Hoow do you deal with the anxiety of leaving you baby to go to work???

Anahi - posted on 08/15/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I really miss my bby and im having a hard time letting go????

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Rachel - posted on 08/17/2009

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I would listen to many of the comments and suggestions given. Leaving your child in the hands of others is a difficult thing to do for many moms! Know that you are not alone. Here are a few mantras for surviving the adjustment that I used to say to myself daily, sometimes hourly!

- My baby is learning to accept others in the world, who am I to deny her the love she is being shown

- She misses me when I am gone but she will never forget who I am - I AM MOM!

- Over exposure to any one person can be a numbing agent - my daughter is going to have a great relationship with me because we bond best when we spend quality time together - it is not about quanity.

- The person caring for my child may not be me or do things "my way", and that is a good thing! I AM HER MOM!



Also, never feel strange calling to check on your child while at work. Anyone who is a "good" caregiver understands that a parent has every right to ask questions and check on things every once in a while. Just don't go calling every day, every hour on the half hour! :)

And lastly, plan your time with your child - you'd be suprised how much you actually do with them - even though you feel like you are gone so much!

Good luck!

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Dr. Beth - posted on 08/18/2009

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Anahi,

All the advice has been good (drop off quick, get a good caregiver, etc.). Why don't you read my blog to see what other Moms do? http://drbethfisher.blogspot.com. It's free and the themes may help. I also have a parent choice book - Should I Stay Home? that is available through Amazon or linked thorugh my website - DrBethFisher.com

Sydney - posted on 08/18/2009

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I went back to work in March and I still have anxiety every morning. If you find a way to cope other than quitting your job let me know.

Christel - posted on 08/18/2009

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i am verry happy with my son being in a daycare , i only got 2 month maternity leave than i had to leave my newly born in a daycare , i was verry anxious at first but i didn't have the choice, than i saw how my kid was evolving comparing with same age kids wich stayed at home and was amazed by the difference, my son was more opened to people alwas smilling and in a good mood even if not held by his momy or dady , he learned to talk and walk earlyer, trying to copy the older childrens, and i just can't get enough of him running happily towards me and holding me tightly and kissing me when i pick him up ... my son is now almost one year and i leave every day to work knowing that he is more happy playing and learning with his friend at daycare than he will ever be at home with his mom trying to juggle between him and home chores !

Sharon - posted on 08/17/2009

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Leaving my children for the first time was the hardest thing I have ever done. I encourage you to find a daycare that has a video link to your child's classroom. That way you can look in on him or her anytime you want to. Hang in there. It gets better as time goes on and as your child begins to develop friendships with other children.

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You have to make sure you feel complete confidence in your care provider. It makes all the difference. Nothing will make it easy on you but when you pick them up and they have had a great day and they are happy and well taken care of, the anxiety will go away. Good luck. p.s. remind yourself that you are working to provide for your child and give yourself good mental health as well.

Tracy - posted on 08/16/2009

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I choose a day care that has a web cam - I can see my daughter any time I want during the day. This gave me real peace of mind about leaving her with a group of people that I didn't know.

Kathleen - posted on 08/15/2009

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I had a harder time with my oldest. The best thing I did when I had my second was to bring him to daycare 3 days before I went back to work so I wasn't dealing with the return after FMLA and his first day at the same time. The second best thing I did was surround myself with pics and created a brag book I could pull out any time it got to be too much of a distraction at the office. It is still impossible to let him go without extra hugs and kisses. Thankfully I love the woman he is left with.

Tiffanie - posted on 08/15/2009

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Well the decision that helped ease my mind was WHO HAS YOUR BABY WHILE YOU ARE AWAY. Your comfort level with that person is going to determine the amount of confidence you have in letting go. Hopefull you have been able to secure that. Then you just have to accept the fact that you have to work to be able to feed and clothe this little person who cannot do it himself! Be tough and enjoy your baby when you can because all this is gonna go really fast!

Helen - posted on 08/15/2009

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i thought i would get a year off with my baby then the credit crunch hit and i only got 11 weeks! i found the best thing was to make it short and sweet at the child minders (2 min drop off max) then to keep myself so busy that i did not have time to think about him all day

Rachel - posted on 08/15/2009

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THat is probably one of the hardest things that I had to do, but knowing that because I am working my husband and I can provide for them better and give the ma better life down the road. My children are so much more devloped them some of my friends because they were in a daycare and exposed to otehr people and children. It also makes them appreciate you when they get older, mine are 4 and 2 and are so excited to see me when I come home from work and that makes me feel good!!

Sharada - posted on 08/15/2009

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Its a tough time.. i agree. I have gone through it and i really know how hard it is, but like someone adviced me ''dont give up''. Its good for your baby as well. They learn more, become more independent (Assuming the baby is in a day care). And its a matter of setting the routine. Youll be fine in some weeks. Just be sure you have picked the right day care to suit your baby. I also make sure to call the daycare twice to check on my son. Also, a personal advice is to choose a daycare close to you work, so you alsways have easy access.



Dont give up.. be strong...im sure we mothers have the best interest of our baby's in mind.

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