Can't figure out why I went back to work!

Angela - posted on 07/11/2010

I used to love my job, when I got back after maternity leave the person who'd been covering my position temporarily tried to take over my job! Thought she was entitled to it! Ive been there for nearly 10 years and am not going to put up with some little upstart trying to muscle in on my position. The worst thign was this girl was behaving worse than my 3 yr old! She went crying to the boss (literally!) to say that she wanted my job and would leave if she didn't have it and my boss came to me asking if I could share my workload. Couldn't believe it! Told her she needed to think about things, she was trying to take work off a person with a lot of experience just to please a relief worker because she cried! I lost respect for my bosses, lost the joy from my job - have to see the upstart every day as she's the receptionist and really can't be bothered with any of it. Why do we stay? The money, that's all.

Marilyn - posted on 07/01/2010

Don't worry- it gets worse! Not really, just a little humor. I am a single mom of 2 boys that are 2 years apart to the month. I went back to school while one was 2 years and the other 2 months. Had a job, too. I was miserable thinking how much i was missing out on their time. But I am so glad i did work and go to school then, cause now they are fixing to turn 15 and 13 and are well adjusted enough so i feel comfortable leaving them home alone. They did not have everything handed to them or done for them. they learned to do things for themselves and now we have time for each other and enjoy being together. They are the most precious gifts God could have gave me. Oh, I had a lot of guilt at first, but seeing that they know work is the way to have the things you need and get a few things you want, they will be fine out there on their own someday. Hang in there and pray God opens a better door for you soon.

Michelle - posted on 06/29/2010

thanks & for sure. Its been easing up the last few days.. we'll see i guess.

Jen - posted on 06/29/2010

I totally understand, I'm not yet back at work (still on mat leave) but I hate it where I work and will also have to go back fulltime! There is a blame culture at my place and they;ve been blaming me for things because I'm not there! If I could go part time I would or I would go somewhere else, but there's not alot of jobs going at the moment :s hang on in there, they're not worth your anger!

Michelle - posted on 06/28/2010

Thanks ladies...

I just hate the place. I was working 2nd when I was pregnant it was easier because you dont have people harping down your back & riding your ass. But now Im 1st & 2nd shift.. It sucks ass. I would rather be at home with my son doing everything a mother's suppose to. I come home to see him for a short time then he goes to bed, I go to bed, I get up in the morning & he's still sleeping so I leave for work... I hate it. Im missing everything with him.. The second I get home I get the BIGGEST smile ever, it makes my day to see his little face. When I first went back, an hour of being there I was ready to quit! I told my fiance that and he sent a picture of Ethan smiling & I broke down crying, that did not help.

Hayley - posted on 06/28/2010

I would do anything to trade places!!! I gave up the job I was in- I hated it when I went back and I took the hard decision to leave. I am a full time mum and believe me the grass is not greener over here. I have had 18 months of baby talk, dirty diapers, sickness, hospital trips worry, housework, being on call 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I want to go back to work desparatly and need adult converstion. All day every day is about my little one and although yes you see the first steps, hear the first words, you really don't get much else!!! No day off either!! Its easy for me to say leave your job or cut your hours now but I know how hard jobs are to find - I had to make the decision to leave work - did I want money or did I want my sanity and health? my other friends told me that it takes about 3 months to settle back to work but I was going mental. Have you told them how you feel? Sorry but at least you have an excuse for what they are saying- you have had a baby, and your body changes....they probably just got fatter on their own......Hope it works out Michelle!!!

Stacey - posted on 06/27/2010

it is not easy to work somewhere that you are so unhappy - I hope that you can find a better job - it's hard enough being a Mom AND working but to hate your job on top of that...wishing you the best of luck

Amanda - posted on 06/27/2010

I would love to work part time or stay home also. It just isn't possible right now. However i know she is taken care of while im away and we spend lots of time together when im off.