finding a job

Laura - posted on 06/09/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Feeling really stressed and I feel like I'm the only one. I have been out of work now for 8 months. Originally it was due to pregnancy complications and I was out for 3 weeks. After 3 weeks my doctor cleared me to go back to work but my boss had already replaced me. Then 2 months later he called me in to work 2 shifts and made up a reason to fire me so they would no longer have to pay for my unemployment that I filed for after I found out he'd replaced me. Then since I was almost 5 months pregnant by this point and starting to show so I couldn't get a job and we just accepted the fact that I wouldn't be able to go back to work until after the baby was born. I finally delivered 3 weeks ago and have been hard on the job hunt without much turning up. I'm getting very discouraged as we can no longer pay for all our bills we have to pick and choose which ones we are going to pay each month and then we can only pay portions of bills and not the whole thing since we are so far behind. My husband likes to blame it on me since I'm the one not working but it is not my fault that I am not working. He'd work overtime if he could and has been working overtime but he was only able to do 16 extra hours a week and for the last month it has been cut back to where he is only allowed 8 extra hours a week which makes it even worse. I feel like there is no end in sight and wish I knew that something was coming around the corner.

I did go on an interview this week but they said they won't know until next week what they are going to do. I'm afraid to feel hopeful at this point. I can't even count the number of jobs I've applied for with no response. Is there anyone else going through something similar??? Am I alone in this?

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Tuyet - posted on 06/17/2010

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Yes, keep at the searching. It can get disheartening when you don't get responses, but it's good that you're getting out there and doing what you can. Do you have any kind relatives/friends who are willing to lend you some money... or perhaps have you considered a loan to get you by for now? I'm in Australia and the government gives money to those who need it and are eligible. Perhaps there is something like that you can turn to for some financial help. I know it's tough... and i remember feeling so down in those times... Will be thinking of you and saying prayers. Keep me posted on what happens :)

Laura - posted on 06/16/2010

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Thanks for the encouragement. I still have not heard back from the people I interviewed for last week. I called this morning and left a voicemail. I continue putting in applications without much response. My youngest daughter is 4 weeks old today and while I should be enjoying this time with her all I can think about is how are we going to make it another week if I don't get a job soon. So tired and stress prayers would be appreciated.

Tuyet - posted on 06/14/2010

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I have gone through something sort of similar... Not exactly like your situation, but similar. My hubby had been out of work for about that long and i was pregnant and trying to work as much as i could. I ended up stopping work 3 months before having my baby. During that time and before it, it was so hard. We tried to budget but it was difficult. I couldnt save, bills kept coming, we kept on having to extend bills and pay them in portions like you. It got to the point where there was a day where we only had $15 to live off... and we were trying to decide what to get for lunch with that little money we had :( When i spoke to my boss just before the date that i decided to come back, he told me he couldn't give me the hours that we originally agreed on. I didn't have extra money to keep me going. i was relying on going back to work, 4 days a week. I had to find work immediately and thankfully with 3 full days of intense job searching, I found a job ... and now i have found a job that i wish i found before.

Don't give up... I never thought i'd be in such a bad situation, but i managed somehow to pull through it. I needed financial help and was lucky to have found it. I'm not sure if you are qualified or have trades etc, but i tried applying online to jobs, and tried cold canvassing and ringing up random places to see if they needed my services. Whatever you do, don't give up. I'm pretty sure there are many people in your situation.

I hope good luck comes your way very soon - you should never have to stress like this, especially when you've just welcomed a beautiful baby into the world.

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