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Back to work... jugeling

Casey - posted on 11/11/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So Ive been a SAHM mom for the past 3 years and just went back to work. The hours arent ideal. I go in a 3p and get home at 111:45p. I get to see my son after his morning preschool class gets out and my step kids in the morning to get them ready to go to school. Im having a hard time with this as well as the house work. I feel as though I need to be cleaning and also spending time with the kids. I clean on saterday and do laundry on sunday. I feel like Im not giving the kids and hubby enough attention but I have to work. Finances dont allow me to stay at home anymore. Im hoping the hubby will pitch in a little more with the house work.
Ive also noticed that daddy is on the computer or laying on the couch when hes home with the kids at nights. They have been getting into things that they arent supposed like tape all over the walls and TV. My Step daughter (7) got into my make up. This is kind of frustrating to me. Ive said something to him about it and Im still finding his favorite gaming sight up on the computer when i get home at night.
Im not sure how to deal with all of this. Anyone's advice is welcome. Thanks Ladies.

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Casey - posted on 11/12/2011

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Ill give it another try thanks. It just doeant make sence to me why its so hard now when he used to do suck a good job. Ive only been with him for a year. He was a single dad of 2 kids. Well still is but now we have help from eachother. Or so I thought. the deal was I was to take care of the housework and kids untill I got a job. I got a job and hes not helping like he said he would. I hope it gets better before I get done with my training and hit the floor. My job will be a little more demanding and stressful. well see.

Amy - posted on 11/11/2011

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Leave a list of specific things you want him to do. Let him know that you need him to contribute. Ask him to load the dish washer or wash the dishes from dinner. Maybe you could sort the laundry and ask him to do one load in the washer and the dryer and then the next day you could put it away so you don't spend all day Sunday missing out. You really need to sit down with him and let him know how you're feeling and try to come up with something that will work for both of you.

Lindsey - posted on 11/11/2011

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I was a sahm for almost 5 years when I had to go back to work. It is so difficult to juggle. My husband is a HUGE gamer and always playing the PS. We constantly fought about it, I would end up crying and feeling misunderstood and unappreciated.
Things got REALLY bad and I just couldn't take it anymore (and of course there were underlying issues besides the video games and lack of support). I told him to shape up or ship out. He didn't believe me, so I told him one day if he did not move out I was. He is now helping me out and we comprimise on the gaming and take turns with bedtime routine so we both have down time.
I understand you are probably not going to leave your partner because he is not helping you our with the household responsibilities, but it is about comprimise and understanding. Try and make him understand that is not just your responsibility to take financial responsibility and also it is not solely up to you to take care of the household. He has some responsibility as well.
Good luck to you!

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