Are you unhappy in your job?

Bradi - posted on 07/21/2010 ( 279 moms have responded )

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I've been unhappy in past jobs and personally know many who currently are. A recent member of the MyWorkButterfly.com (partners with COM) community offered the most incredible advice about self-discovery... have a read and let me know your thoughts.

"How do you pursue self discovery?

You are essentially finding out what your values are, where your natural inclinations lie, where you build skills easiest and what draws you in to “want” to keep doing it. The best and easiest place to start is by making a list of all the things (not necessarily jobs) that interest you or did interest you earlier in your life. It’s not unlike planning for that 2 week vacation. You think through the things that sound interesting or fun, research them and put it on your itinerary to do. Systematically pursue each item on the list, trying each thing long enough to get beyond the roughness of trying something new. Eventually you will discover what kind of interest that item holds for you. If it doesn’t interest you, move on. But before you do, think through what aspects of it you liked and didn’t like. That learning is key to the direction you take on the following discoveries. While you are in that process, you will discover other related items I call “threads”. Let those threads go on the list and as you do that you will notice a natural expansion of new things to try. This experimentation can be trying different jobs, pastimes or education. I have seen examples of people who have made a great career and income out of building sand castles – the wisdom here is to not discount anything."

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Christiane - posted on 07/24/2010

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About six months ago I was working as an executive for a major publishing company in New York. In the beginning I fell in love with the amount of money I was making, until I taken to the emergency room and found out I had heart problems. Being that part of my salary was made on commissions I worked over 70 hours a week. I hardly had time to spend with my family. My husband had been laid-off from work and was unable to find employment, so he stayed home with our daughter who was four at the time.

I was strapped for cash and since I had a small business on the side, I worked on my business on the weekends. The company that I was working for was laying-off people left and right, but I didn't worry because of my small business.

I am currently unemployed and am working my business while looking for a job. Because I have learned how to automate my business and run it online, I now have the ability to look at other options such as returning to school.

I want to become a teacher to work with elementary children. I feel this type of job will be more fulfilling while I continue to grow my wealth and lead my team to success.

Anabelle - posted on 09/04/2011

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I am so happy and great with my job!!! so love to share it to everybody ^___^

Kelli - posted on 11/22/2010

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I'm unhappy with my job and as a new mom my priorites have shifted. I just started a small business and would like to that full time. However, with this econmony I'm not sure if it will be a wise decision to leave a steady paycheck.

Courtney - posted on 11/17/2010

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yes i hate my mangers they are very rude to me and i am at the point to quit my job but find one then quit

Cyndi - posted on 10/21/2010

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I don't like my job but I don't have much choice. I am the main 'breadwinner' in our house though in a few years my husband will have progressed in his company to the point that he will make more than I do. For now we work opposite shifts and rely on family to help with child care. I have a bachelors degree and no desire to return to school. I know what I WANT to do but I do what I HAVE to do to pay the bills and provide for my son. Home businesses are a great idea to supplement income but I don't see how that can be relied on for a main source.

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Jennifer - posted on 03/21/2012

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I really enjoy what I do, but I have in the last year discovered that I must grow on.. I have been noticing a bit of complacency and its just I have been doing this for so long that I deeply desire change. Its scary with a kid to support to step out with very little support.. but I have been taking some courses and found some new things I never knew I liked so much.. I want my son to see me pursuing my dreams and still being there to encourage and support his.. its hard to balance some days in my head. I do my best everyday and just try not to focus on the regrets of chances missed or doors closed and move ahead now. I actually did a study on a similar thing just this past winter when I was taking some classes and its changed my outlook. I am literally different inside than I was just 3 months ago.. The outside seems the same, but inside I have really come so far. Great reminder. Thank you!

Heather - posted on 03/20/2012

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I am very UNhappy in my current job...actually, career. I am doing exactly what I went to college for...and now wish I would have gone to do something else. I LOVE my co-workers...if it wasn't for them...I would be even more miserable. And I don't really think its my career choice as much as it is that I want to be home with my children...two are in school but my little guy is 9 1/2 months old. I am lucky that I can be home every evening and weekend plus all holidays (I work m-f 8-3--occasionally until 4--and I am off when school is closed). I never miss a school activity or any of their dr appts. BUT I want to be home all the time...I just have the desire to be a SAHM or at least a work from home mom...we could make it on my husbands salary alone but I fear losing one income. The what ifs take over...what if something happens to him...we have good life insurance, disability and all BUT what if...so if I could work from home and still provide income then maybe I would be happier...I just know I am not happy now...at all.

Tika - posted on 03/19/2012

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I dislike my job also...or rather I would prefer to raise my daughter than be at work. I can't even muster a smile being here because all I would rather do is raise my kid. My husband is a stay at home dad so there is no daycare worries, but it is draining being the sole provider financially. On top of it I am a shift worker, days/nights 12 hr stints, so I am definitely tired when I get home. There are times when I might spend 2 hours with my daughter the whole day. I have no idea how to balance this and it is affecting my relationship with both my husband and my daughter. Fortunately, I guess, she is only a few months old so she is ok with just her dad, but I feel like if this continues I will be working through most of her life. Ok, maybe a little melodramatic...

Tricia - posted on 03/12/2012

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Rhonda, I would love that really. I have a 4yr old daughter and a 1.5yr old son. I feel so much like my sitter knows them better than I do. I have 10 more exams and I'm done. But worried I won't be able to find a job, I've already started looking and nothing yet. I also started a website selling gifts trying to make some extra money to get my family out of the hole we are hoping I can find a good paying job and it would be the best to do it from home. Check out my website and let me know what you think about it. http://triciasdeals.com

Rhonda - posted on 03/12/2012

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I work from home as a medical coder. With a school age child, I save on daycare, and rides home from school, and I don't have to call my supervisor to get time off if he is sick at home. It offers me freedom and flexibility in my day. The flip side of that, however, is my line of work in coding can be a mundane job and there is nobody but the cat to talk to during the day and no going to lunch with co-workers. I listen to NPR and smooth jazz for entertainment.



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Stephanie - posted on 02/29/2012

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Oh no not the site, my job. I just read my comment and see how it may be confusing. I work in state government, pretty boring. I am looking to change that and start my own business pretty soon. Until then I'll be here working for the state every Monday to Friday, 8 to 5... Yikes!

Denise - posted on 02/28/2012

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Hi Stephanie, Are you unhappy on this site or at your job?

What do you do?

Carina - posted on 02/05/2012

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what type of work do you do at home? I am curious, because you sound so fullfilled...

Carina - posted on 02/04/2012

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My major concern is how to spend enough hour with my children when I am tired all the time (and cranky) for working night shift. Needless to say my husband it is not happy at all for having me away so many nights in a roll. I have requested to move to another shift but I haven't prevail yet. This make me really unhappy and I suffer everytime I am schedule to go to work, because I am feeling I am putting my family in second place, but I really need the job.... at least the income.... I believe it is time to move on and look for another job, but with this economy it is hard... any suggestions?

Gretchen - posted on 01/17/2012

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I am not unhappy in my job, but do not have the work life balance that I want. Any ideas on how to propose to my work to go part time?

Leah - posted on 01/14/2012

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i aboslutely hate my job. I have been looking for other work but i am simply not happy because i know what i want to do, i just don't know how to start.

I have found a school that offers what i want, i just am not sure i want to keep taking out loans to go to school> it would be great if i could get a Pell grant that covers the cost of school then no worries.

until then i sell Avon. just have to get the word out and get more customers to order from my site.

Kristi - posted on 01/10/2012

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Well ladies since my last post. I guess it took for me to actually read what I wrote to realize that I found myself settling when in reality I deserved better. I have since stumbled across a wonderful opportunity that allows me to be the entreprenuer that I want to be. This opportunity is global which is great for me because I love to travel and I am able to show my children new things/experiences. If anyone is interested in me sharing my new found love my job! lol I will be more than willing to clue you in. Thanks again for posting this because it made me realize that there really are not any boundaries to what you want to do except the ones that you allow yourself to make based on not stepping out on faith and taking the risk to create a better life for you and your children. Thanks again.

Loretta - posted on 01/07/2012

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i hate my job but i have no other prospects because my quallifications mean zilch to employers in england. Recession and Cut-backs are the two main employer reasons to say no to a new hire hear in the south of england. On top of that because i had socil sevice involvement in the begginning of my sons life and it took a whole year to proove that i'm a suitible mother kinnda put a big black mark next to my name so now even though i did nothing wrong and proved myself innocent im not allowd to do what i really want (nusry nurse)

User - posted on 12/31/2011

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I am unhappy with my job too. That is why I am working on my home business, so that I soon work from home full time.

User - posted on 12/30/2011

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I hear ya Christine Jones...somedays it's hard to keep it all together. Thankfully my kids are a big help. If I could only get them to clean up after themselves....

User - posted on 12/30/2011

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I hear ya Christine Jones...somedays it's hard to keep it all together. Thankfully my kids are a big help. If I could only get them to clean up after themselves....

Chantel - posted on 12/27/2011

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I dont like my job very much. I returned to full time work after my son turned one. I have not really enjoyed being back at work since then but always knew it was going to be a short term thing. I am now pregnant again and I cant wait to finish up this time around. I dont think I will come back to work after baby number 2 but I woudld be open to ideas working from home - I'm just not sure what to do!

Ashley - posted on 12/22/2011

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Tammy I do agree with you to a certain extent but I am in the service industry. I clean people's dirty clothes for a living. So I don't believe my not liking this job is hurting anyone. My customer service skills are still intact. Now if I were some type of caregiver and hated my job it would be a different story.

Tammy - posted on 12/21/2011

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Denise - What do you do for your WAH job? I am not a tupperware or Avon type person. I want to still help people to be the best that they can be. My goal is to help women to be healthy and happy before, during and after their pregnancy and to decrease the possibility of suffering from gestational diabetes. I am NOT a nutritionist, but I am a social worker, and I think that if you as a woman feel supported and heard than that is half the battle.

Tammy - posted on 12/21/2011

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Ashley I agree sometime you do have to put a smile on your face and "suck it up", however I truly believe that if you are not happy with your job, those that you are helping are the ones that suffer as you give up and don't put your whole heart into the job.

Ashley - posted on 12/21/2011

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I hate my job but am thankful to have it. I work full time by myself for 6-7 hours a day 6 days a week every week. Only Sunday's off. I have missed out on things with my children because of not having the option to have a day off (even if I could afford it). It's a bummer... But I keep telling myself one day I won't have to be here anymore, hubby will finally finish school and I can start looking for a fulfilling job that will love. Until then..well sometimes you just have to put a smile on your face and suck it up.

Denise - posted on 12/15/2011

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I love my job because I get to work at home and set my own hours around my kids schedule and I get to help people change their lives.... but before having kids I loved my job also. I used to be working in warehousing and I loved it. When you love what you do, it just isn't really a job. I have been fortunate for that in my life. I feel for you ladies who hate your jobs but are stuck because of this economy. BIG HUGS

Tanisha - posted on 12/13/2011

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I replied to this post long ago but, I finally moved and left my job. It was the best thing I ever did! Now I work at Zingerman's in Ann Arbor MI and I love it so much.

Anna - posted on 12/12/2011

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I hate my job completely, I've been told it's a personality conflict with a co worker. Well I've never seen someone tell a GM to F... Off and get away with it. The entire office knows what type of day she is having and she still get away with it the cursing and stomping around acting like a complete idiot. I'm out as soon as I can.

Kathy - posted on 12/12/2011

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I love the kids I work with, but I hardly get paid anything and I have no benefits.

Kristy - posted on 12/06/2011

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Is there another job that may make you happier? Have you checked into work from home options?

Kristi - posted on 11/29/2011

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i believe I am starting to suffer from that greatly. I used to love the job that I am in but as the days progress I find that I am loosing passion more and more for the job. At this point I feel like I have reached that cross roads where its either like it or leave it but as a single mother i don't have that as an option. I believe that the what began my change of feelings is when I was told subliminally that I could possibly not be smart enough but I have graduated top of my class in my associates and bachelors degree. I don't know I kind of think that it was probably at that moment it threw the towel in for me without me realizing how it would affect me down the line.

Ebony - posted on 11/10/2011

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YES INDEED. The thing is, I've been at my job for more than 6 years, and I like the people I work with, I get along well with my boss, and my job is actually easy to me, but I am so bored! I work with numbers on a daily basis, when my true passion is writing and the English language. Now that I've finally become fed up, I've started following my heart and dreams, to becoming a full-time writer and eventually making that my sole income. This year, I self-published my first poetry book; I've begun freelance writing for a business and event website, and I also started the application process to return to college for my English/Journalism degree. I say all that to say, if you're unhappy in your current situation, start taking steps towards finding your true happiness :)

Patrice - posted on 11/03/2011

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I love this post and I also love my career. I get to work from home around my family's schedule. This has enable me to bring in extra income, while still being here for my family. Couldn't ask for anything better. Wouldn't change it for the world.

Tammy - posted on 10/26/2011

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I continue to work, and although I love my job there are many aspects of it that I do not care for. Let's just say there are some people who are less than approachable and make doing my job that much more difficult. I would love to work from home, but am scared to say the least. I would love to be able to be there for my children and not answer to any boss and make a good strong income. Better than what I am making now. I have had a wonderful response from some of you with regards to the working at home, but would love to hear what others are doing as an at home job and how you found it to be legit.

Jenny - posted on 10/26/2011

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I absolutely love my job. I am the head MA in a pediatric clinic. I run and am in charge of both front and back clinic duties. Being only 23, I am also very proud to be at the position I am at right now. It's a lot to handle, especially being 8 months pregnant, but I love it. I think it definitely helps that I have an amazing and very respectable boss. He understands that I have a 5 year old who at times needs me for certain reasons (sick at school, running late because of attitudes, etc) and have to be the main parent as my husband is deployed until April. My boss and I are on the same level when it comes to duties and communication. His wife, at one point, picked my daughter up from school on Monday's because I was unable to. Don't be fooled though, I am extremely hard working and have high standards in my clinic and expect my MA's to have high standards as well, but having that caring and great boss helps tremendously. He has even told my husband, before deploying, to call the office every chance he gets and talk to me so I can take a breather and talk to him one-on-one and not have work on my mind 24/7. Before getting this job, I was unemployed for a while. I worked 3 jobs to pay for my college tuition and when I graduated, I tried desperately to look for a job. It took me almost a year to find a job I loved. I found side jobs that paid extremely well, but I was soo unhappy, and my husband could tell. Thankfully, I so happened to run into my professor from college who told me about a job opening. I went for an interview and was later called that night to start working the next day. I am extremely blessed to be at the job I am at now.

Sarah - posted on 10/19/2011

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What about the people who hate their job but husbands are unemployed and have no option but to stay in the job they hate and keep being super stressed out? (And by the way since im married..can't get housing loans so i can go to school) I would gladly quit my job..but see..in the small town i live in ...NO WHERE (not even mcdonalds or walmart) is hiring. It took me TEN months to find a job. So do i keep being miserable and stressed out to make the money i need.. or do i quit my job, only get $450 from TANF money from the state (and btw cost of rent here is from 600-900 for a 2 bd.) and risk getting evicted from my house?

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Christa - posted on 09/27/2011

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I am a WAHM. I have five children between the ages of 3-12 and I love my job. It provides me a reliable income yet I have the time freedom that I NEED to be home with my kids. It took me a long time to find the perfect opportunity for me....but once I found it.....I knew I had found it. It brings me great passion about what I'm doing and it makes me feel like a better wife and mother. Love my job.

Lisa - posted on 09/18/2011

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how do you become a freelance writer? I love to write. I have a masters degree in social work

Lisa - posted on 09/18/2011

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I had a similar situation happen to me. The bitterness is a process. Today I also make half the pay I was making, underemployed. I believe in Karma and I to enjoyed what I was doing. Currently looking to work from my home tired of the drive and the politics of co-workers. I wish you the best and I believe there is a reason for everything. Those who dish out will get a healthy serving back! Don't let people with the wrong motivations take you down.

Lisa - posted on 09/18/2011

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