how do working moms spare time for their kids?

Hana - posted on 06/08/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )

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moms work all day and all week. there is little time for their kids.

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Bonnie - posted on 09/22/2012

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One way we squeeze in special time with our three year old is to put him to bed then prepare a movie night for him. We set up a 3-D movie and popcorn then go up to his room and invite him down for a movie night. He loves cuddling on the couch with mom and dad enjoying a late night. He also loves that his little brother isn't "big enough" to do movie night so he stays sleeping upstairs. It is special time for all of us and my husband and I have just as much fun as he does.

Monique - posted on 09/10/2012

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I MAKE it happen! It is a struggle, especially with me working a 9-5, with kids that are in every sport offered at their school lol. We endure a lot of quick dinners (pizza and burgers) sometimes, but I make it work. Anything for my kids!!!

Shay - posted on 09/03/2012

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My husband cook dinner while I wash the kids a spend alittle of plauing time with t until dinner is ready. we always as a family every night and thats when we discuss our days with one another. after dinner my huand spend time with them plays read or watching tv with them while i clean the kitchen since my hubby cooked. when im done we all spend time together as a family them we have snack time before bed which 8:30 every night then brush there teeth and we both put the kids to bed with a book story. then after me n my hubby have our time together which is about two hours. it work great for us, try getting into a routine it helps greatly.

Varda - posted on 07/25/2010

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find something that will be only you and they, something that you do on a regular base once a week, don't let any one change you.
This will become a secret thing of you and them. but don't miss this, maybe get out early once a week to take them to a sport you all do together, or another activity that will make your bonding stronger

Tracy And Luis - posted on 07/08/2010

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I work during the week. Every day I take my daughter to school and head to work and then pick her up and we go home and play for awhile before dinner. She helps pick out what to eat and we eat dinner together. Then we spend more quality time when I give her a bath and read her a book before bedtime. Weekends are spent playing outside at the playground and playing together all day long. I do the mandatory chores during the week and the rest waits until her nap times on the weekends or after she goes to sleep at night. I work full time, am working on my MBA and have a husband who is deployed often so it is a constant juggle and sometimes the kitchen floor might not get mopped. :) But after struggling with trying to be superwoman for the first year, I have learned to be okay with that. My daughter is now 2.

Tricia - posted on 06/27/2010

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in small doses anyway I can; making dinner together, watching a movie or tv show; while taking a drive take the time together to talk or be silly while listening to music

Sylvia - posted on 06/26/2010

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Well, I dunno about anybody else, but I mostly do it by (a) having really, really low housekeeping standards and (b) making my kid help out around the house (which means we're working together). Also, we co-slept full-time for the first four and a half years of DD's life (we lived in a 1-bedroom flat) and always parented her to sleep -- we never did Ferber or any other CIO method. And we've let her stay up a bit later than most kids her age were/are probably doing, as long as it's not affecting her behaviour during the day, so that we all get more time together.

We've minimized extracurricular activities (no more than two at a time, none that happen more than once a week) so we won't spend even more time shlepping from place to place.

I have about 5 weeks' vacation a year, and I make sure I take one week during DD's spring break from school and enough to have the whole week between Christmas and New Year's off. DH has about 3 weeks, and takes some time in December and the rest in the summer so we can all go and visit my family on the other side of the country :P. (No, we don't go on vacation. Ever. It's not a thing my family's ever done, because there were always rellies to visit somewhere with the limited available time and money.)

I won't pretend it's easy. A lot of the time it's really hard. But if you make it a priority -- which means letting a lot of other potential priorities, like a super-tidy house and gourmet meals and a zillion "enriching" activities, slide -- it can be less difficult.

Meghan - posted on 06/26/2010

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I work 12hour shifts, I get up kiss my sleeping children go to work, come home for lunch,eat with them talk about their day, go back to work, come home cook dinner talk some more give baths an go to sleep repeat......, Amazing I do everthing with my children shop clean visit friends brush our teeth even,I dont want to miss a moment. I have great friends that dont have kids an still think of great things to do with them an I 'll wait for a day off an after they go to sleep have my 1 peaceful moment.

Erin - posted on 06/22/2010

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You definitely have to sacrifice some sleep. Make it all about the kids as soon as you pick them up or get home. For my daughter and I evenings are all about rushing in dinner, some time to play or learn, and bath-time before bedtime. We always read books before bed, too. Chores and homework are done after she is in bed. We always look forward to the weekend and make plans for fun family activities. It is hard to be gone all day. It's awful and sad and you feel like you miss so much.

Kerry - posted on 06/21/2010

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yes spending time with the kids is very important i think, i come home from work put the washing on do a little more cleaning by then the youngest is home from school and then i sit and we talk about his day..

Latasha - posted on 06/20/2010

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My son is a very active 3yr old and Im a single mom who works long hours and sometimes after hours so I try to always put him to sleep myself, ask the sitter everything that happen with him each day so that I dont feel Im missing the small and important things and I do things with him that he likes on the weekends.

Darlene - posted on 06/19/2010

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I do not spend time on the phone or have many friends I spend a lot of time with. When I am off work, I am tired so I sit and actually talk with my children. We watch movies and enjoy the park, skating, and many other things. I have to work long hours to support them because I have little help, but that just makes the time we have together more special. They help with chores so we can play. It is not the amount of time you spend together, but the quality of it that counts. My children are 12 and 14 now and I think it is more important than ever to remain close.

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i have the kids involved in what i have to do around the house..when i make dinner i have the kids their helping me out or when we do laundry we fold together and just chat about what is going on in their lives and how was school...thier is time to do it you just gotta be creative and tell the kids to help you out a lil bit...

Judy - posted on 06/17/2010

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With me I work at night (sometimes 12 hours sometimes 8) I'm a supervisor for a security company and work anywhere from 2 days a week to 4... the weeks I barely work we usually plan to do a lot...

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If you have a husband that is able to split some of the household chores- and not feel guilty asking him to help out after all you both live there and you work too- that helps. We recently hired a cleaning lady I felt guilty at first about spending the money but it really frees me up to spend time with my family. Also remember it's about quality of time spent not quantity.

Amanda - posted on 06/16/2010

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When I get home from work we all eat dinner together and then my husband and I spend time with the girls until it is bedtime. We both sit down withthem and read to them, then put them to bed. After we go to bed is when the chores get done (dishes, picking up....) the same goes for the weekends. the only chores done while they are awake is laundry ( which they like to help with) It is hard, but while you are home try to spend all the time you can with your kids and do the other things after they go to bed at night.

Anna - posted on 06/16/2010

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It isn't easy. I have worked 8 - 5 since my son was 2 months old. Financially there wasn't a choice, I had to go back to work. I get up at 6 spend 6 - 7 doing as much housework as I can, get ready and get to work by 8. Run errands on my lunch hour. Then when I get home I spend the evening with my son. We have dinner, play, read books, get ready for bed. Once he is in bed, spend another hour cleaning then finally go to bed between 11 & 12 then sleep before doing it all over again the next day.

Emily - posted on 06/16/2010

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I work M-TH, 8-6 and I have 4 month old twins, so when I get home from work, the first thing I do is nurse them, and play with them. When it's time for bed an hour later, I work their bedtime routine, give them a bath, a message, sing lullaby's then nurse again before crib. It's not bunch, but it's a really nice quiet bonding time.

Melissa - posted on 06/16/2010

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This quote is my motto! I work 8-5:30 M-TH and 8-3pm on Fridays. My house is never perfect and laundry piles up so I can be with my kid and enjoy her as much as possible:

"I may be justifying my pockets of chaos, but I will always choose people over perfection and the heart over task and tidy." ~Betsy Cañas Garmon

Melissa - posted on 06/16/2010

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Some woman HAVE to work to be able to properly provide for their children. I'm not sure what this post is getting at. I was a SAHM for the first 6 years of my daughter's life, but I am having a second child soon and they will be in child care from 12 weeks because my financial situation doesn't allow me the privilage of being a SAHM again. I spend each evening with my daughter the weekends of course. We appreciate the time we have together more because we aren't around e/o 24/7.

Tina - posted on 06/16/2010

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I have a 50 mile commute each way- so I work from 7 am to 3.30pm. I also invested in some Grocery Bags that are thermal so i can go grocery shopping on my Lunch...
I have time with my daughter from 4.30- 7pm...we cook together...play...She has a bath...after 7pm she is in bed...I'll start some laundry if needed and get back to work...
I'd love a 3 day 10hr work week - but that's just not in the cards. :(

Brandi - posted on 06/16/2010

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Okay so.... I have 3 wonderful children... Two parent household and we both work all day jobs. When we get home, we cook, clean, wash clothes, then wanna pass out. The kids do some of the chores to help out, but my issue is that my 17 year old daughter( who I have not had in 11 years) is now home with us for 4 months now, and feels like I give more time to my other two children ages 8 and 9. I try to give equal time. I spend most Sat's with her, and she is so very clingy and emotional that if I even give a hug to my other children... I am spending time with them and not her. I need help..... I am spent, exhausted, and out of my mind!!!!! any ideas would be appreciated.

Linda - posted on 06/15/2010

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They make it a priority to eat dinner with them, read to them, and give them good night cuddles!

Shauna - posted on 06/15/2010

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Its allot to handle sometimes, and some days go buy better than others. But I have a swing shift and lucky for me My son is not in school yet so I can push his bedtime back an hour or two. Sometimes I feel like I am only there to either get the kid out of bed or put him to sleep and its really taxing and I feel guilty. But every weekend I spend as much time with him as I can and let the house fall to pieces instead. 30 years from now I will remember how much fun we had, not how clean my house was.

Louise - posted on 06/13/2010

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When people ask this I tellthem it's cos I'm supermom! Lol. My husband works days or nights every second week 7 to 7. The kids have their routine and we've discovered how important that is to their temperment the next day. Were up at 6:30. Dressed and ready and out the door for 7:30. Half an hour drive to the Creche is normally songs and games on way. I work from half 8 till 5. Cut lunch hour in half to finish at 5. Collect kids. Home by six. Then we have dinner and get into pjs and cuddle on couch till 7. Then bed. I get my dinner and get the clothes washed and lunches packed etc. when they are in bed. Weekends are quality time then. We tend to ignore the housework Saturday and do it the two of us Sunday evening.
Keeping the kids up later is not an option as they have to be dragged out of bed the next morning and they are like demons for the day and then impossible to get them to bed that evening.

Audria - posted on 06/13/2010

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This is so much of a struggle for me. As a first time mom, juggling a 9-5 and an online business, a demanding son and even more demanding partner it really gets to me sometimes.

But I love my son, so I sometimes include him when I'm doing chores, which he loves to do. Then there are times when it is just us, I'll watch his favourite show with him, play with him, Reading to him before bed, is something that I find is very very relaxing, he doesnt fuss anymore, when its time for bed whatever it is at the time.
I believe if its even 5 minutes or half n hour, just make the time you do spend with them count.
Hope that helps.

Audria

Kennie - posted on 06/11/2010

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I work full time as a nurse practitioner in the ICU/rapid response team. In my industry, I am very fortunate to be able to work night shift (12 hr shifts) so I only usually work 3 days a week. It's a lot more difficult on me... and my body but it works out so much better for my children. I am able to spend the day with my twins after I get off work, get some shut-eye for about 3 hours then spend some time with my 6 y/o after he comes home from school..... then off to work. On my days off, I spend pretty much every waking moment with them. As with many mothers, I feel it's more important to spend time with my children rather than making sure the house is spotless. The laundry may go undone for a few days but I usually do them after my children are in bed. Same goes for cleaning the house. My house may not be spotless but it is clean and my children are happy and I get to spend more quality time with them.

Holly - posted on 06/10/2010

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I have to make the time no matter what. It's that simple.
Even though I have a zillion things to do. I have to
prioritze them into my day.

Anne - posted on 06/10/2010

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It depends on the hours you work. When I worked nights I would stay up in the mornings and cook a big breakfast. It became our family meal. I would then walk the kids to school instead of driving. It meant waking them up early but they didn't mind. Now that I work afternoons and go to school in the mornings the evening is our time together. I moved the kids bedtimes back an hour and we spend that time playing board games or reading together. I also have the kids help with dinner and dishes. When you have little time together even chores can be made special :)

Sarika - posted on 06/10/2010

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Yeah very true..finding time for kids is like fighting with the time. I lul forward for weekends and every holidays

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I get my son to help with some of the necessary chores and the rest just waits until later. Shawn helps me do laundry, emptying and filling the dishwasher, etc.

We enjoy dinner together as a family and have conversations about our day. Every single second we have outside of work/daycare/school can be time together. Even grocery shopping is a family outing. We get the kids involved. Spending time as a family doesn't mean it needs to be complicated.

Jennifer - posted on 06/08/2010

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This is one huge thing I struggle with. Basically - I let the housework go and concentrate on my kids. I do the necessities - laundry, dishes, etc. The rest can wait. (But my home is not filthy).

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