Help How do I potty Train my 2year old son?

Brandi - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 70 moms have responded )

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I'm having the hardest time potty training my 2year old he screams the entire time he is on the potty until you let him up as soon as you put the pull up on he uses the bathroom, It feels like he will never get to the point of using the potty by his self , I'm so stressed out!!!!

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Anne - posted on 04/08/2012

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I think it is important to remember that it takes longer to potty train boys that it is girls. Both my girls were good to go by 2. My son is turning 2 in 5 days and Im not even thinking about for a little longer. If this makes me a bad Mommy for not following the "Rules of Potty Training" oh well...why stress him out and me. He will be potty trained when he is ready. :)

Kate - posted on 04/29/2014

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My little girl is 19 months and we have started asking her if she wants to go pee pee on the potty and she says yes.. She's very interested in it, so tonight before her bath I asked her and she went tinkle a little in the big girl potty:) and she even flushed! so when she seems interested in it I would start. Even if it's just setting her on there to get her used to the toilet.
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Jo - posted on 08/19/2012

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Buy him the Potty Video. Everyone's raving about it. Let him watch it and look at the picture book and wait for him to tell you he's ready.

Holly - posted on 02/15/2010

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Don't stress out about it! It is not worth it, you know he won't be in diapers forever! It sounds like he just isn't ready. As much as I wanted my son to be potty trained, I tried to act like it was no big deal if he used the potty or not. Even when he used the potty, I tried to contain my excitement.
I tried to think of something that would make it fun for him. I put his small potty chair next to the big potty for him to use. I also made a potty chart for him. He was into Elmo at the time so I drew a big Elmo on one side and then made numbered squares on the other side. Each time he peed on the potty he got to pick out a special sticker he wanted to put on the number 1, etc. (It's also great way to help him learn his numbers!) If he pooped, he picked two stickers to fill in the squares. When the chart was filled in, he got a special treat. He finished Elmo, then I made one with Lightning McQueen with a numbered "race track". He only used those two and then it wasn't such a big deal for him to use his own potty.
If your son isn't showing any interest, I wouldn't push it. It'll come. My son potty trained great for daytime at 2 1/2, but nighttime was a much different story. He made the decision on his own this past NYE that he was done wearing pullups at night. He will be 4 in March. He has done great with it, but we do wake him up around 10 or 11 to go to the bathroom and then put him back to bed. He has had some accidents, but it's been great not having to buy diapers!
I wish you luck!

Diana - posted on 02/09/2010

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Ok, I have 2 boys age 22 & 26. But how I did it was to put a few drops of dish soap in the toilet, I would put the boys on the toilet backwards so they could hold on to the tank because they were terrified and I would tell them to make bubbles. Just stir up the dish soap with a toilet brush and when they pee they think they are making bubbles. I couldn't keep them off the toilet! They were potty trained at 2 yrs old and it only took 1 week. Good luck!

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Amber - posted on 08/18/2012

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my 2 year old is kinda lazy when it comes to the potty. but we made the biggest improvement when he did pee one time and i said oh u made bubbles. its funny but it works that and a target lmao boy already....

Gina - posted on 08/16/2012

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If possible, I would wait till he's around 2.5 (closer to turning 3). The reason I say it is that maybe he's just not psychologically and/or physiologically ready for such a big step. I struggled with my boy at 2 and decided to wait a few months, at exactly 2.8 I started again and it worked like a charm, the second time around he was actually eager to learn, I didn't have to do much and definately no resistance from him at all. For toddlers a few months makes a huge developmental difference. In the meantime have him accompany you to the restroom so he's exposed to the whole process, once in a while have him watch a children's cartoon or educational show about potty training, let him become curious first, then the day will come when he will be asking you to let him use the potty.



Once he is ready to start training set aside a day when the two of you will be able to stay home all day, have him run around naked or in regular undies (no Pull-Ups) have him drink lots of liquids and sit on the potty every 20-30 minutes. You can have him watch some of those potty training videos on youtube for inspiration, watch them together thoughout the day and be sure to be ready to have a potty dance celebration for when he succeeds.

Amanda - posted on 04/08/2012

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My son will be 3 in June and thankfully has been fully potty trained since July 2011. When he turned 2, I was determined to get him potty trained. We spent a lot of time sitting on the potty. He is potty trained at night as well, but just as a precaution we still put a pull-up on him. When his toddler bed was in our room, he would wake me up to go pee, but now that he is in his own room I am afraid that he may have an accident. Try letting him pee outside. My son loved peeing on stuff & now whenever we go anywhere he wants to pee on tires & trees. Hope it gets better. He will let you know when it is time.

Nichole - posted on 03/31/2012

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My son is also two and I am thankful he loves the potty. He will pee on it all day but has not pooped yet. I have been trying for two months and moved onto pull ups..a lot easier to use when potty training. I always try and make it fun so he thinks its cool and he will want to use it. I read him potty stories and always make a big deal when he actually goes but I don't get mad when he doesn't. You just have to keep at it, he will get used to it!

Brady - posted on 02/15/2010

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I have a 3 year old son whos almost 4. We tried potty training at 2 and he did they same thing. We learned that whens hes ready he will do it til then he will keep screaming. ONe day it just clicked and he was ready and did great. good luck

Jessica - posted on 02/15/2010

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When my son was 2 I found out I was having baby no. 2 so he had to get potty trained!! what worked for us...first it was summertime, i bought him some tighty whities and we hung out outside all day with him just in his undies, this way when he peed he could really feel it and in underwear it didnt feel nice, pull ups still absorb some wetness so they dont totally feel when they pee. anyway..all that day he peed in his underwear, 3 pairs..so that night when i got off work i went to walmart and got some spiderman underwear and i said the next day we did the same thing "you dont want to peepee on spiderman" and just like that....he nwas potty trained, of course we were outside and he was pullin his underwear down and peeing outside...but at least he got the concept of not peeing in his underwear, then we introduced the potty chair .... i hear milk before bedtime loosens muscles so kids that drink milk before bedtime are more likely to wet the bed. now poopin on the potty took about a month because he liked to hide and poop, one day i was changing his underwear after he pooped and his turd rolled onto the floor, my son must have thought i would think they were chocolate because he said "wait a second wait a second, dont eat those dont eat those" good luck!

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Definitely get rid of pull ups. My nearly 3 year old just pees them. It's frustrating as he can stay dry with big boy pants all day and will ask for the toilet but as soon as i put trousers on he wets them. I'm putting pull ups on him when we go out but he never wants to go to the toilet when i ask and he makes a big fuss, even though he is fine with just pants on at home. I hope eventually it will just click.

Cheryl - posted on 02/15/2010

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I am a mother of 4. Three girls and my youngest who is now 6 is my only boy. I had the hardest time trying to teach him as well. With the girls it was easy for me. When I went they followed. My husband is a truck driver and was gone a lot when our son was to that stage. I tried everything, peeing on the cereal, giving rewards, praising him, I took all the advice I could get. Then my mom and I were talking about some of the adventures that she had raising my brother and me. She just spouted off "have you tried letting him pee off the porch? " You know what? It worked, he loved it. I told him that if he peed on the tree it would grow. That only boys could do things like that. It was wonderful.

Deanna - posted on 02/15/2010

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He's obviously not ready to potty train yet. If there's one thing I learned with my first daughter is that there are 2 things toddlers have control over...eating and going potty. He'll do it when he's ready, and at that time...try rewarding him everytime he goes. I made a sticker chart for my daughter...she gets 1 sticker and 1 Hershey Kiss everytime she uses the potty. It's been working pretty well.

Rachel - posted on 02/14/2010

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I don't believe in potty training. I just let my son make up his own mind. its lnked to language developement. My son was late talking but when he did start talking my god he could talk!!
Any way I think potty training can make both child and parent neurotic. My son just came down one morning amd said 'no more nappy' and he was dry in the night the same week. I noticed that toddlers forced into potting can bedwet or be in nappies for years. Just relax and let him do what he wants. Children aren't daft, and accidents are a pain to clear up.

Casey - posted on 02/14/2010

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Just leave for the time being, he's obviously not ready. Once my son was ready it only took 5 days to get to the stage of no accidents. We didn't use a potty either it was a big boy thing for him so he used the toilet and we just made sure the stool was there for him to use to get onto the toilet.

Natasha - posted on 02/13/2010

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GET RID OF THE PULL UPS....... kids use them as a nappy, they know it works like one. Put him in trainer pants or normal jocks. When he wees in his pants tell him what it is, what he has done and where it needs to go and point to the potty. Start a reward chart with sticker so that when he does get a wee in the potty, he gets a sticker. After 5 wees he gets a treat, after 10 another, then after being dry for a whole day another treat etc. Another couple of tricks is to A. take him to the shops to pick out his new undies B. move the potty out of the bathroom and into the main living area, that way its in his view all day, this eliminates it being scary and its close to where he is playing. I had to do this with my second and it worked.

Beth - posted on 02/13/2010

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I am starting to train my son as well and he will be 2 on March 26th. He keeps telling me he has to peepee and poopoo but when I put him on the toilet he does not go and wants to get up. I am going to go buy him big boy underwear and try that next weekend as well. It is so hard to train when I work full time as well. I have a daughter due at the end of may and hoping to have him trained before then so that I do not have two kids in diapers.

Donna - posted on 02/13/2010

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I never used pull ups. I used big boy underwear. I made it a big thing that he was getting big boy undies. I let him pick them out and carry them in the store. Everyone we taled to I made sure they new he was getting big boy undies. Everyone we talked to in the store. I also put a hand full of cheereo's in the big boy potty and asked him if he could hit them.I hope that helps it did for us.

Linda - posted on 02/13/2010

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it has to be fun for them, i used cheerios, put a few in the toilet and tell him to `drown`them. as for pooping, give him a comic to read or any little book, he may be there awhile. good luck, it takes time but it will happen.

Jane - posted on 02/12/2010

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Plain and simple...he's not ready yet. Boys especially can take up to until they are 3 to potty train. Let it go for a while....maybe a month or so. Then try to reintroduce him to his potty. You're in a no win situation right now if he's screaming the entire time he's on his potty....frustrating you and him. He'll get there but you can't force it.

Patricia - posted on 02/12/2010

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Having raised two sons and worked with lots of children at daycare programs, boys are harder to train than girls. But remember, each child is different. I kept thinking when I was raising my children, there is a manual out there and I missed getting mine! I like to use the fun factor when potty training. Repetition is good. Go over the basics with your child and you may have to do it 50 times a day. When he is ready he will do it. Children like to wash their hands so I work that into it also. I started my first child at 18 months, but he wasn't ready, so I waited until he was 20 months and tried again. He had matured enough to understand what he was supposed to do. Try giving him a book or a toy while on the potty chair or toilet.

Channy - posted on 02/12/2010

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Is good to just try. Both of my sons just pick it up on their own right before they turn 3. And beside boys is always harder then girls. I actaully try since they were both 2yrs old. I was very stressed also. The time will come just hang in there :))

Melody - posted on 02/12/2010

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Some children are frightened of the potty, or of letting go of what they consider part of them, Age 2 can be very early. A child trains easily and quickly when they are ready. They will give you signs when they are, like telling you when they need changed, etc. There are potty training books, dvds, to help get the child interested. If you keep trying to force the issue, you may make your child not only fearful of the potty, but angry about it all. You have plenty of time. Many children are not ready till closer to 3 and for some it may be longer.

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I believe that potty training cannot be forced or rushed - just be patent with your son and keep encouraging him gently. He will get it someday (soon)! My daughter was almost 3 and I was beginning to lose patience when, as if by magic, one day she just finally got the hang of it.

Laura Ann Brown - posted on 02/12/2010

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don't push it! he will get it when he's ready! I suggest sitting him on the potty twice a day like before or after bath or both, but, don't make him stay there. just set him on and let him get off at will. eventually, it won't be so traumatic to sit on the potty, and you can go from there. the more stern, forceful or pressure you put on him, the longer the process will take. this is one area (the other is eating) where the little ones will attempt to exert control as they are the only two areas that they perceive that they have any control. the more we push, the more they resist, and the more likely you will be to have a prolonged experience, associated with bed wetting or other issues. don't stress out- they pick up on this and will resist more. the less you "care" about the issue and the more natural the process seems to be and the more control they perceive, the easier it is, for everybody! you may just want to wait until spring, then let him run around inside or outside without pants and a potty nearby. good luck!

Wendy - posted on 02/11/2010

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It's really important that you don't force your son to potty train. It can lead to future aliments such as encropesis. We forced my older son to potty train at 2 and he now suffers from bowel issues. I allowed my younger son to potty train when he was ready (which turned out to be 4), and the absence of stress was well worth the wait.

Alyssa - posted on 02/11/2010

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my son is 2 and currently going through potty training and he used to scream. we tried everything but the one thing that really helped was letting him pick out his own big boy underwear and my husband taking him potty with him. Now he getting pretty good at it and loves the encouragement that we give him.

Kathy - posted on 02/11/2010

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Try not to make it emotional. Give it a shot, if it does not work, take a break and try 3 months old. Boys take longer - my son was potty trained at 3 though i started the process at 2 years of age.

Tammy - posted on 02/11/2010

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Originally I tried potty training my son around the same age as you but there was a lot of resistance. I tried again a few months later and again and too much fighting. So I waited and worked him up to it, telling him that after his birthday he will be a big boy and that he would have to go on the potty. I was telling him everyday as was his daycare provider. As soon as he had his third birthday the very next day I put him in big boy underwear and he was excited to do it. It only took a couple days and he was trained. Good luck to you and patience is important. Also stickers helped a lot too.

Candace - posted on 02/11/2010

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try also with a book while he´s there they think its fun to sit and read since they see you do the same.

Candace - posted on 02/11/2010

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you need to be patient with him some kids don´t want to you use the potty but develops an interest in the toilet instead, my son is 2yrs 4mths and he has a potty but refuses to use it,but he likes to sit on the toilet and pee and sometimes he says he wants to defocate 5 mins before he actually does,he has also shown interest in the toilet at school the misses say it will come in its own time its something you can´t pressure them into doing.

Chikodi - posted on 02/10/2010

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Hi Brandi,kids are all like that. Try and know the time he toilets and make sure you always put him on his potty at that time. He will naturally scream but i assure you that with constant practise,he will get use to that. Good luck!

Judy - posted on 02/10/2010

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let him follow a man to the bathroom every chance he gets, he'll get the hang of it

Kati - posted on 02/10/2010

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I have 2 boys and I told them every time i had to go they followed me in there I made a big deal that mommy went on the potty. It toke a while for them to pee on the potty but when they did we did the potty dance and danced around and told them how much of a big boy they are and made a huge fuss. When they got the idea I made a potty chart and put a picture of a toy that they picked out that they want. And the goal is when there chart is full of stickers (fully potty trained) We went out and got there toy. The chart was great they loved putting the stickers on it. When they got to be about 3 4 i put fruit loops in the potty to help them Aim. They loved that game. I hope i helped a little. Also both boys weren't fully potty trained till they were 4. So you have plenty of time.

Kathrine - posted on 02/10/2010

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Our son has a twin girl. and it was different for both. They are 5. Once he realized he could stand to pee, it went well. We put Cheerios or Fruit Loops in the potty to make it a game (if he could "shoot the O's). Got that suggestion from a friend of ours. We tried at 2, he was like your son. We let it go and tried again after a few months. Easier in the warmer months. We put underwear on him (had a large supply of them) and eventually he realized it wasn't fun to have wet underwear.

Laurel - posted on 02/10/2010

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If he is screaming, he is probably not quite ready. With my now 3 year old, I bought the pull-ups that turn cool when they wet. When my son was 2 1/2, he decided on his own that he was ready to potty. I immediately switched him to regular underwear. With two of his older brothers, they potty trained between 2 1/2 and 3 with regular underwear. Hope some of these suggestions help! Good luck.

Jessie - posted on 02/10/2010

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I know it seems like he will be in diapers forever..but i assure you when he is ready he will use the potty. I didnt think my daughter would ever be potty trained but then one day she just decided that she was going to be a big girl and not wear diapers anymore. You just have to let them decide when they are ready. Good luck hun :)

MERCEDES - posted on 02/09/2010

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Well Brandi! All you have to do is go to toys r us get a potty and a book, you can also try the video. I potty trained my twins at the age of two. They loved the videos and books. Everytime your child goes in the potty reward them with something they like it really helped me a whole lot. good luck.

Marie - posted on 02/09/2010

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Hi Brandi How a re you? I have a 3 and a half yr old son and i also work in childcare. i didn start toilet training my son until he was 2 and a half. Boys are genrally harder then girls to toilet train and sometimes children who are 2 years old are ready to toilet train and alot of the time they are not ready. It sounds like he is not ready especially if he is screaming on the potty. Toileting should be a posotive expirience for u and for him and if he is distressed when going to the potty this will make him more unwilling to go on there again. I would wait six months then try again when he ready. When he is ready u will know because he will start giving you signs like telling you when he has a poo in his nappy or diper. He will also be trying to take his nappy off when he is wet all little things like this. When he is ready for toilet training i suggest putting him straight into jocks. You may have a lot of acciedents to begin with but he will soon get sick of being wet all the time and will start to go to the toilet. A potty is a great way to start toilet training as it does not look as scary as a big toilet and he will gradually start using the toilet when he gets more confidence. Good luck and i hope he there soon.

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2010

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I,m sorry Boy's take longer. It's best to let his dad teach him, they listen better when the hear that firm voice and see that they have the same body parts. I pray the Lord will give you the solution for your son.

Teresa - posted on 02/09/2010

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I havent read all of the responses so this may have been suggested. I dont actually have boys myself and I think most moms do try to start with boys sitting on the potty. But, I have heard, and I think it could be fun for him...make a game out of it. Drop a few cherrios in the potty and let him aim for them. Just a thought.

My oldest daughter was nearly 4 before she was fully potty trained and I think my youngest was only 2 1/2. All kids are different. They have to be interested, ready and willing before it will happen. I dont think it is something you can push and push with and accomplish anything. And I agree about the Pull-Ups! They work good when you are on the go and are easier to change. But, let him wear his big boy undies when you are at home. Like someone else suggested, let him pick out his fav. character and make a big deal about him not getting that character wet. Hope this helps. Good luck and God Bless!

Venita - posted on 02/09/2010

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Let him follow his dad or any of the other younger/older guys in your family. That's how my sons learn by their dad & older cousin. They were master potty trained @ 2.

User - posted on 02/08/2010

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Just be patient with him. Boys are harder to train than girls. Have your son watch you husband or boyfriend go to the bathroom and sooner or later he will follow suit. He may not be ready yet, but give that a try and that should help you. That is how I got my son potty trained and I had to have a lot of patience to. If your son goes to daycare have her help you also, you will be surprised at how quickly they learn when someone else is helping you.

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STOP!! Potty training should be a fun(kinda) experience for your child.Im a childcare provider and have potty trained many kids in 32 yrs (I am 45) and it can be a nightmare if you go about it the wrrong way.First off,buy a book on pottying for your son.Read it to him and explain it.Talk about the potty and let him see you sit on it at times.Personally I dont recommend pull-ups as they are to much like diapers.Use curity underwear as they are thick and absorbent.Speak kindly and no yelling allowed.Seriously if they feel your are stressed out they are less likely to go.Relax,stay calm.Encourage a book and maybe a sippy cup while pottying.Maybe even a favorite show on TV while hes trying.It takes patience and LOTS of it to be successful.Should you have further questions or concerns send me a message.

Jessie - posted on 02/08/2010

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I have had my children potty trained by or before age two. this is my method and I hope it helps you. for starters I have always had my children on a schedule. what I mean by this is I would wake them up at a certain time, lay them down for a nap at a certain time and also bed time at a certain time of the day every day. that way after a long period of time there bodies become use to the schedule. when It cam to potty training I would give them a specific amount of liquid with there meals. Also during the day make him wear regular underwear. then maybe a hour or so after each meal I would begin to ask him if he had to go potty. explain to them to let you know when they feel like they might have to potty. then before bed time I would cut off all liquids two to three hours before bedtime. that helps to keep them dry all night. Also at bedtime switch from regular underwear to pull-ups. also maybe wake them in the middle of the night if your child urinates in the middle of the night and have them use the bathroom. then in the morning once he wakes up ask him if he has to go potty. Just like grown ups they have to use the bathroom first thing in the morning. LOL!! I did this process for about 2 to 3 weeks and I potty trained my children just fine. No wet beds after that. LOL!! I hope this really helps you. I know this potty training stage can be a 24 hour job. but that is one of the many beautiful things about being a mom. I wish you the best of luck. Ciao.

Liv - posted on 02/08/2010

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My son was not ready till 3 1/2 years old and was completely dry threw the night at 5 years old. Try the reward system like stickers or a happy mommy dance when he trys or target s in the potty for him to pee on! My son was more comfortable sitting backwards on the big potty so he could see what was going on. baby potty he never liked.

Shavon - posted on 02/08/2010

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Some times you can't rush them. But yes I agree start using under wear because when they feel the wetness on their skin they trying 2 get out of it. Once he get tired of being wet he will start using it. You also can try putting him the pot in after and in between meals cause usually after they eat they have 2 go.

Jacqueline - posted on 02/08/2010

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I am also having a problem, my 2 year old son does everything in his pullups and then goes to the potty but he does nothing he just sits on it. He then gets off and he is excited about washing his hands. sometimes he says he wants to go to the potty and does nothing because likes to wash his hands to play in the water.

Michelle - posted on 02/07/2010

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My son didn't finally get completely trained til he was almost 3 and we bribed him with preschool as he wanted to go to school with the little girl he played with and the rule is you have to be trained to attend, and being the cheeky little thing that he was he would use the potty at preschool but not at home so then we tried a toy and that did it. My son was a huge Thomas the Tank Engine fan so we promised him any Train he wanted if he started to use the potty all the time but it had to be for a whole month before we gave it to him. So I made a chart and for each day he used it I put a star on the chart and within a week he was completely trained and after a month he got his new toy and never looked back

Tamara - posted on 02/07/2010

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Honestly, i had four small people pretty much all at once. Twins were brand new and i had two toddlers 3 and 2. I tossed cheerios in the toilet and stood them on their stool so they could reach the toilet lifted the seat and let each one aim at the cheerios. I couldn't think of how else to do it quickly. after the first three times they went on their own.

Cindy - posted on 02/07/2010

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I'm a mother of two boys and I had trouble potty training both of them. I had a good friend tell me not to worry that he will not be graduating high school in diapers but I was sooo worried about them not getting potty trained when I thought they should. Other mothers gave me different ways they potty trained their kids and I tried them all but they did not work. They just was not ready. Both my boys were potty trained the summer before going to preschool, except my youngest, who I thought would be the easiest to train since he had a older brother that was already going to the potty, but he showed me. He got kicked out of preschool for too many "accidents" as that was their policy, he continued to have "accidents" in kindergarten and finally he is 1st grade and he is "accident" free. So my advice to you is just relax and it will happen when he is ready, just keep putting him on the toilet now and then and it will click one day. Just remember he will not be graduating in high school. Good Luck!

Delana - posted on 02/07/2010

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We had trouble with our boys and we put food color in the bowl and when they go potty it magically changed colors. Or put a few cheerios in the bowl and tell him he is target practicing. It really helped us hope it does for you 2

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