Career or another child?

Heather - posted on 12/07/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )




1st baby is 9 month old-my dilemma is do i go 4 my career or plan my next child?

I want another baby but is it too soon?


Riya - posted on 12/11/2009




having another angel is such a blessing.. but u shud consider everything, u shuld de mentally, physically , emotionally and financially ready before trying another one. i have a 3yr old daughter right now and planning to have my next on 2012.. but whatever ur plan is, think trice and when u think ure ready go for it.. enjoy!!

Alison - posted on 12/08/2009




My trick is to fast-forward about 30 years into the future and analyse what I will consider important or what I will regret then. I find it usually makes things come clear very quickly. You probably have a lot of time ahead of you to invest in your career.

IMHO 9 months is WAY too early to start trying for #2. But some families do it and love it.


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Heather - posted on 12/11/2009




thank you gals was thinking maybe next yr for baby 2-when my 1st is 1 + 1/2! dont want 2big of a gap n career can wait a little longer if not already by then (dont really wanna miss em growin up)

Stephanie - posted on 12/09/2009




well babies are blessings and just amazing but they cant give you money so ill do your career and depending on how long it is wait to have another or if your career path is long have one once you get a yr into it or so.i hjave a 3month old and kinda want another one because babies when they are newborns are just something else.

Kim - posted on 12/09/2009




It's never too soon to have another baby! I had twins, then had another 18 months later. I got pregnant again, although it wasn't planned, at about the same time as where you are with your son. If you get the diaper stage over with now, by the time everybody's in school you'll still have years and years left to move on a career. Spreading out the kids might actually make having a career harder.

Amy - posted on 12/09/2009




find ways to make both happen. I am planning on having another child with in a year, and I am still very career focused. I think if you have a 9 month old that it's not too soon, just look at your career goals and see when you can take a few weeks of to have the baby.

Krissi - posted on 12/08/2009




Follow your heart. I remarried with 2 girls after busting my behind for several years in my profession. I bought my own home, and really excelled at what I did. When I remarried and became pregnant with my son I decided I wanted to be a Mom for a while. I work part time now- my son is almost 2 -and I started a home business. We could have a lot more than we have now (a new house and 2 moderately priced cars- a trailblazer and an expedition) but I chose to be home more. It's all about what you want. Ultimately, if you are happy in what you are doing, then the kids will be happy, too. Good luck Mama.


Trish - posted on 12/08/2009




hard .... I didn't have kids til I had established career - now they are 14 and 11 and I regret all the times I worked - or was thinking about work - They are fine - much more confident than I ever was - presumably because of all their child care experiences -and my husband says it has been good for them to learn that mum works and is happy and self fulfilled - - but if I had my time again ....more kids less work ....and if I had been pregnant when I had my last chance I was going to give up work without any hesitation..BUT I gave my kids the choice once - more Mum time and less holidays or still posted from pillar to post and few after school activities and our holdiays - they chose the latter .....

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Veronica - posted on 12/07/2009




I had two children, then started a school online for my business degree - and was pregn. with baby 3 during my school year. It sucked. I barely had time for the two i had because of all the assignments and stuff. Then i had my son mid-school -- took time off to be a mom for a bit - then started up school again - and it was just nutz -- when i was finally done - and was getting things back together, i tried out a job -- wrong again -- less sleep, more chaos, less time with family and husband -- and so i quit that.

I finally just took my time raising my children, had more children - up to 5 and I have baby number six in the oven - due apr. -- a year ago i took on a business venture from home - wasnt prepared either - didnt realize how unorganized i was in the home - so its taken me some time to get my household in order, and now i have it down pat with schedule for my family, house, and business - i hope to make this year count ;)

The schooling/working didnt work for me at that point in my life - and Im glad i just decided to be home and take care of my kids - now that they are getting older - two are in school - its easier to manage everything.

I would really look at what you have now, what you really want, and just make a decision. If you start the career and you find it to be too much right now - then wean off of it - it will always be there -- where having children is limited time. After a certain age, there are more risks involved - then menopause hits - and baby making times are over. So I guess its more or less up to you what you wish. And of course to your significant other. I do commend those mothers who do the career, family together - thats a hard job.

hope i helped, V

Ries - posted on 12/07/2009




i did both... sort of..and am still doing babies 20 yrs later! went back to nursing when 1st one was 9 months...then 4 years later our daughter...back to work and uni (music degree).. and a career change was inerrupted by baby no three... back to work, this time back in nursing and attending all the career increasing stuff, you know, not just working..and back at uni (midwifery degree) and bingo.. new hubby and baby no 4... kept going to work, had to... then I down wind-ed down career by choice to have baby five, working new hours, and now baby six... (coz times almost up)... if I could do it all again, I would say, if you plan just 2-3 kids, have them first, closer than i did, then work at carreer for yourself...and the extra income.
If you plan more kids then you will be taking any job to survive, and career aspirations will take second place over the issues with child care, kids sicknesses which never come at once... i must admit I envy the mums who have careers, kids who are 10 and 12, and get to go on holiday once a year! I have a nut house of six wonderful noisy kids (one an adult!) and no time whatso ever, and will back at work after maternity leave again (nursing)....and my time for a vacation will be in about 10 years, maybe when I am 53??? so I'm not complaining.. and hope it gave you a laugh...
basically... do what you want!!! just think through the consequences of all your choice options....
my rule of thumb, "what will you regret most if you DONT, (or can't later) do it???? "

Leslie - posted on 12/07/2009




Can you have both? I chose to stay home to have my children and have suceeded in doing a home business that brings in a career income... just a thought.

User - posted on 12/07/2009




I am curretly in exactly the same position as you right now, i keep thinking of both sides. But i have decided im going to have another baby before i focus on my career. Main reason ; I would like my children to be close together. Work can wait after all their is always work around. Im afraid if i get to far out of the nappies, sleepless nights, constant making bottles and sterilising i might end up not having another lol. But seriously ask yourself what is more important to you now? career that you will have to take a break from again when you decide to have another child or having another child now then putting in 100% at work. Good Luck whatever you decide.

Maureen - posted on 12/07/2009




Have both ! Your baby is only 9 months old so you might want to wait a bit until you plan the next one. Depends where your career is at the moment too.

And, of course it also depends on how supportive your partner is. Good luck.

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