divorce parents

Chabuca - posted on 05/07/2012

To All the Girls,
the graduation its over!
Everything works good!
I broughMy boyfriend with me. Of course, I had my last try to make my daughter understand that i dont have a choice to just bring my boyfriend with me..and she understood..thanks God. So he didn't go to the ceremony but he enjoyed us to the reception..
I was so nervous!But everything was just fine..
My daughter was so happy, so happy! That makes me Happy!!! Too.
My ex. Was very sarcastic with me most of the time..but I ignored him..he broughtme a whiskey because he remembered that is my favoritedrink lol.that was nice of him..but I didnt understand why he was so mean..maybe because my boyfriend been there? I dont care! He told everybody that he is very happy with his wife so ? What was his problem?..in the end this two chat like they were good friends..lol..it was funny..
Also my boyfriend was very nice and gave a very good impression to everybody there,especially to my ex..and his sister and causing.
Anyways, I had a happy ending...my daugther is very happy which is the more important in the deal!..
Girls thank you so much for your advice I received from you.I really appreciated the fact that ,,u always can find somebody to help you out..thank you again my angels...:-) :-)

Faye - posted on 05/01/2012

Explain it as she was allowed just so many tickets and step mom and him are some of the ones who are out.



In 1996, my cousin's College did this when she requested 1 handicap ticket for her deaf sister. My then husband, kids and I were not allowed in the building to see her walk across the stage because they placed all the family in the handicap area. So her family (husband, parents, 2 sisters and our grandmother) were able to witness the moment. Had she not requested the ticket for her sister then we would have been able to watch. As it was I got to take a picture no one else in the family was able to. I took her picture as she walked in the reception hall.



His willing to break up with you over this small "problem", well that is just childish! There will be other times as well when she may not want him around:her wedding - she may ask her dad to walk her down the aisle. (Lord forbid!) or the birth of her children just to name a few. It sounds to me that he needs to GROW UP. His age may be early 50's BUT he is acting like a 7 year old!

Chabuca - posted on 04/27/2012

Thank you so much..now I am feel more clear about this situation..thanks again..:-)

Alexandra - posted on 04/27/2012

Your daughter is probably right that it's not the right time to start introducing your boyfriend to your family; it's her graduation and the focus should be on her. I think that all she wants is that her mum and dad will be there with her just like it used to be and just like a normal kid would want to - without 3rd parties. I don't think it's about making her dad feel bad, after all he got married right away (and I think she knows it if she of course knows and understands what happened), I think it will make her feel bad and embarrassed that her parents are not there together for her. My husband is divorced (was divorced for many years before we met) and has 4 kids from the previous marriage and 1 kid with me, and I don't even dare to come to any important event of his kids without being asked (and even then I sometimes refuse), because I don't feel comfortable - they are not my kids and I know that they just need their mum and dad there. So, I really don't understand your boyfriend. He behaves like a dog that wants to mark his territory. I think you just have to explain to him calmly that your daughter just wants you and her dad there; she just wants to be a normal kid like other kids who come with their mums and dads without second wives or boyfriends (this thing with dad will feel bad is a cover up for her feeling bad - that's what I think and that's what I would feel if I were her). If he is not ready to do it for you and your daughter, then I'm sorry to tell you, he doesn't love you enough. And mention to him, once again calmly, that you didn't like him threatening you. You love him very much but you don't deserve to be threatened and you will not put up with this behavior. If he doesn't stay then let him go he is not the one for you.

Isabel - posted on 04/27/2012

My ex and his family will meet my boyfriend for the first time..my daughter said that is not the right time for that..my daughter is so mad with me.she doesn't call me either.. I know she is hurt and so do I..I love my boyfriend and don't want he feels bad with me afterwards. He is 54 years old and he think different different ways that me.I am 42 yd and I'm a Latin with a old fashion ways..so what can I do?

Isabel - posted on 04/27/2012

Well, my daughter doesn't want my boyfriend go to her graduation because is a family reunion and plus is the first time her father and family will meet my boyfriend after we divorced.she said she wants to be comfortable and don't want her father feel bad..her father married to a opportunist couple moth after we sign for divoreced..his wife is not welcome at all because she is the reason why we divorced...in my daughters mind is the she wants to b fair.. with both..we divorced 3 years ago..so my boyfriend think that is not fair for me that my daughter has to much consider ation for her father after all..but my daughter said that I am not going to look good.what do you think?

Kelly - posted on 04/27/2012

We can't help you find the right words if you don't tell us why he is not welcome there. All you have to say is "My daughter's graduation is on --insert date--Then list the people you have tickets for and explain why he's not included.

If he breaks up with you, let him go.

Isabel - posted on 04/27/2012

thank you for your comment.. but guys help me what should I tell him and how?help me with the right words,please.I will appreciate so much for your help:-)

Alexandra - posted on 04/27/2012

Totally agree with Jeannine. If the guy threatens to break up with you when he is supposed to understand the situation and support you then something is not right here.

Isabel - posted on 04/26/2012

I guess your are right..I should talk to him honnesly.I just don't know how to start or telling him without hurting him much.

Thank you for your comment. :-)

Jeannine - posted on 04/26/2012

Well its obvious that if he wants to break up with you if he doesn't go, or that he will hate your daughter aftrr this.... You don't need him.

Isabel - posted on 04/26/2012

Tara thank you so much for your advice...its so hurt to tell him because he has a bad temper plus he will hate my daughter for this...I tried to tell him but he said he will break up with me if he doesn't go....I really don't know how to deal with this situation!?

Tara - posted on 04/26/2012

I would say be honest with him. Is he not welcome because his presence may upset your ex or your daughter? Let him know that it's about your daughter...not anyone else so make him understand that it really has nothing to do with your relationship but it has to do with what will make the day enjoyable for your daughter

Isabel - posted on 04/25/2012

How to tell my boyfriend that he is not welcome to my daughter graduation