How do you find time for yourself?
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Isabel - posted on 09/06/2012
Its really hard to find time for yourself when your working full hours and coming home to a playful baby who hasnt seen you all day and a working husband who hasnt seen you all day either and wants at least some alone time with you before going to bed and waking up for another long day at work again. Either the baby sleeps and be with the husband or the hubby sleeps and be with the baby. At times it can be stressing trying to fill a gap in between them just for me but above all its actually kind of worth it! :)
Shay - posted on 09/03/2012
what I do is go to lunch with friend on my lunch break and have some girl time or run my errands during my lunch break so I dont need to hassel taking off the kids or having to stop every few second to attend to them. It's nice to shop by urself especiially if its clothes or shoes. I always get one day a month to get my pedi-mani done and that my husband know thats 2-3 of me time. Hair appointment are ever two months and me n my hubby have one date night a month which is needed in all relationships in opinion. Thats were we both get dolled up and spend some loving time together just as we did before we had kids, we love it and look forward to it each month. It has added so much spark to our relationship.
Swlkr50 - posted on 09/03/2012
DH and I have a DD (13) and a DS (6 months) so it's been a huge transition this past couple of months. We workout at least 5x week together for at least an hour after DS goes to sleep. This is really the only quality time that we have with each other. Prior to DS we used to go to a lot of social events or do things for ourselfs (manicure, shooting range, etc) but that has taken the back burner.
Mildred - posted on 08/31/2012
Yikes - I might not be very popular here but I guess I'll give my opinion anyway! :) I think too many moms are too worried about having 'me time' and forget to enjoy the journey. These busy years with children will pass quickly and then you will have more free time. So for now, enjoy the walks you take to the park, laugh heartily at the funny (though frustrating) things your child does, take time to look around you and enjoy the beauty of nature, share a cup of coffee with a neighbor - just always be looking for the joy in life and focus on others instead of yourself. That doesn't mean you never do anything for you, but if it doesn't happen regularly, don't feel sorry for yourself, just know this season of life will not last forever. And you can always find another mom who needs a break and trade baby-sitting with her.
Hang in there - live simply, laugh often, and love deeply!
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Laura - posted on 08/31/2012
when my kids go to bed my husband and I have 'date night' in our living room almost every night. It's nice. We get time to hang out with just each other. Other times I go out with friends in the evening. It's nice to get out of my clothes that are covered in baby spit up and toddler boogers and into something nice to even go have coffee!
Marian - posted on 08/27/2012
Some of you might want to think about finding another Mom to do a childcare swap. One week a month for an afternoon, take turns taking care of each others kids to free up a little time for yourselves. It's free, fun for the kids to have playtime, and each Mom gets a break.
Marian - posted on 08/27/2012
As a very busy Mom, Nanny, student, social entrepreneur, girlfriend, best friend...Well you see where I am headed, there just isn't enough time in my day for me. It has been a huge struggle for me to find a balance with all that I have going on. Here are a few things that I do.
1. Combine an activity, so that it kills two birds with one stone. One of the most rewarding activities that I do every two weeks is go and have a mani/pedi. This is a huge treat! I usually go by myself with my favorite design or celebrity gossip magazines, and my lasted downloaded music on my iPod, and sit in peace and quiet. But this is also a great activity to share with a friend. And if you do it twice a month, then you can do it with a different friend each time. Social time and a little pampering all at the same time.
2. Use the little extra time for you. I often arrive at school pick ups 5 to 10 minutes early, to give myself just a few minutes to check emails, have a quick chat with a friend, or even just have a little quiet. See my theme, I care for three boys, it's rarely quiet.
3. Starbucks in the grocery store. Hello, genius! I love getting my favorite coffee drink on my way into or out of the grocery store. Who want to make an additional stop when I'm already there. Save a little time, enjoy a little treat...all about it.
4. Remember that if you want to be the best, whatever your list may include, you need to take care of you too. If your spirit, needs, wants and desires aren't met, how will you be able to meet others needs and desires. You know when you need a little solace, so give it to yourself. It may not come in a week long vacation on the beach with umbrella drinks and a cute cabana boy, oh sad. It may just be sitting in your car singing your favorite 90's song at the top of your lungs.
Hope you find the time for something fun!
Emily - posted on 08/16/2012
Gina, that is my life story too! I have two boys, age 10 months and 3 years. my husband and I both work outside the home. Everyday is busy busy busy. There doesn't seem to be much time for myself or for my husband. Not much family around to help either. We can't really afford to pay a babysitter. Most days, I feel like I go to work and then come home to work, and it's a never ending cycle. I love my babies, don't get me wrong, but they are a lot of work and I am TIRED! Sometimes I just have to make the room safe for the kiddos and then go in another room for 5-10 minutes. Every little bit helps.
Gina - posted on 08/14/2012
I haven't been able to figure it out yet. I wake up get my child off to preschool, punch in to work, then punch out, pick my son up at preschool come home and tidy up the house while trying to fix a bite to eat and entertain my son all at once, then my husband gets home from work, we run errands or spend our time at home trying to get laundry and house shores done for the next day, have dinner, spend time with my son, then is bath time/shower get stuff ready for the next day and crash into bed.
Sometimes I have nights when I can't sleep even though I'm exhausted, so I just sit on the living room couch and meditate for a few minutes. Other than that I don't get a chance to watch T.V. or hang out with girlfriends (the few friends I have also have yound kids) so that's it, weekends are no better, if we go to a family party or gathering I usually spend the entire day running after my toddler, paranoid that he'll run into something or touch something he's not supposed to, (so I end up even more tired than when I work.) If we stay home on a weekend we spend all day running errands and doing house shores....it's so exhausting and repetative! I don't know how on earth people can handle more than one child at a time!
We don't have family nearby available to watch our son, that would make life soooo much easier, I miss just being able to make a quick shopping trip at the grocery store without having to worry about tamtrums and rushing.
Beth - posted on 07/28/2012
I am very strict about bedtime. She goes to bed at 8 every night and then I have time to leisurely prepare for the next day and or sit and watch Tv/surf the Internet. My husband and I go to bed between 10 and 11 every night so we get a 2 or 3 hr break. Sometimes its not enough, but sometimes I feel like there's not enough time with my baby girl!