Any ideas on how to get my 4 year old son to sleep in his own room

Jemel - posted on 10/15/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My son is 4yrs. still sleeps in the middle of his dad and I. Any ideas on how to get him to sleep in his room.

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Kristina - posted on 10/19/2009

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When it came time for my kids to sleep in thier own beds I made sure that they had thier favorite stuffed animal first. I would let them have a radio in there room and let them pick what kind of music to fall asleep to. I turned it on low gave them a kiss goodnight and closed the door half way. It helped them to fall asleep and stay asleep.

Marie - posted on 10/18/2009

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My doctor put it to me in great terms. He asked if my child used a carseat. Of course I said Yes, he said does she fight to get in it? My answer,No. He said if you start from the beginning with their own bed it should be no problem, but since I did not, we have to train her. He told me to put her in her bed, it would be okay to lay and read a book with her, then tell her it's bed time. Leave the room, if she comes down stairs, tell her to go back to her room and I would be there in a moment, but not to walk her back to her room with her right away. She had to do that on her own. Go back to her room and sit for a moment and tell her it's bed time and she had to sleep in her bed. After about a week or so of this, we have made great success. Not fully there, but much better. The first night she got out of bed alot, but now it's maybe once. She is willing to walk back to her room more easily and lay herself back down.

Amber - posted on 10/17/2009

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I have a stepson (he's 5) that loves sleeping in the bed with my husband and I. My husband told Jake that if he slept in his own bed that he would go fishing with him on that following weekend. Now Jake sleeps in his own bed because it has become a tradition to go fishing every weekend.

Felecia - posted on 10/17/2009

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When you find the solution pls let me know. My 4 yr old daughter is still sleeping in bed w me. When I am just at my wits end with it I would put her in her bed thats right beside mine but then I have to hold her hand... LOL!!! The next thing I am going to do is fix her room up like she likes it and see if that helps her at all.

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do something now- mine are 5 and 7 and we are still battling this war- getting them to stay all night in their beds is a problem too- the glowing stars seem to be a hit with one of my girls- they like stick the wall and are colorful- we listen to soft music , say a prayer and read a story- I think stressin to him he is a big boy now and will be in school soon may help- good luck and if you find something that works pass it on please!

Brandi - posted on 10/16/2009

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Quoting Dede:

 I think it is a "boy" thing, because our daughter always enjoyed their own space.


I have to agree, My daughter is 10 and never had an issue with her, slept in her own bed the whole time. My son who is 5, whole different story, we put him in his own bed, sing him his song and he always comes into our bed at some time during the night or early morning. We tried putting him back and we would wait us out until we fell back asleep and climb back in....He has a night light his sleepy buddy who he brings to our bed also. I'm just hoping he outgrows it soon.

User - posted on 10/16/2009

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I would reccomend for anyone to never start letting your child sleep in the bed with you. However, I would maybe take your child to pick out their own sheets and blankets. I would make a big event out of it and hopefully that would motivate them to sleep in their own bed.

Dione - posted on 10/16/2009

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Night lights and teddy's usually do the trick..but it not so much for you, repetition and sternness are very important. he will cry, and he will sneak back into your bed, but u have to keep puttin him back in his own. try to do things with him during the day in his room to make it look or feel more safe or special to him once its bed time. something he'll look forward to...maybe glow-in-the-dark stickers on the ceiling?...

Theresa - posted on 10/16/2009

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it might tire u out but , u have to put him in his bed, maybe stay with him until he is sleep and when he shows up in ur bed keep taking him back ... offer him different rewards for sleeping in his room, make a game out of it,,, praise him praise him and praise him ... talk to him and encourage him repeatedly noyt just when it is time for bed

Denise - posted on 10/15/2009

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well my daughter is 7 and still likes sleeping in our bed. most times a night lamp helps. most children are afraid of the dark and monsters. all i did was prayed with my little girl, explain to her about the angels. that is all around her room to protect her and to fight with any monster that would try to come near her. one of us would read her a story and lie there till she falls asleep. i dont think it is fair to leave them to cry.

Dede - posted on 10/15/2009

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Honestly, we didn't do anything special to get our son out of the bed with us. We tried to lay down with him until he fell asleep and by morning he would be right back in our bed. He finally started sleeping by himself at age 7 with a night light. Even now at 8, he will come into our room and we can give him a hug for comfort, then send him back to bed. I think it is a "boy" thing, because our daughter always enjoyed their own space.

Loise - posted on 10/15/2009

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No no no,get him a bed and start now to train him,if you have an extra room the better,its challenging but do it,he will cry a few days but seeing you firm and serious he will let go

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