Anyone a working Mom and fulltime Mom? (stressed)

Kim - posted on 01/30/2009

Ok...your post just put things more into perspective for me at least...I am very lucky!  We're all going through stresses and hard times, but I am very grateful that I see my daughters every day!  I hope things change for you so that you have that in your life too!!!  As dedicated to your family as you are, I hope you can find another line of work that lets you feel the "normal" daily stresses of parenting.  Your comments have definitely affected me...I wish you all the best and I hope you are safe at your job!!!

Molien - posted on 01/30/2009

I've just read all your comments above and envy you all for being lucky enough to see your children every day at least. I am a mother of 2. One is turning 8 the other turning 6 years old this year. :-)

I work on a mine site 6wks on -12hours everyday & 2 weeks off and so I get to see my children after every 6 weeks and get to spend about 14 days with them before I fly out again. Those times are VERY PRECIOUS! :-)

I'm greatful that I have understanding parents who are my children's guardians while I am away.

Tara - posted on 01/29/2009

I work full time and have a 6 year old and a 16 month old. I'm wicked stressed 99% of the time... My job has me working past when my babies go to bed... that's about the only thing I would change about the whole situation. I like putting them to bed at night.

Kim - posted on 01/29/2009

So true!!!  Kids only want your time...they don't care about Good Housekeeping, gourmet meals or expensive things/events.  Have a routine, order a pizza, and blow the dust bunnies out of the way!  It's the only way I survive too!!!

April - posted on 01/29/2009

advice.... take it if you want. I work full time have 3 boys 10, 5, and 18 months, i work nights. It's not worth it to try to be there perfect housewife/mom, the house doesn't have to be spotless for your kids to be happy and healthy and my biggest motto is "pick you battles" if my 5 year old doesn't want to wear socks so be it, his feet will be the ones getting cold just remind him of that. If i end up taking my preschooler to school with his brother in pj's oh well life is not threatened. I would rather spend time playng games and reading to my kids then make sure my floor is spotless, good luck!

Sara - posted on 01/29/2009

I work full time and have a 7 year old and 3 year old who just finished potty training.....

Susan - posted on 01/29/2009

Hi, I too am a full time working Mom, as well as a single Mom for over 10 yrs. I have 2 boys. I get stressed, not as often as I used to, but it still happens! that is why I make time for myself and took up hiking! clears the head, thats for sure!

Kathy - posted on 01/29/2009

Yup...have been for the last 14 years! The kids are older now so it is getting easier. I've always worked nights so I can be home when they get home from school and have supper with them. Had a sitter awhile ago who spent the night while I was at work( an older woman) Good luck!

Gina - posted on 01/28/2009

Yup!! always exhausted. I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 7 month old and am a full-time teacher. Fortunately, my husband is a huge help, but I still feel like I don't have a moment to myself between 5:30 am and 8:30 pm

Yvonne - posted on 01/28/2009

Lisa

wow you are truly a blessing.. your destiny is not yet completed.. and yes we must stop and "smell" the roses... enjoy life and your family because no one last forever.

Lisa - posted on 01/28/2009

Oh yeah. It's tough and I really never have much time for myself. I have a 5 year old and 3 year old. They keep me busy. I actually had a heart attack 3 months ago and boy have I learned to take every moment I can with my kids and husband. We have to remember, they all grow up too fast so let's enjoy them while we can.

Carissa - posted on 01/28/2009

Just try to make the most out of it but juggling a husband, work, kid, and trying to find time for yourself can be hard. I deal with it everyday. It feels like Im beeing pulled a million different directions.

Jane - posted on 01/28/2009

I work full time, leaving the house at 6.50am and returning around 6.45pm! I also have to go away with my job at times, often bring work home, plus I have a 9 year old with Developmental Co-ordination Disorder, and I'm a single mum in a good, but still new, relationship with someone who lives 25 miles away! I do not, nor have I ever had, a penny in maintenance from my son's father (we split up when my son was 12 weeks old) and have had no physical contact since my son was 16 months old. Stress is a way of life for me!

I am so grateful to my own mum who looks after my son when I'm at work, gives him breakfast, takes him to school, picks him up, gives him his dinner and helps him with homework (unless he has some at the weekend when I help). In addition to all that she also cleans my house twice a week so I don't have to worry about that - just do the cooking and laundry, etc. Without her, I'd never cope!

Alicia - posted on 01/28/2009

Quoting Michelle:

Yup, I work full time and have a 5 year old. My husband does absolutely nothing to help so I am basically a single parent. It's hard and it sucks

Michelle!!!

I hear you! I HAVE to work to pay bills and my fiance is out at 4am an not back till after 6 then its "his time"

I do all the running around for our 15month old, feeds, cleaning and yeah it does suck.

The reward however comes when he does something new like ride his bike forwards for the first time :) I think we all struggle, but we do it for a reason... our kids!

Chrissy - posted on 01/28/2009

It is pretty stressfull.  Am a fulltime working mom and i have an hour commute to and from work.  My daughter stays with my sister during the day and by the time we get home she is passed out if she doesnt take a nap during the day.  I sometimes take spend the day with my daughter days off of work because basically i only spend weekends with her.  As well as do all the errands, food shop, parties, etc.  weekends go to fast.....i miss my daughter a lot so sometimes i call during the day to talk to her and see what she is up to.

Chrissy - posted on 01/28/2009

It is pretty stressfull.  Am a fulltime working mom and i have an hour commute to and from work.  My daughter stays with my sister during the day and by the time we get home she is passed out if she doesnt take a nap during the day.  I sometimes take spend the day with my daughter days off of work because basically i only spend weekends with her.  As well as do all the errands, food shop, parties, etc.  weekends go to fast.....i miss my daughter a lot so sometimes i call during the day to talk to her and see what she is up to.

Chrissy - posted on 01/28/2009

It is pretty stressfull.  Am a fulltime working mom and i have an hour commute to and from work.  My daughter stays with my sister during the day and by the time we get home she is passed out if she doesnt take a nap during the day.  I sometimes take spend the day with my daughter days off of work because basically i only spend weekends with her.  As well as do all the errands, food shop, parties, etc.  weekends go to fast.....i miss my daughter a lot so sometimes i call during the day to talk to her and see what she is up to.

Brenda - posted on 01/28/2009

Oh honey..I work full-time and have my own Mary Kay business and I have 2 kids, Heather 15 years who helps a lot and Brandon, my baby is 2 years. Its called time management and it works, I have to schedule a time with everybody and everything or I wouldn't get anything done. Right now I am building up my business so I can quit my full-time JOB and be a WAHM. Don't forget momy time, u have to schedule that, try scheduling everything and see what happens...Good luck!

Yvonne - posted on 01/28/2009

I understand Michelle, I did it for years with my 3.... That is one of the reasons why I am divorced.

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2009

Yup, I work full time and have a 5 year old. My husband does absolutely nothing to help so I am basically a single parent. It's hard and it sucks

Yvonne - posted on 01/28/2009

yea I work full time and am a full time mother... just last night I had to drive my middle child and her friends to an event. go back home and then pick up my other two and take them to where they needed to be.. Then go check on my mother. After all that, I had to go and pick everybody up and dropped them off to the proper places before I could even some alone time to myself. I did all of this between the hours of 5pm and 9:30 pm.. life can get hectic but hey at least I know where all my children are.

Julie - posted on 01/28/2009

I agree wholeheartedly! I wouldn't change a thing, except maybe adding another little one to the family :-) Believe it or not!

Erin - posted on 01/28/2009

40 hours a week at work. Then the balance of my days playing taxi, sous chef, boo-boo kisser, homework checker, dish washer, laundry woman... must a go on?...could not have said it better myself Bethanie.   dont forget  lunch maker, problem solver, entertainer....

wouldnt change it for the world though.....lol

Christina - posted on 01/27/2009

I own my own business and have a  2 year old.....

Tracy - posted on 01/27/2009

Bless your heart!! They hard work will pay off in the end!!

Stephanie - posted on 01/27/2009

I'm taking 18 hours of classes with 4 being grad ones, with 2 out of class projects, working 20 hours a week and have the little one at home. When you consider the amount of time I spend studying and doing homework its full time. Stressful is an understatement. I just have to remember to keep my priorities straight and work on time management well.

Stephanie - posted on 01/27/2009

I'm taking 18 hours of classes with 4 being grad ones, with 2 out of class projects, working 20 hours a week and have the little one at home. When you consider the amount of time I spend studying and doing homework its full time. Stressful is an understatement. I just have to remember to keep my priorities straight and work on time management well.

Tracy - posted on 01/27/2009

I think being stressed is part of being a Mom. I work full time as an Account at VA Tech, I have a 14 month old son, and I am currently take 2 Accounting classes!! Why do we pile so much on us!! I think having a routine is what makes everything at our house run smooth!

Remember to always take a few minutes to yourself and breathe! The best thing that another mom told me was your kids don't care if, the house is messy, if dinner came out of box, they just want the attention!!

Karen - posted on 01/27/2009

I am totally stressed out!  I work full-time and have a three year old.  I am studying for my real estate license test and I am training for the Avon Breast Cancer Walk in Chicago on 6/6-7/09  AND my husband acts more like a kid than an adult!  I hate my job and my boss, but I gotta keep at it the economy is too messed up right now!  If anyone cares to donate to my walk I would GREATLY appreciate it.  I need to raise $1800 for Breast Cancer before I can walk.  http://tinyurl.com/karentucci  Thanks again,  Have a good day.

Julie - posted on 01/27/2009

Yes, I'm both & I am wrapping up my Masters degree in Education...as well as being an occasional tutor. So I officially have 4 jobs. Each one is rewarding in its own special way...but stress is not one of the 'specialtys'. I make sure I at least give myself some down time, exercise, go out with friends, or plan a girl's retreat like the one I plan on taking for a weekend in February! I hope you are able to find the rewards, and alleviate a bit of the stress. :-)

Bethanie - posted on 01/27/2009

2 kids by marriage (13 and 9) 2 kids by birth (7 and 5)

40 hours a week at work. Then the balance of my days playing taxi, sous chef, boo-boo kisser, homework checker, dish washer, laundry woman... must a go on?

Oh and add in loving wife. I just try to remember that it's all worth it in the end because they are what I teach them to be.

Joanie - posted on 01/27/2009

I have worked at home for the last 7 years. I have 4 kids, and 2 of them were born in that time. Having babies at home while trying to work can be stressful! Snow days like today can also be stressful!

Tracey - posted on 01/27/2009

Always stress.  I wouk full time and have a 4 yr old and a 7 month old.