HOW DO YOU COPE WITH BEING A SINGLE MOM WHILE WORKING 2 JOBS GETTIN OFF AT 10PM
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Rhondella - posted on 12/03/2009
It's hard being a single mom. I always have had to jobs so I can provide for my kids and take care of my household. As of today I have worked 20 days straight. Don't know how Im doin it but I am. I do get off at 6pm everyday, so I dont have to worry about being out late night. My kids understand and I talk to them about it. Im not doing this for fun. Having 2 jobs is hard. I love my kids and will do whatever I can for them. Looking in their faces give me all the motivbation I need. I lead by example. They have noone else to look up to. It's all worth it.
Beverly - posted on 12/08/2009
Well that will always be a issue, first you have to find balance. I had to stop working 2 jobs because I never had the time for my children. It is not worth losing your children over money. Weight out the jobs see which one will pay more. Not sure if you have faith but seek God to help you make the right choice. But do know your babies need you, do not have your children feeling they can do with out you, the jobs will keep making money with or without you there. I hope that help?
Robin - posted on 12/05/2009
Just remember at the end of the day its all about the time you spend with them not about what you buy them to make up for it. If they go to the sitter help them bake cookies to take over there, take 5 minutes to read a book, sing songs in the care...if you take just a few minutes to have a happy moment with them they remember. Once your children get old enough they will realize the reason you worked so much is because you love them.
Tasha - posted on 12/03/2009
I know that is a tuff one,I did it for awhile.It is hard and does get frustrating at times but just take one step back and look forward your doing it and your doing it for your family! I would try and spend every chance I could with my daughter. I work still alot of hours and yeah belive me i would love to be home alot more but We have to work.I work 2 jobs too right now and i put in in one week with both jobs at least 70 hours.So I know what your saying.Take it day by day love every moment with your kids good or bad
Christine - posted on 12/08/2009
It's hard to do. I worked 3rd shift being a single mom with 3 kids. I got very little sleep and took a nap when they did. You have to remeber to take time for yourself. Even if it's just a 15 minute bubble bath. It helps and keeps your stress down.
Brandy - posted on 12/06/2009
girl is hard to be a single mom with kids, have you ever thought about having the second job be from home so you can be there more for you kids. I have four childern myself and I work from home now full-time and I did part-time at 1st. Send me an email if you want to know what I do from home
Megan - posted on 12/06/2009
believe me i know exactly how you feel. i myself am a single mom. i work almost 12 hrs a day M-F and alot of time i work 4 hrs on Sat. i feel terrible that i hardly have anytime for my daughter. it is so hard sometimes wanting to spend all of my time with her but on the other hand i really need the money as well. what can i do???
Evelyn - posted on 12/06/2009
its nice to know you are doing to jobs and i respect you for that but ask yourself why you are doing two jobs i think you may be entiled to some financial help from the government thats if you live in the united kingdom, your children need you so don't over do it my dear i know its hard but your health comes first
Jocelyn - posted on 12/05/2009
Keisha, We all know that times are hard and please don't be down on yourself because you have to do what you need to do to surive. My advice to you is to prepare in advance. Each day do a little bit of housework. When you do have a day off spen it doing something fun with the kids. Talk to them openly and honestly about your work schedule. And the most important thing to remember is to leave your STRESS at work.
Layla - posted on 12/05/2009
There is nothing easy about being a mother in the first place. There is nothing easy about working 2 jobs either. Combining the 2 complicates matters. The guilt of not spending enough time with the kids is tremendous. Do the best that you can. That's all that you can do.
I pray that you won't need to work 2 jobs so that you can spend more time with the kids.
Claudette - posted on 12/04/2009
That is a lot!!! Maybe you can cut back on some things so that you will not have the need to work two jobs. I worked two jobs and went to school for 8 years of my 13 year old daughters life. And although i was doing it for us it just seemed to work against me as a mother. I dont know if you have lots of friends but try doing stuff like hand me downs. its hard i know but you will burn yourself out, my daughter use to say she understood but deep down our kids dont want to hurt our feelings. if its just a temporary thing okay but if not you gonna have to make adjustments. let me know how everything turns out.
Tracy - posted on 12/03/2009
sixteen years i have worked seventy to eighty hours a week physically tired all the time but can t be ill can t afford it the children have to help and be responsible at times i sometimes find it hard to remember to pay bills and catch up with people and they dont understand at all we as a family stuck together through thick and thin
Devonna - posted on 12/03/2009
I have worked two jobs and went to school at the same time. Its a huge guilt trip because you dont feel like your spening enough time with your kids and you arent taking care of yourself. If what you have to do. Make sure you set time out once a week for yourself (mine used to be painting my toes on Thursday night) and whatever extra time you have spend it w/ your baby. I would also check into other jobs that maybe pay more or some college courses that will help you to get a better paying job. Now, close your eyes and go take a deep breath. Everything always end up working out and you cant get discouraged.
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