does anyone have have a child that has adhd and did they get them on the medication to help them?was

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Emy - posted on 03/31/2012

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My 7 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD back in October 2011 and his doctor started him on a low dose of Adderall. I was really really nervous cause I did NOT want to medicate my child, that's why we started with such a low dose. But I'm telling you, it was the BEST thing we ever did. It has been like night and day for him. He can focus in school now, get his homework done without a fight, he isn't getting in trouble in school anymore and the impulsiveness has gone down ten fold. But I am thinking of talking to his Ped about maybe a higher dose. But I promise you, if you are thinking of medicating your child due to ADHD, I would absolutely recommend it. But make sure you do ALL your research first and ask as many questions as your doctors appointment allows. Start with a low dose cause it might be enough for your little one. Good luck, it's probably one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make, and your not a bad mom by medicating him...like a lot of people think. That's just ridiculous. It's helping stabilize the chemicals in their brain because for some reason, the chemicals in a child brain with ADHD is all screwed up and need help. Hope I helped :)

Sonya - posted on 01/16/2010

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Please be cautious when deciding to use medication! My son was diagnosed with ADHD but not put on medication! He has been getting better since diagnosed in 2nd grade and now in 6th grade. Personally I think the diagnosis is used to freely and classroom structure need not be so rigid. It has been proven that children with ADD and ADHD often grow out of their problems as they get older but medications prevent that and then they forever have a problem. I know that some children need medicaton in cases where they can not accomplish things but if the severity of their behaviors are not impeding their progress then you may not want to use medications.

Amy - posted on 04/09/2012

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Ladies, I'm going to lock this thread since it's from 2010. If someone has a question or is looking for information from other moms feel free to start a new one!



Thanks!

Nadia - posted on 04/09/2012

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My daughter was diagnosed at 7 and we tried several meds including metadate, concerta, Ritalin and now we on adderall and it helps us a lot. Her dad is against meds till now and in complete denial, which made for me difficult to give her meds(we divorced), bcse he saing its bed and i said not. She didnt lnow what side to take and would refuse to take it or would give me problem every morning. Now when she older 9 its better, she understands that everybody opinion is for it, except just her dad. We tried without it but she couldn't concentrate at school and her grades were falling, at risk of retention. Yes meds give side effects such as loss of appetite and mood swings but if u find the right one some of the side effects not so bad. Where is no doubt in my mind that it helps. I have a friend with ADHD and she is 32 and I don't want my daughter be liked her, she can't keep relationship with boyfriend for too long, she can't find stable job and be there for years, she wants to do million different things at once and never finishes them. My friend never been on meds bcse her mom was against it. So I want my daughter be succesful in life and I will give her meds until she needs it.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/27/2012

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Dawn---



Yep, it is most definitely over diagnosed.



However, as a mother with a child that has severe ADHD I can tell you it is a REAL disorder. Does every single kid that has been diagnosed with it have it? Absolutely not.



In order for me to be certain, I brought my child to three different ADHD specialists before allowing myself to agree. My daughter does very well on medication. She has been on it since age 5 and she is now going on 14. However, I have lowered her dose drastically. She has had the time for me to help her learn methods that allow her to cope with her disorder.



In my opinion and all ADHD specialists I have had dealings with, if your child has been diagnosed BEFORE school, chances are they do NOT have ADD/ADHD. Chances are they are simply a kid. Now, if you are being made aware by teacher's, of which deal with multiple children daily for years on end. I would be seeking further advice. A teacher has a very good inclination of what children can and cannot do.



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Cheryl - posted on 04/09/2012

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My 11 year old daughter is ADHD/OCD and is on Concerta and intuniv. They have helped a great deal!

Kerri - posted on 04/06/2012

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My 14 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD since he was 6. We took him to a University once a week for 6 months to get him diagnosed. We have chosen not to give him medicine. It has been a long road with alot of different strategies. Last year was the first year that school was not a issue. He is now an A & B student and handles his grades pretty much on his own. He is starting high school this August and it will be another road to face. I have had friends who choose to put their kids on medicine and it really helps with counceling to go with it. Research and find what is best for you guys. Best of Luck.

Julie - posted on 04/04/2012

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As an adult with ADHD, I can tell you not everyone GROWS OUT OF IT. I have learned to "live with, manage, struggle, get by with MANY excuses as well as: changing diet, exercising regularly, drinking coffee, sleeping well, meditating and just knowing everything will take me TWICE as LONG in life!

The problem is this disorder is OVER diagnosed with children, so medications are NOT working. It can also mask as signs of depression and anxiety, secondary to the ADHD. Presently, the disorder is UNDER diagnosis in adults.

The lack of self worth from being unable to perform at the level they know (and you know) they are capable at is what causes the anger, lack of motivation, frustration ect...

Knowing that the vicious cycle above can be changed with medication is a HUGE relief to people like myself.

If your child is being given the opportunity to help there brain function like a "normal brain" why wouldn't you try it? I want my child to have EVERY opportunity to succeed. Part of that includes, "I tried EVERYTHING"

Julie - posted on 04/04/2012

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Try the medications, they will help at least a little bit. Start with an evaluation from a child psychiatrist who will prescribe a combination of medication, cognitive behavior therapy, and a Psychologist he can confide in.

This will give him the tools necessary to build a successful and happy life. All the best to you, it does effect the entire family, but it does not have too. Keep HOPE

Kristin - posted on 04/04/2012

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The docs keep trying to get me to put her on medicine but i have looked up all the meds they want me to try and only one of them i would allow but want to get further info on i think docs just like using kids as test objects

Sharon - posted on 04/03/2012

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My daughter has just been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD - 7 years old. I am not to happy about Ritalin/Concerta or Straterra. I have googled ALOT and these meds don't cure the child, it merely masks the problem and doesn't teach them to deal with day to day problems. So my next step is to check for allergies regarding food etc. I am also going to increase her magnesium, Vitamin B6 and Zinc intake as this seems to be proven that most kids that have ADD/ADHD lack these vitamins. I have also found the Feingold programme, where they tell you what to eliminate in the child's diet and give you some ideas of what to eat. It seems like one heck of a mission, but hoping this all works, before we need to go to the last resort of meds. Also check out Listol, I'm thinking of giving that a try. Natural product with all above vitamins in it.

Tawny - posted on 03/31/2012

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My son is almost 9 years old and in the 3rd grade.He was diagnosed when he was in 1st grade.There is a history of ADHD in my family.My son is on medication but we have to monitor him closely because his body adjusts to it.He does really well in school and all of his teachers work with him and he is sweet when he wants to be.He gets a temper when he does not get his own way.What child doesn't?But he is short tempered to begin with.We have found if we work with him and limit some stuff like sugar and video games and such he is good.Every child is different

Mandie - posted on 03/28/2012

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I was on med for a while but there is a way to retrain there brains but it depends on the age dont put them on med its really screws a kid up and they lose all there personality and teachers are just lazy and use it as an excuse not to deal with the child properly

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/28/2012

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No, they do not grow out of it, if it is true ADHD. However, they do learn hoe to live with it and methods to help them in certain situations.

Carol - posted on 03/28/2012

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I was always told they dont grow out of it, its a condition and they learn how to channel there feelings, also if children with adhd and odd if the systoms r not treated the odd can turn into a conduct disorder???????

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/28/2012

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All depends on the child. Where mine has severe ADHD, a can of soda is not going to last all day... ;)



I also disagree with "bad" foods. We do not drink soda in our home. It is FULL of sugars. It is not healthy.



I understand the weight factor with the meds. I educated my daughter on how important it is to eat, even if she did not feel hungry. She still ate, she knew her brain needed it. I made sure to provide her with all things she really liked. It worked very well. ;)

Shannon - posted on 03/27/2012

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i think if your child is young putting them on meds is dangours. my son has ocd and angzity and problly bipolor like his dad but hes only 11 there are other things you can do . my oldest daughter who is now 23 was in 3rd grade and they said she had it she was on the meds for a month she was tiny already she lost so much weight, so i took her off and if you truly have add you know what works soda or coffe the caffine works the oposit then on people that dont have it it make them calm and tired. i think there is nothing wrong with doing both conventunal medicin and holistc

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 03/27/2012

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I agree with pretty much everything you said, with the exception of the teachers always knowing. Yes there are some fabulous teachers out there that go above and beyond, but there are some out there that just want the "easy fix" as I said before, everything that comes out of their mouth is negative and they come up with no solutions except implying they are ADHD and need medication.



This is why you seek professional help thereafter, by multiple specialists in ADHD. It is what I did.



The chemicals from medication changes this natural path.



This is inaccurate. The medication creates frontal lobe mass of which is missing in a child with ADHD. It is a temporary fix, which is why with most meds, you must take it daily and it only lasts up to 12 hours. There are a few that are non-stimulants and they do build up in the system.



The very most important things to consider first are, diet (gluten free, all natural), good nights sleep, strict schedule, it's also a fact that children who have been diagnosed with ADHD are just out of control because there is no schedule at home, stick to a schedule and things calm down, and lastly, predictable parenting.



Ummm, Yes and No. Strict routine and discipline most definitely are required. Very strict. Although, I believe this to be true for any child.



My daughter is a very very good girl. I have very strict routine and discipline in my home. I do not spank, I do however have firm boundaries and consquence. My daughter has never ever been in trouble at school or elsewhere. However, it has taken a lot of patience from me. It has taken a lot of effort to work with her and not lose my patience. I always have to be thinking of her and her feelings. She is very respectful, loving and caring. I however, do not put up with any negative behaviour.



Although, she still has a very hard time following through with tasks without continued reminders. She has a hard time staying on task. She is very unfocused but very very intelligent. I do not know how she is a straight A/B student, since she can sit still long. She has a hard time with knowing other's personal boundaries but is getting much better.



It has not been easy in the least. It has been rewarding though. I can see that all the effort I have put into my ADHD child has created a very self confident, happy, bright, loving, caring, young lady. Medication helped me help her learn how to cope with her behaviour and disability. She no longer needs a heavier dose, she is now able to go below the requirement for her height and weight. It has taken 9 years of constant training, guidung, patience and hope. ;)

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I agree with pretty much everything you said, with the exception of the teachers always knowing. Yes there are some fabulous teachers out there that go above and beyond, but there are some out there that just want the "easy fix" as I said before, everything that comes out of their mouth is negative and they come up with no solutions except implying they are ADHD and need medication. They have proven to me that they don't respect the differences of children and want them all to be the same, sit down, be quiet, and lets just get though the day. I have met great teachers that don't jump to the ADHD diagnose and are positive and create positive change, those are the teachers I respect and trust. But unfortunatly, those teachers are hard to find these days. I do understand, there are cases of extreme ADHD that require medication, but in my opinion, ADHD in normal to mild cases, as I've been told by the many doctors I took my daughter to, it just seems to me, this means a normal child. Children do not pay attention to any adult, children are hyper, this is all normal, and I know things are not like they used to be back in the day, everyone is so politically correct in raising kids, they don't want to do anything that someone may look down on them about, but we need to take control of our kids. In my opinion, medication changes who they are. It is a fact that the brain of a child is not done growing and developing until the early 20's. The chemicals from medication changes this natural path. I've seen too many parents at the store, at the mall, at the park, and they cannot control their children what so ever, their children have no respect for them, we need to get back to the basics of parenting before we start just medicating our kids. And I'm so glad I didn't fall into the ADHD diagnosis before I tried many many other things. The very most important things to consider first are, diet (gluten free, all natural), good nights sleep, strict schedule, it's also a fact that children who have been diagnosed with ADHD are just out of control because there is no schedule at home, stick to a schedule and things calm down, and lastly, predictable parenting. If your child knows, there is clear and precise consequences for their actions, and you stick to it, that solves many problems. I'm not ruling out the whole ADHD thing, but I just think we need to be vigilant at looking at other options before we decide to medicate. Another solution that I tried and worked amazingly, The Total Transformation. It really worked. And we are a drug free household.

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Does it ever occur to anyone that ADHD may be severly over diagnosed? It's the "easy fix" for children that don't fit in everyones perfect little mold. What happened to us parents just dealing with our childrens differences and raising them without drugs? I do realize there are some cases out there that the drugs really did help, but far too often I hear about the horror stories of the side affects and then after the fact, oh maybe he didn't have it in the first place. I think society just wants to have cookie cutter kids in school. Back when most of us were kids, we would have all been diagnosed ADHD, but the truth is, we were just kids, kids are obnoxious, loud, they don't listen the first time they are told, this is the normal life of a normal child. And trust me, I say this from experience, my daughter was not the easiest of children, she still isn't, but when you work harder, to find what "drives" them, (and she had her tonsils out, lack of sleep mimicks the symptoms of ADHD, so they say), you help calm them. Find what they really like, and cultivate that, yes it takes a little more work as a parent, but it's worth it. Every child has a payoff, and I think most teachers just want all their kids to be medicated zombies that sit there and stair at the chalk board without being KIDS!!

Karissa - posted on 03/27/2012

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When my son was in kindergarten his teacher recommended he be evaluated for ADHD because he was disruptive in class. I brought my son to the pediatrician and relayed what the teacher had to say. Without hesitation or referral to a child psychologist, the doctor prescribed an ADHD medication. The doctor told me the only adverse side effect would be weight loss. My son's behavior at school improved practically the next day. The teacher was thrilled.

But after being on ADHD medication for about four years my son was below average in his height and weight and had developed a TIC almost immediately after being switched to a new drug because he wasn't gaining enough weight while on the first one. We finally got fed up with the dangerous side effects of these drugs and took him off. My son has been "med free" for three years. He's tall and muscular, a straight A student, and very involved in extracurricular activities.I look back and know that he never had ADHD-he was just a "little boy."

Before listening to counselors, accepting a diagnosis, or starting your child on medications I would consider your child's quality of life. Does he have friends? Does he do good in school? Is he happy? I don't know why a child like that would need meds.

As far as his comment about the famine in India-he has a rational point.

I need a fan on when I sleep too-I like the noise-it's relaxing.

My kids don't like their food to touch either.

Put him in advanced math or a science magnet program-he may flourish and be a math wiz.

Chin up mom! Study up on autism! You have to be the one to make an educated decision on what's right for your child.

Brandi - posted on 03/25/2012

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my son has ADHD but he can not take any of the meds. because he has seizures and if they put him on any of the ADHD medication then it will counteract with his seizure meds. there for make his seizures worse i hope the best with your child if you don't think that your child needs something different take him/her back to the Dr. and tell them what is different about your child since he or she is been on the ADHD meds. remember you are the parent and sometimes us mothers knows better then the doctors.

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Good luck. Just from reading other people's experiences, it seems like certain medicines are pushed first. I do believe my son is better with what he has had. He even doesn't like how he feels without his medicine. I think everyone has to take their own situation and weigh the pros and cons for your specific child and with these type of medicines, docs don't know how it's going to react every time. I understand the trial and error, even though it's frustrating, these medicines are very sensitive in how they achieve results. There can be so many variables. Just keep trying. No one wanted to believe that my step-son needed medication and my in-laws were so against it, they realize now, just how much it has helped him. I can't imagine how awful it would have been daily without anything. We do the best we can as parents and you know your child the most. I've never heard of focal, but you have me curious. Docs don't really tell us all the options and that's really frustrating.

Kristin - posted on 03/21/2012

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i have looked at all the options i have looked at all the meds that they were talking about putting her on out of 4 i would only allow 1 of them i'm not happy with the doc that wants her to be put on these meds sometime i feel doc like pushing meds specially new ones seems like they using kids as science experiments i have got alot of good responses from the med focal the rest for get it

my daughter isn't going on any of the others

Kim - posted on 03/21/2012

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Shelly...most defenatly it can be a learned behavior...Same with our daughters Bio mothers children she has now...when she is on the phone all you can hear is them screaming and yelling and throwing fits...trying to get attention, what they want etc... RAD is the same thats why I said some have so many of the same symtems...very exsplosive reactions over the silliest to major things. Doesn't matter who or what caused it, they take it out on everyone! Most children that have R.A.D. is due to either not having their needs met before 18 months of age, and/or both...Abandonment.



Your most welcome, and I hope like I said it either helps rule out or focus on the one that needs to be focused on. Its hard when you try so hard doing the best for your children and seeing it doesn't always work....leaving you concerned with the quality of life they will have once they are out of the home and independant.



Here is another link that you can search all the adhd odd Rad medications and their side effects. It could be part of the problem? http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/

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I will look at your links and I appreciate the time you took to read my post. The other mom has 2 younger kids now and has grown a lot. We've had to teach her things just as much as I'm learning, though I use common sense more often. She has told Wyatt that I am more of a mom than she has been, and she's sorry for that. The bi-polar part that we see is that she has explosive behavior when she and her husband is confronted with things she has done to Wyatt. She flips out freakishly where I had to yank Wyatt from her car she was so erratic. We hear a lot of her behavior and I'm wondering if it maybe a bit of everything. Mimicking, impulse of the ADHD, and puberty, etc. We have talked to we are blue in the face.

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My son is a step-son and my husband got the majority custody b/c his ex-wife abandoned Wyatt, my step-son. She was molested by her dad growing up and she was raised in a children's home, then adopted out. She has also been advised to take meds and therapy for bi-polar issues. She wasn't constant in Wyatt's life as a young child and I knew her b/f she had Wyatt and were friends then. His current doctor agrees that he has signs of it but it's hard to separate the fine lines. Wyatt hasn't ever been good at showing anger in the past and it's like now he's hit puberty, he acts out his frustrations or just acts on impulse. He is very loving at the same time, but it has all come down to his poor focus and care with school and just overall happiness. I'm sure he has a lot of confusion. His biological mother started competing, if you will, when I moved in. Wyatt was 6. We all have known each other for a long time. She started taking the weekends she was suppose to have but when tell him that she wouldn't come if he was acting bad. At that age and for the following yrs until the past yr or so, it has been about her. There are definite overlapping issues. At the same time, my husband says how he and his brother were very ADD/ADHD but only Ritalin was used then and his mom had a hard time.

Kim - posted on 03/21/2012

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To Shelly,



Sorry to hear what is going on but before I can say much of anything I have a couple of questions. Is your son ADOPTED or a STEP SON? So many things like Bi-Polar, R.A.D and O.D.D.. have simular behavior problems.



Here is a good read on O.D.D. with additional links that can give information for other problems such as depression http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Children+w...§ion=Facts+for+Families



If you have a child with R.A.D Nancy Thomas is awesome on how to heal these children, she also has camps to work with the parents and children...here is her website http://www.attachment.org/pages_nancy.ph...

We have a daughter with R.A.D. My husbands bio daughter that he had with a previous girlfriend when he was a minor. She had moved away..... across the state and he had no idea where she was. The bio mother was living with a new boyfriend which is (as far as I know) still in jail for abusing my husbands daughter (broken legs, arms...locked up in a room with no food or water etc.) The state took her away from her bio mother but that didn't take away the issues she got due to the abuse. She had two Cell phones (working) and decided to steal her cousins because it was a cell phone that did more then the one's she had, and she just wanted it, and wanted it now! These kids don't trust anyone, don't know how to truly recieve or give love When they get mad (usually over something that most would see as no big deal) slam things, break things yell...become very distructive! :(

This link tells you what R.A.D. is http://www.attachment.org/pages_what_is_...



I hope these will help you in someway, may it be to rule out or focus more on the one that maybe the issues your seeing in your son.



Does your son have an IEP in school and do they have him in Lab classes instead of the regular classes? If they don't, please look into it and get your son in a school that provides an IEP and Lab classes he needs!







Keep us updated, wishing you the best!

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Hi Everyone, I've been very ill myself and haven't been able to keep up on here much, but I do have a step-son that is now 12 and was diagnosed with ADHD at 6. We are having continuous issues to where I'm losing my mind and getting angry myself. It has become a very big family problem. He has been through the patches, concerta with added M something to make the medicine get in his system quicker, and now he's on vivance. I can say, he never would eat while on most of these meds until we went to vivance. The past few yrs though have been critical growing yrs and now we are at puberty FULL ON! He has grown 2 inches in 3 months and gained 15 lbs or so and in a men's 11 shoe. He is rapidly growing and the doc recently said that the medicine is fighting his metabolism. We just recently bumped up but now we may be fighting some bi-polar issues along with pre-teen crap, and ADHD. He is getting very defiant, may not pass to middle school and we are considering holding him back. He has very immature comprehension, like a 2nd or 3rd grader, and is very, very destructive. I've gotten really sick and my anxiety over this has gotten to where I resent this some days. I know as I mom we have to deal with things but it has gotten overwhelming. We are about to start family counseling and I pray it will help. He's pretty much tuned us parents out and doesn't care until after things happened. Most recently, his impulse was to steal a book from the book fair, when he actually had money to buy it. His reaction is that he wanted it right then and his expression was if nothing mattered at that moment. He just did it. How do you mom's get through this?

Heidi - posted on 03/19/2012

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yes i have a son with adhd and he is on concerta 54. he is doing very well and his grades have iimproved majorly.

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My 10 yr old son has had a wonderful response to medication. I do not give all the credit to the meds, he has worked hard and so have we as parents. Today he saw his psychiatrist who called him her "poster child" He went from Academic probation to Honor Roll. From saying, "I wanna die" to getting his black belt in Tae Kwon Do.

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Here's my story I just updated in my thread: (hope it helps a bit) we were asked if she snored, and the answer was yes. We quickly found out (not sure why the people testing her for ADHD didn't ask these questions) kids who snore, are not getting enough sleep, and lack of sleep mimics the symptoms of ADHD. Even when you put your child to bed on time, and make sure they get a good nights sleep, if they snore, they are not rested. So from this, we scheduled a sleep study and a ENT appt. Well the ENT appt came first and the doctor said right away, she has a very predominant obstruction. We remove her tonsils and she'll get a great nights sleep. I'm excited to report that it has helped TREMENDOUSLY!! Her behavior at school as improved over 100% and she doesn't seem as "ADHD" as she did before. She's finishing her assignments, she's reading books, she's getting above average grades now, it's like a whole new girl. I love it. So before anyone submits to the idea that your child is ADHD (which seems to me is disgustingly over diagnosed) check out some other reasons for why your child is having so many problems doing everyday things. It was such a blessing, I'm so glad I found out about it.

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i have a 8 year old son with adhd and he cant get through school without them. even when he has had meds is still get phone calls from school. he is on 2 adult dosages of concerta a day and it still is a struggle with homework and normal daily chores. no matter what we do nothing seems to work for everything. the meds are mostly to get him through school and that is it but you do what you have to do for your kids. even if you dont like it. i dont like giving meds to my son but i refuse to let him fail at his education due to the fact he cant sit still and end up like me and his dad with dead in min wage jobs because we messed up while we were in school

Kristin - posted on 03/11/2012

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my daughter was given an evaluation when she was 6 saying she had adhd and i had her on adderol 6 yrs oldand then that didn't do any good had her on vyvance 8 ys oldand rispotal 8 yrs oldand that didnt work then i took her off all meds and now she is 11 and i dont want her on meds she started going to a new counciler and just saw his co worker is the doc to give out meds and counciler did the new eval and she doesnt have adhd they saying it is oppositonal defiant disorder and that why all the meds didnt do any good they had her on meds for adhd and so they doing more tests to see counciler now talking it could b bipolar now i'm not gonna put her on meds till i know the new test results shyanne can sit and read a large chapter book and concerate as long as she likes the book she just gets bored and then acts up or fidgety because she doesnt know what to do

Crystal - posted on 02/12/2012

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I do have a % year old with adhd and we put him on vivance back in august i have noticed a big change in his compulsivness and his distractions

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Yes my 13 yr old son has ADHD he has ben on meds since he was 7 it helped him alot also behavior therapy now my 7yrold daughter is bieng tested for the same thing and if I have to she will get the same thing Next find an outlet for the hyperness a sport that he likes

Laura - posted on 02/09/2012

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my son has horrible mood swings when he gets angry he hurts his siblings and others! they say he might have some signs of bi polar but their trying to rule it out! thanks crystal for the tips!

Jillian - posted on 02/09/2012

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My son was diagnosed in September with it. I tried several different behavioral modifications, Nothing worked, and he kept saying he wished someone would tell him a word that he could tell his brain so he could remember to be good. He was so fustrated. after months of thinking about it. and getting a second opinion. as well as talking to his teacher, the school counselor and school social worker, we decided to go ahead and try adderall. This is his 3rd week on it. he is on 10mg. And the has had such a turn around. Everyday he comes home with a Superstar day. I am constantly worrying about having to put him on medication. but right now it has helped him so much. Get as many opinions as you need and talk to professionals. many peopl have opinions about medication and children, but many people with the negative opinions don't have children with ADHD. My son is 6 and in Kindergarten.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/07/2012

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Absolutely Amy, it is actually common for them to self medicate if they do not know how to cope. If they have not been taught good coping skills, it is a very well known path many (not all) will take. They don't realize why they are choosing street drugs but they do know it helps them, even though in the end it typically hurts them more....

Amy - posted on 02/07/2012

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My son had autism and ADHD and he is on meds. I don't think meds are the answer for every child and not every child needs the same med. My son is on a non stimulant med called stratera and he also is on a GF diet. It seems to work well for him. My family also has ADHD and his parents chose not to medicate him, my now husband's step brother had it also and his mother did not medicate him and they are both addicted to meth at this time and in prison. I do not think this is a norm but I my son's MDO did tell me that as kids get older they may "self medicate" if they do nto learn how to handle the condition.

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Hey Tracey, I appreciate your point of view. But I have to ask what do you consider progress when you say that you don't make progress with kids on meds? It has me curious.

Crystal - posted on 02/05/2012

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One sign of Bi-polar is moods swings; for example happy one minute then angry the next. My son will be happy one minute then angry the next; he'll get so angry that he'll throw things, hit the wall and he also says things like he wants to hurt himself. But this is usually when his medicine starts to not work due to growing in height and weight.

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I have a daughter who is now 14, but when she was 5 or 6, I had to put her on medication so she could sit still and do her work in the classroom. She is now been off her meds for 3 years. However, I have an 8 year old who I had to put on medication because she was getting severly upset with herself in the classroom if she could not comprehend how to do something. Now she is doing fine with a timed released pill. I give it to her only the days she has school. She does not take it on the weekends. And she does fine. The hardest part as a mother was standing by and watching your child try different meds to see which one was best for them.

My daughters were zombies when they tried one medication, and one seemed like it didn't work, one made them lose alot of weight because they had no appetite with it. It will make you worry. It is not easy, but it will work out for the best for your child. It took me a while to see that.

I wish you and your child all the best!



Lorri

Theresa - posted on 02/01/2012

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Started my son on methlyn and it helped tremendously. His grades improved in school, was more focused. Medication along with behavior therapy counseling work well.

Maria Rios - posted on 02/01/2012

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My daughter let me know and yeah it helped but there are alot of other things you can do as well to change behaviors check out my other posts in the ADHDsection

Laura - posted on 02/01/2012

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what are the signs of bi-polar? we are wondering if my 5 year old doesn't have that?

Celeste - posted on 01/30/2012

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My daughter has ADD. We held out for years, against meds, only because she was really bright. After a while, they get bigger, and their actions start to get in everyone's way including theirs, yours, sibilings, school work and fun. We gave in. She takes vyvanse. The biggest draw back is the weight loss. She was thin to begin with so we only had a very small threshold to work with about 2 to 3 lbs. The meds work wonderfully, we regret not trying them sooner. I mean we wee able to see improvement within the first few days! We just put a lot of effort into making sure we have what she wants to eat available at all times. Its not easy, keep some support arond. People have all kinds of opinions about meds which they will share without thinking. The good thing is that if they don't work, the meds come out of their system very quickly.

Sherry - posted on 01/29/2012

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My son has ADHD. He is 11. About 3 years ago, I had the biggest battles with his school district, and his teacher. She insisted that he was simply 'being defiant' and not wanting to do his work...as any mom knows, we often know better! He struggled so much and would get so frustrated with school. That's tough for a kid, who actually is very intelligent. This can really make a kid start feeling down on themselves. I am so very glad that my son was diagnosed so that we could get the appropriate assistance from our NEW school and from his doctor. He started on Focalin XR (extended release) which helps him tremendously during the school day. He suffers no ill effects, except a decrease in his appetite. Not the best thing since he's a lightweight! In addition, he takes another Focalin, only 5 mg and not extended release, just to help him through the homework hours. It has worked wonders for him. I hope that your child's doctor can find the best treatment plan for your child. It makes things so much easier for them! And it really helps with homework time for the parents, too. Best of luck!

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This is what I tell parents re meds and adhd as well as add and autism related behaviors:



I've been tutoring kids for over 30 years, a good percentage of them diagnosed with ADHD or with similar behaviors. I have a lot to say about this in fact way too much for purposes here. I can only tell you from my personal experience and observation over these many years that the only kids I could not make make 'lasting' progress with were those kids in abusive homes and those on psych meds. Progress was very limited and never lasting until they had been completely off of them for at least a week and sometimes longer before doing the program. I have had many parents decide to take their kids off meds and experience difficult and often horrible withdrawals that often took months with doctors insisting on more meds to ease this and ease that. All I can say is that I personally can only make progress with kids diagnosed with ADHD and similar behaviors when not on meds. I'm just a Tutor with a communication training program to assist in focus enhancement; I don't treat or use psychology based 'anything' but I do refer clients sometimes to alternative doctors that other doctors may call quacks, that other parents have gone to and were very happy with. I have found that in most cases - again per my own experience and observations - that with intensive parent and child communication training, the behaviors do change in a few weeks to a few months in every qualifying based what I've said. I can refer to other programs that use the same or similar communication training and I don't make any money by referring I assure you. I just hate seeing the med route when I know that there is non med help that works and most parents are told otherwise. I will get lots of boo's on this and that's okay. I have a responsibility to speak out and try to help.

Diann (Deedee) - posted on 01/25/2012

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All research and most doctors that are well educated about ADHD will tell you that children/teens that do not get treatment--meds, behavior modification, both, etc.,--are much more likely to be substance abusers than those that got treatments and learned to deal with and cope with their ADHD. The more they learn to cope with it and develop strategies to overcome it, the more self-confidence and self-esteem they build. ADHD is a imbalance in the brain, and yes youo are messing with their dopamine and serotonin, but that's because theirs is not working completely right. That's the point of trying different meds, etc.--is to get the imbalance balanced out. I have one child and three nieces and nephews with ADHD, and I have done extensive research on it. Some were on meds, some were not. But they were all worked with--meds, coping strategies, behavior modification, etc., and they are all above-average intelligence young adults that are well-adjusted and leading good lives. Kids with untreated ADHD tend to act impulsively without thinking of the consequences, thus getting in trouble more frequently and getting punished more often or singled out in class. They also tend to have depression, especially as they get to be teenagers, and also many times have behavior disorders, such as conduct disorder, etc. Much of this can be prevented or greatly lessened by working with the child early before they get to be teenagers and things get really bad. If not, then they are more susceptible to becoming substance abusers.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/25/2012

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However, I will say that there are FAR too many children being diagnosed with this disorder that do not truly have it. It has become the answer for many doctors when they don't want to take the time to "really" figure out what the issue is but in my case that isn't how it is... If your child is "not" in school yet and has been diagnosed I would seriously be questioning that doctor and I would definitely be getting a 2nd and 3rd opinion... It has been proven that ADHD/ADD cannot be diagnosed properly until they are in school. A good doctor would get your input and their teachers input, they definitely should not be making such a decision without all the required information. A mother saying their kid is hyper and unfocused is just "not" a good reason, no matter how much she pushes....



A child with true ADHD has a brain chemistry inbalance and that is what the meds help straighten out but with lots of patience and teaching, you can teach them the required tools to live without the terrible meds... They are terrible, they have bad side affects but they "do" work and they "do" provide the child a balance so that they can perform while in school....



BTW - my half sister is now 25, she has ADHD and my half brother is now 22 he has ADD. They were both on meds from age 5 - 18 and they are completly fine, they also learnt the life tools required and both live on their own. My sister has a 2 year old and she is the best Mommy, she plays with her son the entire time she has him! She is not addicted to any drugs and neither is my brother...

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/25/2012

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Although, Amanda, I think you missed that those with teens have taken their kids off because they have learnt the tools to get by in life without medication. Honestly my kid would still be in grade 1 if she didn't have the meds but she made it to grade 7. She has not been on the meds for a year now and for you to say we know nothing is very ignorant! We have had to live through this and struggle as "good" parents. You don't have that right to say we don't know anything. I have spent a large part of the past 9 years researching and meeting with ADHD specialists. They aren't making any money off of the meds, so there is no "unjust" reason for them to prescribe them... I do agree that they "can" lead a child to drug addiction but it is a very low chance... However, there is a chance of any teen or adult becoming a substance abuser, even if they were never on meds before. My daughter is very well adjusted, she is 13 and Diann's child "is" 18 and doing great... Please get all your facts straight before you start throwing things at anyone...

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Honey, you clearly know nothing about substance abuse. People do not become addicts because they are "made fun of" or not organized. Addiction is a mental and physical addiction. Pumping children full of amphetamines is a good way to prep them for future chemical dependency problems. You are messing with their dopamine and serotonin. YOU ARE CHANGING THEIR BRAIN CHEMISTRY. Go ahead and put your kids on addictive drugs that are equivalent to pharmaceutical grade speed. Give them until they are 20 or 30 years old and see how well adjusted they turn out. It's your kid, not mine.

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