2010

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I take my infant son to church with me always have always will. I do not believe that there is such a thing as exposing a child to god and church too young. Plus most churches have cry rooms for you to use! If your church does not you can ask your officiant where an appropriate place is to take your child if he/she gets fussy during service.

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