Frenika - posted on 08/03/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )
First off, I already strongly dislike bringing my child to daycare while I go to work so that may be the root of my concerns but either way, I'll continue..
My son just turned one three weeks ago and has been going to his current daycare since February. When I drop him off in the morning, he sort of jumps into the daycare teacher's hands and loses interest in me once he is out of my grips. I don't get a smile and never a 'bye bye'. I think the daycare teacher thinks its funny because she always says while laughing 'Aww, don't do mommie like that. Tell momma bye bye' (It's just the way she says it). Well, at this daycare, they always come get him out of my arms and have been doing it since day one. It's kind of annoying because sometimes they sort of grabs him out of my arms - never forceful though - instead of waiting for him to extend his arms to be grabbed.
Last week, I dropped him off but before the lady got all the way to me, to get my son, I asked for a form to fill out about his feeding. She filled out her portion, gave me the form, then grabbed my son out of my hands. Like everyday, I said 'bye bye', tried to get a smile, and got nothing in return. I already cried my tears about our good byes (because it happens every dang day) so it doesn't really bother me that much anymore. Well, anyways, I made it to my car and realized that I forgot to ask the teacher something so I walked back in. She was still holding my son, which made me cringe a little. So, I asked her my question and got her answer. All the while, my son glanced at me once for like a second and never looked back at me. There is a window to the door of his classroom so after I left out the door I waited a while to see if he would eventually look back. He didn't. I cried my way back to the car.
Yeah, I could just put him down on the floor instead of them coming to get him but since they have been doing it since day one he is used to it. One day I tried putting him down and he screamed all the way down to the floor. I really wanted to console him, but the daycare teacher ran to him and picked him up.
Part of me feels that my son treats me like that because I leave him there everyday. Even though he is only one, he have a jealous streak. One day I was holding my godson, who is also a year old, while my husband was holding our son and our son just stared at me for atleast 3 minutes then turned his head like 'whatever' and never looked back. At home, my son is completely different - he is always by me. Where ever I go, he follows. Many say he is spoiled behind me, but I just say he loves his mommie (except at daycare, sigh). While at home, he always laughs and plays with me.
I can go on for days.. I told my husband that if one day my son refuses to come to me because he wants to stay with the day care teacher that that will be his last day at daycare.
I just wanted to vent. I need to tell them how I feel, but since I'm semi-angry about the whole situation, it may come out very rude and very disrespectful.