First time mom going back to work

Nosheen - posted on 01/15/2013 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I'm a first time mom. I had a baby 3 months ago and was supposed to be back at work next month but I don't feel safe leaving my baby with anyone. Does anyone have some advice?

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Silvia - posted on 01/15/2013

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Can your mom babysit? My baby is 6 months old. I went back to work when he was 3 months and 1 week. Family will always be your best option! I am so thankful that my mom is able to take care of my baby.

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Lori - posted on 03/04/2013

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You could work at home like I have the last 5 years. I'm with a huge team of moms that work literally from our homes. You can learn about us easily.
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Sally - posted on 02/15/2013

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Can you do your current job from home? Can you find a new work from home job? Can you start your own work from home business? Can you and her father arrange your schedules so one of you is with her while the other works?

Can you afford to not work? Before you answer that last one, actually go over your household budget in detail. A few families cannot survive without two paychecks, but many can live quite easily on one salary IF they are willing to live more simply instead of trying to "keep up with the Joneses". Also, after a detailed look at the work related expenses in the family budget (not just day care, but work clothes and cleaning; all the expenses of the second car and extra travel; the hair, makeup, and manicures; the lattes and lunches; etc.) that they are actually losing money when mom goes to work.
Good luck

Loretta - posted on 02/15/2013

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If you can at all avoid going back to work, I think little ones do best when they are with their mommies. I was able to work out of my home with my first two children. I've had to work full-time with my 3rd and I believe your cautious feelings are warranted since a baby cannot tell you whether they are being treated well or not. My husband and I have worked different shifts to minimize child care needed. When we needed care a couple hours every morning when she was a baby, we had a couple relatives that were college aged that we paid to come to our house (just one at a time) for that time. When we were going to have anyone new watch her, we had them watch her for a couple afternoons while we were at home doing a task like painting the bathroom so we could see how the person interacted with our daughter before we entrusted her to them without us there.

Amy - posted on 02/09/2013

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Start small, like leaving your baby to go shopping or to a movie. I left my son with my father in law on my first day back and it was scary. I knew he was in good hands though. It got easier after that first day. Now there are days I dream of taking him to the sitter and taking the day off work for some me time... :).

Katie - posted on 02/05/2013

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After my first baby 5 years ago, I was supposed to go back to work, but could never get up the courage to go! I just couldn't imagine leaving my 12 week old with strangers. I am so glad I never did because it opened my eyes to the work at home opportunities that are out there! I love that I can work from home(which I am doing right now) and make a full time income only working 20 hours or less a week! It really is such a blessing and I truly love being able to be with my babies all the time. I recently became a Designer for Origami Owl and LOVE it! I am always looking for new amazing women to join my team. Take a look at my website at www.katiea.origamiowl.com and see if it is something you would be interested in. So easy and fun! Email me and we can talk! misskatiea@gmail.com No matter what you decide to do, you will make the right choice for you and your new baby! :)

Karen - posted on 02/01/2013

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yes stay home as much as you can it's best,so hard to let go i wish you the best

Nosheen - posted on 01/27/2013

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yeah, i think im going to wait abit till she about 6months old:-). Thank u All so, uch Karen

Faye - posted on 01/25/2013

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All of my sitters but one were older so they had the "grandmother feel" to the baby. The one which was not an older lady was an older mom and my kids enjoyed her house as she had a little one which was between my two in age.

Karen - posted on 01/23/2013

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is there a daycare close by you can check on your baby at lunch time to ease some worry?

Nosheen - posted on 01/21/2013

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Hi Nannmarie, Thats Really Sweet of u. but Im all the way In South Africa, cape town.

Nosheen - posted on 01/20/2013

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Hi stacey, u r very lucky hey its not everyday u find a babysitter who u can trust especially with ur newborn u know. Im just tooo over protective and main reasons are she is still too fragile and she regure's all the time and she does have alot of spit in her mouth too so im constantly watchin her beacuse of thtl

Stacey - posted on 01/18/2013

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It can be very hard to trust anyone especially as a first time mom. I'd start shopping around now and ask other moms in your area where they take their children. I got extremely lucky the first time I had to leave my son with a sitter. He was about 6 or so months old and I found a day care center I thought would be good but they didn't have openings. They gave me a number to someone that used to work there and now watched kids at her house. At that point my son had full on stranger scare going on. If someone he didn't know even spoke to him he would burst into tears. When I went to this lady's house he not only let her hold him but didn't cry when I walked out to my car to get his play pen. She was amazing and treated him just like he was her own. She treated all the kids that way and even if they were sick she would keep them and just kept them in a separate room so the other kids weren't exposed. Now my kids are 11 and 10 and I'm just as nervous about trusting anyone with them as I was then. I fully admit I'm overprotective of my children.

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