does your baby go to daycare? is he/she sick all the time?

Terri - posted on 03/21/2009 ( 36 moms have responded )

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hi. just curious if anyone else feels the same as my husband and i do. our 10 month old is in daycare mon-fri and it seems like she is ALWAYS sick. she is just getting over her 4th ear infection and it seems she always has a cold. everyone says that daycare will help her build her immune system and when she goes to school she will not get sick as often due to that but it's really hard having my baby sick all the time. i feel so bad for her. not to mention-it not good for evaluation time at the job--us missing work to stay home with her. she had RSV when she was about 4 mos old and had to stay home for 7-10 days then.

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Paula - posted on 11/23/2013

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I have five children and all have been in the daycare setting of some short. Remember, kids don't come with an instruction booklet. We take advice from anyone and begin to believe it.
The only way to build a child's immune system is seeing a specialist. That specialist is a CHIROPRACTOR. Chiropractors work with the nervous system. My kids have been under care since birth (with the exception of our oldest as she was the reason we discovered chiropractic). They get colds like others but they an "hold their own." Their immune system is stronger than ever and can withstand anything that comes their way.
Find a "true" chiropractor. I mean a chiropractor that only practices chiropractic not all the other stuff they add to the office.

Jess - posted on 04/05/2009

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Hi, both of my girls have been in daycare for some time, though i do family daydare where a mother takes in six children into her home and works from there. I find that she is really strict with parents bringing sick kids, if that makes sense, its not usually the daycare itself that causes the circling of viruses and such, its the way the carers deal with sick kids and there famiys, u need to ask questions about the precautions taken and what happens with sick kids, you will be surpised. Its usually the parents that take their sick kids back to daycare to early, still "carrying" whic keeps spreading whatever thay have, i know its hard when u work, but others mums will respect you if you keep your child at home if sick, thay also may be more likely to share that respect and do the same, but like i said, its really the attitude of the carers, how much they tolerate and how strict they are??? Just ask!

Tonya - posted on 04/11/2009

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My daughter is 3 years of age, and she started daycare at the age of 1.she often catches viruses from the children at daycare and other germs too.She washes her hands quite often, but whenever someone gets sick at daycare so does she! This causes me to miss out on work! I wish I could afford to just stay at home with her sometimes!

Esther - posted on 05/04/2009

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I recently came accross an article that made me think of this thread. A study in the UK has shown that kids who go to daycare and are exposed to bugs at an early age, have a 30% (!!) less chance to develop the most common form of childhood leukemia. So to make us all feel a little better - here's a link to the article: http://www.supernanny.com/Advice/-/Your-...

Jennifer - posted on 03/28/2009

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My now 7 year old had tubes as a baby. I cried while she was in surgery the whole time. I was also prego with our second daughter, and just really nervous, but it was the best thing I could have done for her. She is not as sick now (she still gets sick every so often, but no more ear infections) and I am really glad I did it. It's really not that bad. Good Luck!

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Robert - posted on 12/29/2013

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People don't realize is if they don't get sick in daycare they will get sick when they start school. Trust me you want them to overcome the viruses like this.

Breezy - posted on 04/11/2009

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my 4 yr old is always sick if its not a cold its the, stomach bug, to a rash.

Katie - posted on 04/10/2009

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My son goes to daycare mon-fri. He seems to have at least a runny nose all the time! He's had 2 ear infections now, but nothing major like RSV.

Jatesha - posted on 04/02/2009

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I agree with Vicki. My daughter has been in daycare since she was 9 weeks and she's 4 months now. I had some of the same anxieties everyone else has at first, but even if I hadn't gone back to work, I would've put her in daycare. A lot of people have a problem with this (I was just talking with one of my friends and she said how her mm has such a HUGE problem with how I take care of my daughter cause I went back to work) but my daughter is already "talking", she's very interactive and the best part- she sleeps through the NIGHT!!! She has ever since the 2nd week of daycare. I love daycare and even if she gets sick or whatever it's normal. I don't live in a plastic bubble and neither does the rest of the world. We can't protect our kids from the common cold and I would feel bad if she's sick whether its her staying home with me or going to daycare daily.



To each it's own, and to Teri speaking not only as a mother but also as a pediatric nurse we want to protect our babies from everything but the best way to do that is with prevention and regular check ups. Make sure you know and trust your pediatrician and don't ever be afriad to ask any questions. RSV really sucks and the younger the child is the harder it is on the child. But alot of other factors go into the aquiring of that virus mainly, the winter months! Everything will be fine. If you're still worried about it, do more reasearch and ask other moms their opinions on other daycares.



I hope this helps.

Genevieve - posted on 04/02/2009

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My kids are 5 and 2 and I do feel like they are sick constantly. It is like a never ending circle. Have any of you moms out there heard of a product called "Sinupret". It is suppose to boost up the immune system for kids. If so, I can use some insight as to whether or not you like the product and does it really make a difference. I appreciate your response.

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my daughter was like that as well, and she had rsv too (long hospital stay, etc.). she is now 4 and barely getting a thing. she has also become somewhat of a champion of her own situation. she knows when she feels bad (and to what degree), can describe it, and is more proactive about knowing if she needs to stay home, which means that we can catch that at the beginning of the day, so she never goes to school, and i only end up taking off one day instead of two (the day to get her and the requisite day after). the number of days that i have missed for her illnesses have dramatically dropped. my husband and i try to take turns on the staying home thing, but even then it does make for some schedule shifting and such. in the end, i tell myself that if she is sick, she is sick. nothing i can do about that, and i have to take care of her. i have to not care how that impacts other parts of my life (work full time, go to school, teach aerobic classes, etc.) and realize that other parts of my life have to stop for a moment.

Vicki - posted on 03/31/2009

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ok so i feel you my daughter is 4 and she goes to daycare she stared at 18 months and she was sick all the time for the first 1 or so that she went to the day care she was at home till i had to go back. my son who never went to daycare he went to school and he never sick. the thing that is nuts to me i work at the daycare the she goes to and so i know what is going around the rooms as a mom i would say that some kids are sicker then other. As a toddler teacher some of the things that i see is mom and dad giving the kids med and bring them to school when they r sick and not saying anything. The thing that worked for me was giving my daughter airborn and some vittmens to help her. I hope ur baby gets better and u dont have to miss any more work

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my almost 3 yr old and 3 mth old have been in daycare since 5-6 weeks old and maybe sick 1 or 2 times ever but I bf both of them and they were clean in home daycares.make sure people are washing hands a lot and really sick kids are sent home so yours doesn't get sick. maybe try vitamins or something.good luck

Heather - posted on 03/30/2009

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My 2 year old daughter goes to daycare 4 days a week and is hardly ever sick.

Amy - posted on 03/30/2009

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We had the exact same experience...made for very long winters. My daughter just stopped going to daycare for the last 7 weeks while I've been home with a new baby and has not been sick once since. It's very frustrating but I don't know what you can do about it...we will be changing to a private babysitter when I go back to work after maternity leave.

Terri - posted on 03/29/2009

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hi gloria.  we had pink eye too!!!  lol.  i guess this must be the welcome to mommyhood. 

Gloria - posted on 03/28/2009

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Hey Teri, You have been  given a well of information and advice, so I thought I would add in my 2 cents to give you a little hope.



I had to put both my girls in daycare once they were 10 weeks old.  I cried with the first one, I cried with the second one too.  They both had colds and ear infections, and pink eye, which gave me the red eyes.....(but that another post)  but as they got older the sicknesses got less and less. but I am most proud to announce that the oldest is now a 6th grader and has only missed one day of school, due to to sickness and that was when she was kindergarten... and 2nd one who is now is 4th grade has had perfect attendance, so hang in there.... it will be alright.. 

Terri - posted on 03/28/2009

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hi tracy. thank you for your story.  i'm sure we'll be back in the doctors office again soon and i am sure tubes will be next.  i'd rather do what i can than have her continue to be sick. when i was younger i ALWAYS had strep throat.  for some reason i didn't get my tonsils out until i was 23.  and i haven't had it since.  i always look back on that and think all the sickness i could have been spared. 

Tracy - posted on 03/28/2009

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My son was sick for the first year and half with ear infections constant.  We did the tubes and he hasn't had an ear infections since.  I was also sooo nevous about putting him to sleep.  It is the quickest procedure!  By the time I walked out of the room where they put him to sleep and into the waiting room, the doctor was walking out to tell us everything went fine and we would be able to see him in a couple minutes.  I would absolutely suggest it.  I can't tell you how many ear infections my son had.   NOT ONE SINCE!  He has not been sick as much either anymore.  He is 2 and half and it does get better! 

Terri - posted on 03/27/2009

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thanks everyone.  we just finished a third round of antibiotics for her ear infections (two oral meds and 3 shots this time).  hopefully they worked.  we are probably going to have to go the tubes route.  that' makes me a little nervous.  i'll hate to put her to sleep.  however, i heard it is quick and painless and the outcome is usually great.  but it's still sad :(

Randi - posted on 03/27/2009

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Both of my girls have been in daycare since 2 months old and like yours were sick all the time but around 2 it really slows way down. i know it seems a long way off but it will alow down.

Esther - posted on 03/26/2009

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Yes, I second Lainie's comment. My son's daycare is very good about hygiene too. They clean all the toys 3 times a day wash all hands constantly etc. But bugs find their way to spread anyway. I don't think there is any way to avoid it altogether. They just have to build those immune systems and it takes time.

Ldoo - posted on 03/26/2009

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Our day care is meticulous about cleanliness. Babies are exposed to germs that are totally new to them. They get sick. Some more than others. We did it, our grandchildren will do it, etc. We all have to get exposed to germs and let our bodies deal with it. Cleanliness is highly important, but there's only so much you can do.

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Both of my girls go to daycare full time (yes, i know steep bill, lol) but they are never sick. They have been attending for a few years and have no problems at all.



As was stated earlier, hand washing is one of the most important ways to fight off viruses and other bacteria. At my girls daycare they have the seperate sinks that were mentioned as well as designated handwashing times. If they go outside then they wash when they come inside, etc...



I hope urs gets to feeling better soon :D

Esther - posted on 03/26/2009

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Haha - Lainie - Thanks for making me laugh about our plight. It's good to know we are not alone in this.

Ldoo - posted on 03/26/2009

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Yes. She's sick. All. The. Time.



Roseola; constant colds and congestion; high fever; Hand, Foot & Mouth.



And that's all in just 2 months.



But, she gets over it, and I'm told by 1 year she'll be good to go!

Julie - posted on 03/26/2009

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Hi. Yes, both my husband and I work full-time and therefore my daughter is in full-time child care and yes she is always ill.! Well, it is not as bad now - she is 2 years old. But she still always gets a cold and a cough as soon as another child sneezes. Luckily my daughter deals with it quite well - its me thats the panicky one! Although a couple of months ago the measles was going round and my daughter never caught that! I do believe it does help with their immune systems but it is hard on us parents when you have a sick child. Hopefully it will get easier as she gets older as her immune system builds up.

Shannon - posted on 03/25/2009

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You will find come next year that the illnesses become less and less. Her immunity is building right now. I have a 4 yr old and an 11 month old, it will get better!



 

Sarah - posted on 03/25/2009

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My 4 month old started daycare the 1st week of february and spent the 3rd week of february in the hospital with RSV. It's all a part of having your kid in daycare because there are so many sick kids all winter long and I feel very guilty but if she was never around other kids all day, everyday until kindergarten she really would be much more sick, more often then.

Erin - posted on 03/22/2009

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I know it is hard.  when my son first started going he was sick alot too. He is better now though.  He is in his second year there.  I found he was always sick in the beginning and it was causing some problems at work.  We got through it though and he is not getting sick as much.  Hang in this will get better

Esther - posted on 03/22/2009

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My son is in daycare 5 days a week as well and between colds, teething, roseola and bronchitis, I too feel like he is sick all the time, even though he's not a sickly child. Fortunately he has so far excaped the ear infections. I do believe it's true that they are building their immune system and I can't wait for it to get better! I was told it often ends all of a sudden at around age 2. That means I have another 9 months of this too look forward to :(

Nicole - posted on 03/22/2009

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My son is 3 1/2 years old and goes to daycare (been in daycare since he was 2). He's barely been sick. He's in an at home daycare (not sure if that really makes a difference or not).. maybe consider switching daycares? Good luck!!

Vicky - posted on 03/21/2009

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My daughter was in daycare from 11 weeks.  She also had colds & ear infections during the first year, but she's 5 now.  Last year, she didn't miss a day in K-4 & has perfect attendence so far this year.  I do attribute it to her being "exposed" at a young age.  Many of her classmates who stayed at home are now having colds & ear infections.  I know this doesn't help your situation, but hopefully, your daughter will get better & stronger soon...

Lauren - posted on 03/21/2009

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Sorry I also forgot to mention that if your doctor is willing to work with you....there are also vitamins for immunity available, but honestly this is a new thing...and they usually don't recommend vitamins until 2 but hey it is your employment we are talking about, and if tubes are not helping the recurring ear infections maybe vitamins can be a option....o.k. I am all done..have a great weekend!

Lauren - posted on 03/21/2009

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Hello and good day. I would first like to start out with the fact that you stated that your daughter had RSV when she was 4 months old..and I am not sure how you can go about this, but you may want to consult, talk to or get a written form from your doctor stating that your duaghter had RSV when young....for it has been proven that once children get RSV they are more prone to viruses and other for their immune system or other has been compriised. A great example is a friend of mine's son and my son..My son from 2 months till about 1 year'd old, battled congestion, colds, fever, and what ever else a child could get to make you go crazy, I lost many a nights of sleep propping up his head, and checkin gon him, for as you know under one there is absolutely nothing they give for the common cold, congestion or allergies...now my friends son from 2 months to 1 year was absolutely healthy. We at first both thought it was due to my son not being breast fed, and her sone being breast fed, and my son being in child care and her son being at home with her ( she nannies). Now that my son is 16 months and her son is 15 months the tables have completely turned. They are still in the same care situations but my son has not had a illness since he turned one, and her son is getting everything under the sun...including spending the entire Christmas and New Year break in the hospital for the most serious case of RSV. However now that he has had RSV, he is doing breathing treatments, it borderline asmatic, and the list goes on. He doctor specifically told her, that she would for now until he grew his immunity back, will have to keep him out and about as usual but be aware of his breathing, coughing, and the fact that he will be more apt to catch small codes, for his imune system in fact has been comprimised.



Now 2nd..in regards to child care...I happen to own a child care facility in Missouri....and honestly it is a hit or miss, and I sympatize with you at this time and era for you having to miss work..but it just depends on the child. There are some children that are the "carriers" and some children that are the "receivers". You will come into this again when you child enter kindergarten. For there are children that simply get everything for their immune systems are coprimised or simply will always get everything, and there are some that will be the ones that will simply look or act icky but never express sickness, my son in his lifetime has never had a fever over 97.6, his dad doesn't express fevers either, but I know when they are sick I can see it in their eyes. So don't feel that it is just your child or that it is the child care center that is soley causing it, for at her age and the children she is around it is just a fact of being a child.



3rd. If you are worried about the child care center here are a few things that you can investigate as to whether the environment is safe for your child. Are there handwashing sinks for children seperate form adults that have soap and paper towels available

-When are the designated hand washing times, is there a schedule posted, and can a teacher tell you the main critical times to wash hands..if they don't name the following you might want to consider a different child care facility (after changing diapers, after blowing or wiping noses, after tying shoes, before and after recess, before and after meals, before and after art projects). And lastly, when diaper changes are being done in the classroom is there a method to keep children out of the trash, and a way to keep BM transfers away from children's hands...i.e. walmart bag or diaper bags. If these few things are not being done these things can considerable increase illnesses in the classroom



4th and final..Is your child in a room with her own age, or is she consistently being put in different classroom or a classroom where there is younger children...for 12-24 month children have different illnesses than 0-12 month children. Are the teachers fluctuating a lot between classroom, for even just keeping the same teachers in a room as opposed to teaching in several rooms and taking illnesses from one end of the building to the other can be a big problem. You can find this out by seeing how much turnover the center is having....



And I promise lastly...as I always preach...visit the child care center one day after you go to work, so if you usually drop off at 8:00 come back in between 10:00-12:00 you will find out a lot about your child center during these times!!



Hope that this helps hang in there....for this is not only happening to you!

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