Asperger's

Janine - posted on 07/03/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi, I have a 21 year old son, who I think has Asperger's or social anxiety. He hasn't had any friends for about 3 years now. He's angry and alone a lot. He's going to college and doing real good. I tried talking to him many times and told him I think he needs help. He won't get help. I'm constantly worried about him. My husband plays this down and he won't talk to him about the subject. I don't know where to turn for help. Does anybody know what I can do?

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Janine - posted on 07/09/2016

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Hello, thank you for all the feed back and forgot to mention that I feel he might hurt himself. I know he's an adult and I can't force him. I just feel helpless. I just want to save him.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/09/2016

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Apparently you forgot that this "child" is 21, and a full, legal ADULT.

you cannot force anything. You've stated "he won't get help". YOU CANNOT FORCE HIM. He has to make that decision.

Ev - posted on 07/08/2016

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Have you ladies forgotten something? This son is a 21 year old adult. By you making a doctor's appointment to speak on his issues is really not your place to do so. As an adult he is allowed to make these choices on his own and it is a privacy thing in the health/medical field. A doctor is not going to talk to you about his case unless your son gives you permission to do so.

Elaine - posted on 07/06/2016

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So thankful that you are making a doctor's appointment today! Hurray! This is a great first great step! Keep moving forward, you will find the help you need!

Janine - posted on 07/05/2016

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Thank you so much for the feed back. I am going to make a doctors appointment tomorrow. Thank you so much !!!!!

Elaine - posted on 07/05/2016

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I hear how hard this is, a mom is naturally connected to her child and often sees and perceives struggles that others miss. I can only imagine how hard it is to see him angry a lot and without the support and safety of friends. It is admirable that you want to give your son the tools he needs to succeed. There might be a couple of things to consider. It would probably be good to speak to his pediatrician/medical doctor first and get his/her view. There is a test that they can administer. We have to proceed with caution when diagnosing our child because we are not trained to understand all that may be involved. You might also check out this website, http://www.ninds.nih.gov/disorders/autis... which has lots of excellent information and resources related to Asperger's. Perhaps after reading it, you can write down your concerns about your son and then speak to your son's doctor and/or professionals who are trained in this area. Your husband is probably just as concerned as you are but sad that his son is struggling. He may not know how to deal with it, so he is silent. As you get help from others, you may be better able to support each other and respond to your son's needs. Wishing you the best.

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