Being nude around your little man

Lisa - posted on 06/24/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I didnt realise this was such issue. Nudity has never been an issue in our house and all my children have seen me and hubby nude at one point or another, these things happen when you live in a small house. In fact i think it is healthy at a young age. I am a little more modest around my eldest son now but if he does accidentially walk in on me or vise versa neither of us get embarrssed.



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Cindy - posted on 02/12/2012

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I walk around naked in front of my children all the time. I like being nude. I believe that since they have always been seeing me nude all their life it is not a problem for them.

Jennifer - posted on 07/05/2010

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We are very comfortable with nudity and having our children see us naked. THere is nothing to be ashamed of as long as you are not doing anything inappropriate. My eldest who is an 11 year old boy began to draw boundaries a few years back. He does not walk around naked or allow us to see him naked. However, he has no problem walking in on dad or myself or his younger sisters...go figure. Asking questions is a good way to learn about your body. Giving age appropriate information is a good thing. I am hoping that the openness we share clothed and other wise will continue so that our children will come to us to discuss ANY issues they may have.

Tiffany - posted on 06/24/2010

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I think it more or less depends on how you or the mother and father in general feel about it. I know for us we are around our son sometimes and we're nude. He is usually with me in the bathroom when I am getting a shower. I know he's only 8 months old right now but I think for us it won't be an issue.

I know he doesn't understand now but when he is older and has a brother or sister and I decide to breastfeed he's going to have to learn. I don't think that it's wrong to explain to a young child that boys and girls are different or that it is not necessarily a bad thing at home. If he wants to hang around his room naked go for it.

When I was growing up it was a big secret and my parents and grandparents would get angry if my male cousins and I slept in the same bed as we got older. I did not understand it then and still don't. It feels like people in my family were expecting us to grow up too fast and to me that made it happen. A lot of things I did when I was younger, such as smoking and sex, were done because I was told no. Kids are curious if my parents had explained more to me things would be different. It is my intention to be honest with my son and future children to an extention of course. If they question something tell them what you think is right. If you hide it they are going to want to know why and explore into somethings that are not in their best interest.

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Sarah - posted on 04/12/2012

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i havent had a real problem with nudity. My boys are teens to 20s now and have seen me topless and i have seen them nude on many occasions.

Misty - posted on 04/04/2012

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we walk around in undies now that our girl is 3. i still take showers with her, but her dad wont let her in when his is in with me anymore because she got curious and started chasing him around the shower tring to wash him and it made him very uneasy. we still have times where we are all running around naked. I dont see a problem with it as long as dosent bother anyone. Im sure once the kids get older ill keep my clothes on but until then im hanging on to my nudity as long as i can, it deffentily makes for less loads of laundry lol

Rosa - posted on 02/12/2012

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We waited several years to have children and it was just two of us. So for years neither one of us hardly ever wore clothes around the house because it was just us. When my son came along things changed only a bit. We try to be nude less often but it really is not a big deal at our house. When my son was about 3 he pointed and asked if I had a bum where my vagina is. Then he announced he has a peepee and mommy has a bum. So it was never an issue, for me. I just live my life and if my son asks for some privacy, he will get it. Or if he asked not to see me naked I will try to cover up more. Plus the summer here is so hot I could never wear clothes.

Allison - posted on 07/04/2010

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My son is 4 and my daughter is 2 I am teaching him that it is not right to see mum nude. But I still allow him and his sister to bathe together. I think that if your ok with it then it all Good.

Christi - posted on 07/03/2010

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I think its ok till they get to they age where they want to ask questions. My oldest son is now 6 and he started asking questions when he was 4. After that he never took a bath with me or was allowed in the bathroom with me.

Elena - posted on 07/03/2010

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We're ok with it! We take baths together and no problems. My son did say one time, mom you have poopies pointing at ladie parts, lol. I thought it was hallirious. Anyway I think if you don't make a big deal about it it is fine. Of course when they get older then maybe be more caucious or you would make it uncomfortable for them.

Serlena - posted on 07/02/2010

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I am starting to be more discreet about it. My son is 17mths and he is very touchy and so it wasn't a big deal at first and now he is learning parts of the body at school and now he is curious.

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I'm a single mom so it's just my son and I at home. He's three and I've never had a problem being undressed around him when he was younger, obviously because he wasn't aware of it. Now that he is getting older, I'm not sure how much I should let him see. It's hard when I need to take a shower and he's awake. I have to leave the bathroom door open so I can hear him and so he can come in if he needs me. Of course being three he doesn't know what privacy is and will just come in and pull the shower curtain back to talk to me. I guess one day I would like to try to talk to him about privacy but I also don't want him to feel like he is doing something wrong. I'm not sure at what age I should start talking to him about that, or even how to go about talking to him about it.

Michelle - posted on 06/27/2010

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My girls have been in the bath with me and they have seen their dad naked although we try to hid it some. They tend to want mom or dad and don't care that the door is closed between us.

I think if you teach your children right, it doesn't matter.

Meghan - posted on 06/26/2010

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I'm okay with it. I breast fed my son I should be able to walk around naked in front of him.LOL

Sylvia - posted on 06/25/2010

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I grew up in a family where everyone walked around naked, or in various states of undress, from time to time and nobody was bothered by it. Bathroom doors were rarely closed and never locked (except occasionally by accident). My mom and I started being a bit more circumspect when my little brother hit puberty and announced that he didn't want to see us naked and didn't want us to see him naked either.

DH grew up in a much less relaxed household, but he got used to my walking-around-in-whatever, not-always-closing-the-bathroom-door ways over the 5 years we were married before DD came along ... and, frankly, when you're living in a one-bedroom flat, trying to keep your child from ever seeing you naked is just plain silly. We now have a bigger flat and DD has her own bedroom, but we still don't have a lot of restrictions on who can go in what rooms or whatever. I just think it's silly, honestly -- everyone's comfort level is different, of course, but if no one's uncomfortable, why worry about it?

Tara - posted on 06/25/2010

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I was raised with parents that were very open about nudity, and my husband and I are also open with our 8 year old son. It is not as if we are strutting or acting inappropriately infront of our son even my neices. My sister and her family are also the same and not a big deal to get dressed in the same room with her kids and mine. We still allow my son and his cousins to bath together (big tub). Our mutual husbands are the exception to the rule between the adults. I have taught my son the differences between the female and male body as I would rather him get the appropriate terminology from his parents. We also respect eachother's wishes if asked for privacy and I am sure as my son gets older he and I will become more modest around the nudity thing. My 8 year old has also been taught regarding boundaries with friends/adults and have done the good/bad touch talk several times.

Kristen - posted on 06/24/2010

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I never thought about it until my son starting asking me "whats that mom" referring to "lady parts" lol. Its funny because the best way I can describe it is the ADAM AND EVE SYNDROME. I never noticed I was naked until my son pointed it out and now I feel a little self conscious. I dont think its a big deal unless you make it a big deal but I will be more careful as they get older. Thats just me.

Lindsay - posted on 06/24/2010

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i guess iwas raised the same way... and my fiances family is pretty much the same way... so i dont have to much of an issue with it

Aliska - posted on 06/24/2010

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I came from a very open family in regard to nudity and my own family is the same. I think this is normal and healthy but I'm aware that others aren't quite so open.

I have no issues with my kids seeing me naked and am often conducting conversations with them (both son and daughters) while I dress/undress. They don't seem to have too many issues with nudity themselves. I respect their privacy and don't barge in on them in the bathroom unnecessarily but if I need to go in while they are there they don't have an issue. My husband is the same way. We have two teens and an almost teen.

I like it this way and think that it helps prevent negative body image issues as we all are comfortable in our skins and comfortable with being seen by each other.

Lillie - posted on 06/24/2010

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We have always been modest about nudity. All but my daughter was stopped from coming into the restroom with me about 3. That was the age their doctor suggested. I believe it may make them too curious to early.

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