Anyone a working Mom and fulltime Mom? (stressed)

Erica - posted on 04/11/2012

I have 4 children. 11 yr old Special Needs Son, 5 yr old Twin Boy/Girl and a 2 1/2 yr old daughter. I work shift work so I am off 4 day, work 4 DAYS, off 4 days, work 4 NIGHTS. Before this job, I worked 2 jobs, attended college full time, pregnant with 3 kids. It was horrible and stressful. Even though I have finally graduated college, had my daughter (the 2 yr old) and I have only ONE job, I am still stressed duw to shift work and using off days to spend time with kids or hustle them to and from school, practice, and Gammies house. I wonder if it ever gets better lol!

Tammy - posted on 03/13/2012

im a single mom of two of the ages of 2 and 4 i work full time and go to school it is deffinatly stressful everyday

Gail - posted on 01/30/2012

I believe I fit in this category. I work nights then sleep during the day then function as a mom and wife until I leave for work again. My husband misses me. Thinks I should change my sleeping schedule during the day when he off.

Abby - posted on 01/26/2012

I run my own company, and I have a 4year old. Women are faced with challenges of being great moms, best executives, best cooks, best wives. But in my experience for some reason when you dont read too much into it, it just flows. You will even wonder at the end of the day how you make it. We are strong creatures. Mostly if we find motherhood stressing its not really the motherhood, there will be something hidden stressing and we take it out to the kids.

A happy mom is a happy mother and wife. Just locate whatever is actually stressing you out and deal with it. Good luck..

Tara - posted on 01/24/2012

throw in single & in school. yup! very stressed.

Jaimie - posted on 01/20/2012

Yeap, sounds crazy but a way to relieve is I plan my relief breaks, I print a calender even one with an hourly chart, and I slip in me times like 15 minute me breaks, now of course you wont get them all but hey at the end of the day if you get at least 3 or 4 in, you will feel a lot better. sort of like planning a vacation, once you have it set up, the excitment and plesure exists in knowing it's just around the corner and you have it to look forward to.

Jennifer - posted on 01/02/2012

Yes, you just described 2011 for me. Gave birth to my first baby in January, worked full time after my 3 month leave (work is super hectic and demanding), moved into a new home in July, finished my doctorate in August, plus my husband had his soccer season, lost a family member to cancer, and try my damndest to spend every waking moment with growing daughter, and two growing step children. It is stressful...we can practically rule the world. 2012 New Year resolution...find a way to work from home...

Sara - posted on 01/02/2012

Hi everyone struggling out there!!!
I am mother of 3 kids. eldest boy 9 years, younger one boy 5 year and youngest my baby girl 3 years now..I started doing PhD when she was not born so now its been 5 years i am studying along kids...My husband lives abroad..so i am alone here .
Stress comes when any of the children got sick as i am also doing full time job which i got three years before . good salary so could not say no.
But then it was not compulsion now life has become so bad i have to give finances to my kids...for everything...
Its tough sometimes very stressful but sometimes i feel myself as super woman... doing all and no complains can a man do all this with no complains hardly in our part.

What i gained is my career and work in every stressful time and what i am losing is time to give to my children.
I shall get PhD degree and a good career but will this childhood of my kids come back again.NOOOO
so thats only thing i regret otherwise its fine..They shall become more organize.
But Kids feel that Mother giving them less time bcaz of her so called important tasks....
Anyway this all from last many years has changed me i am no more asocial and jolly person...
But i feel its all fate from GOD....

Sara

Sara - posted on 01/02/2012

Hi everyone struggling out there!!!
I am mother of 3 kids. eldest boy 9 years, younger one boy 5 year and youngest my baby girl 3 years now..I started doing PhD when she was not born so now its been 5 years i am studying along kids...My husband lives abroad..so i am alone here .
Stress comes when any of the children got sick as i am also doing full time job which i got three years before . good salary so could not say no.
But then it was not compulsion now life has become so bad i have to give finances to my kids...for everything...
Its tough sometimes very stressful but sometimes i feel myself as super woman... doing all and no complains can a man do all this with no complains hardly in our part.

What i gained is my career and work in every stressful time and what i am losing is time to give to my children.
I shall get PhD degree and a good career but will this childhood of my kids come back again.NOOOO
so thats only thing i regret otherwise its fine..They shall become more organize.
But Kids feel that Mother giving them less time bcaz of her so called important tasks....
Anyway this all from last many years has changed me i am no more asocial and jolly person...
But i feel its all fate from GOD....

Sara

Julie - posted on 02/05/2009

I actually work 40+ hours, have the luxury/stress of bringing my 7 month old daughter to work with me.  I go to school at night and as soon as she goes to bed I hit the books!  My husband is in the restaraunt business and is gone most nights and never has a weekend off, so I'm just a little stressed! =)

Tina - posted on 02/05/2009

Yes both working and full time mom. Most of the world is like that now. My husband has stepped up to the plate and started helping out with either the household duties, or the childcare. Most dads are willing if you ask them in a nice way. Friends are also helpful. Just ask, and you will be surprised how many people can help.

Edkesha - posted on 02/05/2009

I currently am 8 months preggo and I dont know what Im goin to do about my job. I work full time and want to come back but I cant afford daycare on my salary. Any suggestions? What did you all do to help with child care expence when you went back to work?

Michelle - posted on 02/05/2009

Stress is my middle name!  I work full-time with 2 kids at home.  My husband travels about 60% of the month so it is a struggle to keep up but we try.  Never enough time but I have just learned to pick my battles and not stress over everything.  One day at a time...

Kende - posted on 02/05/2009

yes we are all excellent time managers..

Kende - posted on 02/05/2009

For 2 years I worked 36 hrs a week did 24 hours of clinical time (for school) and went to school 18 hours a week...and had to study...and had a 5 year old...it sucked, and i didnt sleep much, but its worth it now... you will get through it!!! my stress reliever was running, and my guilty pleasure was TV...lol It felt so good to sit down and watch 10 minutes of TV, didnt matter if it was Curious George or the news!

Kath - posted on 02/05/2009

Hi Girls. I am a mother of an almost 3 year old (2 weeks to go) and work full time in a very busy and stressful department in a public hospital (my stress isn't helped by my stupid assistant who is a waste of space). I find it quite hard to turn off after work and try to spend quality time with my son. I find the best part of the day is our walk at night around our estate to get him off to sleep (still having issues with getting him to sleep). I put on my MP3 player, strap him in and go. I find it the best way to turn off and have some time for myself. It makes my son go to bed earlier than he would like, I get some excercise and most of all have time to myself to clear my mind. I am trying for #2 and think that I won't go back to full time work after the next one as I find I miss out on 2 much. Luckily I have a fantastic mother and mother-in-law who both take him for a day a week, leaving him in day care the other three days.

Kath - posted on 02/05/2009

Hi Girls. I am a mother of an almost 3 year old (2 weeks to go) and work full time in a very busy and stressful department in a public hospital (my stress isn't helped by my stupid assistant who is a waste of space). I find it quite hard to turn off after work and try to spend quality time with my son. I find the best part of the day is our walk at night around our estate to get him off to sleep (still having issues with getting him to sleep). I put on my MP3 player, strap him in and go. I find it the best way to turn off and have some time for myself. It makes my son go to bed earlier than he would like, I get some excercise and most of all have time to myself to clear my mind. I am trying for #2 and think that I won't go back to full time work after the next one as I find I miss out on 2 much. Luckily I have a fantastic mother and mother-in-law who both take him for a day a week, leaving him in day care the other three days.

Yvette - posted on 02/04/2009

My daughter and I (she's 7) seem to have MAJOR drama over homework. She's good at math and behind in reading. She has convinced herself that she's dumb and can't do her homework. She got hysterical tonight over reading a poem! I was holding my temper for a while and then I lost it! I want to run away from home!

April - posted on 02/03/2009

Quoting Kristen:

Yes, I am always stressed out too...and now that my husband lost his job it all comes down to me:(

I am right there with you three kids, husband lost his job and just found out I am pregnant

Vanessa - posted on 02/03/2009

i feel like im stressed all the time! i work a full time 3rd shift job at a hospital.. come home at 8 am and have to take care of my 7 month old while i watch his dad sleeping away so nicely in bed!! i work, take care of a baby, clean and well i pretty much do everything! and i wonder why im stressed haha..

Kristen - posted on 02/03/2009

I work 50+ hours a week. I dont get weekends off because I am a manager at a restaurant, weekends is when i need to be there. My hubby works 3rds so there are a lot of nights im coming and hes going and the lil one (10 months) is already in bed. there are some days i dont see her for more then 24hrs, and we live in the same house. I pay all the bills,laundry,cooking, cleaning(he helps if i ask but its like pulling teeth to do it.), shopping and the middle of the night feedings if she needs it. I hate working so much but since my hubby is self employeed he cant get insurance so I HAVE TO WORK.

It sucks....

Robin - posted on 02/02/2009

I am a teacher and have a 4 year old.  Sunday nights are a little stressful.

Robin - posted on 02/02/2009

I am a teacher and a mother of a 4 year old. Sunday nights are always alittle stressful.

Gwenn - posted on 02/02/2009

I am stressed because my daughter is always sick and this pulls me from work.

Kristen - posted on 02/02/2009

Yes, I am always stressed out too...and now that my husband lost his job it all comes down to me:(

Becky - posted on 02/02/2009

Yes i work 30 hours a week (which is such a change from 40) and have a 3 year old and a soon to be 1 year old.

I would change a few things, like being at home more with my husband earning a little more (which as he has started his own plumbing business may take a while and also to have two more babies! Must be mad!

I love it all, i love my kids my husband. Just watching Jessica and Oliver fills me with pride they are always my topic of conversation.................how boring for all my friends!! lol

Carrie - posted on 02/01/2009

Yes, I have a 4 1/2 year old and a 8 month old and I am also going to school. Very stressed!

Katina - posted on 02/01/2009

Quoting Sarah:

Quoting Katina:

 God put me right where he wants me right when he wants me there so it's up to me to believe in him and let go of control!  Heck knows I'd just mess it up anyway!

Katina, 

I came here looking for some advice and you gave me exactly what I needed.  You are absolutley right, I need to give God control of my life, it will make it a whole lot easier.  Thank you!

So glad I could help :).  Amazing how God uses each of us to touch someone who needs it :)

Kristin - posted on 02/01/2009

I work 32 hours a week, like a 4/5 but spread over 5 days instead the 4 days I should be doing, so I can quit a bit earlier and pick up my kids from school and wednesday afternoon i am home. well home, driving to dance class 3 time wednesday afternoon is'nt really home, but still.. I really need my work outside, seeing other people, getting my mind of home if not, I would live on the tip of my toes ...

Tracey - posted on 02/01/2009

Yes . I work Monday - Friday 8:30 am to 5:30 pm. My life is very busy...seems like I never have enough time in a day!

Billie - posted on 02/01/2009

I'm a single Mom and had to go back to work, full time, 5 weeks after my daughter was born. It's definately a challenge.

Kirsty - posted on 02/01/2009

i have a 17 month old and a 34 month old and i work 3 full days and 2 half days it is hard work as i never see my fienace because i work from 8am till 5.30pm and my partner stats work at 4pm and dosent finish till 2am.

Cheryl - posted on 02/01/2009

This year has become so much more stressful at work. I have new hour requirements (min of 48 it was 45 and I must be at the resturant at least 8 dinner and lunch periods). How am I too see my 19 month old when he is in bed by the time I get home and I leave 3 days out of the week by 9:30 am. And in this job market it's not like I can go get a job with better hours and make the same amount. And I'm saliery so there isn't even the overtime benifit. The guilt off not being at home is stressful enough.

Jennifer - posted on 02/01/2009

HI there...

I am a fulltime mom to my 19 month old son.  I also work fulltime at a local ER.  I work 5pm-130am.  I try the best to take care of my son on very little sleep and then back to work I go.  My boyfriend got laid off about 4 weeks ago...So yes I am pretty stressed and I hate leaving my son to goto work...But I look at it has I have to work so he can have what he needs...even though it sucks...

Gina - posted on 01/31/2009

Hi,

Here i was thinking i was the only one for some silly reason i wrk well sorta part time 6 hrs a day mon to fri and my lil girl comes to wrk with me. Wow i cant believe some of you wrk 40 hr weeks thats insane and still manage to do everything.

Sarah - posted on 01/31/2009

Quoting Katina:

 God put me right where he wants me right when he wants me there so it's up to me to believe in him and let go of control!  Heck knows I'd just mess it up anyway!

Katina, 

I came here looking for some advice and you gave me exactly what I needed.  You are absolutley right, I need to give God control of my life, it will make it a whole lot easier.  Thank you!

Katina - posted on 01/31/2009

Definately.  Work full time (threatened with layoffs right now - won't know until mid-march if I have a job), have 2 kids (Cody 11 1/2 and Hannah 9), taking 2 classes and am involved in the children's ministry at our church.  My husband works nights which means we see each other about 2 hours a day if we're lucky.  I used to have trouble with him not stepping in and helping until I lost it one day and let him have it.  He knows that if I'm overstressed than it hits him in a spot he doesn't like too much.  May be messed up motives for him but I'll take it! :).  I know that the only thing that gets me through is my faith.  God put me right where he wants me right when he wants me there so it's up to me to believe in him and let go of control!  Heck knows I'd just mess it up anyway!

Sharon - posted on 01/31/2009

Yep full time working single mum with a teenager and toddler, feel really lucky if i do less than 50 hours.House is a mess,garden is a jungle andf im often in bed before my children.

Charmaine - posted on 01/31/2009

Oh yeah, I work fulltime night shifts.  Doing both can be challenging but with the help of an excellent husband and a good nanny it is very doable. I get to spend time with the little guy in the daytime and go to work when he is asleep. Works very well so far. 

I plan ahead and make all his baby food once a week then freeze in serving size portions. He has also made to conversion from breastm milk to formula.

So far our system works well.

Nikki - posted on 01/31/2009

Quoting Paula:

Anyone a working Mom and fulltime Mom? (stressed)

Oh yes and its so hard mothers that have to do this. I have 3 children 6, 2 & 1. There is 11 and a half month between my two youngest. I get up in a morning do 2 or 3 loads of washing, breakfasts, housework and get everyone dressed then leave the house around 8:20am to drop the two youngest off to the minder and my eldest at school and then its straight to work.

In October I was offered a position as Manager meaning more stress and more work (on a positive note more money) I normally dont get in the house until after 7pm. My husband leaves for work everyday at 7:45am and doesnt return until after 7pm and he also works weekends which causes so many arguments because we never get time together. The time you get home from work and try to get turned around its time for bed at which point im so stressed I cant sleep.

I get very little help around the house and never get time to myself.

We dont have any babysitters so you cant ever make plans to go out.

My children can make an immaculate house turn into a pig sty in 0.6 seconds and its so hard to try and keep on top of everything.

I just keep reminding myself life wont be like this forever they are starting to get older and more independant so fingers crossed this time next year I might get a chance of a lie in or even a relaxing bath.

Oh and well done to all mothers out there like me because it is very difficult to juggle a family and work.

Alice - posted on 01/30/2009

I work full-time, about 60 hours per week, and once I get home, I'm full-time on duty as mom. I have 2-year-old twin boys. My kids go to daycare and my husband picks them up after work, but feeding dinner, playtime, bathing and bedtime and night time wake-ups (at least 3 times per night) are all handled by me. My husband says he needs to rest and get a good night's sleep in order to function at work. So yes, I am very stressed.

Melissa - posted on 01/30/2009

I've been back to work since my daughter was 5 weeks old (she just turned 2) and my husband works crazy hours so when I'm not at work I'm doing the cleaning, cooking, taking care of her as if I was a single mom...it sucks but I absolutely adore every second I do get with her and my husband even if it's while I'm doing the dishes half asleep :)

Sue - posted on 01/30/2009

both my husband and i work fulltime and we have different days off...i get home and hope to have dinner on the table by 7pm, spend and hr with the kids and then it's bath and bedtime....after the kids are in bed, i make lunches for the next day, check homework and then hopefully have an hr with the husband (unless he is already in bed) until it's shower and bed....the next day is the same routine again.  it helps to have a day off during the week so while the kids are at school i can get housework, groceries and finances done plus it's the one time i can actually prepare a really nice meal and stock up on baked goods.  since my husband and i don't have a lot of time together, it makes us appreciate each other more when we do have the time.......we have two boys ages 3 and 6 plus our dog who is just like another baby..

Denise - posted on 01/30/2009

I work full time nightshift and have a 3 yr and 1 yr old, My house is a mess all the time!! Definitely stress, but totally worth it.

Conny - posted on 01/30/2009

I have worked full time the first six months but then realized it was too much for me. Too much stress and the broken nights also resulted in being more sick (cold, flu...). Then I decided to work part time (4 days a week). And this is better for me: less stress, more time for myself and my son.

Amy - posted on 01/30/2009

i work full time and i have a 15 year old and a 6 year old at home! both girls. tell me that isnt stress!!! it is very hard sometimes to deal with, thank god for facebook! its my only relief!

Leah - posted on 01/30/2009

I work 40-50hours a week and also a fulltime mom! Just like everyone else here you deal with it. I have a 3 and 2 yr. old....My husband never use to help me...We would argue all the time about him not helping out around the house or with the kids. Well he just lost his job to cut backs. Now instead of our kids going to daycare....HE watches them! I am still stressed and now he is too!

Stacey - posted on 01/30/2009

I work 40 hours per week and have a 5 year old.  I am very lucky since 3 years ago, I found a job about 15 minutes from my home, so that greatly helped out with my stress.  Plus, I think it is important to be happy in your job. Plus my husband usually makes dinner since he gets home earlier than I do.  We try to split the jobs around the house which is good.

Alexander - posted on 01/30/2009

Quoting Alicia:

Quoting Michelle:

Yup, I work full time and have a 5 year old. My husband does absolutely nothing to help so I am basically a single parent. It's hard and it sucks

Michelle!!!

 

I hear you! I HAVE to work to pay bills and my fiance is out at 4am an not back till after 6 then its "his time"

I do all the running around for our 15month old, feeds, cleaning and yeah it does suck.

The reward however comes when he does something new like ride his bike forwards for the first time :) I think we all struggle, but we do it for a reason... our kids!

Peggy - posted on 01/30/2009

Hi Tracey,

I will tell you that I have walked in your shoes.  I now have a 18yr old, 15 yr. old, & a 5yr old.  What I do now for a living I wish I would of known with my older two children.  I work from home and book home shows and personal consulting.  All I can say is that first, I absolutely love what I do and the people I work with who alot of the times become my close friends.  Look me up on FB and see my network.  Contact me if you want to share in my new found life.  I make more now then I did working full-time and for alot less hours!  Pmcmona@aol.com