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How do I pay more attention

Brittany - posted on 11/18/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm going through so much right now, school fulltime getting a divorce and i want to spend more time with my baby but at the same time i have to better our lives so what do i do ?

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Becca - posted on 11/18/2009

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Hi I agree with Sherrie,
I work three jobs but still manage to find time with my son and the time we do get to spend together are set times/days so he knows what to expect. I coach his soccer team so he knows practice and games are his special mommy time and then after games we go get a treat. Then one other night a week we have family night where he gets to pick what we do. I will order out (so I have more time and don't have to cook) and we will play a game read togther or cuddle and watch a movie.

The most important thing is getting settled everything else will fall into place. Children are smart they really do understand more than we give them credit for. Keep your head up high :).

Katie - posted on 11/18/2009

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I know how your feeling. I am a single mom who works monday - friday evenings and goes to school full time during the day for nursing. I set aside a couple of hours every sunday and bring my son to a hockey game. If there is no game than we will do something together (go to chuck-e-cheese, or bowling, or something) that way I am still able to put aside time to show that I am here for him and pay attention to him. It is still difficult because during the week he is always with baby sitters or my mom, but I just keep telling myself that once I am finished school it will all be worth it and I am doing all of this to better his life. Just keep in there, it will all get better and be worth it in the end.

Alison - posted on 11/18/2009

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Focus on the quality of your time with your daughter, since the quantity is limited. Make bedtimes and mealtimes really count. Take advantage of travel times to connect with her.



If you haven't already done so, make up a weekly schedule (every week if it things tend to change) and use different colours for school, business (divorce related) and your darling daughter. This will help you to see where your time is going and where you need to adjust.



If there is someone special (a friend or relative) for your daughter, set up dates with them while you get some quality study time.



Remember, none of us had perfect parents. You can only give that which you already have!

Sherrie - posted on 11/18/2009

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Focus on taking care of you. If you dont take care of you (work, school, place to live, getting through the divorce healthy) then you wont be able to be there for her like you should. Divorce is so hard not just on you but on her too and you need to be able to be there for her. I went through this 2 years ago and it never gets easier, so make sure mom is healthy first. make sure the time you spend even if its little is QUALITY time focusing on her and what she likes.

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