Having a hard time at work

Karla - posted on 10/04/2009

I can suggest that you make a plan. If it is to get out of this job and get another one, or to take actions to try to make things there better, or to try to find income from working at home. Whatever it is, just write out a plan and take a step or two in that direction. I am telling you to do this so you won't feel so helpless. For me that is the worst part of a bad situation. Feeling like you are stuck and there is no hope.

If you make a plan and start some action, no matter how small, you begin to feel in control. Whether you know it or not, you are, but you have to have a plan to make things more to your liking. Once you start working toward a goal, you no longer feel hopeless because you are focusing on the solution, not the problem.,

I hope that makes sense.

Tanya - posted on 10/04/2009

Hi, Sandy! I work full time and it's usually work intensive physically. I also have to deal w/ office politics and sometimes play the politics to keep the boat from rocking. I'm an archaeologist and I live in an arid environment that allows me to dig year round. The summers are brutal and having the support of my husband helps me get thru the summer. I love my job but I do get stressed, particularly when I get paired w/ a certain prick, who's above me, and I sometimes get paired up w/ said prick. What helps me is my hobby(ies). I get paid well (but wish it were more sometimes), great benefits and I love my job. Right now, the pros outweigh the cons. I try to leave work at work (emotionally and literally) and enjoy my family and the personal time I have to schedule for myself. Hope that helps!

Kate - posted on 10/01/2009

What does your job responsibilities entail? Are you involved with direct patient care or reception? If not you may be able to discuss new hours, reduced hours or working from home. I am a practice administrator for a dermatology clinic and try to work with my staff as much as possible but sometimes things just don't work out. If your administrator and doctor value you they will try to work with you. Sometimes in a small practice they can't though. Talk to them. If they can not help you because of staffing or hours of operation or whatever then it may be time to look elsewhere for work.

Allison - posted on 09/25/2009

Sandy,



I have worked off and on (mostly on) outside of my home for over 20 years with three children. I constantly felt that I was letting someone down: either my family for being away for so long of a day; my parents for not living up to my education for which they paid; or myself for not propelling myself forward for that great career. I felt great stress for always cheating someone.



Through some advise from a friend my husband and I started a home business, when time permitted. It was suppose to be our Plan B. Last year we received a break, I was laid off from the job inwhich I commuted over two hours a day. Thanks to the economy I have not been successful in finding another. Luckily we had a Plan B.



Sandy, we are near the point of replacing my income through our home business. I am able to help my youngest, get her to her practices, doctor appointments and am looking forward to her games - all of these I could hardly do last year.



No, I am not suggesting that you quit your job, rather that you and your husband, sacrifice a little time (my business does not require much) and start a business that you can do from home. In due time, you will be able to leave your job with the security of a steady income and have more time to spend with your young children. There are also great tax benefits that come with owning a home based business (more income).



If you would like to learn more of what we do, please feel free to contact me through my profile email or my business email - raamenterprise@gmail.com.



I wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.



Allison

Alison - posted on 09/25/2009

Start job hunting, quality of life has got to be a priority.

Julia - posted on 09/25/2009

Have you taken these concerns to your boss and husband? You really need to let your boss know that you are stressed due to the amount of responsibility you are reqqired to handle. Also, let your husband know that you need help around the house. If your kids are old enough, they can pick up some of the chores as well. Just some suggestions.

Sarah - posted on 09/24/2009

you are so brave. this is a situation that so many women find themselves in. so many of us forget to ask for what we want.
yes, very simple, asking for what you want.
maybe it is having a large calender for all the chores around the house-for everyone to do, sitting down with your boss and letting them know how you are feeling and then asking for what you want. be very clear.
for yourself, it is finding what is really important and letting go of the rest. that might mean letting your husband do the laundry (he might do it exactly the way you want, though it will get done) etc..
i love jack canfield's book,"the success principles" he talks about taking responsibility and to stop complaining. those sound harsh, if you think about it though,it is really jsut taking care of yourself.
all the best,
sarah

Tina - posted on 09/23/2009

You aren't alone. I am in the same situation, and have worked in an office for 6 1/2 years with no benefits. However, I have been forced to work at home because my back is out for the past month. I am getting a lot of work done, even though I can only sit for an hour at a time. It's amazing what you can do with fewer interruptions (my daughter is in preschool). Would your employer consider letting you work at home part of the time on a computer? Also, I am trying to be open minded and think of other employment opportunities because I don't want to go back!