Lauren - posted on 08/04/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
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my first baby and i have to go back to work next week. does anybody have any advice on how to 'let go' and be okay with someone else watching over my little one all day while i work? is it true that because my baby is going to be with her caregiver so much that she will prefer her over me? she's only 7 months old. help! :'(
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Margaret - posted on 08/14/2012
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Give yourself and your daughter a few days to transition over to the caregiver. When my daughter started daycare at 1 year, she went for 3 hours in the morning on the first day and I was with her the whole time. The second day, I stayed with her for about 20 minutes and then I moved into another room while she interacted with a small group of kids and staff for a couple of hours. On the third morning, I went home after 10 minutes and the daycare called in the afternoon when it was time to pick her up.
For the first few months she would cry everytime I left, but this is normal and only lasted for a few minutes after I left. Soon she would walk over to her high chair at the breakfast table and tell me bye.
She's 3 now and and she gives me a hug when I drop her off and she waves from the window. When I pick her up in the afternoons I hear her scream "Mama!" as she runs up to greet me. Your child is always going to prefer you even if she has a fun time with the caregiver. There's only one mom and she knows it. Good luck! :)
Katherine - posted on 08/06/2012
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No. Try not to worry so much. If you have to go back to work, you have to go back to work. She may get somewhat attached, but she will still prefer you. I know it's hard, but you WILL get through it!
Amy - posted on 08/04/2012
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Leaving your child to return to work is one of the worst feelings in the world! I remember with both my kids crying the entire day before because I didn't want to leave them, and my husband was the one who was going to be taking care of them. Your daughter may even cry when you leave her but know that she will be ok, it's best to make goodbyes simple and quick, and try not to let her see you upset.
I highly doubt that your daughter is going to prefer her caregiver over you. Just make sure that you are taking time to spend with her when you get home. I found the crockpot to be a lifesaver because dinner was ready and I can use that extra time playing games or cuddling with my kids. Also just remember if you miss those milestones they are still a first for you the first time you see them! Good luck, it's not easy but it does get easier every day but there will be days where it's harder than others!
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