Jennifer - posted on 10/25/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )
My boy is almost 18 months old. I was lucky enough to get to stay home for the first 8 months going back to work in Jan.
He has been in daycare for 10 months now. I have had to change daycares 1 time due to cost. This current location he has been in since May.
So I trust the daycares and don't think they are doing anything wrong at all. Let me state that, I think they are good loving places that provide him with as much attention as he is going to get anywhere.
Of course when daycare started he cried everyday, and when we changed it caused a disruption. I think that is to be expected. BTW - he goes to daycare 3 days a week, 2 days with g'ma and 2 days at home
He has been in this current daycare for 6 months. Every morning for the first few months was crying. Then it seemed to get better for a while, he wasn't happy but he didn't cry every day. In August I took a trip and was able to be with him for 5 days straight. Ever since then drop in the morning has been a horrible experience.
He starts to fuss as soon as he sees the building. As a matter of fact, just a few blocks from our house he starts to watch which direction we are going. I try to give him the same routine every day. Work days he gets dressed first thing, weekends we lounge in our jammies. He is figuring out the difference so the work days he fights getting dressed.
It has gotten so bad and so emotional for us (being pregnant I am super emotional), that I finally told daddy "when you're in town you have to take him, I can't handle it". Daddy is the only one that wants the baby in daycare, I adamantly do not. the first day the baby cried so hard that daddy came home and sulked all day, I don't think he talked to me for 3 days.
How can I make this easier? I stay as long as I can to try and help him transition, try to get him engaged in toys there, I've tried bringing some breakfast from home so he has something do to right away. I have a happy face, and we sing songs, we talk about all the fun he is going to have at school. Nothing seems to work.
I am at a loss, I cry almost every morning after I drop him off. I am getting so depressed having to take him.
If I could stay home I would but after 5 miscarriages, we made financial choices (combined with the poor economy) that make it impossible, financially, to stay home. I have to make this better for my son.
Any advice from other working moms would be greatly appreciated.