Do you think it will be fair?

Cassandra - posted on 04/08/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband and I are going to be trying for another baby starting July, After 8-10 weeks after the baby is born I will return to work full time. I make more money for the household but do you think it's fair to the kids that I will be working full time? Should I not have another baby? Im just worried because every day I go to work my 2 year old cries for me to stay. And it makes me feel bad. I work 4 days a week.

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Samsam - posted on 04/08/2011

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i hate that it kills ,i think another baby will be difficult ,but again for the long run it will help beacuse he will have a companion .

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Louise - posted on 04/08/2011

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Children adapt to any situation so don't worry. If you feel comfortable putting your new born into full time day care then fine so be it. As long as you spend quality time with your little ones thats fine. If you are the bread winner you really do not have a choice. I think this is a very personal choice. For me personnaly I could not do this but I am in a different situation to you. We decided before we had kids that I would raise them until they went to school and I have. But if my husband lost his job I would have no choice but to go out to work.

Having another baby it totally your choice only you and your husband can decide.

Jennifer - posted on 04/08/2011

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I don't really think of it in terms of fair or unfair. I think if you feel that you aren't able to spend enough time with the child you already have, you need to sit down and really think about whether or not it's time to have another one. Maybe you'll be able to find a way to re-arrange your schedule so you are able to devote more time to your child/children.
Good luck.

Samsam - posted on 04/08/2011

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i hate that it kills ,i think another baby will be difficult ,but again for the long run it will help beacuse he will have a companion .

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